Umxholo
- Ungamfumana njani umfazi
- 1. Ngaba unomdla neenkolelo ezifanayo?
- 2. Ngaba ukhule kakuhle?
- 3. Ngaba uphumelele?
- 4. Ngaba unomtsalane?
- 5. Ngaba uyahlekisa?
- 6. Ngaba uthanda izinto eziphathekayo?
Uhlala uneendlela ezimbini onokukhetha kuzo, nokuba uyatshata kwaye uhamba nenkosikazi yakho, okanye ujika ube ngumalume wakho uBob, oyithiyileyo imitshato kwaye angaze azinze. Ukuba ungowokuqala kwaye ufuna ukutshata kwangoko kodwa ungafumani mfazi ungakhathazeki, eli nqaku liza kukunceda.
Ukuzifumanela umfazi olungileyo kufuna ukucinga okuninzi; Kuya kufuneka ujonge iimpawu ozinqwenelayo emfazini. Kufuneka ufumane umntu okuqondayo, aqonde umbono wakho kwaye unoluvo lwakhe. Ukuba ufuna umfazi kwaye ungamfumani, qhubeka ufunda-
Ungamfumana njani umfazi
Kubalulekile ukuba abafana bagcine engqondweni ukuba umtshato kukuzibophelela ebomini. Awungekhe utshate nomntu kuba ubukeka emhle. Ufuna ukufumana umfazi olungileyo okhathalela umzi wakho, ungumama olungileyo kubantwana bakho kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukujonga emva kwakho.
Nantsi eminye imibuzo oza kuyibuza ukuba uzifumanele umfazi ofanelekileyo:
1. Ngaba unomdla neenkolelo ezifanayo?
Ukuba ukhangela iqabane, qiniseka ukuba ujolisa kumdla oqhelekileyo phakathi kwenu. Umfazi omelwe kukutshata kufuneka abe nomdla kunye neenkolelo ezifanayo nezakho; oku akuthethi ukuba akanakuba neenkolelo zakhe, kuthetha nje ukuba uyavumelana neenkolelo zakho nawe uvumelana naye.
Kubalulekile ukuba nivumelane ngezinto ezinkulu ezifana nosapho, abantwana, imali, isondo, njl.
2. Ngaba ukhule kakuhle?
Umfazi onemilinganiselo emihle kunye nokuqonda kakuhle ukuba kufuneka lube luphi usapho kuya kuba lula ukuguqula indlu yakho ibe yindlu.
Ukuba umfazi omtshatayo unesimo sengqondo, uphikisana ngayo yonke into kwaye ukrwada ke kuphephe ukumtshata. Uya kwenza ubomi bakho bube lusizi kwaye angabinakho ukukhulisa kakuhle abantwana bakho.
3. Ngaba uphumelele?
Umfazi olungileyo uya kuba nempumelelo kunye nempumelelo ngaphambi kokuba ungene ebomini bakhe. Xa uthatha isigqibo sokutshata nomntu, khetha umntu oneenjongo kunye neminqweno ebomini engaphaya kokutshata. Ukutshata umntu ofundileyo, umntu othanda ukufunda kunokuchitha ixesha kwi-Instagram nakwi-Snapchat.
4. Ngaba unomtsalane?
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba asixoxi ngenkangeleko yakhe kodwa sithetha ngaye ukuba uyakutsala okanye hayi. Ngaba utsaleleka kuye? Ngaba uburharha bakhe, uncumo lwakhe okanye ilizwi lakhe liyayinyibilikisa intliziyo yakho?
Umfazi wakho akufuneki abe yibhombu, kodwa kufuneka ibekhona into ngaye eyenza intliziyo yakho ilangazelele.
5. Ngaba uyahlekisa?
Ubomi bomtshato abukho nje malunga nabantwana, ikhondo lomsebenzi, umsebenzi, njl njl. Musa ukutshata nentombazana esoloko igeza, umntu onomsindo kwaye ixesha elininzi, ongenamdla ngayo yonke into.
Kuphephe ukutshata nentombazana engakwaziyo ukonwaba kwizinto ezingenangqondo ezinjengepikniki epakini, umntu ongakuhlekiyo xa ubeka iayisi khrimu empumlweni.
Tshata umntu onwabileyo kwaye odlamkileyo. Ngale ndlela ayizukuonwabisa kuphela kodwa ubomi bakho buya kuziva buphelele.
6. Ngaba uthanda izinto eziphathekayo?
Ukuba umfazi omtshatayo uthanda izinto eziphathekayo kwaye utyiwa yiyo kwaye uthanda imali, ungamtshati. Ukuba uceba ukuchitha lonke ulondolozo lwakho kwingxowa entsha yeBirkin kwaye ekubuza imibuzo xa uthenga izihlangu ezingama-50 zeedola, ke ubaleke umhlobo wam kwaye ungayenzi loo nto.
Umtshato ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo sisigqibo esikhulu kakhulu. Awunakho ukukhetha umntu ngaphandle kwesihlwele kuba ujongeka elungile kwaye ubacebise kwinyanga ezayo. Umtshato sisifanokuthi sokulalanisa, ukuxolela, ukuzincama kunye nothando olungenamiqathango; kukwenza ufune ukuxhasa umntu wakho xa izinto zinzima. Ke, fumana iqabane lobomi elime nawe, likuqonde, alikuthathi lula kwaye uyayithanda yonke into oyenzayo. Xa sele umfumene umntu onjalo, ungakhathazeki kwaye utshate kwangoko!