Nanamhlanje, abantu abaninzi abawazi umahluko phakathi “ndiyakuthanda” nothi “Ndiyakuthanda.” Nangona uninzi lwabantu luyenza impazamo yokuba zizithethantonye, ezi zivakalisi azifani kwaphela.
Ukuthandana nomntu nokuthanda umntu zizinto ezimbini ezahluke kwaphela, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba wazi umahluko phakathi kwezi zinto zimbini.
Kuthethwe ngentla apha kukho umahluko phakathi kokuthanda umntu nokuba sothandweni:
- Xa uthandana, ufuna lo mntu
- Xa uthanda umntu, uyamfuna lo mntu
Lo ngumahluko ophambili phakathi kokuthanda umntu kunye nokuthandana. Ukuthandana kukufuna ukuba ngumnini omnye umntu. Kuyakholelwa ukuba lo mntu ungummangaliso kwaye uyabadinga ebomini bakho.
Xa uthandana, uziva isidingo esinzulu sokumtya lo mntu nangayiphi na indlela.
Ngamazwi alula, ukuthandana kukukholelwa ukuba ufuna umntu oza kuhlala onwabile.
Kwelinye icala, xa uthanda, awubafuni nje ebomini bakho, kodwa uyabafuna. Udinga ukuba lo mntu aphile ngolonwabo kwaye hayi kuba ungumnikazi walo mntu kodwa kuba ufuna ukubanika inxenye yakho.
Olu hlobo lothando ngamanye amaxesha lufuna ukuba ubakhulule kwaye ubakhulule.
- Xa uthandana nomntu; Iimvakalelo zakho zisemaphethelweni
- Xa uthanda umntu; Iimvakalelo zakho zihleli
Xa uthandana nomntu othile, ufumana imvakalelo yokuphakama ongafuniyo ukwehla kuyo. Kukwenza uzive ngathi udada ngaphezulu kwelifu, kwaye awusoze ufune ukuyeka. Nangona kunjalo, kulapho ingxaki ilele khona; emva kwexesha elithile, uyehla.
Xa uthanda umntu, akukho mvakalelo ininzi apho. Oku ngakumbi malunga neengcinga.
Ucinga ngomnye wakho obalulekileyo kwaye unqwenela okuhle kodwa kubo. Uyabakhathalela, kwaye iimvakalelo eziza noku ziyinto elula nje.
Nje ukuba uwelile inqanaba lokuthandana nabanye ukuba ubathande, kuya kufuneka uyeke imvakalelo yokuphakama kwaye ulungele ukukhwela amaza eemvakalelo angaphantsi.
- Xa uthandana nomntu, uceba ukufikelela kwinjongo
- Xa uthanda umntu, injongo ayinamsebenzi
Le yeyona nto yenza ukuthandana nomntu kuvuyisa- uhlala ulangazelela okungakumbi. Ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nomnye wakho obalulekileyo kwaye ubazi ngcono. Uhlala uzabalazela okungakumbi kwaye ufuna ukwakha ubudlelwane obunzulu.
Xa uthandana, akukho njongo ikhona. Isizathu soku kukuba sele ufikelele kwinqanaba lokugqibela.
Oku kuhlala kusoyikisa izibini kuba zihlala zijonge phambili ekwenzeni inkqubela phambili. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba awukwazi ukwenza inkqubela phambili kwaye wakhe into ngonaphakade. Ekuphela kwento onokuyenza kukuqhubeka usebenza kwaye uhlaziye oko sele unakho.
- Xa uthandana, ucinga ukuba umkhathalele lo mntu ngaphezu kwakho
- Xa umthanda umntu, umkhathalele ngoyena mntu kunokuba ucinga
Xa uthandana, iikhemikhali ezingaphakathi kwengqondo yakho zikwenza uzive ngathi ungoyena mntu ubalaseleyo emhlabeni. Uyakukholelwa ukuba lo mntu uyi-specimen efanelekileyo, kwaye ngelishwa le mvakalelo iyakudlula nje ukuba iikhemikhali ezonwabileyo zife.
Emva koko uza kushiyeka uziva ulahlekile kwaye udidekile.
Ukuba sothandweni kuyabonakala ngokulula, kodwa ukuthanda kwelinye icala akuniki zikhumbuzi ezinjalo. Xa umthanda ngokwenene umntu, amaxesha okwahlukana kunye nelahleko anokukugcwalisa ngeemvakalelo ezixineneyo. Ubakhathalele ngaphezu kokuba ucinga, kwaye ukucinga ngobomi ngaphandle kwabo kuya kuba nzima kuwe.
Ukuthanda umntu yinto echaza ukuba ungubani.
Xa uthanda umntu, ubeka zonke iichips zakho etafileni, ubabonise onke amakhadi akho, kwaye unethemba lokugqwesa.
Ubonisa umntu wakho elona cala lakho lisemngciphekweni, kwaye ngoku akukho kubuya ngamva.
Xa uthandana nomntu, unokuwela lula eluthandweni. Olu hlobo luthando likuvumela ukuba uthandane neqabane lakho kunye nolwalamano. Kodwa xa uthanda umntu, ngekhe ulibone ikamva ngaphandle kwakhe. Lo ngumahluko ophambili phakathi kokuthandana nomntu kunye nokuthanda umntu.