Umxholo
- Yintoni unyango lwezibini?
- Yintoni onokuyilindela kwiingcebiso zezibini
- Ngaba umsebenzi wokucebisa ngomtshato uyasebenza
- Ulondolozo kwicala elingaphambili
- Unonophelo olululo
- Ubaleka nini endaweni yokulungisa
Nokuba sithetha ngeemoto okanye ikhaya losapho, ulondolozo rhoqo luyimfuneko. Ukuba umntu uyala ukugcinwa, ilahleko yepropathi kunye nemali inokubanzima kakhulu.
Kwangokunjalo, kusoloko kucetyiswa ukuba singenise obona budlelwane bethu busondele kulondolozo lwarhoqo ngokucebisa izibini ezitshatileyo. Ewe Unga zibandakanye ekutyeni rhoqo izibini ezinika iingcebiso nokuba iziseko zomtshato ziziva zikhuselekile kwaye zikhuselekile.
Zonke izibini ezitshatileyo, ngaxa lithile, zizifumana zisengxakini ngenxa yeengxaki zonxibelelwano phakathi kwazo. Kungekudala bayaqonda ukuba ubudlelwane babo abunakuqhubeka ngoluhlobo. Ukukhangela iindlela ezahlukeneyo ukusombulula iingxaki zabo, uninzi lwabo lubhenela ekucebiseni kwizibini ezitshatileyo.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ube ngomnye wabo bathandanayo balwa nombono wokucebisa izibini okanye uzibuza ukuba ungalindela ntoni kwaye wenza na umsebenzi wokucebisa izibini, masikuncede ufumane iimpendulo.
Yintoni unyango lwezibini?
Ngokwemigaqo, Ukucebisa izibini luhlobo lonyango lwengqondo, apho izibini zizama ukuchonga nokusombulula ukungavisisani kunye nemiba yazo ukuphucula ubudlelwane bazo.
Ukucebisa izibini ngokwesiko kwenziwa phantsi kolwalathiso lonyango, onolwazi olufanelekileyo kunye neseti efanelekileyo yezakhono zokwenza njalo. Ukuba oko akunakulunga kuwe, unokuhlala ubhekisa kwezinye zeencwadi zokucebisa ngomtshato kwizibini ezitshatileyo.
Ugqirha obandakanyekayo uhlala ehlala eyiLayisensi yoMtshato kunye neNtsapho yeTherapist (LMFT). Unyango luhlala lubandakanya ukuseka iinjongo zonyango kunye nokugxila kwiingxaki ezithile ngongenelelo olujolise kuguquko kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba okusebenzayo kuwo omabini amaqabane.
Ngexesha izibini ziqonda nini ukubona umcebisi womtshato, isixa esikhulu somonakalo esele senziwe emtshatweni wabo. Oku akuthethi ukuba unyango lwezibini alunakubanceda. Nangona kunjalo, ayingeni mngeni kangako kwaye ichitha ixesha elininzi ukuba izibini zibandakanyeka kunyango ngaphambi kwexesha.
Yintoni onokuyilindela kwiingcebiso zezibini
Unyango lubonelela ngezixhobo ezinokukunceda ukusombulula iingxaki zakho zobudlelwane. Ngokwesiqhelo ngexesha nasemva kokucebisa izibini, amaqabane ayakwazi ukunxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo, funda ukusombulula iingxaki zabo, kwaye uxoxe ngokwahluka kwabo ngokufanelekileyo.
Ukunika iingcebiso kwizibini ezitshatileyo kuya kukunceda ukwahlulahlula imiba kwaye uyiphucule ngaphandle kokugxekana.
Ngexesha lakho lokuqala, usenokukufumanisa kunzima ukuthetha nomcebisi. Ngokwesiqhelo, kuba usenomsindo kwiqabane lakho. Nangona kunjalo, ugqirha uya kuba nakho ukukunceda ujongane neemvakalelo zakho nje ukuba uqale ukuthetha
Iingcebiso kwizibini ezitshatileyo zisebenza ngokwahlukileyo kwizibini ezahlukeneyo. Kwezinye izibini, ziiseshoni ezimbalwa kuphela ezinokwanela, ngelixa ezinye zinokuthatha iinyanga ezininzi ukusombulula imicimbi yazo. Iinkcukacha zixhomekeke kwisicwangciso sakho sonyango.
Ingcali inokucebisa ngoqheliso lonxibelelwano ekhaya ukwenza oko ukufundileyo ngexesha leseshoni. Kananjalo, ngamanye amaxesha, kungafuneka uye kwiiseshoni zakho wedwa ukuba iqabane lakho liyala okanye lixakekile.
Kuya kufuneka uye kwiiseshoni, kwaye nangona kuthatha ezimbini ukulungisa ubudlelwane, ungasoloko ufunda ngakumbi malunga nokuziphatha kunye nezenzo zakho.
Ngaba umsebenzi wokucebisa ngomtshato uyasebenza
Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zokuba abantu abatshatileyo bajongane nemiceli mngeni kubudlelwane babo kungenxa yeendlela ezithile zokuziphatha eziye zavela okanye ezazisoloko zikhona emtshatweni wabo.
Ngonyango, uya kuba nakho ukuchonga iipateni ezinjalo kwaye uzithobe okanye uzigqibe. Oku kuya kukufundisa ukusombulula ukungavisisani kwixa elizayo kwaye ndikuncede ugxininise ukomelela kobudlelwane bakho kunye nendlela yokubondla
Ukucebisa izibini kuyabanceda ekuphuhliseni uluvo olunzulu ngovelwano kumaqabane abo kunye nokuqonda umbono weqabane labo.
Unyango luyakukunceda wena neqabane lakho ukuba niziva nisondelene njengoko nizakufunda indlela yokunxibelelana nabanye ngendlela eyanelisa iimfuno zomnye neminqweno yakhe.
Okokugqibela, xa ugqibile ukucebisa izibini, ngewuchonge indlela esempilweni yokusombulula ukungavisisani kwakho, ukubandakanyeka kunxibelelwano olusebenzayo, ukulungisa iingxaki ezingasonjululwanga, kunye nokuqonda ngcono iqabane lakho.
Ulondolozo kwicala elingaphambili
Abacebisi bosapho abanelayisensi okanye ubudlelwane bahlala bebona "izibini ezisempilweni," babanike izixhobo ezongezelelekileyo zokunxibelelana eziya kubanceda bagcine iimpawu ezintle zobudlelwane ngelixa zibanceda babone kwaye bacamngce ngemicimbi ezayo.
Unonophelo olululo
Ngamanye amaxesha, izibini zijongana noxinzelelo olunzima kunye / okanye olunokubangela uxinzelelo olunxulumene nolwalamano olufuna ukuhoywa kwangoko kwimeko yonyango. Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho sele bukule nqanaba, Iingcebiso kwizibini ezitshatileyo kufuneka ngokukhawuleza ukuba amandla obudlelwane kufuneka azinze okanye iphuculwe.
Udliwanondlebe nabacebisi bomtshato, njengenyathelo lokuqala, njengoko ukhetha umcebisi olungileyo wezibini kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngaba umcebisi unolwazi ngokujongana neentlobo zemiba enzima kubudlelwane bakho?
Ngaba umcebisi ujongana nomba emva kwamakhulu eeyure zomsebenzi ngokuthe ngqo nezibini zikwimeko emaxongo?
Ubaleka nini endaweni yokulungisa
Igama lesilumkiso. Ukuba iqabane lakho lichongwe ukuba "linengxaki yobuntu," ngokuqinisekileyo uyakufumanisa ukuba ithemba lokufumana iingcebiso ngokufanelekileyo kwizibini ezitshatileyo lincitshisiwe.
Abantu abanengxaki yokuphazamiseka kubuntu banexesha elinzima kakhulu ukuba babe novelwano kunye namaqabane abo. Kule meko, unyango kunye namaqela enkxaso abonelela ngamathuba amakhulu okuphilisa kunye nokufunyanwa kwezakhono.
Ukuba iqabane lakho alizimisele ukusebenza nawe ngelixa usiya kunyango lwezibini, ukucebisa izibini akunakunceda. Unokufumana ukuba unyango lomntu ngamnye kwintlungu yakho kunye noxinzelelo yeyona ndlela isebenzayo.