Uhlala njani kwiNqanaba eliPhezulu maXesha eeNgxwabangxwaba

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• Ukujonga okwenyani
• Ukuchacha kwimikhwa emibi.
• Uhlala njani kwinqanaba eliphambili xa kuvela ungquzulwano.

Ukujonga okwenyani

Kwenzeka ntoni xa ubunyani bomtshato butyhilwa ngequbuliso? Ayisiyiyo le nto ubuyilindele, ayisiyonto oyibhalisileyo, ayisiyiyo into oyiphuphileyo ukususela oko wawusemncinci, kwaye iqabane lakho liyakuphoxa kuba alifikeleli kuluhlu lwakho lwezinto ezilindelweyo kunye neminqweno oyenzele "Lowo". Okwangoku, ukuxabana kuyaqala ... Ufuna ukuba iqabane lakho likonwabise, lilinganise izimvo zakho kunye nolindelo lomtshato wakho, kwaye ulibale into yokuba nabo baneeseti zabo zeengcinga kunye nolindelo. Ngubani owakuvuyisa ungekatshati? Akukho mntu emhlabeni unakho ukukunika naluphi na uhlobo lokonwaba okuzinzileyo. Wena ungundoqo kulonwabo lwakho. Mhla mna nomyeni wam saqala ukuncama uhlobo lomtshato owonwabisayo oquka uthando, intlonipho, ukuqonda, ukwamkeleka, ukulalanisa, ubuhlobo kunye nobubele yayingumhla, saqonda ukuba umtshato wethu uthathe izinto ezonakalisayo. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba sivumele ii-egos zethu ezibuthathaka ukuba zilawule iyantlukwano kwaye zikhokelele kwimpumelelo yamandla okulwa, kunye nokhuphiswano lokuphumelela ezona mpikiswano.

Ukuchacha kwimikhwa emibi.

Nangona siphumeze izinto ezininzi kunye nokuvumelana ngamaqhinga, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndibelane nabanye abathathu kweli nqaku.

• Fumanisa ukuba ungubani kwaye uthathe uxanduva lolonwabo lwakho kunye nokuba sempilweni. Kuphela kuxa sisazi kwaye siziqonda ngokwenyani iziqu zethu, ubuntu bethu, iimvakalelo, izenzo, njl.njl. Umtshato ayilo-equation yemathematika.
• Iziqingatha ezibini azilingani zizonke, kuyamangalisa ngakumbi kwaye kuyimfihlakalo kolo lukhulu. I-Infact, babini kuphela abantu abagqibeleleyo ngokuchanekileyo abalinganayo nokugqitywa kwenyani obukhangela ubomi bakho bonke.
• Yenza ukhetho olusebenzayo lokutshintsha ugxininiso lwakho kwizinto ozifunayo, uye kwizinto ezifunwa liqabane lakho kunye nomtshato (qaphela: Khange ndibhale "ndifuna").
• Thatha iqabane lakho lenze into elungileyo, kwaye uvakalise umbulelo wakho kwimizamo yabo. Funda ukuxabisa izinto ezincinci ezingasoloko ziqwalaselwa.

Jonga kwakhona: Yintoni ukungqubana kobudlelwane?

Uhlala njani kwinqanaba eliphambili xa kuvela ungquzulwano.

• Funda kwaye uyiqonde indlela osabela ngayo xa unomsindo.Xa olo gazi lufudumeleyo lusiya entlokweni yakho, lujika yonke into isendleleni eya phezulu ukuya kwimibala eyahlukeneyo ebomvu, ngelixa uqokelela uxinzelelo kuqhushumbo olungalawulekiyo, xelela iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ixesha lokuba wedwa, kwaye uya kuxoxa ngalo mbandela Inqanaba elilandelayo (“kamva” libhekisa kwiiyure ezingama-24 ezizayo). Kwimeko apho uphikisana neqabane lakho ngelixa ukwimo ekhankanywe apha ngasentla, khumbula ukuba ingqondo yakho isebenza kwimilo yokulwa nakwindlela yokubhabha ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukusinda okungacacanga. Ubuchule bengqondo yakho bokusebenzisa ubuchule bokuyila, obunemfesane, bokuyila, ukuthanda kunye nokuhlonipha, abusebenzi ngexesha lokusinda. Ingqondo yakho ayinakho ukusebenza kuzo zombini!
• Shiya ukungxola, ukuthuka, ukubiza amagama, ukungathethi, ukuphoxisa, kunye nomsindo njengoluhlu lwezinto eziza kwenziwa ekuphuhliseni ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo yomntwana wakho.
• Mamela ukuqonda. Yeka ukusebenza kwimpikiswano yakho yokuzikhusela ngelixa iqabane lakho linxibelelana nawe. Xa ungakuqondi ngokupheleleyo, guqulela ngentlonipho kwaye uthethe amagama abo ngawakho amazwi, kunye neqabane lakho ukuba utoliko lwakho beluchanekile.
• Lumkele ulwimi lwakho lomzimba kunye nembonakalo yobuso. Umlingane wakho uqaphela iinjongo kunye neenjongo zakho ezifihliweyo ngokusebenzisa imikhwa abayifumana kulwimi lwakho olungathethwanga. Soloko ugcina ezo njongo kunye neenjongo, zicocekile, ziyakha kwaye ziyinzuzo macala.
• Soloko unyanisekile kwaye unononophelo ngelixa udlulisa umbono wakho. Khokela incoko ngothando nentlonipho.
• Ndihlala ndiyibona le nto nabafazi kwaye nceda uqaphele ukuba andenzi gabalala. Ngexesha lokuphikisana, abasetyhini bahlala beziva isidingo sokunxibelelana ngokucacileyo nengxoxo yabo iphela, ngokuqhubekayo ukongeza imizekelo kunye neemvakalelo, kwaye ngelixa bekulo, banxibelelana neminye iminyhadala, baziva benokuba kufanelekile kwingxoxo yabo yangoku, bonke ngaxeshanye. Wow, nokuzama ukubeka yonke loo nto kwisivakalisi esinye kuyabhidisa. Amadoda sisisombululo esijolise kuko kwaye bakhululeke ngakumbi ukuzekela, ukujongana nengxelo enye yengxaki, kunye neemvakalelo zayo, ngexesha. Amadoda athambekele ekuqokeleleni ulwazi kunye nokunxibelelana, okunokubonakala kufana nokuqonda kwabo, okuhlala kukhokelela kukungaqondani. Madoda, khokela kwaye ukhokele ngothando umfazi wakho ukuba aphule ingxelo yakhe yengxaki, kwiindawo ezinokulawulwa kwaye ziqondakale. Manenekazi, enkosi iqabane lakho xa besenza le nto, akakuphazamisi kwaye akabi nantlonelo. Uzama ukukuqonda kunye nengxoxo yakho.
• Gcina ukhumbula ukuba iqabane lakho alithethi ngokwenyani ngokwenyani, kuba ingqondo yomntu itolika amava ayo ngendlela yokudibanisa nokutolika kunye nokuqonda amava amatsha, kusetyenziswa isakhelo sakho esisodwa. Iibhongo zethu, ke, zichaphazeleka ngengqondo kwaye ngenxa yeempembelelo ezininzi, ukuqonda kwakho, ulindelo, kunye nokucinga kwakho akunakuhlala kuchane ngokuchanekileyo njengoko ubucinga. Fumanisa iinyani malunga nenyani yokwenyani, ngokukhangela izimvo zomnye nomnye. Uya kumangaliswa sisiphumo kwaye uhlekise ngenkqubo. Musa ukulithatha ilizwi lam; ungazibonela ngokwakho. Owu, musa ukulibala ukwabelana ngokufumanisa kwakho, ngokwenza amagqabantshintshi ngeli nqaku.