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- Umhlobo osenyongweni wayeyindoda ebalaseleyo emtshatweni:
- Umhlobo osenyongweni kunye namaqabane eshishini:
- Umhlobo osenyongweni kunye nenkqubo yamanyathelo ali-12:
- Andindedwa abahlobo abangcono:
- Umhlobo osenyongweni kunye nokukhubazeka:
Ngaba yinto entle ukuhlala ujongene namakhwenkwe xa utshata? Amadoda amaninzi aziva ngathi aphulukana nenkululeko yawo xa engakwazi ukuhlala nabafana. Ngaba ngumba wokuphulukana nenkululeko okanye ukutshintsha indlela yokuphila ukulungiselela iqabane ubomi bakho bonke? Ubuhlobo bendoda bungena njani emtshatweni ophumelelayo? Amadoda amaninzi afumanisa ukuba ubudlelwane kunye ne-bestie yabo buqala ukuphela ngenxa yokuzibophelela emtshatweni. Amanye amadoda afumana ubudlelwane bawo kunye ne-bestie yabo ephucuka njengoko bengena kwinqanaba elitsha lobomi babo kuba kufuneka bathethe nomntu ngezinto abanokuthi abafazi babo bangabinomdla kuzo, njengemidlalo. Bafuna amanye amadoda ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka ngokweemvakalelo.
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Umhlobo osenyongweni wayeyindoda ebalaseleyo emtshatweni:
UJonathon, oneminyaka engama-40, otshatele uCarrie iminyaka engama-20 usabambe umhlobo wakhe osenyongweni uMike. “Mna noMike siye saba ngabahlobo abasenyongweni ixesha elide andisakhumbuli xa sasidibana. Kodwa ke, mna noMike satshata noodade ababini. Ke uyasibona isidingo sokuba sibe ixesha lendoda ethile. Sithetha ngemitshato yethu kunye nokuhamba kwikhondo lokukhulisa oonyana bethu. Sobabini siyayithanda iHockey kunye ne-baseball. Andiqondi ukuba ngendisatshatile ukuba bendingenaye uMike endinokuthetha naye. Uye wathetha nam ukuba ndihlale amaxesha amaninzi xa ndicinga ukuba ndifuna ukuhamba. Ndiyavuya ukuhlala. UMike wayeyindoda ebalaseleyo emtshatweni.
Umhlobo osenyongweni kunye namaqabane eshishini:
UJames 35, watshata noKaren iminyaka eli-10. Umhlobo wam osenyongweni, uVictor, wayehlala naye ekholejini. Saqala ishishini lefenitshala eliyimpumelelo kunye. Ukuqala ishishini nomntu kufana nje nomtshato. Umfazi wam uhlekisa ngale nto. Sithetha ishishini imini yonke emva koko sagoduka. Sibonana kwiintlanganiso zeshishini nakwiinkomfa. Ngamanye amaxesha siye ezindlwini zabanye ukuba kukho into enkulu evelayo ekufuneka siyithethile. Nangona kunjalo, ubuhlobo bethu bakhelwe ekunyanisekeni nakwiinkumbulo zeentsuku zekholeji ezidlulileyo. Namhlanje, ubuhlobo bethu bungumsebenzi ongaphezulu kokuhlala nabafana. Kodwa musa ukwenza impazamo ngayo, kuya kufuneka uthembe iqabane lakho kwishishini kwaye kufuneka uthembeke ekwenzeni ukuba ishishini lisebenze. Ishishini yindlela esiziphilisa ngayo nendlela esiphila ngayo. Ubuhlobo bethu bubaluleke kakhulu kum ngoku kunanini na ngaphambili.
Umhlobo osenyongweni kunye nenkqubo yamanyathelo ali-12:
UCarl 27, watshata noBeth iminyaka emine. Ndadibana nomhlobo wam osenyongweni uJohn kwinkqubo ye-12 yamanxila, kwiminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo. Siyakhuthazana kule minyaka idlulileyo kwaye sihleli sisezindlwini. Ndomelele ngoku. Ndingayenza ngaphandle kwakhe kodwa andiqinisekanga ukuba angakwazi ngaphandle kwam. IBhete iyazingca ngam. UJohn uyinxalenye yosapho. Ufana nomzalwana. Unentombazana azimisele ngayo. Akaseli tywala. Ndonwabile ngaye. Uthi ukuba umntwana wakhe wokuqala uyinkwenkwe uzakumthiya ngegama lam. Uyawuhlonipha umtshato wam kwaye uyawuxhasa. Ndiqinisekile, siya kwazana ixesha elide.
Andindedwa abahlobo abangcono:
U-Eric 39 utshatile noJanice iminyaka eli-18. Ndinomtshato omkhulu. Intombazana yam ngumhlobo wam osenyongweni, bekusoloko kunjalo. Senza yonke into kunye. Andiyithembi indoda ecaleni kwenenekazi lam. Andidingi kubusuku bobusuku bomntu. Ndinabantakwethu ababini endikunye nabo ngamanye amaxesha. Andizange ndibe nabahlobo abaninzi esikolweni ngoko andizange ndixhomeke ngohlobo lomfana. Abafana ndiyabazi, bazama ukulala onke amabhinqa abakuwo kwaye batshatile. Qho xa undibona, awudingi kubona buddie. Xa undibona ndindedwa okanye ndinomfazi wam. Ndilungile naleyo.
Umhlobo osenyongweni kunye nokukhubazeka:
U-Abe 53 utshatile kwisithandwa sakhe samabanga aphakamileyo, uPatricia iminyaka engama-30. U-Abe ligqala elikhubazekileyo kunye nomhlobo wakhe uSam. “Mna noSam singabahlobo abasenyongweni. Sasisebenza emkhosini kunye. Sobabini sasikhubazekile ngexesha lenkonzo ngaxeshanye. Sisuka kwindawo enye. USam utshatile nenenekazi elihle. Siyazibophelela kukhubazeko lwethu kwaye sisebenza kakhulu kwimisebenzi yamagqala akhubazekileyo. Abafazi bethu abayiqondi into esidlule kuyo kwaye ubomi bethu butshintshile ngenxa yoko. Sigcina izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuze kungabikho ngxaki. Sibukela imidlalo, sithetha esiseleni, kwaye siye emngxunyeni wokunkcenkceshela, kabini okanye kathathu ngenyanga. Ayizukutshintsha. Ukuthetha inyani, ndicinga ukuba umfazi wam ukhululekile. Akuyomfuneko ukuba ndixhomekeke kuye ngayo yonke into njengomntwana. Uye afumane ikhefu. ”
Ukuqukumbela, izihlobo zikhonza iindima ezininzi ebomini bomntu kwaye zihlala zinika imitshato into yokuphefumla kuba abatshati akufuneki ukuba bazifumane zonke iimfuno zabo zengqondo okanye zomntu ezivela komnye umntu. Oko kunokuba nzima kwiqabane. Kwelinye icala, eminye imitshato ngokwenziwa kweqabane ngalinye ixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwelinye.