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- Ungayigqitha njani intombazana oyithandayo?
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- Iindlela ezili-15 zokugqitha kwintombazana
- 1. Yamkele inyaniso
- 2. Ungazami ukunxibelelana naye
- 3. Kunqande amaphepha akhe onxibelelwano
- 4. Cima bonke abafowunelwa
- 5. Yeka ityala
- 6. Jongana nomona wakho
- 7. Yeka ukuzama ukwazi ukuba uphezu kwantoni
- 8. Yonwaba nabahlobo bakho
- 9. Xakeka
- Zibekele iinjongo ezintsha
- 11. Cima iingoma zothando
- 12. Ungasusa izipho zakhe
- 13. Phuma kumhla omtsha
- 14. Fuduka
- 15. Lungisa izinto uze ube ngumhlobo
- Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukugqitha kwintombazana?
- Qhubeka nobabalo
Ukwahlukana kubudlelwane bakho kunokuba ngumceli mngeni, akukhathaleki ukuba ungubani kwaye ulwalamano olunjani onalo. Ukuba wahlukana nje nentombazana kwaye awunako ukuyikhupha entlokweni yakho, unokuzibuza, "ungayiyeka njani intombazana oyithandayo?"
Kuyinyani ukuba awunakulibala ngokulula malunga nentombazana oyithandayo ukuba umthande ngokwenyani. Ukugqitha kwintombi oyithandayo usadinga umsebenzi omninzi weemvakalelo kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo.
Ukuba uzama ukugqitha kwintombi oyithandayo, kusenokufuneka wenze umzamo wokuqonda kwaye uhambe ngamanqanaba amaninzi.
Ukufumana umntu okwenzekileyo akwenzeki ngobusuku obunye, kwaye kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba iinkumbulo zamaxesha eniwachitha kunye nobabini, izinto enanabelana ngazo ngokufanayo, imihla nobusuku ngaphandle, kunye nothando olungenakucinywa ngokulula.
Ungayigqitha njani intombazana oyithandayo?
Inkqubo yokulibala intombazana owayekhe wayithanda okanye usayithanda inokunxulunyaniswa nenkqubo yokuphilisa inxeba. Ayikhawulezi kwaye ifuna umonde.
Ukuba usayithanda intombi yakho yangaphambili, ngekhe uyeke ukucinga malunga nentombazana oyithandayo.
Kodwa ukuba uzimisele ukudlulela phambili, emva koko inkqubo ithe ngqo. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, nazi ezinye zeendlela onokuzama ngazo ngaphezulu kwentombazana owayekhe wayithanda.
Ngaba uhlala uzibuza ukuba ungayenza njani intombazana? Yiba nomonde!
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuqhubekeka, kufuneka ube nomonde kwinkqubo kuba inokwenzakala okwethutyana. Ukuba nomonde lelinye lawona manyathelo abaluleke kakhulu kwisikhokelo 'Sokugqitha njani kwintombazana owawukhe wayithanda, okanye usenza njalo'.
Ukuthatha isigqibo sokuphilisa kunye nokwamkela ukuba enye into ebalulekileyo ayiseyonxalenye yobomi bakho ayithethi ukonwaba kwangoko, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kuhambo lwakho lokuqhubela phambili. Kuya kubakho iintsuku ezintle nezimbi kodwa khumbula ukuba kulungile!
Ungalindeli kakhulu kuwe, yamkele izinto ngendlela eziyiyo, kwaye ubeke umgudu wokuyeka ukucinga ngaye.
Iindlela ezili-15 zokugqitha kwintombazana
Ukufumana ngaphezulu komntu omthandayo kukwenza uxanduva. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuqhubekeka, oku kulandelayo kunokukunceda uqonde indlela yokugqitha kwintombazana.
Ukuba ubuzibuza ukuba "Ungayiwela njani intombazana oyithandayo?", la manyathelo ali-15 aya kukunceda ufumane indlela.
1. Yamkele inyaniso
Ukuba uqhawule umtshato kwaye kubonakala ngathi iqabane lakho alifuni ukukunika ithuba lesibini, kuya kuba ngcono ukuba uyayamkela inyani yokuba nobabini aninakuba kunye kwakhona, endaweni yokwenza inzame yokuqinisekisa ukuba izinto ziyasebenza kwakhona phakathi kwakho nobabini.
Kuya kufuneka uzisindise kwisiphithiphithi seemvakalelo sokumbuyisa. Eli nqaku libalulekile kwindlela yokufumana ngaphezulu kwentombazana.
2. Ungazami ukunxibelelana naye
Ukuba ufuna ukugqitha kwintombazana oyithandayo, sukuyitsalela umnxeba okanye uzame ukuba kulo naluphi na uhlobo lokudibana naye, ubuncinci okwethutyana. Nokuba usazimisele ukuba ngumhlobo wentombi yakho, ubuncinci okomzuzwana, yeka ukumbiza.
Ngaphandle koko, unokuphinda uvuse uqhagamshelo lweemvakalelo kwakhona, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo awufuni kuphazamiseka.
Ukuqhubela phambili kunokuthetha ukukhupha ilizwi lakhe entlokweni yakho. Kuya kukunceda xa uyeka ukuzikhathaza ngokuba luhambe njani usuku lwakhe, uqhuba njani esikolweni okanye emsebenzini.
Ungayifumana njani intombazana oyithandayo, okanye oyenzayo ayisiyonto ilula, kodwa amanyathelo amancinci anokunceda.
3. Kunqande amaphepha akhe onxibelelwano
Zama kangangoko ukuba ungaze ujonge ixesha lakhe lezithuba, imifanekiso okanye iividiyo, njl. naxa abantu bethetha amagama kuthi, benza imifanekiso yezengqondo ezingqondweni zethu.
Ke, ukuba usaqhubeka nokuhamba uskrolela kwigalari ye-ex-girlfriend yakho kwi-intanethi, unokuluvuselela uthando enaninalo, kodwa kuphela ekugqibeleni.
Kungangcono ukuba uyawaphepha amaphepha akhe kuFacebook, kuTwitter, ku-Instagram, njlnjl., Njengoko uzama ukumdlula. Ukuba ukwenza oku kunzima kuwe, unokumthintela kuluhlu lwabahlobo bakho kwimidiya yoluntu, ubuncinci okwethutyana.
4. Cima bonke abafowunelwa
Ungagqitha njani kwintombazana oyithandayo xa usenemifanekiso yakhe, imiyalezo ebhaliweyo kunye nezinye izinto ezidibanisa nobabini?
Ukusula unxibelelwano lwabo akuthethi ukuba ubathiyile okanye awusafuni ukuba ngumhlobo wabo.
Kodwa khumbula ukuba intliziyo yakho kufuneka iyeke ukukhathazeka. Ukujonga emva kwimifanekiso okanye imiyalezo evela kwixa elidlulileyo kunokwenza kube nzima kuwe ukuvumela umntu wakudala ukuba ahambe.
5. Yeka ityala
Nje ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuhamba usuka kwintombazana, lixesha eliphezulu lokuba uyeke ukuzibek 'ityala ngokuba noxanduva lokwahlukana kwakho, nokuba ubukho. Hlamba ityala kwaye ubeke isimo sengqondo esitsha senkululeko.
Ityala linokuthintela inkqubo yokufunda indlela yokufumana intombazana. Ngelixa ukuqonda indawo yakho yempazamo kwaye yintoni ekhokelele ekwahlukaneni kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwakho, ukubambelela kwityala akunakukusa ndawo.
Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba awuphindi wenze iimpazamo ezifanayo, kodwa zixolele. Kuya kukunceda ugqithe kwintombazana leyo kwaye uqhubeke nobudlelwane.
6. Jongana nomona wakho
Ukufumana ngaphezulu komfazi owakha wamthanda, kufuneka uphephe ukuba nomona xa ubabona bejikeleze abanye abantu.
Ukusukela ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuqhubekeka, nantoni na abayenzayo okanye nabani na abamvumela ukuba abekho macala akho ayisiyoshishini lakho kwaye lukhetho lwabo ngokupheleleyo.
7. Yeka ukuzama ukwazi ukuba uphezu kwantoni
"Nceda uyeke ukuzama ukubeka esweni into ethandwa yintombi yakho!" iya kuba lelinye lawona macandelo aqhelekileyo eengcebiso owafumana kuye nakubani na, ukuba ubabuza ukuba ungayifumana njani intombazana oyithandayo. Mnike indawo yokuphefumla, ngaphandle kokuba awusayi kusombulula ukuya phambili.
Kodwa ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuqhubekeka, ungabuzi ebantwini ukuba uqhuba njani, uphi, kwaye uphi na. Zama ukugcina umgama wakho okwethutyana.
Jonga le vidiyo ichaza ukuba kutheni kwaye kufuneka uyeke njani ukusebenzisa i-cyberstalking kwi-ex yakho:
8. Yonwaba nabahlobo bakho
Ukuba nabantu obathandayo, kwaye abo bakuthandayo banokugqibelela kuwe ngoku.
Phuma nabahlobo bakho; jonga indawo yokutyela entsha ejikeleze idolophu, jonga imovie kwimovie, hambani niyokudlala imidlalo kunye. Yonwaba kuba ukuba wedwa kunokubuyisa iinkumbulo.
9. Xakeka
Awucingi njani ngentombazana owahlukana nayo? Zama ukuzixakekisa.
Ukungasebenzi kunye nokudikwa kunokukwenza uzive ungalunganga kwaye utyhafile. Ke, unokuzama ukugxila emsebenzini okanye kwizifundo zakho. Ungabhalisa kwikhosi ekwi-Intanethi okanye ufunde isakhono esitsha.
Zibekele iinjongo ezintsha
Ukubeka iinjongo kunokuba yindlela entle yokufumana ngaphezulu kwentombazana owawunobudlelwane nayo.
Iinjongo zisinceda sigxile ngcono ebomini. Ngaphandle koko, sinokuphazamiseka zizinto ezingabalulekanga kuthi. Ke ngoko, misela iinjongo eziza kukolula ukuba uzabalazele ukuzalisekiswa.
Ungaqala injongo yenkululeko yemali kule minyaka imbalwa izayo okanye naluphi na uhlobo lweenjongo ongathanda ukulufikelela.
11. Cima iingoma zothando
Iingoma zinendlela yokubuyisa iinkumbulo zabantu. Wena nentombi yakho ninokuba neengoma ezimbalwa ozithandayo omamela kunye.
Kwimeko apho, beka ezo ngoma okanye naziphi na ezinye iingoma zothando kude njengoko zinokubuyisa iinkumbulo zothando kunye namaxesha amnandi owabelanayo.
12. Ungasusa izipho zakhe
Ukuba awukwazi ukumelana nokunxiba iwotshi yesihlahla okanye iqhina akuthengele lona kusuku lwakho lokuzalwa lokugqibela, usenokubalahla.
Into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukukhunjuzwa ngaye xa usebenza, okanye ukuphuma nabahlobo bakho, kuba ujonge into ayithengele wena.
13. Phuma kumhla omtsha
Awungekhe uhlale wedwa xa usazi ukuba intombi yakho yangaphambili ayisakufuni, kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokwamkela inyani.
Vumela ukuthanda nokuthandwa kwakhona. Nika omnye umntu umpu, ubabuze ngomhla kwaye ubone ukuba uyaphi.
14. Fuduka
Ukuba uphuma kwindawo owabelane ngayo nentombi yakho inokukunceda ujongane nokwahlukana. Ungatshintshela kwenye indawo apho iinkumbulo bezingazukungena zithi chu engqondweni yakho.
Yindlela enye yokuhamba usuka kwintombazana okanye ugqithe kwintombazana oyithandayo. Xa ufudukela kwenye indawo kude, kunokukunceda ulibale malunga nentombazana kuba uya kudibana nabantu abatsha kwaye wenze iinkumbulo ezintsha.
15. Lungisa izinto uze ube ngumhlobo
Nokuba le yenye yeendlela zokugqitha kwintombazana, eli nqaku linokuba ngumceli mngeni ukuba awukwazi ukubamba iimvakalelo zakho. Kodwa ukuba womelele ngokwaneleyo, ke qhubeka ulungise ukungavisisani kwakho kwaye ufumane indlela yokuvana njengabahlobo abalungileyo, ukuba yile nto bayifunayo nabo.
Ngale ndlela, unganalo ithuba lokumbonisa indlela onombulelo ngayo ngenkxaso yabo kwixa elidlulileyo.
Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukugqitha kwintombazana?
Ukugqitha kwintombazana akunakuba kwangoko ukuba uyayithanda. Yinkqubo efuna umonde. Kungangabi lula ukuphawula ixesha elithile. Isizathu kukuba abantu bayahluka kwindlela abajonga ngayo ebomini nakwiimeko.
Ngelixa umntu enokufumana ngokukhawuleza iqabane lakhe ngexesha elifutshane, omnye umntu unokufuna ixesha elide ukufikelela kwiziphumo ezifanayo.
Qhubeka nobabalo
Ngelixa kuyinyani ukuba ukufumana intombazana akukho lula, kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba ukwahlukana akuphumeleli kuwe, nokuba uziva ubuhlungu kangakanani ngoku.
Eyona ndlela yokugqitha kwintombazana kukuba ube nomonde, vumela inxeba liphole kwaye uziqhelanise namanye okanye onke amanqaku ali-15 akhankanywe apha ngasentla ngendlela yokufumana ngaphezulu kwentombazana. Oku kuyakukunceda ukukhawulezisa ukuqhubela phambili kwenkqubo kwaye ubone isiphumo osinqwenelayo.