Umxholo
- 1. Yonwaba kunye
- 2. Hlala unyanisekile
- 3. Mamela ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa
- 4. Lizwi uthando lwakho
- 5. Thatha ixesha kunye yonke imihla
- 6. Imisebenzi yesondo rhoqo
- 7. Bonakalisani uxabiso omnye ngomnye
Ukufunda ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo kubudlelwane kunceda ukuba ubonise imbeko, uqondane ngcono, kwaye kukwenze ukuba ungeneke ngakumbi kwiqabane lakho. Nobabini neqabane lakho nizisa amava enu kubudlelwane benu. Oku kuthetha ukuba nobabini baneendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuthetha, ukumamela, kunye nokunxibelelana njengesibini.
Unxibelelwano luyinto ebalulekileyo kulwalamano olusempilweni.
Ikhuthaza ukuthembana, ukunyaniseka, kunye nothando. Ukuba ufuna ukukhuthaza umanyano oluhlala luhleli kunye, kubalulekile ukuba nihlale nimanyene kwaye nizabalazela ukuphucula izakhono zonxibelelwano njengesibini. Ezi ngcebiso zisixhenxe ziya kukunceda ufunde indlela yokuphucula unxibelelwano kunye nonxibelelwano neqabane lakho.
1. Yonwaba kunye
Unxibelelwano nonxibelelwano zihamba kunye. Enye ayisebenzi kakuhle ngaphandle komnye. Ukonwaba kunye kuphakamisa ubudlelwane bakho kwaye kunisondeza kunye. Okukhona usondelelana neqabane lakho, kokukhona uya kutyekela ekubaxeleleni iingcinga neemvakalelo zakho.
Ukwenza into eyonwabisayo kunye kulungile empilweni yobudlelwane bakho. Khetha umdlalo owuthandayo nobabini, nibe nobusuku bobusuku, okanye nichithe imva kwemini nigonona phantsi kwengubo kunye nomboniso owuthandayo kunye. Nantoni na enithanda ukuyenza nobabini, qiniseka ukuba niyenza rhoqo. Okukhona wonwaba kunye kunye kokukhona uya kudibana.
2. Hlala unyanisekile
Ukunyaniseka okuthembekileyo neqabane lakho, hayi malunga neemvakalelo zakho kuphela kodwa kunye nokulandela kwakho, kokukhona baya kuba nakho ukukuthemba kwikamva. Ngandlel 'ithile, ukukwazi kwakho ukunyaniseka kwimilo iqabane lakho livakalelwa ngayo ngawe. Ngaba uthembekile? Ngaba banesizathu sokukuthandabuza? Xa uzama ukuphucula unxibelelwano neqabane lakho, zibekele usukelo lokuthetha ngokuphandle nangokunyaniseka omnye komnye.
Ulwalamano olukhulu lwakhiwe ngentlonipho kunye nokuthembana, zombini ezi zinto zihlonishwa ngokuba nenyaniso. Thethani ngobomi benu kunye, iinjongo zenu ngekamva, thethani xa ningavisisani, kwaye ungaze uzenze ngathi wonwabile ukuba awonwabanga. Zininzi izibonelelo zokuthetha inyani neqabane lakho. Ukunyaniseka kuya kuninceda nobabini niphucule izakhono zonxibelelwano kwaye nidibanise kwinqanaba elinzulu. Ikwafundisa nobabini indlela yokufunda kunye nengxaki yokusombulula ngokufanelekileyo.
3. Mamela ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa
Ukuba awuqhelanga ukuthula, eli candelo lonxibelelwano kunye nonxibelelwano kunokuba nzima. Kodwa, ukuba ufunda ukumamela ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa iya kwenza imimangaliso kwimpilo yobudlelwane bakho.
Kunganzima ukuba ungaphazamisi ezakho iingcinga kunye nezimvo zakho ngexesha lengxabano. Kodwa musa. Nokuba iqabane lakho lithetha ngemini yoxinzelelo emsebenzini, into ehlekisayo abayifundayo, okanye uphakathi kokungavumelani, ukumamela linyathelo elibalulekileyo kwindlela yokuphucula unxibelelwano neqabane lakho. Kuyanceda ukuba nobabini niphephe ukungaqondani.
Funda ukuziqhelanisa nokumamela iqabane lakho. Nxibelelana namehlo xa iqabane lakho labelana ngebali kwaye ulisebenzise kakuhle unxibelelwano olungathethi ngomlomo, olufana nokunqwala kunye nokumomotheka. Oku kuyakwenza iqabane lakho ukuba lizive liqinisekisiwe kwaye libazise ukuba umamele kwaye uthatha inxaxheba ngaphandle kokubanqumla. Sebenzisa imibuzo yokulandela ukuze uncede ubonise umdla kunye nentlonipho.
Abaphulaphuli abanomonde bakwimeko engcono yokujongana nokungavisisani kunye neempikiswano kubudlelwane. Ukuba ukhathazekile malunga nendlela yokuphucula unxibelelwano kunye nokunxibelelana neqabane lakho, ungaqala ngokuba ngumphulaphuli onesigulana.
4. Lizwi uthando lwakho
Izifundo zityhila ukuba xa ujonga emehlweni eqabane lakho kwaye uthi "Ndiyakuthanda" ingqondo iyalelwa ukuba ikhuphe i-hormone evayo-oxytocin, edibanisa izibini kunye. Le hormone ikwenza uthembe ngakumbi iqabane lakho kwaye ikonyuse iimvakalelo zolonwabo.
Abantu abaninzi abatshatileyo ngelishwa bayaphuma kumkhwa wokuthi "ndiyakuthanda" kumaqabane abo okanye bawasebenzise njengendlela nje eqhelekileyo yokuphelisa incoko yomnxeba. Buyela kwinkqubo yokuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba ubathanda kangakanani kwaye kutheni usenza njalo. Ukuvakalisa uthando lwakho yonke imihla, kwaye kunentsingiselo, kuya kukhulisa ukuzithemba kweqabane lakho kwaye komeleze ubudlelwane bakho ekuhambeni kwexesha.
5. Thatha ixesha kunye yonke imihla
Nobabini nihlala ubomi obuxakekileyo, kodwa eso ayisosizathu sokubeka ubudlelwane benu emazantsi oludwe lwenu oluphambili. Thatha ixesha omnye nomnye yonke imihla. Yiba nemizuzu engama-30 ubuncinci suku ngalunye apho wabelana khona malunga nobomi bakho. Ixesha elininzi enilichitha kunye liyaqina ubudlelwane benu. Izibini ezininzi zenza oku ngaphezulu kwekofu kusasa ngaphambi kokuba kuqalise isiphithiphithi sosuku, okanye zenze ubusuku ngebhotile yewayini. Nokuba ungakhetha nini ukudibanisa imini yonke, qiniseka ukuba nobabini nenza umzamo wentliziyo yonke.
6. Imisebenzi yesondo rhoqo
Xa ucinga ukuba ulonyusa njani unxibelelwano neqabane lakho, imisebenzi yakho yegumbi lokulala izakudlala indima enkulu. Ukwabelana ngesondo lelinye inyathelo kubudlelwane elonyusa amanqanaba e-oxytocin. Le hormone ikhethekileyo kwaye ijongene ngqo nokudibana kwezentlalo kunye nemvakalelo yokunxibelelana neqabane lakho. Njengoko besesitshilo, kokukhona unxibelelana neqabane lakho kokukhona unxibelelana. Xoxa ngobomi bakho bobulili omnye komnye. Zingaphi iiveki okanye inyanga ezonelisayo kuwo omabini amaqela? Yintoni oyifunayo kwiqabane lakho ukuze ufikelele kuvuthondaba? Le yimibuzo ebalulekileyo eya kuqinisa umanyano lwakho kwaye ikunike impilo esempilweni, eyonelisayo ngamava ezesondo.
7. Bonakalisani uxabiso omnye ngomnye
Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuchukumisa, lixelele. Ukubonisa uxabiso ngezinto ezenziwa liqabane lakho kuya kubenza bazive bebalulekile kwaye baqwalaselwe nguwe. Ukuba awungomboniso wemiboniso yothando, unokuhlala ubonakalisa uxabiso ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukuwola okunombulelo kunye neepeki esidleleni nako kusebenza imimangaliso ngokwazisa iqabane lakho ukuba bakhethekile kuwe. Unokwenza izinto eziluncedo kwiqabane lakho njengokuthatha imisebenzi yabo yasekhaya, ukupheka ukutya abakuthandayo, okanye ukwenza into encinci njengokubhankisha. Enkulu okanye encinci, nantoni na onokuyenza eyenza ukuba usuku lwabo lube lula kancinci yinto entle
Ukuthumela izicatshulwa ezikhuthazayo ngalo lonke usuku yenye indlela encinci onokukhulisa ngayo ukuzithemba kweqabane lakho. Ukuba unebhongo ngabo, sukuyigcina kuwe. Iqabane lakho liya kuthanda ukuva ezi zinto. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngubani ongakuthandiyo ukunconywa?