Umxholo
Kukho amabali angenakubalwa okungathembeki -ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo, ukungathembeki ngokwesondo nakwezemali; Ukophula ukuthembana okubangela ukonzakala kubudlelwane obubuhlungu kunye nobubi. Kubuhlungu ukuva indlela abantu abaxheleke ngayo xa besiva ngokungcatshwa liqabane labo. Kodwa kukho izakhono kunye nezixhobo zokubanceda ukuba bachache kolu lwalamano lobudlelwane kwaye lubasete kwindlela eya kubomi obonwabisayo nolwalamano. Abanye abatshatileyo bahlala bexakekile kwiingxaki zabo, betshona phantsi kobunzima bokungcatshwa kunye nentlungu ngamanye amaxesha kangangeminyaka ngaphambi kokuba bafune uncedo okanye bathathe isigqibo sokuqhawula ubudlelwane. Ukukopa amaqabane kuyonakalisa usapho. Bonakalisa ukhuseleko lwasekhaya kwaye bachaphazela kakubi ikamva labantwana.
Ndiyazi ukuba iyenzeka, ndiyazi ukuba awuzange wenzakalise iqabane lakho kwaye uya kunqumla ingalo yakho kunokuba wenzakalise umntwana wakho. Ukukopa yenye yeendlela zokuzingca onokuthi uzenze xa ungumzali. Ukubeka iimfuno zakho kunye neminqweno yakho ngaphezu kweemfuno zabantwana bakho kunye nosapho lwakho kuyingozi kunokuba ucinga. Iziphumo zokungathembeki kusapho kunye nabantwana abancinci kakhulu zibi kwaye ziyingozi; ingaba usapho luyahlukana okanye luhlala kunye. Abantwana bafuna ukhuseleko emakhayeni abo. Bafuna ukubanako ukubathemba abo babakhathaleleyo ukuba babe lapho kwaye babathande kwaye babondle. Xa uphila ubomi obumbaxa okanye phakathi kwengxabano kubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho, abantwana bayachaphazeleka. Awunakucinga ukuba bayazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, kodwa banolwazi ngakumbi kunokuba usenokuqonda.
Ukuba usapho lwakho luqhekekile ngenxa yokungathembeki, ubeka iqabane lakho nabantwana bakho emngciphekweni. Banokubandezeleka kungekuphela ngokwasemphefumlweni, kodwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwezoqoqosho ngokunjalo. Ukuba iqabane lakho liphulukana nenkxaso yakho, kuyakwenzeka ntoni kubantwana bakho? Njengomzali, inxenye yoxanduva lwakho kubantwana bakho kukubonisa indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle, ubabonise ngomzekelo wokuba ngumntu olungileyo, ummi oqaqambileyo, kwaye ubamisele ubudlelwane obunothando nobusempilweni kubo. Ukuba abantwana bakhula bengasebenzi kakuhle, amathuba okuba baphile ubomi bokuba ngabantu abadala abangasebenzi kakuhle nawo aphezulu kakhulu. Bangathemba njani kwaye bazive bekhuselekile abantwana ukuba bakhulele kwimeko yokungcatshwa nokungazithembi kubazali babo?
Nanini na xa uhendwa ukuba ungathembeki, unokhetho. Unokukhetha ukwenza enye yezi zinto zimbini.
1.Fumanisa ukuba kutheni ucinga ukukopa
Unokuzijonga ixesha elide kunye nobudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho kwaye ufumane iingcebiso malunga nokufumanisa ukuba kutheni ucinga ukukopa. Kwenzeke ntoni kubudlelwane bakho obenze ukuba kube lula ukungathembeki?
2. Ukukopela kunye nobungozi kulwalamano
Ungaqhatha; ungaxoka, kwaye ungathembeki kwiqabane lakho kwaye ubeke umngcipheko wokonakalisa usapho lwakho kwaye ubeke emngciphekweni ukhuseleko kunye nempilo yabantwana bakho. Kengoku ntoni?
Ngoku funda inombolo yokuqala. Uzise abantwana bakho ehlabathini ukuze ube nosapho. Ngaba ukulungele ukuyilahla yonke loo nto? Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ukope. Unokulufumana uthando kunye nonxibelelwano oludingayo neqabane lakho. Unayo kanye kwaye unokuphinda uyifumane kwakhona. Akunakuphepheka ukuba ulahlekelwe lusapho lwakho. Ungayilungisa into engalunganga kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane bakho buqinile kunye nosapho lwakho kunye. Amathuba yile nto uyilangazelela ngokwenene; Unxibelelwano olulahlekile.
Ingcali yezonyango enokukunceda uyifumane. Sukulinda de wenze into oya kuzisola ngayo. Thatha amanyathelo ngoku ukulungisa unxibelelwano neqabane lakho. Inokwenzeka. Ndibona yonke imihla. Sinezixhobo zokulungisa oko kwaphukileyo phakathi kwakho. Sukuyilahla into oyakhileyo ngokungxama okanye umzuzu wobuthathaka. Ikamva losapho lwakho lubaluleke kakhulu.