Umxholo
- Abantwana banamalungelo, amagunya, amandla kunye nenkululeko njengabantu abadala
- Umgaqo wesithupha ngabasemagunyeni beza noxanduva olulinganayo
- Abazali kufuneka bathathe isigqibo ngemida yomntwana wabo
- Ukuvumela abantwana inkululeko yokuthetha
- Bayeke abantwana bazivakalise izimvo zabo
- Umntwana ngamnye unobuchule kwilizwe lakhe
“Sinexhala lokuba umntwana uza kuba yintoni ngomso, kanti siyalibala ukuba ungumntu namhlanje” - uStacia Tauscher.
Inkululeko yokuthetha ichazwa 'njengelungelo lokuvakalisa izimvo kunye nezimvo zakho ngokukhululekileyo ngentetho, ukubhala nangezinye iindlela zonxibelelwano kodwa ngaphandle kokubangela ngabom isimilo sabanye kunye / okanye udumo ngentetho ebubuxoki okanye elahlekisayo.'
Abantwana banamalungelo, amagunya, amandla kunye nenkululeko njengabantu abadala
Banelungelo elisisiseko:
Banelungelo lokubeka izimvo zabo, babelane ngezimvo zabo, iimbono zabo kwaye banike iingcebiso ezinokwahluka kubazali babo.
Banelungelo lokwaziswa, bazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kwihlabathi liphela, bafikelele kulwazi oluluncedo kubo.Banokwabelana ngezabo izimvo nakwesiphi na isihloko okanye isifundo.
UStuart Mill, isithandi sobulumko esaziwayo sase-Bhritane sathi inkululeko yokuthetha (ekwabizwa ngokuba yinkululeko yokuthetha) ibalulekile kuba uluntu oluhlala kulo lunelungelo lokuva izimvo zabantu.
Ayibalulekanga nje ngokuba wonke umntu kufuneka abe nelungelo lokuthetha ngokwakhe (endikholelwa ukuba ikwaquka nabantwana). Kwanemithetho eyahlukeneyo yeSizwe kunye neHlabathi iyayixhasa inkululeko yokuthetha.
Ngokwenqaku le-13 leCRIN's (amalungelo amalungelo abantwana) Inqaku le-13, “Umntwana uya kuba nelungelo lokuthetha ngokukhululekileyo; eli lungelo liya kubandakanya inkululeko yokufuna, yokufumana kunye nokuhambisa ulwazi kunye neengcamango zazo zonke iintlobo, nokuba yeyiphi na imida, nokuba kungomlomo, ngokubhaliweyo okanye ngokuprinta, ngohlobo lobugcisa, okanye ngayo nayiphi na enye imithombo yeendaba ekhethwe ngumntwana ”.
- Ukusetyenziswa kweli lungelo kunokuxhomekeka kwizithintelo ezithile, kodwa ezi ziya kuba kuphela njengoko kunikezelwe ngumthetho kwaye ziyimfuneko:
- Ukuhlonipha amalungelo okanye udumo lwabanye; okanye
- Ukukhusela ukhuseleko lwesizwe okanye ucwangco loluntu (ucwangco esidlangalaleni), okanye impilo yoluntu okanye isimilo.
Inxalenye yokuqala yeSiqendu 13 ixhasa ilungelo labantwana lokuba 'bafune, bafumane kwaye bagqithise ulwazi kunye nemibono yazo zonke iintlobo', kuluhlu lweefomathi nangaphesheya kwemida.
Inxalenye yesibini imisela imiqobo enokubekwa kweli lungelo. Kungokuchaza iimvakalelo kunye nezimvo zabo apho abantwana bekwazi ukuchaza iindlela amalungelo abo ahlonitshwayo okanye anyhashwa ngazo kwaye bafunda ukumela amalungelo abanye.
Ukongeza koku, iNqaku le-19 lesiBhengezo soLuntu ngamaLungelo oLuntu licacisa abantwana ngeNdibano yeZizwe eziManyeneyo yamaLungelo oMntwana, igunyazisa ilungelo lomntwana ngamnye lokuthatha inxaxheba kuyo yonke imicimbi ebachaphazelayo. Kuya kuba luncedo ukufunda nokuqonda ngakumbi ngemfihlo yabantwana kwi-intanethi kunye nenkululeko yokuthetha.
Umgaqo wesithupha ngabasemagunyeni beza noxanduva olulinganayo
Inkululeko yokuthetha yabantwana ibalulekile kodwa kubalulekile ukufundisa abantwana bethu ukuba xa besonwabela la malungelo banyanzelekile ukuba bathwale uxanduva lwamalungelo abanye ukungavumelani nabo.
Nokuba awuvumelani, kufuneka bamamele kwaye bahloniphe izimvo zabanye.
Inkululeko yokuthetha ikwabandakanya ukuba nolwazi lokuba ungathathi nxaxheba nini. Umzekelo: -Ukuba iqela elinentiyo lisasaza amarhe ku-whatsapp okanye ku-facebook sinelungelo lokuvimba iqela okanye umntu kwaye luxanduva lwethu ukungazisasazi ezo marhe.
Okwesibini, ngokubanika inkululeko yokuthetha, musa ukujikajika ube ngumzali we-laissez-faire onika isandla simahla emntwaneni wakho. Ndithetha nje ukubavumela ukuba bazidlulise, bafunde okulungile nokungalunganga kubo ngaphandle kokumiswa okanye ukohlwaywa.
Abazali kufuneka bathathe isigqibo ngemida yomntwana wabo
Inkululeko yokuthetha ifana nokuzithemba. Okukhona bayisebenzisa, kokukhona isiya isomelela.
Ukuphila kwihlabathi lokuma ngokukhuphisana, ukugqwetha ukhuphiswano kunye nokufumana inzuzo nika umntwana wakho esona sixhobo sibukhali- inkululeko yokuqinisekisa.
Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba achaze ngokukhululekileyo into ayithandayo (nokuba ucinga ukuba ayilunganga) kwaye umfundise ukuba bakuve oko abanye bakuthethileyo (nokuba bacinga abanye okanye akulunganga). Njengoko kusitsho uGeorge Washington ukuba inkululeko yokuthetha ithathiwe emva koko sisidenge kwaye sithule singakhokelwa, njengezimvu eziya kuxhelwa.
Ukuvumela abantwana inkululeko yokuthetha
"Abantwana bafumana yonke into bengenanto, amadoda akafumani kwinto yonke" - UGiacomo Leopardi.
Ngexesha lokukhululeka xa ndicela intombi yam eneminyaka emihlanu ukuba izobe kwaye ifake imibala kwincwadi yakhe yesikripthi, indijonga ngokungathi bendimcelile ukuba abelane nge-ice-cream ayithandayo okanye acoce indlu yonke.
Xa ndimnyanzela uyokugqibela esithi, "Mama, iyadika". Ndiqinisekile uninzi lwenu luya kuyichaphazela. Uninzi lwabazali bacinga ukuba ubuchule yitalente esizalwe nayo umntwana anayo okanye engenayo!
Kwelinye icala, uphando (ewe, ndihlala ndigxininisa ngakumbi kuphononongo olwenziwe zizifundo ezahlukeneyo kuba oko kungqinisisiwe) kutyhila ukuba ukucinga komntwana kubanceda bakwazi ukumelana ngcono nentlungu.
Bayeke abantwana bazivakalise izimvo zabo
Ukuyila kwabo kukwanceda ukuba bazithembe ngakumbi, babaphucule kwizakhono zentlalo kwaye babancede bafunde ngcono. Ukuyila kuchazwa njengamandla okukwazi ukwenza iikhonsepthi ezintsha okanye izimvo, zikhokelela kwizisombululo zokuqala. Ndiqinisekile ukuba sonke siya kuvumelana no-Einstein ukuba ukucinga kubaluleke ngakumbi kunolwazi.
Isichazi-magama seWebster sichaza intelekelelo ngokuthi, “sisakhono sokwenza umfanekiso engqondweni yakho wento ongayibonanga okanye ongazange wayibona; ukukwazi ukucinga ngezinto ezintsha ”.
Umntwana ngamnye unobuchule kwilizwe lakhe
Ukuqonda ilungelo labantwana lenkululeko kuluncedo kuphuhliso lwabantwana ngokubanzi.
Kuluxanduva lwethu njengomzali ukukhulisa iso lengqondo yomntwana wethu kwaye sonwabe kwisigqibo nakwizilingo zabo.
- Chonga indawo endlwini yakho apho banokwenza ubugcisa khona. Ngendawo andithethi ngokwakha indawo yokudlala ngaphakathi okanye igumbi loyilo labo. Nokuba yinxalenye encinci okanye ikona encinci ilungile!
- Banike bonke oovimba / izixhobo ezifunekayo zomsebenzi woyilo. Yenza nje amalungiselelo ezinto ezisisiseko njengepeni / ipensile apho banokudlala khona imidlalo eyahlukeneyo yamaphepha okanye amakhadi, bakhe iinqaba zeCassel, iibhloko, iintonga zematshisi kunye neenqaba.
- Banike ngezinto zokuhombisa ezifanelekileyo iminyaka, amacephe, iivenkile zokudlala, iisokisi, iibhola, iirebhoni kwaye ubacele ukuba bacwangcise isikethi. Ungabanceda ukuba bancinci kodwa ungancedi kakhulu.
- Nokuba abenzi ngokokulindelweyo musa ukubangxolisa okanye ubabeke ityala lokumosha kuvela okanye ezinye izinto. Banike ithuba lokuthetha ngcono.
- Iimyuziyam zengingqi, imiboniso, iminyhadala yenkcubeko kunye nemisitho yoluntu yasimahla ziindlela ezilungileyo zokuphucula ukunyuka kobugcisa kunye nobuchule.
- Ukuphindaphinda, ndingacebisa ukuba unciphise ixesha lescreen.