Umxholo
- 1. Ukulahleka kwesazisi okanye ukudideka
- 2. Iimvakalelo ezindala, eziqhelekileyo
- 3. Umothuko kwixa elidlulileyo
- 1. Impixano namanye amalungu osapho
- 2. Iinguqu ezimbini ezinkulu ngexesha elifutshane
Izibini ezininzi zixubusha ngokuqala ngonyango lwezithandani ukuba baneempikiswano ezifanayo kaninzi, bahamba notshintsho olukhulu njengokutshata okanye ukuba nomntwana, ukuba neentlobano zesini kunye nemicimbi yokusondelelana, okanye baziva benganxibelelananga ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Kodwa kunini apho kunokuba nemveliso ngakumbi ukuqala unyango lomntu endaweni ye-okanye ukongeza-kunyango lwesibini?
Kukho imimandla emithathu eqinisekisa unyango lomntu ngamnye endaweni yesibini:
1. Ukulahleka kwesazisi okanye ukudideka
Uziva udidekile malunga nokuba kungakanani ukuziva uziva ulungile kuwe, okanye ukhathazekile malunga nokulahlekelwa ziinxalenye zakho ozithandayo. Sonke siyatshintsha ngenxa yolwalamano esikulo ... Okanye ngaba ngamanye amaxesha ukhathazeka ngokuba unokuthi uzenzele ngokwakho ukuba ube ngumfanekiso wabanye abantu? Uninzi lwethu luyasokola nabantu abathandekayo okanye isidingo esomeleleyo sokuziva sithandwa (ngakumbi ngamaqabane ethu).
Unyango lomntu ngamnye lunokukunceda uhlolisise indlela oziva ngayo malunga notshintsho olwenzekayo okanye oluthathelwa ingqalelo, kunye nendlela yokubeka imida nabanye kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ilizwi lakho alilahlekanga. Ukuba nesithuba sokuzibonakalisa ngokuphandle nangokungenazintloni (nokuba yi-2% yakho enqwenela ukuba iqabane lakho lingavele liyityhale) ngaphandle kokufuna ukuqaphela ukuba iqabane lakho liza kuziva njani okanye lisabele njani (njengoko unokwenza kwisibini) yinxalenye ebalulekileyo ukuxhuma kwakhona kuwe.
2. Iimvakalelo ezindala, eziqhelekileyo
Uyabona ukuba ezinye zezinto eziza neqabane lakho azikho ntsha ncam. Sihlala sihlangabezana nokungqubana neqabane lethu ngendlela efanayo naleyo siye safumana ngayo ukungqubana nosapho lwethu sikhula. Mhlawumbi sababona abazali bethu bengxolisana, kwaye nangona sasizithembisile ukuba ngekhe ibe sithi, ngoku siyazifumana, kulungile ... Okanye mhlawumbi sasingaziva siviwe ngabazali bethu xa sasicaphukile njengomntwana, kwaye ngoku siziva ngendlela efanayo neqabane lethu: ukungaqondwa kakuhle kwaye sisedwa. Ingaziva yoyika kwaye izise ukunganqabiseki malunga nolwalamano lwakho ukuqaphela ezi zidala, iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo ziyavela kwakhona.
Unyango lomntu ngamnye lunokukunceda ekuchongeni nasekuqhubeni iindlela iqabane lakho elifana ngalo nosapho lwakho lwemvelaphi, kunye neendlela ezahlukileyo ngazo. Inokukunceda ukuba ufunde ukwenza izinto eziguqukayo kubudlelwane bakho — nokuba iqabane lakho lingafana okanye lahluke njani kunyoko notata wakho. Ukuphuhlisa ukuqonda okunzulu malunga nezinto zakho ezibangela okanye amabala aluhlaza (sonke sinazo!) Kunye nokufunda ngeendlela zokuzinyanga ngemfesane xa la maqhosha etyhilwa yinkqubo ebalulekileyo kunyango lomntu ngamnye (oluya kuvuna izibonelelo kubo bonke ubudlelwane bakho-kwezothando , usapho, iplatonic, kunye nokudibana).
3. Umothuko kwixa elidlulileyo
Ezinye iindlela zomothuko zicace gca kunezinye: mhlawumbi usindile kuhlaselo ngokwesondo okanye wabona ubundlobongela ekhayeni lakho ukhula. Ezinye iindlela zoxinzelelo zingaqondakali (nangona zinokuba neziphumo ezinamandla nje): mhlawumbi ubukhe "wabethwa" okanye wakhwazwa rhoqo njengomntwana, unomzali owayesela utywala, wehlelwa yilahleko ngequbuliso okanye engaqondakaliyo (ubukhulu becala engaziwa) banikwe ingqalelo encinci kuba amanye amalungu osapho asengxakini, okanye baneengcambu zenkcubeko ngezizukulwana zembali yomothuko. La mava ahlala ngaphakathi kwemizimba yethu, anokubuyiselwa kubudlelwane (nkqu nezona zisempilweni!), Kwaye bahlala bekhubeka kunyango lwesibini.
Nangona kunjalo, kufanelekile ukuba bahlonitshwe kwimeko apho ugqirha wakho anokuzilolonga ngokupheleleyo kumava akho (ngaphandle kokufuna ukuqwalasela okanye ukubandakanya iqabane lakho). Unyango lomntu ngamnye luyimfuneko ukuze wenze uhlobo lokhuseleko, ukusondelelana, kunye nokuthembela kunyango lwakho oluvela kukumamela okupheleleyo kuwe nakwisibindi sakho.
Kukho imimandla emibini eya kuthi izuze kakhulu kunyango lomntu ngamnye, okanye kwezinye indibaniselwano Umsebenzi womntu ngamnye nowesibini:
1. Impixano namanye amalungu osapho
Usandul 'ukuganana, okanye utshatile, okanye ukhulelwe ... kwaye ngequbuliso amandla kunye nabazali bakho, abantakwenu, abazali bakho, abazali bakowenu baye batshintsha ngendlela engalindelekanga. Ngamanye amaxesha kubakho ukusabela kwenyikima ngexesha lotshintsho olukhulu kunye nokungqubana okulandelayo. Ngelixa kubalulekile ukusebenza kumda wokumisela kunye nonxibelelwano neqabane lakho ngeli xesha (eyona njongo iphambili yomsebenzi wesibini), kukwabalulekile ukufumanisa ukuqonda kwakho kunye nentsingiselo malunga nokwenzekayo ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukusombulula ingxaki neqabane lakho.
Kunokulinga ukuba ungene ngaphakathi Masiyilungise imo xa umlilo uvutha. Unyango lomntu ngamnye lunokukunceda ukuba uzinze kumava akho, ukuqonda, kunye neemfuno ngaphambi kokuntywila esenzweni. Luluphi uloyiko oluza kuwe xa usiva isidingo sokuba nolawulo ngakumbi kwimeko ethile? Yintoni enokukunceda ekuthomaliseni olo loyiko? Ungalibandakanya njani iqabane lakho ekusebenzeni kunye njengeqela, ukuze nibe namava kunye kunokuba nive ngathi nilahliwe okanye nisukuzisene? Le yimibuzo emihle ukuba uyihlolisise kwimeko yenkxaso yonyango lwakho, ngaphambi kokuba uqine ubunzima bokuxazulula ingxaki kwimisebenzi yesibini.
2. Iinguqu ezimbini ezinkulu ngexesha elifutshane
Ngokubanzi e-US, ixesha eliqhelekileyo isibini silinda phakathi komtshato kunye nokuba nomntwana malunga neminyaka emithathu. Nokuba ufumanisa ukuba unomntwana ngaphambi kokutshata okanye ukutshata, ukwenza zombini ngexesha elifanayo, ulinde iminyaka emi-3 ngaphambi kokuba ube nomntwana, okanye ulinde iminyaka emi-5-olu tshintsho ludala utshintsho oluninzi ngexesha elincinci. Izifundo zifumanise ukuba ukutshata kukalwe phakathi kwezona 10 zixhalabisayo zezehlo zobomi. Uphando lukwabonisa ukuba ukuba ngumzali omtsha kuthathwa njengelinye lamaxesha oxinzelelo emtshatweni.
Ukuqala unyango lomntu ngamnye kuyindlela entle yokuzinika inkxaso kunye nokuphuhlisa ulwazi malunga nokuba olu tshintsho luza (okanye luza kuba njani) ukubuyela ngaphakathi kuwe nakubudlelwane bakho. Ithetha ntoni kuwe into yokuba ube ngumfazi okanye indoda? Umama okanye utata? Zeziphi iinxalenye zakho eziza kukuxhasa kakhulu ngelixa ukhululeka ngendima yakho entsha? Zeziphi iinxalenye zakho ozoyikayo eziya kufumana ukuba ube luhlobo lomlingane okanye umzali ofuna ukuba lilo? Ngelixa unyango lwesibini luncedo ngokubhekisele kubuchule bokujikeleza iindlela zokucwangcisa iyunithi yosapho lwakho ngendlela ebonakalayo evayo kamnandi kuni nobabini, unyango lomntu ngamnye luncedo malunga nokufunda malunga neemfuno zakho eziguqukayo kwaye ufuna njengoko ukhula ngexesha lotshintsho olukhulu.
Abanye abanyangi abanyanga basebenza kuphela nezibini xa bobabini abantu bezibophelele kunyango lwabo. Bayazi ukuba unyango lwesibini alusebenzi (okanye luthatha ixesha elide ukusebenza) kuba omnye okanye bobabini abantu kufuneka bagxile ekuziqondeni ngokwabo nakwiimbali zabo zosapho ngendlela enzulu ngakumbi. Ukuba uzama unyango lwesibini kwaye isiqhwithi sinamandla kakhulu ukuba ungabona, unokufuna ukuzama unyango ngalunye kuqala (okanye ngaxeshanye). Ukuba ukhetha ukuqala unyango kunye nolunye unyango ngaxeshanye, ukuvuyisana nokwenza utyalo-mali olukhulu kuwe nakwizakhono zakho zobudlelwane. Ukuba uzama ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba umsebenzi womntu ngamnye okanye owesibini uza kuba linyathelo lakho lokuqala, khumbula ukuba kufuneka uchonge kwaye uhlele ezakho iimvakalelo kunye neenkolelo ukuze unxibelelane ngakumbi nomnye umntu kwaye uzuze ngokupheleleyo kunyango lwesibini.