Umxholo
- 1. Ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye
- 2. Rhoqo thetha neqabane lakho
- 3. Yonwaba kunye
- 4. Zama ukugcina ukuthembeka kunye nokunyaniseka
- 5. Cebani iinjongo zenu zexesha elizayo kunye
- 6. Beka kuqala iqabane lakho
Ubuhlobo emtshatweni buhlakulwa kwaye bukhuliswe kwiminyaka yobomi bomtshato. Ukuba uziva ukhululekile ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni, usenokwakha amandla okukhulisa ubuhlobo bakho buye kumanqanaba owafunayo.
Uxanduva lomtshato ludlala indima enkulu ekwandiseni umsantsa ophakathi kwezibini, kodwa amandla obuhlobo emtshatweni anokukunceda ukuwoyisa.
Eli nqaku lixoxa ngezinye zeendlela zokugcina ubuhlobo emtshatweni.
1. Ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye
Into yokuba ucofe ixesha kwishedyuli yakho exakekileyo ukuze uchithe ixesha kunye neqabane lakho lithetha ukuba uyazixabisa, kwaye zibalulekile kulonwabo lwakho. Thatha ixesha elithile yonke imihla xa unokunxibelelana kwakhona. Ukuba kusekupheleni kosuku oluxakekileyo, khangela ukuba iqabane lakho lilichithe njani usuku. Vumela iqabane lakho ukuba labelane ngemingeni yosuku kunye nempumelelo njenge unika indlebe yokumamela.
Nika igalelo lakho kuphela xa ubizelwe ukwenza njalo. Kwimeko apho uqaphela isigqibo ocinga ukuba asifanelekanga, yazisa iqabane lakho ngalo kodwa usenze ngobubele.
Njengoko uqala usuku lwakho, ngaphambi nje kokuba uvuke, wabelane ngezicwangciso zakho zosuku kwaye ugqibezele ngomthandazo okanye ngomsebenzi owabelwana ngawo, kwenza umahluko.
2. Rhoqo thetha neqabane lakho
Ukuthula emtshatweni kufukame ingqumbo kuba ucinga ngokwahlukileyo kwiqabane lakho. Kodwa unxibelelwano lunokusombulula le ngxaki. Nxibelelana ngayo yonke into-abahlobo bakho, izalamane, abantu osebenza nabo, iinjongo, abantwana, phakathi kwezinye izinto.
Kukunxibelelana apho uza kuthi uthethe ngazwi-nye ukuze ufumane ukoneliseka emtshatweni. Ngaphandle koko, uyabulela kwaye uqhagamshele- into elungileyo ekusombululeni ungquzulwano.
3. Yonwaba kunye
Yenza ukuhlekisana xa ukhumbula ezinye zeenkumbulo ezimnandi zokuqinisa ubudlelwane. Yenzani imisebenzi eniyithandayo nobabini. Khuphisana nigezane. Yiba nehlazo ngaphandle kobubi okanye isikhubekiso. Le yeyona ndlela intle yokuqinisa ubudlelwane emtshatweni wakho.
Yenza yonke into oyenzayo kunye ukuba ingalibaleki. Ukuba kukuhambahamba, kwenze kube mnandi ukuhamba ecaleni, ubambane izandla, kwaye uhlebeze amagama amnandi ezindlebeni zeqabane lakho. Ukuba ngumdlalo webhodi, rekhoda ezinye zeendlela ezingenangqondo kwaye kamva uhlekise ngayo- kwenza umahluko.
Zama ukwenza imisebenzi emitsha njengesibini; mayibe ngamava okufunda okugcina nindawonye. Kwimeko apho unayo nayiphi na ingxaki, yisebenzise njengesixhobo ukuyizama kwakhona ngokudibeneyo de uyenze ngempumelelo. Ukuphononongwa okwenziwa zizibini kunye kukhulisa ubuhlobo babo.
4. Zama ukugcina ukuthembeka kunye nokunyaniseka
Kutheni le nto uthando phakathi kwezibini luphela emva kweminyaka embalwa? Ukungakhathali kungakhokelela kuphuhliso lokungathembani emtshatweni. Njengobuhlobo, zama kwaye ukhuthaze ukungafihli kunye noxolelo kubudlelwane bakho. Oku, kunokunceda ukwakha ukuthembana phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho. Ithemba likunika inkululeko yokwabelana ngayo yonke imingeni yakho kunye nempumelelo neqabane lakho ngokukhululekileyo.
Ukuthembana sisiseko sayo yonke into esiyenzayo. Kwividiyo engezantsi, uprofesa weSikolo soShishino saseHarvard uFrances Frei ucacisa indlela yokwakha, ukuyigcina kunye nokwakha kwakhona.
5. Cebani iinjongo zenu zexesha elizayo kunye
Endaweni yezibhengezo "Mna" ufake u "thina," uphawu olucacileyo lokubandakanya.
"Ndinqwenela ukuba sakhe indlu yethu kwesi sixeko."
Ukuzithemba kokubandakanyeka kwizicwangciso zeqabane lakho kukhokelela ekuthembekeni kwaye kuqhubela phambili kuphucula ubudlelwane bemvakalelo phakathi kwabatshatileyo.
6. Beka kuqala iqabane lakho
Uziva uxabisekile xa iqabane lakho likwenza umkhwa ukuthetha nawe ngaphambi kokwenza nasiphi na isigqibo esibalulekileyo. Kuthetha ukuba uluvo lwakho lubalulekile ebomini babo. Ngaphandle koko, ikunika imeko yoxanduva kwimeko yokusilela kwesicwangciso.
Ukoneliseka emtshatweni ngumsebenzi wabahlobo ababini abanothando olungenamiqathango kwaye bazimisele ukuncama umtshato wabo. Ngokubakhona omnye komnye, ukunxibelelana rhoqo, ukonwabela ubudlelwane, ukunyaniseka, ukwenza omnye komnye ube yinxalenye yekamva lakhe, kwaye ubenze babe phambili, ubudlelwane obomeleleyo bobuhlobo bunokwenziwa kunye neqabane. Inokuhlahl 'indlela yolwaneliseko lomtshato lwexesha elide.