Umxholo
- Narcissist kunye nomtshato
- Imfesane yeZero kunye nemvakaleloy
- Umlingane wakho uya kuwuchaza umtshato
- Soze uphumelele okanye usombulule ingxabano
- Awunakuze wonwabele usuku lokuzalwa okanye umbhiyozo kwakhona
- Uya kuzifumana uhamba phezu kwamaqokobhe amaqanda
Ukuba utshatile i-narcissist, okanye ufumanisa ukuba utshatile, ngekhe ungazi ukuba ubuyintoni, okanye ngokuthe ngqo ukuba iqabane lakho lingatshintsha njani emva kokuba utshatile. Ke, utshintsha njani umntu otshatileyo emva komtshato?
I-narcissists eyi-Smart iyaqonda ukuba kufuneka ifihle iinxalenye zazo de ube uzibophelele kuzo ngokupheleleyo; Ngaphandle koko, kukho ithuba lokuba banokuphulukana nawe.
Isenokungakubonisi ukuba izakuba njani emva kokuba ubatshatile kuba akuloncedo kubo ukwenza njalo.
Narcissist kunye nomtshato
Kuqala, ngubani otshata umntu ongatshatanga? I-narcissist itshata umntu oya kuba ngumthombo olungileyo wobonelelo lwe-narcissistic lwexesha elide kubo. Bafumana iqabane elinokubakho kumntu obuthathaka, ongenangqondo okanye ongazithembanga. Ke, kutheni ama-narcissist etshata?
AbakwaNarcissist batshata kuba befuna umntu afake i-ego yabo kwaye abe ngumthombo osisigxina wonikezelo lwe-narcissistic. Ukutshata i-narcissist kunokwenzeka kuphela ukuba iyayifezekisa injongo yabo njengokunyusa umfanekiso, abaphulaphuli abafumanekayo okanye imali.
Nangona kungenjalo zonke iimeko ziyafana, nantsi eminye imizekelo yendlela i-narcissist enokutshintsha ngayo emva komtshato. (Isiphelo sobudlova obubonisiweyo siya kwahluka ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye kwaye ezi ziphumo zinokunyamezeleka, kuxhomekeke kubukhali kunye nefuthe kwiqabane.
Imfesane yeZero kunye nemvakaleloy
Ngokukhawuleza uza kufumanisa ukuba enye yezona ndlela zibalulekileyo zokutshintsha komntu emva komtshato kukuba baya kukutyhilela ukungakwazi kwabo ukuba negalelo kubudlelwane obuphilileyo.
I-Narcissism kukuphazamiseka kubuntu okubandakanya ukuswela uvelwano kwiingcinga neemvakalelo zabanye. Ukuba akukho luvelwano, akuyi kubakho luvo okanye imfesane kwiimfuno zakho.
Nokuba ukhohlisiwe ngaphambi komtshato, olu phawu alunakukwazi ukuzifihla emva komtshato kwaye luya kuba sisiseko sobudlelwane bakho.
Umlingane wakho uya kuwuchaza umtshato
Unokucinga ukuba uyayichaza imigaqo yobudlelwane bakho ngaphambi komtshato kwaye unokuvunyelwa ukuba ukholelwe oko kuba wawusebenzela umdlalo weqabane lokugqibela.
Le mirage, yeentlobo, ngomnye umzekelo obalulekileyo wendlela i-narcissist etshintsha ngayo emva komtshato kuba iingcinga zakho, iimvakalelo kunye neemfuno zakho azibalulekanga kumntu onale meko.
Kunokwenzeka ukuba emtshatweni nomntu obonisa ukungakhathali, iqabane lakho liya kuchaza amagama aya kuthi abonise imigangatho emibini. iimfuno zethu aziyi kwamkelwa njengezibalulekileyo ngaphandle kokuba kukho isibonelelo kwiqabane lakho.
Ngaba umntu otshintshisayo angatshintsha ngendlela evakalelwa kukuba uphulukene nelizwi emtshatweni? Ewe, iqabane lakho linokuqala ukubonisa ukungavumi ukusebenzisana okanye ukulalanisa nawe, kwaye oku kunokuba neziphumo ezibi zokuzixabisa.
Soze uphumelele okanye usombulule ingxabano
Kwaye ukuba uyayenza, kungenxa yokuba kukho into kuyo iqabane lakho.
Lo ngomnye umzekelo wendlela i-narcissist etshintsha ngayo emva komtshato. Ngaphambi komtshato banokubonakala ngathi bazithoba ngamanye amaxesha, mhlawumbi bade baxolise kodwa kungenxa yokuba, wawungengowabo ngokupheleleyo kwaye babesakhathazekile ngendlela abajongeka ngayo kuwe, nosapho kunye nabahlobo bakho njengeyona nto ibalulekileyo.
Kodwa inyani isala kukuba umntu one-narcissism akafane axolise ngokunyanisekileyo, aphulukane nengxabano okanye asombulule ukungavisisani.
Ke, utshintsha njani umntu otshatileyo emva komtshato? Abakunqweneli ukugcina izithembiso zabo zomtshato. Bakubudlelwane bokuba iimfuno zabo zifezekisiwe, hayi uthando.
Kwiimeko ezigabadeleyo, awusabalulekanga ngenxa yokuba akufuneki akonwabise. Emva kokuba uzibophelele ngokupheleleyo kubo, akusekho nto unokuyizuza (emehlweni abo).
Awunakuze wonwabele usuku lokuzalwa okanye umbhiyozo kwakhona
Ngomhla wokuzalwa kwakho, kugxilwe kuwe.
Nangona kunjalo, iqabane lakho elithandanayo lingabeka emngciphekweni wokubhiyozela imibhiyozo yenu kwaye libuyisele ingqalelo kubo. Oku kunokuthetha ukuba nomsindo, ukuchitha iiplani, kunye nokucinywa kunye nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho enkosi kwiqabane lakho. Ke, ngaba umntu ongatshatanga angatshintsha emva komtshato? Rhoqo kubi.
Uya kuzifumana uhamba phezu kwamaqokobhe amaqanda
Ngoku iqabane lakho elithandanayo likwisitulo sokuqhuba sobudlelwane bakho nomtshato, onokuthi uzive udimazekile kwaye ukushiye ungenamandla.
I-narcissist ebukhali inokukwenza ukuba uhlawule ukuba:
- uchaza izinto ozilindeleyo, iimfuno kunye neminqweno kubo,
- Yonwaba kakhulu kude kubo,
- zama ukubonisa inqaku okanye uphumelele ingxoxo,
- sukumvumela ukuba aveze iimvakalelo zakhe kuwe.
Uyakufumana unyango olungathethekiyo xa unokuzama ukuthi hayi kubo, okanye ubabizele ukukhanya kwabo okanye ukonwaba ngokuziphatha.
Ngaba umntu otshintshisayo unokutshintsha emva komtshato ngendlela ekukoyikisayo?
Abanye abantu abatshata ne-narcissist bagqibela ngokuhamba kwiigobolondo zamaqanda nokuba iqabane alikho. Rhoqo oku kungenxa yokuba umntu one-narcissism ulibeke iqabane lakhe ukuba lenze njalo. Ngelixa ungadinga ukuhamba kwiigobolondo zamaqanda ukuze ubenalo naluphi na uhlobo loxolo, le ndlela yokuziphatha iya kumxhobisa kwaye imkhuthaze ukuba aqhubeke ngale patheni.
Ukuba uzifumana ukule meko, kwaye unganxibelelana nale mizekelo yendlela i-narcissist etshintsha ngayo emva komtshato lixesha lokuba uphume.
Ungayinceda njani inguquko ye-narcissist? Ipilisi ekrakra yenyaniso kukuba ungazikhathazi ngokuzama ukulungisa ubudlelwane bakho nabo ngokuthetha nabo okanye ngokubakhuthaza ukuba baye kwiingcebiso ngezibini. Awunangxaki zomtshato unengxaki enkulu.
Ke, ngaba umntu ongatshatanga angatshintsha emva komtshato? Ukuba utshatile kwi-narcissist, utshatele umntu ongakwaziyo ukutshintsha nokuba ufuna kangakanani.
Ulungile kwindawo engaphambili yemeko enokuba yingozi ethi ubuncinci iya kukuhlutha amandla, kwaye ibangele ukuba ubuze impilo yakho.
Okubi kakhulu kukuba, le meko inokukhokelela kwimicimbi yezempilo yengqondo enje ngoxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, iPTSD kunye neengxaki zempilo yomzimba. Cinga ngokuzithemba kumcebisi ukuze uthethe ngezimvo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho kwindawo ekhuselekileyo.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuphelisa ubudlelwane, yenza isicwangciso kwaye ufumane inkxaso yokukunceda apha endleleni. Ungaphilisa ukusuka emtshatweni uye kwi-narcissist, kwaye ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nemeko kunye nendlela yokuzikhusela linyathelo lokuqala elihle.