Umxholo
Ndiqalile ukuqaphela ukuba uninzi lweengxaki izibini ezize kum, zibonakala ngathi zivela kwimicimbi emibini ephambili enokubangela okanye yokuqinisa iingxaki zabo. Kodwa xa izibini zifunde ukujongana nale micimbi mibini, yonke enye into ibonakala ngathi iqala ukuwela endaweni nayo.
Imiba emibini ephambili ekuthethwa ngayo luNxibelelwano kunye nolindelo.
Inani elikhulu leengxaki kumava abatshatileyo kubonakala ngathi zibangelwa kukusilela kwabo ukunxibelelana kakuhle okanye ukungafezekisi okulindelweyo. Okwangoku, nangona kunjalo, izibini ziphucula amandla azo okunxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo nangokwakhayo, kunye nokuphonononga, ukuqonda, kunye nokuhlangabezana nokulindelweyo komnye nomnye, ibhalansi entsha kunye nokwoneliseka kubuyela kubudlelwane babo.
Ke, makhe sijonge kule micimbi mibini mikhulu ngokwahlukeneyo, ukubona ukuba yintoni ekufuneka siyazi, kwaye ugcine engqondweni ukudala ulonwabo kubudlelwane bakho.
Unxibelelwano
Enye yemicimbi exhaphakileyo ajongana nayo izibini kukunxibelelana. Amaxesha ngamaxesha kukho ukungabikho konxibelelwano olupheleleyo, ukunganxibelelani gwenxa rhoqo okanye unxibelelwano olubi kakhulu. Iziphumo zokugqibela zihlala ziphazamisekile, ukungonwabi kunye neemfuno ezingafezekiswanga. Amaxesha amaninzi oyena nobangela womcimbi wonxibelelwano ukutolikwa. Awuyiqondi into ethethwa ngomnye umntu kwaye uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla uphikisana ngenqaku elingazange lenzelwe liqabane lakho. Kukuzilolonga okungenamsebenzi. Kubalulekile, ke ngoko, ukuthatha ixesha ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo ukuba iqabane lakho lizama ukuthini. Kwakhona, ukuba nguwe othethayo, kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba unxibelelana ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokuchanekileyo uthetha ukuthini ukuze iqabane lakho liqonde. Kuya kufuneka uyiqonde into yokuba umbono wabo awufani nowakho. Amava abo, amanqaku okujonga kunye nemithwalo ayifani neyakho. Kodwa unxibelelwano oluhle lufuna uvelwano. Kukubona umhlaba ngamehlo abo kangangoko kwaye ubaphathe ngendlela onokuziphatha ngayo.
Isidingo sokulunga rhoqo
Omnye umba oqhelekileyo kunxibelelwano yimfuno yokuhlala ulungile. Kodwa nantsi into, akukho mntu uhlala echanekileyo. Kubalulekile, ke ngoko, ukuba nobabini niye nivume xa niphosakele kwaye nilunge ngayo. Ngoku, ukuba omnye wenu kufanelekile ukuba alunge ngalo lonke ixesha, zilungiseleleni ukuba iqabane lakho liza kuthi ekugqibeleni lirhoxe kwaye uya kuphulukana nonxibelelwano lweemvakalelo olubaluleke kakhulu kulo naluphi na ulwalamano lothando.
Nanku umbuzo endihlala ndibuza izibini: "Ngaba ufuna ukunyaniseka (njalo), okanye ufuna ukonwaba?" Mamela, unxibelelwano lunokuba nzima, ngakumbi xa iqabane lakho lingaphenduli okanye lenze ngendlela obufuna ngayo, kwaye kulungile. Inqaku lelokuba ukwahluka kwezimvo akufuneki kukhokelele kubudlelwane obungonwabisiyo.
Okulindelweyo
Enye yeendlela ezikhawulezayo zokudala ukungonwabi kunye nokungazinzi kubudlelwane kukudana. Kwaye zimbalwa kakhulu izinto ezidala ukuphoxeka ngokukhawuleza njengokulindelweyo okungalindelwanga.
Kodwa, zihlala zimbini iingxaki ngokulindelweyo kubudlelwane:
- ulindelo olungeyonyani
- Akucaci izinto ezilindelweyo
Amaxesha ngamaxesha, izibini ziyasokola ukuhlangabezana nolindelo lomnye ngenxa yokuba zingenakwenzeka. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ulindelo lwethu amaxesha ngamaxesha luvela kwabanye abantu, amava adlulileyo, iinkolelo, okanye amaxabiso angaphakathi. Kodwa, ayitshintshi into yokuba ngamanye amaxesha banetyhefu kulwalamano lwethu. Ngenye indlela, abantu abatshatileyo ngamanye amaxesha bayasokola ukuhlangabezana nolindelo lomnye kuba abayazi into elindelweyo ngomnye kubo, okanye kubudlelwane babo. Ngoku, mhlawumbi uqinisekile malunga noko ukulindeleyo kubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane lakho, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba iqabane lakho liyakwazi ukufunda ingqondo yakho okuthetha ukuba abanalo nofifi lokuba ulindele ntoni. Ukuba ufuna ukunqanda ukungonwabi kubudlelwane bakho, luxanduva lwakho ukuba ucace gca malunga nolindelo lwakho kwaye wabelane ngalo neqabane lakho. Ukuba ngokwenza njalo, uye wafumanisa ukuba ezinye zezinto ozilindeleyo zinokuba yinto engekho ngqiqweni, okanye kungenakufezekiseka, unokufuna ukuphonononga ukuba olo lindelo luvela phi kwaye yintoni ebaluleke ngakumbi-ukungabi nanyani okanye ukonwaba.
Ubudlelwane mabusebenze nobabini
Njengabantu abatshatileyo, kulula kakhulu ukuzisa imithwalo emininzi kubudlelwane, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba wabelane ngezinto ozilindeleyo kunye kwaye ujonge ekudaleni ubudlelwane obusebenzela BONKE. Awukho kubudlelwane bokukholisa abanye abantu okanye okubi ngakumbi, kuphela ukuhlangabezana nolindelo lomlingane. Yindlela yokupheka yentlekele. Thatha kude ... Mamela, indlela othetha ngayo ngemicimbi kubudlelwane bakho ixhomekeke kuni njengesibini. Akukho mpendulo zichanekileyo okanye ziphosakeleyo- ngaphandle kokuba lonke unxibelelwano kufuneka lube nengcinga, ububele, uthando kwaye ngaphandle komsindo okanye ukuxhatshazwa. Ekupheleni kosuku, uliqela kwaye awuchasene nabachasi. Nxibelelana kakuhle. Lindela okungakumbi kuwe kuneqabane lakho.