Umxholo
- 1. Incinci malunga nobungakanani kwaye ngakumbi malunga nomgangatho
- 2. Imilo esempilweni yimilo efanelekileyo
- 3. Izibini ezisempilweni zigcina iiakhawunti ezimfutshane
- 4. Ukulwa okunempilo kugqityiwe ukulwa
- 5. Imilo esempilweni ayinabundlobongela
Nokuba ungathandana kangakanani neqabane lakho, akunakwenzeka ukuba nobudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide ngaphandle kokungavisisani ubuncinci kube kanye ngexeshana.
Abanye abantu abatshatileyo babonakala bexabana okanye besilwa kakhulu, ngelixa abanye kubonakala ngathi abaphantse benze.
Ukuba ukhulele kwikhaya apho abazali bakho babesilwa kakhulu, kusenokungakonwabisi ukuba kubudlelwane obungenangxabano.
Kwelinye icala, abo bakhulele kumakhaya aneengxabano ezisezantsi banokufumana ubunzima ukuba bakubudlelwane apho ukungqubana kuxhaphake kakhulu.
Yongeza kuzo zonke iindlela ezahlukeneyo zongquzulwano kunye nolawulo lwempikiswano esichazayo sonke, kwaye kunokuba nzima ukwazi ukuba kungakanani ukulwa okunempilo kubudlelwane kwaye kufuneka ukhathazeke- okanye ushiye. Ngelixa kungekho nombolo yomlingo eli "lilungile" inani lokulwa kubudlelwane, kukho izinto ezithile ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe.
Nazi izinto ezi-5 ekufuneka ujonge kuzo ukuxelela ukuba inani lokulwa kubudlelwane bakho lisempilweni okanye akunjalo.
1. Incinci malunga nobungakanani kwaye ngakumbi malunga nomgangatho
Akukho nani lifanelekileyo lokulwa okanye lokuphindaphindeka kweengxoxo ezifanelekileyo ubudlelwane obufana "nobusempilweni."
Endaweni yoko ngumgangatho wokulwa kwakho okukunika umkhondo kwimpilo yobudlelwane bakho.
Izibini ezisempilweni ayizizo izibini ezingalwiyo-endaweni yoko, zizibini ezineemfazwe ezivelisayo, ezifanelekileyo kwaye ezigqityiweyo.
Oko kuthetha ukuba balwa umba omnye ngexesha, bafuna izisombululo, balwa ngokungenamkhethe, kwaye bawugqibe umlo ngesisombululo okanye isivumelwano sokuphinda sijongane.
2. Imilo esempilweni yimilo efanelekileyo
Ukulwa ukulunga kunokuba nzima xa sisiba buhlungu, sinomsindo, okanye ngolunye udidi. Kodwa ukuze umlo ubenegalelo kubudlelwane obuphilileyo ngokubanzi, kufanelekile.
Yintoni umlo olungileyo?
Umlo olungileyo ngowokuba nobabini nijolise kumcimbi osondele kuwo, endaweni yokuzisa yonke into enenze ukuba nibe nomsindo malunga nolwalamano.
Umlo olungileyo ukwaphepha ukubiza amagama, ukuhlaselwa buqu, ukwenza uloyiko lweqabane lakho okanye ukwenzakala okudlulileyo, okanye ngenye indlela "ukubetha ngaphantsi kwebhanti."
3. Izibini ezisempilweni zigcina iiakhawunti ezimfutshane
Inxalenye yokufunda ukulwa ukufunda okufanelekileyo ukugcina iiakhawunti ezimfutshane kunye. Oku kuthetha ukuba ungazisa into xa isenzeka (okanye kungekudala emva koko) ukuba iyakukhathaza, okanye uyayiyeka ihambe.
Awugcini uluhlu olusebenzayo lwayo yonke into eyenziwa liqabane lakho elikukhulisa kwaye emva koko uyiyeke yonke ikhulule kwimpikiswano kwiinyanga ezintandathu ezantsi emgceni.
Ukugcina iiakhawunti ezimfutshane kukwathetha ukungazisi imicimbi edlulileyo esele isonjululwe kwiingxoxo zexesha elizayo njengeembumbulu. Kunokuba nzima ukuyeka ingqumbo kunye nenqala edlulileyo, kodwa ukuze ulwe ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane bakho busempilweni, kubalulekile ukuba usebenze.
4. Ukulwa okunempilo kugqityiwe ukulwa
Indlela ephambili yokugcina ulwa kubudlelwane bakho busempilweni kukuqinisekisa ukuba ugqibe umlo xa usenzeka. Oku kuthetha ukuba uwusebenze umba kwisisombululo ukuze ukwazi ukuseka imvumelwano.
(Ukuba ulwa rhoqo malunga nomcimbi ofanayo ongenakusonjululwa, leyo iflegi ebomvu- nokuba awulwisani ngenene naloo ngxaki kwaye kufuneka wehle uye kumbindi, okanye unomahluko osisiseko ongenakho uxolelaniswe.)
Emva kwesivumelwano, ukulalanisa, okanye esinye isisombululo kufikelelwe kuso, eyona nto iphambili kukuphinda umise imvisiswano ngokuqinisekisa ubudlelwane, ukwenza iinzame eziyimfuneko zokulungisa, kunye nokuvuma ukuba lo mbandela awuzukuza kwimilo ezayo malunga nemicimbi engadibananga.
5. Imilo esempilweni ayinabundlobongela
Abantu bayahluka nokuba bayangxola okanye baphakamise amazwi abo kwimilo, kwaye akukho ndlela isempilweni inesinye apha.
Kodwa ukulwa okunempilo kunjaloUngaze ube nobundlobongela okanye uzaliswe sisongelo sobundlobongela.
Ukuziva usoyikiswa okanye ungakhuselekanga emzimbeni ekulweni kuthetha ukuba kukho into engalunganga.
Nokuba umntu obenobundlobongela uyaxolisa emva kwaye athembise ukuba angaze aphinde aziphathe ngale ndlela kwakhona, wakube umlo ujikile waba nobundlobongela utshintsha ubudlelwane.
Uyakuva iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo kumlo, kodwa akufuneki uzive usoyikiswa okanye ngokungathi ufuna ukugrogrisa okanye ukwenzakalisa iqabane lakho.
Ke ngelixa kunokuba nzima ukufumanisa ubalo lwabantu ngokubanzi ukuphendula umbuzo othi 'zingaphi izihlandlo zokulwa kwezibini ezitshatileyo', kulula kakhulu ukumisela ukuba yeyiphi na imilo esempilweni xa ithelekiswa nomlo onetyhefu.
Kwaye ukuba umlo wakho uqhelekile kodwa usempilweni kunesibini esilwa ngokufuthi- kodwa imilo yabo iyityhefu, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba uvume amandla kunye nokuthanda kwakho kubudlelwane bakho kunokuba uzilwele nokuba ulwa rhoqo?