Umxholo
- Ujongana njani nomlingane we-narcissist
- Ukoyika iqabane lakho le-narcissist
- Ukoyisa uloyiko-Ixesha lokuma
- Iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana neqabane elingumlingisi
- 1. Yima ngokwakho
- 2. Ungayihoyi imigudu yabo yokukulawula
- 3. Musa ukuwela kwizimbo zabo ezimnandi
- 4. Zama ukungakhethi umlo
- 5. Ukuba ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato, fumana
- 6. Musa ukoyika ukuqala phantsi
- 7. Yakha ubomi ngaphandle kweqabane lakho elithandanayo
- Qokelela ubungqina xa kukho ukuxhatshazwa okanye ubundlobongela
Ukutshata ne-narcissist liphupha elibi, ukuba nabantwana kunye nabo nokubabona bekhuliswa ngulo mntu ayisiyiyo usapho esiye salubonisa emaphupheni ethu kodwa ngelishwa, luyinyani. Kwenzeka ntoni xa uqaphela ukuba ubhajwe emtshatweni narcissist? Ungajongana njani ne-narcissist xa usoyika kakhulu? Usengaphuma kulomtshato? Ukuba ungumntu othile okanye wazi umntu okwimeko efanayo, funda.
Ujongana njani nomlingane we-narcissist
Akukho mntu uya kufuna ukutshata narcissist. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuchitha ubomi bakhe bonke nomntu ongenanjongo kodwa kukukhohlisa kwaye ufumane yonke into abayifunayo ngaphandle kokuva abanye abantu.
Akukho mntu ufuna ukukhulisa abantwana nge-narcissist nokuba kutheni isenzeka? Kutheni le nto abantu becela uncedo lokuba umtshato wabo uqhawule umtshato kuba batshatile kumkhohlisi?
Impendulo koku kungenxa yokuba enye yeempawu ezixhaphakileyo ze-narcissist yeyokuba bangabazenzisi abakhulu, baya kugqibezela umfanekiso wobuxoki ukutsala umntu kunye nomtsalane kwindlela yabo abafuna ukuba yiyo.Kungathatha iinyanga kunye neminyaka yokuzenza oyena mntu ulungileyo ukuba abe liqabane lakho kwaye xa ekugqibeleni betshatile-sonke isihogo siyaphuma.
Uvuka nje ngentsasa enye uqaphela ukuba ngoku ubanjiswe bubudlelwane apho ungamazi nomntu osandula ukutshata. Iqabane elalikade limnandi, linoxanduva kwaye liqonda ngoku liphendukile laba ngumntu onoburharha, onobundlobongela, oxhaphazayo noxhaphazayo.
Kwenzeka ntoni ngoku?
Ukoyika iqabane lakho le-narcissist
Ungajongana njani nomlingane we-narcissist xa ungazi ukuba ungaqala ngaphi?
Uninzi lwamatyala apho elinye iqabane lingumlingisi we-narcissist liza kothuka kwelinye iqabane eliza kuthi emva koko lakhe uloyiko kunye nokungaqiniseki komnye umntu.
Uninzi lwexesha, iqabane elingaziwayo alazi ukuba iqabane labo liyi-narcissist kwaye liziva lisoyika usapho. Khawufane ucinge indlela eyoyikisa ngayo xa ungazi ukuba ujongene nantoni?
Xa lo mntu eyazi indlela yokusebenzisa iimeko zonke ukuze kuzuze bona - abanye abatshatileyo baziva bengenathemba.
Ukoyisa uloyiko-Ixesha lokuma
Lixesha lokuba ujongane noloyiko lwakho, lixesha lokuba uhambe kwaye lixesha lokuba uzisindise kunye nabantwana bakho kwiqabane lakho. Ukuba uziva kwaye ukrokrela ukuba utshatile kwi-narcissist, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuqonda ukuba yintoni i-narcissist kunye nento onokuyenza ukujongana nabo.
Ngokwenkcazo, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kwi-Narcissistic (NPD) okanye into esiyaziyo njenge-narcissist ngumntu oswele uvelwano kwabanye abantu, onesidingo sokunconywa kunye nomntu ohlala kwigrandiyos. Rhoqo, banekratshi, amaxoki, bayazingca, banobuqhetseba, bafuna ngenkani, kwaye abasokuze bazamkele iimpazamo.
Nje ukuba uqhelene namaqhinga kunye nobuxoki beqabane lakho, lixesha lokuba uyeke ukoyika kwaye uqale ukujongana nabo.
Iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana neqabane elingumlingisi
Ukujongana nomlingane we-narcissist, kukho izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzikhumbule:
1. Yima ngokwakho
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuma uqinile kwaye uzazi ngokwakho kuba awungekhe ulwe narcissist ukuba awuqinisekanga ngeenjongo zakho kunye nesiqu sakho. Lo ngumdlalo wengqondo kwaye kufuneka uzilungiselele.
2. Ungayihoyi imigudu yabo yokukulawula
Funda ukuba ungasabeli kwizizathu zabo. Eyona nto inokwenzeka, ukuba iqabane lakho elithandwayo libona ukuba uzama ukulawula ubomi bakho, kuya kubakho iinzame zokuphumelela ukulawula. Umntu one-NPD uya kusebenzisa izinto ezinje ngamagama, iimeko, nditsho nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho ukuze usabele ngokweminqweno yakhe. Sukuvumela ukuba oku kube njalo, musa ukubonisa nayiphi na imvakalelo ukuba unako.
3. Musa ukuwela kwizimbo zabo ezimnandi
Zilungele izithembiso, izijekulo ezimnandi, kunye nezinye izikimu zokukuphumelela. Ukuba umntu one-NPD akakwazi ukusebenzisa uloyiko baya kuthi ke babhenele kwizimbo zomzimba ezimnandi ukubonisa ukuba batshintshe njani kwaye bathande kangakanani kwaye bakuthande kangakanani- musa ukuziwela. Ukuba ubuya umva, emva kwexesha elizayo, iqabane lakho elithandanayo alisayi kuphinda liphathe njengoyikiso kodwa njengentlekisa.
4. Zama ukungakhethi umlo
Lindela ukubekwa kwiimeko apho kuya kubakho iimpikiswano kwaye njengoko ufuna ukubonisa ubungqina be-narcissist, sukuzama. Qiniseka kwaye ubaxelele nje ukuba awuvumelani kwaye uqhubeke nokuba bangazama kangakanani ukulwa.
5. Ukuba ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato, fumana
Ukuba ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato kwaye uziva ngathi umtshato wakho awunathemba, yenze. Cela uncedo ukuba luyafuneka ingakumbi xa kukho umqondiso wobundlobongela okanye ukuxhatshazwa. Musa ukoyika ukuthatha indawo yakho hayi eyakho kuphela kodwa neyosapho lwakho ngokunjalo.
6. Musa ukoyika ukuqala phantsi
Ubomi bukhulu kakhulu kwaye buhle ngaphezu kokuvalelwa emtshatweni kulawulwa yi-narcissist. Unamakhono amaninzi kunye nokukwazi ukuphila ubomi obafunayo yiyo loo nto iqabane lakho elizithandayo lizama ukukukhawulela kuba bekwazi unako phila ngaphandle kwabo.
7. Yakha ubomi ngaphandle kweqabane lakho elithandanayo
Chitha ixesha nabantu abakwaziyo okwenene, abakuxhasayo kwaye bakho ukukunceda. Sukoyike ukwenza izihlobo okanye ukuya kwimisebenzi emitsha kunye nobomi obutsha ngaphandle kweqabane lakho.
Qokelela ubungqina xa kukho ukuxhatshazwa okanye ubundlobongela
Musa ukuvumela ukuba oku kube bubomi bakho. Cela uncedo kwaye wenze isicwangciso ukuze uyeke oku kube kanye.
Ungajongana njani nomlingane we-narcissist xa usoyika kakhulu? Qala nawe. Ukusuka kwisigqibo sokuba unele ngokwaneleyo kwisicwangciso kunye nenkxaso oya kuyidinga-njengoko kunzima njengoko kubonakala ngathi, ungaphuma kobu budlelwane bunetyhefu. Khumbula ukuba oko sikuvumela ukuba kuqhubeke kuya kulawula ubomi bethu.