Umxholo
- Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngaphambi kokuba ube nomntwana
- Uwulungiselela njani umtshato wakho ukuze ukhulelwe
- Iingxaki zomtshato ngexesha lokukhulelwa
- Phambi kokuba ube nosana- CINGA UZE UFUNDE !!!
Silindele ukongezwa okutsha kusapho kuyonwabisa. Yi isiganeko esibalulekileyo kuwo nawuphi na umtshato. Nangona kunjalo, nayiphi na into eqhelekileyo isibini sikufumanisa kunzima ngokwenene ukuya jongana nokukhulelwa emtshatweni.
Imicimbi yezempilo enje ngokuphazamiseka koxinzelelo ngexesha lokukhulelwa mihle kakhulu. Uninzi lwabamama abalindelekileyo, ukukhulelwa kunokubazalisa ngokudideka, uloyiko, usizi, ixhala, uxinzelelo, kunye noxinzelelo.
Enjalo Ukutshintsha kwemozulu rhoqo koomama abancinci banako ukuphazamisa impilo yengqondo kunye nokuphila komntu ngamnye nefuthe elibi kumtshato wabo.
Kwakhona, funda- Amadoda abaphatha abafazi bawo; iminqweno yokukhulelwa
Ngoku, ukukhulelwa kwangethuba kubudlelwane can kubangela iimvakalelo zokungazithembi koomama abancinci, ekuphela kwezakhono zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo ezinokuthi ziyekwe ngokufanelekileyo.
Kodwa ujonge kwicala eliqaqambileyo lomfanekiso, ukwakha usapho kunye kukude enye ye izinto ezimangalisa kakhulu ukuba namava nomnye umntu.
Nangona kumnandi, ulindele umntwana ikwanjalo Ifaka umceli-mngeni. Izibini ezinomntwana zizaliswe kukukhathazeka. Bafuna ukuba ngabazali abakhulu, bagcine umntwana ekhuselekile, kwaye bakulungiselele ngokupheleleyo ukufika kwakhe.
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Ukukhulelwa kunye nomtshato kunokubangela uxinzelelo kubudlelwane.
Uxinzelelo iqhelekile, ngakumbi xa kufuneka ujongane nokukhulelwa emtshatweni, kodwa xa ulindele umntwana, lelo iya kuba lixesha lokuhlangana.
Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngaphambi kokuba ube nomntwana
"Ngamandla amakhulu kuza uxanduva olukhulu," isicatshulwa / isiluleko esidumileyo esinikezwe nguBen Parker kuSpiderman oselula sithetha ngokubanzi ngoxanduva ekufuneka babe ngabazali kungekudala.
Ukuba ngumama akukho nto imfutshane ukuthatha indima yowesifazane obalaseleyo. Kodwa, umbuzo ngulo, ngaba ukulungele ukujongana nokukhulelwa emtshatweni? Abadala bathi emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu, amathuba okuba ukhulelwe anciphise kwabasetyhini.
Kwakhona, funda- Ukukhulelwa okumangalisayo kuma-40
Amathuba okuphuma kwesisu, ukukhubazeka kokuzalwa, kunye neminye imiba emibi yempilo inyuka ngokulindela oomama abadala.
Kodwa, ukufumana ndikhulelwe kwangoko kubudlelwane can yenza umsantsa phakathi kwesi sibini, kukhokelela kuqhawulo mtshato, ngamanye amaxesha.
Nangona kunjalo, zininzi izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngaphambi kokuba ube nosana. Ke, sukuvumela isilumkiso sikanyoko sifike kwimithambo yakho. Ungahlala uqinisekile ukuba ixesha lakho lokuba ngumama alipheli. Isifundo sika-2017 sibonisa amazinga okuzalwa aphezulu kubafazi abaneminyaka engama-30-34.
Ke, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukucinga ngokuba nomntwana, unokucinga kwakhona ngala manqaku alandelayo -
- Ngaba uyigqibile imfundo yakho?
- Ngaba ukhuselekile ngokwemali?
- Ngaba ukulungele ngokwasemzimbeni / ngokwasengqondweni ukuba ungangumama?
- Ngaba ukulungele ukujongana nokukhulelwa emtshatweni?
- Ngaba usenayo into ephilayo ekufuneka uyenzile?
Iimpendulo kulo mbuzo ungentla ziya kuchaza ukuba kutheni kufuneka ulinde ukuba ube nosana.
Nje ukuba uqiniseke ngekhulu leepesenti ukuba ukulungele ukuba ngumama, kuya kufuneka qalisa ukwenza amalungiselelo ukuya ngena kwisigaba esilandelayo yobomi bakho, okt. ukuba ngumama. Kwaye inyathelo lokuqala ukuya kumama kukuba qala babyproofing umtshato wakho kwaye uzilungiselele ngokufanelekileyo.
Uwulungiselela njani umtshato wakho ukuze ukhulelwe
Khangela “ukulungiselela ukukhulelwa kwakho” kwaye uyakufumanisa ukuba kukho iingcebiso ezininzi apha phandle. Iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zilungile, kodwa ukulungiselela umtshato wakho womntwana kugcinwa kulula.
Okokuqala, kufuneka ungene ngokwazi ukuba kuya kubakho iingxaki ezimbalwa (ukukhulelwa kunokuba nefuthe). Uzisa ubomi emhlabeni! Amadoda nabasetyhini baphendula ngokwahlukileyo kwiindaba zokuba ngabazali.
Xa umfazi efunda ukuba unomntwana endleleni, uya kwangoko kwimowudi kamama ngeli xesha Amadoda afuna ukubonelela kwaye uqale ngokujonga ngokusondeleyo kwezemali njengesiphumo.
Kwakhona, funda- Indima ebalulekileyo yootata ngexesha lokukhulelwa
Ukulungiselela umtshato wakho, zibophelele ekuthetheni nanini na xa kukho umntu onenkxalabo, chitha ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye, sebenzani kunye njengeqela, kwaye uyenze icace ukuba gcina izinto zothando.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukukhula Iimvakalelo zomzali zibangela ukuba uthando lube yinto engathandekiyo. Yiya kwimihla, thatha ixesha kuyo yonke imihla ukuthetha, kwaye wenze izinto zomntwana kunye njengokuhombisa indawo yokugcina abantwana, ukuphelisa nje uxinzelelo oluvela xa kufuneka ujongane nokukhulelwa emtshatweni.
Iingxaki zomtshato ngexesha lokukhulelwa
Ubomi bunokuhamba buhle kwaye buxakeke xa kufuneka ujongane nokukhulelwa emtshatweni. Kwaye, ucinga ukuba 'ukuba ngumama' kunzima?
Kukho iimeko ezithile apho iingxaki zomtshato ezazisele zikho zidlulela kwinqanaba lokukhulelwa. Ewe imeko ayifanelekanga, kodwa iingxaki zomtshato ngexa lokukhulelwa kufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngokukhawuleza.
Xa isibini silinde ukuba nomntwana, kubalulekile ukuba sidibane ngenxa yomtshato kunye nomntwana. Ungabeka izinto ngocwangco emva kwengxoxo eshushu kunye neqabane lakho okanye uthintele lonke ixesha elibi ekuphumeni kolawulo ngokuthatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo.
Ngapha koko, eli lixesha lokuthanda ubomi, hayi ukuphikisana.
Ukuba kufuneka ujongane nokukhulelwa emtshatweni njenge pro, jonga la manqaku alandelayo:
- Qalisa incoko - Sombulula nayiphi na imiba kwaye unciphise uxinzelelo ngokuqala incoko.
- Ukunyaniseka - Nyaniseka uxelele iqabane lakho ukuba yintoni ekukhathazayo emva koko ubakhuthaze ukuba benze njalo.
- Lungisa ingxaki kwangoko- Nje ukuba ingcambu yengxaki ivezwe, yilungise.
- Cwangcisa indlela oza kuyenza ngayo Yiza nesicwangciso sokusebenza kunye, zibophelele kuso, kwaye nisebenze de kufikelelwe kwisigqibo.
Bukela kwakhona: Iingcebiso zokuqala zikatata ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
Phambi kokuba ube nosana- CINGA UZE UFUNDE !!!
Yi akunzima ukujongana nokukhulelwa emtshatweni. Uxanduva lokondla usana luxhomekeke kubo bobabini abazali. Ayingoomama kuphela, kodwa nomntwana Utata naye kufuneka alungelelanise indlela yabo yokuphila kwaye nizimisele ukukhathalela usana olusanda kuzalwa kunye nenkosikazi yakhe njengeqela.
Ke, sukuzenza ngathi 'uyindoda ezithandayo' ngexesha lokukhulelwa, endaweni yoko, ulwe ubambene-nehlombe kunye nenkosikazi yakho ukuze nisebenze emtshatweni wenu.
Masijongane nayo; wonke umtshato uneengxaki ezimbalwa. Kodwa, ukufunda ngendlela yokujongana nokukhulelwa emtshatweni kunokukunceda kweli nqanaba linzima lobomi. Yi kuxhomekeke kuwe kunye neqabane lakho khusela isiseko.