Umxholo
- Uqeqesho nothando olunzima
- Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze uqeqeshe umntwana wakho
- Isimo sokusebenza kuqeqesho lwabantwana
- Umqeqesha njani umntwana wakho ngaphandle kokufumana iziphoso kubo
Lilungelo nelungelo lomzali ukohlwaya umntwana wakhe. Inyaniso akukho mntu, nkqu nabazali bakho abanalo ilungelo lokukuxelela indlela yokukhulisa abantwana bakho.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyiqonde yinjongo. Uqeqesho alwenzelwanga wena, lelomntwana.Ukulawula umntwana ngokuziqeqesha kunomvuzo kumzali, kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba abantwana bakho banedrive yokuzicoca xa ungajonganga.
Ke, ungamqeqesha njani umntwana wakho?
Uqeqesho nothando olunzima
Umntwana wakho uya kukhula ngenye imini, kwaye awusayi kuba nakho ukulawula inkqubo yabo yokwenza izigqibo. Unethuba elinye lokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho wenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha.
Okwangoku xa bewela phantsi kwempembelelo yoontanga, izifundo zakho zokuziphatha ziye zingabalulekanga. Ngaphandle kokuba ungene nzulu kubuntu babo nakwi-subconscious, umntwana wakho usengozini yeendlela ezinobungozi.
Ingcinezelo yoontanga inamandla kwaye inokujongela phantsi ishumi leminyaka yoqeqesho lwabazali.
Uninzi lwabazali aluphiki ukuba abantwana babo abasayi kuze bawele kwingcinezelo yoontanga. Benza ukumangaliswa xa abantwana babo bephela bebulewe kukusebenzisa iziyobisi, ukuzibulala, okanye ukudutyulwa ngamapolisa. Banga ukuba umntwana wabo akasoze azenze ezo zinto, kodwa ekugqibeleni, zonke iingqikelelo zabo, idrama kunye nokukhohlisa ngekhe kuyitshintshe into yokuba umntwana wabo ufile.
Ukuba awufuni ukuhlangabezana nale nto, qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho akaqali kwaqala loo ndlela.
Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze uqeqeshe umntwana wakho
Le mizekelo inikwe apha ngasentla yimeko ezibi kakhulu, kwaye ngethemba, ayizukwenzeka kuwe.
Kodwa ezo ayisiyiyo kuphela impembelelo embi emntwaneni okanye kubantu abadala ukuba abanalo uqeqesho. Banokwenza kakubi esikolweni kwaye bagqibezele ukusebenza imisebenzi yokufa ubomi babo bonke.
Ushishino lukwayindlela eya empumelelweni, kodwa iphindwe kabini kunzima kwaye ifuna uqeqesho olungaphezulu kwamaxesha ali-10 kunokusebenza umsebenzi we-9-5.
Kukho izinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele xa uyala umntwana wakho. Kufanele ukuba kube kukulingana phakathi kokudlalisa umntwana wakho kunye nokumfundisa uqeqesho.
Ukwenza kakhulu kulo naliphi na icala kuya kuba neziphumo ezingathandekiyo. Ukunikezela kwiimfuno zabo kakhulu kwaye uya kuphakamisa isikhoji esonakeleyo esikuthiyileyo kwaye ubaqeqeshe kakhulu kuya kuphakamisa inyoka nayo ikuthiyileyo.
Akukho "minyaka egqibeleleyo" ukuqala ukufundisa abantwana uqeqesho, kuxhomekeke kuphuhliso lwabo lokuqonda.
Ngokwethiyori yophuhliso lwabantwana yasePiaget, umntwana ufunda indlela yokuqiqa, inkqubo yokuqiqa, nokwahlula phakathi kwenyani kunye nokuzikholelwa kwinqanaba lesithathu lekhonkrithi. Abantwana bayakwazi ukungena kweli nqanaba sele beneminyaka emine ubudala okanye beneminyaka esixhenxe.
Nolu uluhlu lweemfuno ngaphambi kokuqeqesha umntwana.
- Uyakwazi ukunxibelelana ngokucacileyo
- Ukuqonda imiyalelo
- Ukwahlula okwenyani kunye nokudlala
- Akukho kufunda okungaqhelekanga
- Uyabazi abasemagunyeni (Umzali, Izihlobo, Utitshala)
Inqaku lesenzo soluleko kukufundisa umntwana umahluko phakathi kokulungileyo nokungalunganga kunye neziphumo zokwenza into engalunganga. Ke ngoko, kunyanzelekile ukuba umntwana aqale abe namandla okuqonda loo nto ngaphambi kokuba afumane uqeqesho olusebenzayo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukusicinezela isifundo sokuba kutheni umntwana efuna uqeqesho kwasekuqaleni, ukuze basikhumbule, bangaphindi iimpazamo zabo. Ukuba umntwana mncinci kakhulu ukuba angasiqonda isifundo, baya kuphuhlisa uloyiko lokuqonda ngaphandle kokuthatha isifundo entliziyweni. Ukuba umntwana mdala kakhulu, kwaye sele ephuhlisile isimilo sabo, baya kuthiya nje igunya.
Zombini ezi zinto ziya kubonakala ngazo zonke iindlela ezingalunganga ngexesha labo lokufikisa.
Into onokuyenza ukuyala umntwana wakho ngexesha lokukhula kokuziphatha kuya kuyalela isiseko sokuziphatha kunye nengqondo yabo ebomini babo bonke.
Isimo sokusebenza kuqeqesho lwabantwana
Ngokuya ngoochwephesha bezengqondo abaziwayo u-Ivan Pavlov kunye no-BF Skinner, isimilo sinokufundwa ngemeko yakudala kunye nokusebenza. Banikezela ngemephu yendlela yokuqeqesha umntwana wakho.
- Imeko yakudala ibhekisa kwimpendulo efundwayo kwizikhuthazi ezahlukeneyo. Umzekelo abanye abantu bayatefa ngamathe xa bebona ipitsa eshushu okanye baziva bexhalabile xa bebona umpu.
- Isimo sokusebenza ngumxholo wokuqiniswa okuhle nokubi okanye ukuyibeka ngokulula, imbuyekezo kunye nezohlwayo.
Inqaku elipheleleyo lesizathu sokuba kufuneka uqeqeshe umntwana wakho kukuphuhlisa "indlela yokuziphatha efundwayo" kwiimpazamo nakwezinye izinto ezinokusohlwaywa. Sifuna ukuba baqonde ukuba ngokwenza izinto ezithile (okanye ukungazenzi) kuya kubiza isohlwayo okanye imbuyekezo.
Sukusebenzisa igunya lomzali lokungxolisa umntwana.
Banemitha yangaphakathi "yenkohlakalo" ethi emva kwenqaku elithile, ukuqiniswa okungalunganga kungasebenzi, kwaye baya kugcina kuphela inzondo nxamnye nawe. Qiniseka ukuba usebenzisa ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo ngaphambi kokuba uqeqeshe umntwana wakho.
Ukuziphatha okufundisiweyo ngokusebenzisa imeko yakudala kunye nokusebenza ngexesha elifanelekileyo lokukhula kwengqondo kwabo kuya kuba nzima kwingqondo yabo kumxholo wokulungileyo nokungalunganga.
Musa ukoyika ukufundisa umntwana wakho umbono wentlungu. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, udinga iintlungu kwindlela yokuphila esempilweni, ukuphumelela kwezemidlalo, kunye nobugcisa bokusebenza. Ke, yenza ubuchule kunye nezohlwayo zakho, ukuba bayoyika iintlungu zomzimba, kwaye bayinxibelelanise nomxholo wesohlwayo.
Abaxhaphazi besikolo baya kubafundisa isifundo ongafuni ukuba basifunde.
Zininzi iindlela zokohlwaya umntwana kwaye umfundise malunga neziphumo zezenzo zakhe (okanye ukungazenzi), kodwa ukubenza boyike iintlungu (ngese) ngaphandle kokuqonda umxholo wembuyekezo kunye nesohlwayo kuya kubafundisa kuphela umgaqo wolonwabo kaFreudian wokuphepha intlungu kunye nokufuna ulonwabo. Ukuba oko kukuthatha ekuqeqesheni umntwana wakho, baya kukhula njengabantu ababuthathaka (ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo) bengenasizathu sokwenza imiceli mngeni enzima.
Umqeqesha njani umntwana wakho ngaphandle kokufumana iziphoso kubo
Ngumbuzo ovela rhoqo.
Uninzi lwabazali bafuna ukufundisa abantwana babo umbono wokulungileyo nokungalunganga ngaphambi kokuba imeko ibonakale. Impendulo ilula. Awubaqeqeshanga.
Okwangoku, xa beyiqonda imeko yokohlwaya, thetha nabo malunga nezikhokelo zakho zokuziphatha eziya kubanceda benze ukhetho olufanelekileyo. Emva koko yohlwaya umntwana wakho emva kwenyani, ngenani elifanelekileyo lezifundo kunye nezilumkiso.