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Kwimihla ngemihla yenyani yokwenyani yelizwe lokwenyani, izinto ezininzi zinokuthatha uxinzelelo kubudlelwane bakho, nje ukuba izinto ezintsha ziphelile, ezinje ngeebhili, umsebenzi, isikolo, usapho, ukholo, ubudlelwane, abantwana, kunye namashishini.
Unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo enabelana ngalo nobabini, olwenze ukuba uncume phakathi emini, luphazanyiswa kancinci rhoqo, kwaye akukho xesha lokubaleka. Ukudana kungasetwa ngokukhawuleza.
Ukubukeka ngothando kunye namazwi amnandi aphelile. "Khula; akukho mntu ulungileyo kwaye onwabisayo ngalo lonke ixesha. ” Akulunganga!
Phambi kokuba sijongane nendlela yokusondela emfaneni kunye nendlela yokunxibelelana nendoda kwinqanaba leemvakalelo, nazi ezinye iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zokungakwazi ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo nomyeni wakho:
- Isizungu kunye noxinzelelo
- Ukuzithemba
- Ukhulela kude
- Ukungathembeki
Jonga kwakhona:
Kwisifundo esenziwe nguMarriage.com, abafazi abathathu ababetshatile ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-20 umntu ngamnye, babelane ngeemfihlo zabo malunga nendlela yokunxibelelana nendoda ngokweemvakalelo.
Inqaku labelana ngamanye amaxesha okwenyani asuka kolo phando ukukunceda ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo nomyeni wakho.
Amanye amatyala exesha langempela
UJanelle (beautician) utshatile noRonnie (oomatshini oomatshini) iminyaka engama-23.
“Indoda yam iyathanda ukungaguquguquki, kwaye ukunyaniseka; Ndiyenza nam. Emva kokusebenza imini yonke, ukujongana neemfuno ezivela kubathengi abahle kwaye kungathandeki kangako, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha owayesakuba ngumfazi owayenomsindo, uRonnie unokuthembela kum ukuba andiyiyo ibhombu okanye ndonwabile emphefumlweni ekupheleni kosuku olude.
Nangona sineengxaki amaxesha ngamaxesha, ndiyaqinisekisa ukuba ndiyazikhumbuza ukuba ndingumntu endifuna ukubakhona yonke imihla.
Akafuni ukubethwa ngokufuna ingqalelo, umfazi odakumbileyo okanye okhalazayo xa engaziva eyithanda. ”
“Ewe, sithetha ngayo yonke into, kodwa sine-subliminal loo nto engaziwayo esincedayo ukuba sizilungele iintetho ezinzima.
Siceba ezo ntetho. Sigada uzinzo kulwalamano lwethu ngokweemvakalelo. Ndimnika isimilo esiqinisekisa ukuba angakhangela phambili ekwabelaneni ngemihla yakhe nam.
Unokulindela ukubhiyoza kunye nam kwaye wonwabe. Ewe, andingaqikelelwa ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa ubushushu bobudlelwane bethu buhambelana. Inceda kakhulu.
Kwenza kube lula ukudibanisa ngokweemvakalelo. Njengokuba ixesha lihamba, kuya kusiba lula. ”
UShelia (igqwetha) utshatile noStanly (unjingalwazi eyunivesithi) kangangeminyaka engama-25.
"Ukuhlala ndidibene ngokweemvakalelo noStanly, ndimenza azive kamnandi ngaye. Naxa esilele, ndiyamkhuthaza.
Akadinwa kukuncoma ngokunyanisekileyo. Ngubani ongafuniyo? Uthanda ngokukhethekileyo xa ndithatha iimvakalelo zakhe nazo, kunjalo.
Andizange ndimgxeke ebusweni. Ndiyasebenza ukukhathazeka kunye nabahlobo bam bamfihlo, Hayi, yile nto abayifunayo, kunene? Ndivakalelwa kukuba olona manyano lulungileyo isibini esinokuba nalo kuxa sivumelana. ”
U-Yvonne (umsebenzi okhathalela abantwana) utshatile noPaul (umthengisi) kangangeminyaka engama-21.
Ndifumana umntu wam enomdla, ehlala enawo, ukusukela kwixesha lokuqala endadibana naye. Xa ethetha, andimphazamisi. Uthe wayithanda lonto kum kwasekuqaleni.
Uthi xa umfazi ephazamisa indoda, uziva ukuba akanamdla kwinto ayithethayo.
Ewe, ndifunde okuninzi kuPawulos. Ndiyayicaphukela imidlalo, ngakumbi ibhola ekhatywayo kunye nebhasikithi. Kodwa kuba ndiyazi ukuba uyayithanda imidlalo, ndiye kumdlalo naye rhoqo emva kwexesha. Njengoko ndibukele, ucacisa umdlalo, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba wazi, ndiyazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni.
Ngesinye isikhathi, ndazifumana ndivuya ngenxa ye-touchdown, kodwa uPaul wakhawuleza wandikhumbuza ukuba yayingelona iqela lethu. Kodwa wathi uyavuya ndiyazi ukuba yintoni ukuchukumisa.
Imidlalo ayisiyonto yam. Ayinamsebenzi, uPaul uyakuthanda ukuthetha ngamanqaku kwaye uyawathanda xa ndisazi ukuba uthetha ngantoni.
Ndiva ukuba umntu onaye kufuneka abelane nomdla kwizinto onomdla kuzo. Iyakudibanisa ngokweemvakalelo kwaye idale iinkumbulo ezininzi ezilungileyo eziza kukunceda kula maxesha amnandi nangalunganga. ”
Umonde ngoyena ndoqo
Ukuqukumbela, bonke abaphenduli bavumile ukuba akukho lula ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo nomyeni wakho, kodwa kuya kuba lula ngokuziqhelanisa kunye nexesha. Kwaye, izibonelelo kufanelekile.
Yonke into iyabila ekwamkelweni nasekuqinisekisweni. Abafazi bahlala beqhagamshelene namadoda abo ngokuthandeka, bengaguquguquki kubushushu, kwaye bekhuthaza.
Bonke babonakala benememori emnandi yabalingane babo ukuba babuyele kuyo nangaliphi na ixesha xa behamba nento nje ngenjongo yokuvumelana kubudlelwane okanye ukonwabisa nje indoda yabo.
Akukho namnye kwabafazi owaziva umsebenzi abawufaka kulwalamano lwabo wawungenabulungisa ngenxa yoko bakufumanayo, uthando oluhlala luhleli.
Ukudibanisa ngokweemvakalelo nendoda
Ekuqaleni kweli nqaku, sabelane ngeziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zokungakwazi ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo nomyeni wakho. Ngoku sabelana ngezinto ezithile kufuneka uzigcine kwindlela yokwakha kwakhona unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo nendoda.
- Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo - Yazisa umyeni wakho, ngobunono, ukuba uziva njani. Mxelele ukuba awuziva usondele kuye njengokuba wawunjalo ngaphambili. Buza ukuba ngaba ikhona into onokuyenza ukukunceda ukuba nisondelelane kwakhona.
- Sukudlala umdlalo wokusola - Sukumxelela ukuba lityala lakhe ukuziva unqanyuliwe. Ukubeka lonke ityala kuye kuya kumenza azikhusele kwaye enze unxibelelwano olungenampilo. Endaweni yoko, bonisa umnqweno wakho wokunxibelelana naye njengoko wawunjalo ngaphambili.
- Ishedyuli yomhla wobusuku - Ukucwangcisa ubusuku ubusuku kanye ngeveki kwaye uyilandele ngokwenkolo kuya kudala uxhulumaniso olunzulu lweemvakalelo kubo bobabini abachaphazelekayo.
- Yabelana ngesondo rhoqo- Oku kunokuba nzima ukukwenza, ngakumbi ukuba uziva ungadibani ngokweemvakalelo, kodwa ukwabelana ngesondo kuya kuba luncedo kuni nobabini. Ukwabelana ngesondo okukhokelela kwi-orgasm yenye yeedosi ezinkulu ze-oxytocin, okanye "ichiza lothando" oya kuze ulifumane.