Umxholo
- 1. Cela ukuthunyelwa
- 2. Funda uphononongo kunye nengqolowa yetyuwa
- 3. Thelekisa oko kulapho
- 4. Jonga iziqinisekiso
- 5. Buza imibuzo emininzi
- 6. Umlingane ngamnye kufuneka akhethe phezulu
- 7. Nje ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ukhethe owuphi umcebisi, vuma uvavanyo
Wena neqabane lakho nigqibe ekubeni kufuneka nithathe inxaxheba iingcebiso ngomtshato online. Nobabini nigqibe kwelokuba intuthuzelo ngomtshato ekwi-Intanethi izakusebenza kakuhle nina nobabini. Kakhulu!
Kodwa ngoku kuza icandelo elinzima ngokwenene-indlela yokufumana umcebisi womtshato okanye ngokufanelekileyo ukufumana umcebisi womtshato olungileyo kwi-Intanethi.
Njengokuba ubusenza buqu-ngaphakathi, ukuthenga ezijikeleze owona mcebisi womtshato ubalulekileyo kwimpumelelo yakho. Wonke umcebisi womtshato uhlukile, kwaye ngomcebisi womtshato okwi-Intanethi, kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu ngamanye amaxesha ukubona ukuba zikulungele na.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ujonge iziqinisekiso ezifanelekileyo njengoko ukhangela eyona ngcebiso yomtshato kwi-Intanethi enokukunceda wena neqabane lakho ukuba nisombulule iingxabano zenu kwaye nakhe umtshato ophilileyo kwaye womelele.
Ekugqibeleni, iziphumo ziya kuxhomekeka kwinto oyibeke kuyo kunye neqabane lakho. Kodwa yintoni enokukunceda ukuqhuba olo tshintsho zizakhono kunye nolwalathiso olunikezelwa ngumcebisi wakho womtshato kwi-Intanethi.
Ukukhetha izibini ezifanelekileyo zokucebisa kwi-intanethi kubalulekile ukuze sikwazi ukunxibelelana ngcono, kwaye sisebenze ngemicimbi ngokukuko. Ukukunceda kunye nokwenza inkqubo yokufumana unyango kunyango lwe-Intanethi oluziva lufanelekile, landela la manyathelo aya kukunceda kukhangelo lwakho lomcebisi womtshato okwi-Intanethi.
1. Cela ukuthunyelwa
Ukungaziwa kusenokuba sisizathu esikhulu sokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuya kunyango kwi-Intanethi kunyango lomntu-kodwa ukuba wazi nabani na okhe wasebenzisa unyango kwi-Intanethi ngaphambili, kufanelekile ukuthumela umyalezo wabucala kwaye ubuze. Unokucela kwakhona kwiforum ye-Intanethi.
Ukuqokelela ulwazi oluninzi kangangoko kunokukunceda uqaphele ukuba umcebisi angakulungela na kwaye nokuba yintoni Ezona zibini zibalaseleyo kwi-Intanethi ezenzelwe nina.
2. Funda uphononongo kunye nengqolowa yetyuwa
Iwebhusayithi nganye yomcebisi womtshato inokuba neengcebiso zokunxibelelana ngomtshato kwi-Intanethi kunye novavanyo lokucebisa ngomtshato kwi-Intanethi ebhalwe ngabathengi bangaphambili; Ngokucacileyo BONKE baya kuba luphononongo olulungileyo.
Nokuba bafumana uvavanyo olubi, ugqirha akazukufuna ukuthumela ezimbi kwiwebhusayithi. Ke funda uphononongo oluvela kwiwebhusayithi ukuba ukhetha, kodwa yazi ukuba luluvo olugqwethekileyo lwamanqanaba onke.
Qiniseka ngophando lwakho kwaye uthembele amathumbu akho xa ukhetha ugqirha.
3. Thelekisa oko kulapho
Fumana ireyithingi ephezulu iingcebiso zomtshato online iiwebhusayithi okanye abacebisi abatshatileyo abanconywayo, kwaye ufunde amacandelo "malunga nomcebisi".
Yenza uluhlu lwamagama kunye nemvelaphi yabo. Ngubani okubetha njengonamava noncedo kakhulu? Kutheni le nto bangena kweli shishini kwindawo yokuqala? Ngaba ikhona into kwicandelo labo "Malunga Nam" evisisana nawe?
Qiniseka ukuba ufunda malunga neziqinisekiso zabo ngokuncinci njengoko oko kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba ubuchule babo buhambelana nemicimbi yakho yomtshato.
4. Jonga iziqinisekiso
Ukusebenza naye nabani na kwi-intanethi kungoyikisa. Wazi njani ukuba ngabo abo bathi bangabo? Wazi njani ukuba oko bakuxelela kona malunga neziqinisekiso zabo kuyinyani?
Zininzi iindlela zokwenza njalo, kodwa kungcono ukuba uzikhuphe kwiwebhusayithi yeli lizwe apho ugqirha akhoyo kwaye ujonge iziqinisekiso zonyango olwenza oko.
Enye indlela yendlela yokufumana umphathiswa olungileyo womtshato okanye indlela yokuqinisekisa ubungqina bonyango kukukhangela imikhombandlela ethembekileyo.
Umzekelo, ungaya kwezi webhusayithi ukukhangela:
- Ubhaliso lukazwelonke lweetheraphikhi ezomtshato ezifanelekileyo
- Isikhokelo sokudlulisa iziko laseGottman
- Umbutho waseMelika womtshato kunye nonyango losapho (AAMFT) isikhombisi sendawo esisebenza kuyo
- Iziko lehlabathi ngokugqwesa kunyango olujolise kwiimvakalelo (ICEEFT)
Zonke zinoncedo "lokufumana ugqirha" lokukhangela.
5. Buza imibuzo emininzi
Kubalulekile ukuba udliwano-ndlebe nonyango lwakho Phambi kokuba ubhalisele ukusebenza naye. Bhala phantsi imibuzo onokuba nayo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba iphendulwe ngendlela eyonelisayo phambi kokuba uvume ukusebenza naye.
Imibuzo enokubakho yile: Unexesha elingakanani ungumcebisi ngemitshato? Zingaphi izibini ozincedileyo? Yeyiphi indlela yakho yokusebenza ungquzulwano?
Uyasebenza nabanye abantu okanye ujolisa ikakhulu kwimitshato? Siza kuthetha kangaphi? Ngaba siya kuhlala sithetha nawe okanye ngaba ukhe uthumele izigulana kumncedisi okanye kwi-therapist?
Kulungile ukubuza imibuzo yobuqu, ngathi batshatile okanye akunjalo? Ngaba bebeqhawule umtshato ngaphambili? Ngaba banabo abantwana?
Nangona kunjalo, lungiselela ukuba i-Therapist ingaphenduli loo mibuzo yobuqu, kuba ayinyanzelekanga.
6. Umlingane ngamnye kufuneka akhethe phezulu
Mhlawumbi nobabini nithanda ngokwahlukileyo abacebisi ngemitshato online ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Ngamnye kuni ngoku unokukhetha i-3 yakho ephezulu kwaye uthelekise uluhlu. Ngaba unayo into efanayo?
Ingcali leyo inokuba yeyona ilungileyo onokuhamba nayo. Akukho namnye ngokufanayo? Thetha omnye nomnye malunga namagama akuluhlu lwakho kunye neenzuzo kunye neengxaki zomntu ngamnye.
7. Nje ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ukhethe owuphi umcebisi, vuma uvavanyo
Yinike iseshoni okanye ezimbini ukuze ubone ukuba ulungile na. Ngamanye amaxesha uya kuba kwaye ngamanye amaxesha awuyi kubakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nobabini nithembane kakhulu kumcebisi. Ukuba ukuthembana akukho, ngekhe kulunge ukuqhubeka; inokuba lixesha lokuqalisa inkqubo kwaye ukhangele umcebisi omtsha.
Ingaziva njengenkqubo etya ixesha ukufumana ifayile ye- Umcebisi olungileyo womtshato kwi-Intanethi, kodwa ekugqibeleni, yonke imizamo iya kulunga.
Uninzi lwazo zonke khumbula ukulandela isisu sakho. Ukuba uziva ngathi ungamthemba umcebisi kwaye babonakale ngathi banikezela imeko engagwebi, emva koko banokukulungela.