Umxholo
- Isigaba 1-Wena (ekugqibeleni) uqinisekisa urhano lwakho
- Isigaba 2- Uloyiko lokungcatshwa kunye nosizi
- Isigaba 3-Ukwamkelwa
- Isigaba 4-Ukwakhiwa kwakhona kobudlelwane kunye nokunxibelelana kwakhona nomyeni wakho
Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabafazi luzifumana lukwindawo yokucinga ukuba angabaxolela njani abayeni babo ngokukopela nokuxoka kubo. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba kuninzi ukukopela emtshatweni. Malunga nomtshato omnye kwemithathu umtshato omnye okanye omabini amaqabane ayavuma ukwaphula umthetho okunjalo. Kwaye, nala manani kufuneka athathwe ngqolowa yetyuwa, kuba ukugcina imfihlo yokuthandana yeyona nto iphambili kubo bonke abakhohlisi. Ke, ayimangalisi into yokuba uzifumanise uzama ukufumana indlela yokufumana ngaphezulu kokungathembeki komyeni wakho. Nantsi indlela inkqubo yokuphilisa eya kuhamba ngayo, kunye nendlela onokuyinceda ngayo.
Isigaba 1-Wena (ekugqibeleni) uqinisekisa urhano lwakho
Nabani na oye wafumanisa malunga nokuthandana komyeni wakhe uya kukuqinisekisa - akukho nto ithi “Kwakungothusi”. Kuhlala kusothusa. Nokuba sowukhe wakrokrela kangakanani, ubusenza izizathu zokuba ukhe uziphendulele. Ukuba wayehlala emsebenzini emva kwexesha, usebenze nzima kakhulu ukukholelwa ukuba ngoyena mphathi mhle emhlabeni wonke.
Ke, xa ekugqibeleni uqinisekisa uloyiko lwakho, oku akunako kodwa njengokuza koyikeka kakhulu kubomi bakho bonke. Mhlawumbi waziva ngathi umhlaba wohlukene. Kwaye eyakho yenza, inene. Yonke into obuyicinga ngobomi bakho, usapho lwakho, umtshato wakho kunye nekamva lakho, ngoku ibuzwa.
Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba nobabini, kunye nenkqubo yakho yokuxolela, ukuhlala phantsi nokuhlalutya okwenzekileyo. Kuya kuba nzima kuni nobabini. Kuye ukuba abukele intlungu awayeyenzile. Ukuze uve into emenze ukuba ayenze. Unokuva izinto ongafuniyo ukucinga ngazo ngoku. Kodwa, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyaziqonda izizathu kunye nendlela eyenzeke ngayo, ngokukhawuleza uya kuba nakho ukudlulela kwinqanaba elilandelayo.
Isigaba 2- Uloyiko lokungcatshwa kunye nosizi
Emva kokuba uqonda ukuqonda ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye emtshatweni wakho nangaphandle kwawo, uya kulitshitshisa isigaba esibuhlungu. Ulahlekelwe yinto. Uhluthwe umbono wakho wobomi bakho, umyeni wakho, kunye nekamva lakho kunye. Izinto azisayi kuphinda zifane. Ukuqonda okunjalo kufuna ukuba uthathe ixesha lokuba sentlungwini.
Ungadlula njani kwesi sigaba ngempumelelo, kwaye ukhawuleze? Ngokuqonda ukuba, nangona ungakhange ubuze, umtshato wakho emva komtshato ungangcono. Ayisiyomfuneko kuphela ukuba ibe sisiphelo sobudlelwane, inokuyiguqula ibe yinto entsha kwaye yomelele ngakumbi. Nangona ungakholelwa kweli nqanaba, mininzi imitshato ephumeleleyo emva kokungathembeki kwendoda.
Kodwa, okwangoku, jolisa kwiimvakalelo zakho. Sukulwa nabo ungazami ukunqanda okanye uyikhanyele intlungu. Sukuzityhala ukuze womelele kwaye woyise umcimbi ngokukhawuleza. Unelungelo lokulilela ukulahleka kwakho, kwaye ukwenze oko kangangoko ufuna. Musa ukoyika iimvakalelo zakho, mazibaleke zasendle, ukuze uphinde kwakhona xa sele udibene nabo bonke.
Isigaba 3-Ukwamkelwa
Emva kokuba ugqithile kumothuko wokuqala kunye nomsindo ohamba nayo, kwaye emva kokuba uchithe ixesha elifanelekileyo ulilela ukuphulukana nomtshato wakho njengoko usazi, lixesha lokuba ukhule uphume kwezi mvakalelo. Xa nobabini nihambe ngenqanawa kumaxhala enxunguphalisayo, niya kuqala ukufumana isigaba esizolileyo sokwamkelwa.
Ukwamkelwa akuthethi, nangona kunjalo, ukwala ubukrakra bento eyenzekileyo. Awulindelanga ukuba uthi konke kwakulungile. Awufanelanga ukuba uyamkele into yokuba ukwenzakala nokuxokiswa yinto eqhelekileyo yesiqhelo. Okuphikisanayo. Kukuqonda izizathu zokuba yenzekile kwaye ifunde kuyo.
Okwangoku, ngokwamkela umcimbi, unobangela kunye neziphumo zawo, wamkela ukuba ngoku ukwindlela entsha. Le ndlela inyanzelekile ukuba ibe neqhina ekuqaleni, njengoko usenokufumana iindlela ezintsha. Kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba umtshato wakho wawunjalo ngaphambi kokuba umcimbi ungathandani. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukubona ngamehlo omyeni wakho. Ekuphela kwendlela yokubanakho ukumxolela.
Isigaba 4-Ukwakhiwa kwakhona kobudlelwane kunye nokunxibelelana kwakhona nomyeni wakho
Ekugqibeleni, emva kokuba ubamkele ubunyani bobudlelwane bakho, kunye nembono yomyeni wakho (enokubandakanya ukungafezeki kwakho), ngoku usendleleni eya kulwalamano olutsha, olomeleleyo, olucacileyo nolunzulu ngakumbi. Ngoku uya kuthandana kwakhona, kuphela ngendoda oyaziyo kwaye uyiqonde ngcono.