Umxholo
- Ukubakho kokulungisa umtshato emva kokungathembeki
- Ukucetyiswa kungawusindisa umtshato emva kokungathembeki
- Phucula unxibelelwano
- Tyhila esona sizathu sokwenzakala
- Nceda amaqabane aqhagamshele kwakhona
- Yakha umtshato ngokutsha
Xa ukungathembeki kusongela umtshato wakho, unokuzibuza ukuba ukuhlala kunye kukhetho.
Umcimbi sisenzo sokugqibela sokungcatsha-ngokuqinisekileyo kufanele ukuba ikhona into esilelayo kulwalamano ukufikelela kwelo nqanaba, kwaye ngoku elinye iqabane lisophule izifungo zomtshato.
Ungacinga njani ngokuhlala kunye kwaye nisebenze xa umtshato emva kokuba umtshato wonakalise ubomi bakho? Emva kokuba isiseko sobudlelwane bakho sishukunyisiwe yingcebiso malunga nokuthandana ayisiyonto yokuqala eza engqondweni yakho.
Ukubakho kokulungisa umtshato emva kokungathembeki
Ukugcina umtshato emva kokungathembeki kuvakala kusenokwenzeka, shiya wedwa ukwakha umtshato kwakhona.
Kodwa, eneneni, imithombo eyahlukeneyo inika ingxelo yokuba malunga nesiqingatha semitshato iyasinda ekungathembekini.
Ubuthandana kanye, akunjalo? Kwaye nangoku ngaphandle kwalo mba mkhulu wenzekileyo nisathandana? Ngokuqinisekileyo kufanelekile ukugcina. Ke ngoku umbuzo wendlela yokwenza.
Ukucetyiswa kungawusindisa umtshato emva kokungathembeki
Ngaba ukucebisa ngomtshato kuyasebenza emva kokungathembeki?
Masijongane nenyani-lo mbandela wokungathembeki mkhulu kunokubanakho. Ufuna uncedo. Ufuna ingcali kwicandelo lokungathembeki kokungathembeki.
Ufuna i-Therapist yomtshato. Ukugcina umtshato emva kokukopela kushukumisile isiseko somtshato kufuna ukungakhethi cala kunye nongenelelo lobuchwephesha ngohlobo lokungathembeki kokungathembeki.
Kumtshato owaphukileyo osokolayo kukungathembeki, unyango lolona hlobo lubalulekileyo lokutshata olunokuthi lube nakho ukulungisa umtshato emva komtshato.
Ngakumbi nangakumbi abantu bayaqonda ukuba ingasebenza njani ingcebiso yokungathembeki, ngakumbi ngamaxesha anzima emtshatweni.
Ingcali kwezomtshato ngumlamli ongakhethi cala oqeqeshiweyo nonamava ekuncedeni izibini ukuba zisebenze kwiingxaki zazo, zinike iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokulungisa umtshato emva kokuthandana, kwaye zixhobise izibini ngezixhobo ezifanelekileyo zokugcina umtshato emva komtshato.
Igumbi lokucebisa yindawo ekhuselekileyo apho nina nobabini nithetha nimamele, kwaye ngethemba lokuba, njengoko nisakha ukuthembana, niya kuwakha umtshato wenu kwaye niphume nangakumbi kwelinye icala.
Nazi ezinye zeendlela ukucebisa ngokungathembeki kunokusindisa umtshato wakho
Phucula unxibelelwano
Endaweni yomgca, uyekile ukwabelana ngento yonke kunye-ngakumbi iqabane elikhubekileyo eliphambukileyo.
Kukho iimeko ezithile zobuxoki obuncinci obumhlophe bokufihla apho babekhona kunye nabo babenabo, emva koko benza ntoni.
Ukusebenza nonyango kubalulekile kuba banokukunceda baphucule unxibelelwano. Elinye iqabane linokumangalelwa ngenxa yokungcatsha.
Ngexesha leseshoni yokucebisa ngokungathembeki, i-Therapist ibuza iqabane ngalinye imibuzo elinceda ukuveza iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zabo, ezibalulekileyo kubo ukuba beve kunye namaqabane abo ukuba eve.
Umcebisi ukwanceda esi sibini ukuqhubekeka namagama kwaye siqonde ukubaluleka kwawo.
Abacebisi abaninzi basebenzisa umdlalo wokulinganisa ukunceda isibini ukuba sinxibelelane ngokufanelekileyo, oku kubanceda ukuba baphucule unxibelelwano lwabo ngokubanzi.
Tyhila esona sizathu sokwenzakala
Oku kulula — konke malunga nesondo, akunjalo?
Hayi rhoqo. Ewe, eminye imicimbi yenzeka ngenxa yesini kunye nolonwabo lwayo yonke. Kodwa izinto ezininzi azenzeki ngoluhlobo.
Amaxesha amaninzi, ubudlelwane nomntu ongaphandle komtshato bunokuphuhla kuba kukho into esilelayo emtshatweni ngokwawo. Mhlawumbi umlingane owonileyo uziva kakubi ngesiizathu esithile okanye esinye okanye mhlawumbi akaziva eve kwelinye iqabane.
Akuyomfuneko ukuba aye kufuna omnye umntu, kodwa xa befumana ingqalelo efanelekileyo kwenye indawo, baya kulunga xa beyilandela.
Kungenzeka ukuba lo mntu mtsha ubanike ingqwalaselo enkulu, kwaye ngokuthe chu banikezela ngeemvakalelo zabo kunye nolwalamano kulo mntu mtsha kuba uziva kamnandi.
Ngamanye amaxesha umcimbi awubandakanyi ukulala ngesondo.
Inqaku leli, ukuthandana akwenzeki ngokukhawuleza. Yayiyinkqubo enzima, inyathelo nenyathelo efuna ukuvavanywa.
Ingcali eqeqeshiweyo ingabanceda bobabini abatshatileyo ukuba bathethe ngayo kwaye bafumane esona sizathu sokwenyani-kwaye ngenxa yoko, abatshatileyo banokuthi emva koko bawusingathe ngqo lo mbandela, ngendlela ekhokelwayo ngexesha leeseshoni zokungathembeki kokungathembeki.
Jonga kwakhona: Indlela Yokufumana Ulonwabo Emtshatweni Wakho
Nceda amaqabane aqhagamshele kwakhona
Emva kokuthandana, amaxesha amaninzi amaqabane afuna ukubuya kunye, kodwa abaqinisekanga nje ukuba ungawugcina njani umtshato emva komtshato.
Iqabane elonileyo liziva lisoyikeka kwaye lisoyika malunga nempendulo eyomeleleyo ngamaqabane abo. Umlingane ongakhange akhohlise angafuna ukuhlala etshatile, kodwa iimvakalelo zabo malunga nokuthandana zinamandla kangangokuba kunzima ukuthetha okanye ukuba kufutshane neqabane elonileyo.
Oku kunokubangela ukuba bobabini banqande nje omnye komnye.
Ingcali kwezomtshato enobungcali inokubanceda basebenze ngeemvakalelo zabo kwaye banxibelelane kwaye baqondane ngokwenene kwaye baxolelane.
Ngoncedo lwabacebisi abathembekileyo bokungathembeki, izibini zinokufumana indlela yokuqhubekeka okwenzekileyo, zichache kwintlungu yokungathembeki kubudlelwane kunye nokuphilisa.
Ingaba yibhulorho enkulu yokuwela, yiyo loo nto ufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuze uyenze.
Ngoncedo lokungathembeki kokungathembeki, nje ukuba uphinde uqhagamshele, ukwakhiwa kwakhona kungaqala.
Yakha umtshato ngokutsha
Ke niyazixolela kwaye nikulungele ukulungisa umtshato emva kokuthandana.
Uzivakalisile kwaye umamele. Ngoku ukuba ukwiphepha elinye, kulungile! Kodwa, ngoku uza kwenza ntoni? Ukulungisa umtshato emva komtshato akwenzeki kwi-auto-pilot.
Ngenxa yokuba nobabini nifuna ukuhlala nitshatile, oko akuthethi ukuba izinto ziya kuwela nje endaweni. Kuba ubuyele ezantsi kwisiseko kwakhona. Oku kuyakuthatha umsebenzi wokwakha ngokutsha umtshato.
Ukubuyisela umtshato emva kokukrexeza kubandakanya imiqobo ekufuneka ujongane nayo.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ngokwakha umtshato emva kokungathembeki, kufuneka uqonde ukuba umtshato wakho uyintoni na njengoko usiya phambili.
Kungenxa yoko le nto unyango lubaluleke kakhulu. Unyango lwabakhohlisi kunye neqabane elithembekileyo elisokolayo emva kweziphumo zokukhohliswa lelona nyathelo libaluleke kakhulu kwicala lokulungisa umtshato owaphukileyo.
Abanyangi abaqeqeshiweyo bayazi ukuba ngawaphi amanyathelo ekufuneka nithathe nobabini ukuze nakhe umtshato wenu ngokufanelekileyo. Yinkqubo yobuqu, yokuba akukho bungakanani-bunye-yonke indlela yokwenza umtshato emva kokukopela.
Wena kunye neqabane lakho ninokuthatha ixesha elide ukufikelela kwizinto ezithile, kwaye unokubethwa ngumoya ngabanye, ukufumana iimpendulo ezichanekileyo kwimibuzo ephazamisayo enje, "ungawusindisa njani umtshato wakho emva kokungathembeki", okanye "ulungisa njani umtshato owaphukileyo emva kokukopela".
Umgqirha unokulinganisa apho nobabini nikhona ngexesha leseshoni nganye yonyango ukusebenzisa ixesha ngokufanelekileyo kwaye anincede nakhe, izitena ngezitena kude kube nobabini niqinile ngokwaneleyo ukuba nizimele.
Ukucebisa ngokungathembeki inokuba sesona sixhobo sisebenzayo sokunyanga iintlungu ezivela kwiqabane elingathembekanga, kwaye ubuyisele umtshato obuthathaka ngokuqhatha, ubuxoki nokungcatsha.