Umxholo
- Ukuthintela kubudlelwane
- Imbambano ayisiyiyo yonke into yomfo
- 1. Iimbambano
- 2. Isabotage
- 3. Uthetha phantsi kuwe
- 4. Unomdla wokuhleka
- 5. Uqala ukuthetha ngendlela engaqhelekanga
- 6. Akasathethi ngekamva
- 7. Akukho nxibelelwano
- Inqaku lokugqibela
Ngaba umtshato wakho uziva ubuthathaka, ngequbuliso? Mhlawumbi umyeni wakho
- Andinamdla wokuthetha nawe kwakhona
- Kubonakala ngathi ujonge ngenjongo yokukuqumbela ngenxa yezona zinto zincinci
- Ngaba ebekrwada kwaye incoko naye kule mihla iziva enyanzelekile?
Mhlawumbi uziva ngokungathi kufuneka ulobe izihloko zencoko okanye ungathanda ukumncina ukuze nje ufumane ulwazi oludingayo. Kwaye uziva ungamameli.
Ubusoloko ucinga ngale nto ... Kwaye inye into icacile, into ayilunganga kwaphela. Uqala ukuzibuza ukuba ingaba angafuna na ukuphuma emtshatweni. Ngelishwa, usenokungaphazami.
Ukuthintela kubudlelwane
Yonke imihla kubudlelwane nemicimbi, amaqabane eza ngokuchasene 'nokuthintela'. Xa ufumana ingxelo kunye neempawu ezivela kwizenzo nakumazwi eqabane lakho, oko kukuvumela ukuba wazi ukuba yintoni na; ukuba ubukele kwaye umamele.
Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabasetyhini alufuni ukukholelwa ukuba izinto zihamba gwenxa. Ubudlelwane buxhaswe ngethemba elininzi, ukholo oluninzi.
Nangona ithemba kunye nokholo zinamandla okunyanga ubudlelwane, eyona nto imbi onokuyenza xa kufikwa eluthandweni kukuzikhohlisa malunga nolonwabo lomntu wakho.
Imbambano ayisiyiyo yonke into yomfo
Ayinguye wonke umntu ophumayo kwaye avakalise ukungoneliseki kwakhe kubudlelwane.
Abanye abantu banokukhetha ukungaphumeleli kumagama angathethiyo kunokuba bathethe.
Bayakukhetha iingxoxo, bagxeke, bangakuhoyi okanye bayeke ukunxibelelana kwaphela.
Kananjalo, uninzi lwabantu alufuni kuthwala umthwalo wokuba ngabo baqhekeza umtshato. Baya kuthi ke, banike iingcebiso ezininzi zokuba abasazukutyala imali kulwalamano, ngethemba lokuba uyakuthatha icebo kwaye ulibize ngokuthi liyekile. Ke ngoko, kufuneka uzithembe ukuba uza kutolika iingcebiso kubudlelwane bakho. Xa ekuxelela:
- Andibonakali ngathi ndenza nantoni na elungileyo
- Ufanelwe ngcono
- Andinakukunika le nto uyifunayo
- Awuhlali wonwabile
- Andazi ukuba ndenzeni kwakhona ....
Zonke ezi zizikhokelo, kwaye umamele ngcono ukuba awufuni kuba lixhoba lokwahlukana.
1. Iimbambano
Xa umntu wakho eceba ukwahlukana nawe, uya kuba nomsindo ngabom ngenxa yezona zinto zincinci. Iimpikiswano ziya kuza ingakumbi xa umbuza imibuzo angathanda ukungayiphenduli.Injongo yakhe kukudala ukungqubana ukuze aphephe ukuxoxa ngezihloko ezithile kunye nawe. Xa ingxabano inyuka, kulapho ke aya kuthi aqale ukuthetha izinto ezinje:
'Andicingi ukuba le nto iyasebenza!' 'Ngaba oku kufanelekile kwakhona?' 'Mhlawumbi andinakukuvuyisa kwakhona!' ‘Andazi nokuba nguwe okanye ndim,’ ‘Ndizama ngako konke okusemandleni ukuba ndibengumntu ofuna ndibenguye; Kunzima; ulindele lukhulu kum. '
Lo mlo ungapheliyo ngaphandle kokufikelela kwizisombululo uya kuthi ekugqibeleni ungene kwisigaba 'santoni na, apho engasakhathalelanga isiphumo sempikiswano yakho.
Akasatyalwanga kulwalamano, kwaye akakhathali kangako malunga nokuba imiba phakathi kwenu nobabini isonjululwe na okanye hayi. Xa usizisa into, uya kunyusa amagxa akhe akunike ukuthula okanye ahambe aphume.
2. Isabotage
Xa iqabane lifuna ukuphuma kubudlelwane, liya kwenza izinto ngokungazi okanye ngabom ukonakalisa ubudlelwane. Banokuthi bafuna ukuhlala bade babe luhlaza ebusweni, kodwa ulwimi kunye nezenzo zabo ziya kukuxelela ngenye indlela.
3. Uthetha phantsi kuwe
Uya kuqaphela ukuba indoda yakho ayisakhathali ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ngequbuliso, uhlala elungile, kwaye uhlala usenza iimpazamo.
Yiza neprojekthi onomdla ngayo, kwaye uya kwenza i-jabs malunga nendlela ongaqhelwanga ngayo. Ukuzama ukuqiqa naye, xa niphikisana ngezimvo, kwaye uya kukuxelela ukuba izimvo zakho zibubudenge. Ukuba uhlala ekwenza uzive ungenangqondo kwaye ungonelanga, akasenamdla wokwenza ulwalamano lwakho lusebenze.
4. Unomdla wokuhleka
Wayekuthanda ukuhlekisa ngawe, kwaye ubonwabele uburharha bakhe obuhlekisayo. Nangona kunjalo, uburharha bakhe buqale ukuguqulela kwizithuko ezincinci.
Uya kwenza iziqhulo ezingathandekiyo malunga nobunzima bakho, inkangeleko, imfundo kunye nokuthelekisa ngokungathandekiyo kubahlobo bakho.
Uya kusebenzisa uburharha ukunxibelelana nomyalezo ongathandekiyo ebengayi kwabelana ngawo.
Ewe uyakubanga ukuba uyakudlalisa, kodwa ungamxelela ukuba uyazi ngokucacileyo ukuba uyakukhathaza.
5. Uqala ukuthetha ngendlela engaqhelekanga
Umyeni wakho uya kuqala ukulahla iingxelo ezingaqhelekanga ezimele ukubonisa imiqondiso yeentsimbi.
‘Ubudlelwane abufanelanga ukuba bube ngumsebenzi omninzi kangaka! '
Mamela kakuhle indoda yakho kwaye uyikholelwe le nto ikuxelela yona. Abasetyhini abaninzi benza impazamo yokucinga ukuba baya kuba nakho ukutshintsha ingqondo yendoda okanye ingxaki iya kuphela ukuba bayayityeshela. Ukulahla iingcebiso yindlela yendoda yakho yokubeka isiseko sokwahlukana.
6. Akasathethi ngekamva
Olu lolona phawu lubaluleke kakhulu okwangoku lokwahlukana kukude. Ukuba uyakuphepha ukuxoxa ngekamva kunye nawe, oko kuthetha ukuba akakuboni kwikamva lakhe.
Ixesha elizayo apha akufuneki nokuba libe yinto ethile.
Uyakuqaphela ukuba indoda yakho ayisathethi ngohambo kunye neekonsathi obukhe waya kuzo kunye.
Xa ubuza, uya kuba yinto engacacanga ncam. Olu luphawu olucacileyo lokungazibopheleli kwendoda yakho, kwaye izinto zinokuya zisiba mbi ukusuka apho.
7. Akukho nxibelelwano
Indoda engasatyalwanga kubudlelwane iya kukuphepha ukuthetha nawe ngaphandle kokuba kufanelekile. Nokuba uzama ukuqala incoko, malunga nokuba luhambe njani usuku lwakhe uya kukunika impendulo ibe nye.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba indoda engacingi ngekamva kunye nawe ayizukuthetha nje ngezinto ezinkulu ebomini bayo, kodwa nakwezincinci.
Inqaku lokugqibela
Imitshato inzima, kwaye ayinakuze ifezeke. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi bufutshane kakhulu ukuba ungabambelela kubudlelwane obunelikhondo ongaqinisekanga ngalo. Ngelishwa ukuba umntu wakho uthethile izinto ezibonisa ukuba usendleleni yokuphuma, ukanti uthathe isigqibo sokuba ade ayipele ngokuvakalayo nangokucacileyo, lisekhona ithuba.
Ukubeka yonke into kumfana ongakwaziyo ukuqweba isibindi sokuyipela kukuphepha uxanduva.
Kungumsebenzi wakho njengomntu ophethe ubomi bakho ukuba umamele kwaye usebenze kwiingcebiso ezinikwa yindoda yakho.
Ukuphulaphula ngenyameko kwingxelo kubudlelwane bakho kuyanceda uyeke ukuzithengisa ngokufutshane. Khumbula, utshintsho lolwimi ngumntu wakho ngokucacileyo kukunika iintloko malunga nokuba uphi kanye. Thembela inqaku; thembela isigwebo sakho.