Umxholo
- Ithetha ukuthini inkosikazi eyahlukanisiweyo ngokwezichazi-magama ezisemthethweni?
- Nguwuphi umahluko phakathi kokwahlukana nomtshato?
- Amalungelo omfazi kwilifa
- Ulwalamano oluhlukanisiweyo xa kuthelekiswa nomtshato
Umfazi owahlukanisiweyo ayinguye oqhawule umtshato okanye umfazi owahlukileyo; akangomntu wakudala naye. Umfazi owahlukanisiweyo unelungelo kuwe nakwipropathi yakho njengomfazi ophakathi, njengoko esatshatile kuwe.
Ke yintoni umfazi owahlukileyo?
Ngumlingane wakho, oye waba ngumphambukeli kuwe. Kukho iimeko ezininzi kunye nezinto ezibandakanya isibini esilahlileyo.
Inokuba nihlala kwindlu enye kodwa ningaze nincokole. Unokuhlala wodwa kwaye ningathethi omnye komnye.
Kuzo zombini ezi meko yakho umfazi owahlukileyo Utshatile kuwe, kungoko onke amalungelo enziwa ngumfazi oqhelekileyo. Unokuza kungena kwindlu yomtshato ngendlela athanda ngayo. Ngendlu yomtshato, oko kuthetha ukuba indlu isibini esitshatele kuyo.
Ithetha ukuthini inkosikazi eyahlukanisiweyo ngokwezichazi-magama ezisemthethweni?
Ngaba ujonge umfazi ohlukileyo? Xa wayecelwa ukuba achaze umfazi owahlukanisiweyo, inkcazo yomfazi owahlukanisiweyo ngokwe-Merriam Webster yayingumfazi "ongasahlaliyo nomyeni wakhe."
NgokukaCollins, "Umfazi okanye indoda eyilahliweyo ayihlali kunye nomyeni okanye inkosikazi yabo."
Ngokutsho kweCambridge Dictionary, "indoda okanye umfazi owahlukaneyo ngoku akahlali nomntu abatshate naye"
Nguwuphi umahluko phakathi kokwahlukana nomtshato?
Uqhawulo-mtshato lusemthethweni; oko kuthetha ukuba ukuphela komtshato kwenziwe ngokusemthethweni yinkundla, kwaye akhona amaphepha okukungqina oko. Inkundla isombulule yonke imicimbi, kwaye akukho nto ilindileyo enxulumene nokugcinwa kwabantwana, isondlo, inkxaso yomntwana, ilifa okanye ukuhanjiswa kwepropathi. Bobabini abatshatileyo, xa beqhawule umtshato, banesimo esinye kwaye banokuphinda batshate nangaliphi na ixesha.
Ngeli xesha, umntu owahlukanisiweyo akanabume basemthethweni.
Ithetha nje ukuba esi sibini sahlukene kwaye ngoku sihlala njengabasemzini. Akukho nxibelelwano phakathi kwabo. Kodwa kuba bengaqhawulanga mthethweni, ezinye izinto zihlala zingasonjululwanga. Ezifana nelifa kunye namalungelo omfazi ahlukanisiweyo.
Unamalungelo onke awenzayo umfazi onothando otshatileyo.
Ukumiswa kuthetha ukuba umfazi wakho ulwa nawe kwaye akafuni ukuthetha nawe, kufana nokwahlukana kodwa kufana nokuba ungathethi.
Usenokuba ngumfazi wakho wangoku, kodwa akusekho ngokuthetha okanye ukuthandana nawe. Xa ungumfazi ohlukanisiweyo, awunakuba ngumfazi wangaphambili, kuba imeko yakho esemthethweni isaza kuthi utshatile. Kananjalo, izibini ezilahlileyo azivumelekanga ukuba zitshate nomnye umntu, ngaphandle kokuba zifumana uqhawulo mtshato olufanelekileyo nolusemthethweni lwenkundla ngawo onke amaxwebhu asemthethweni.
Amalungelo omfazi kwilifa
Iqabane lifumana isiqingatha sayo yonke into, kubandakanya, ipropathi, izabelo, imali, kunye nazo naziphi na ezinye iiasethi ebeziqokelelwe ebudeni bomtshato.
Naziphi na izipho ezenziwe kwintando ziya kuthintelwa xa kuqhawulwa umtshato, kodwa akunjalo kuwo onke amazwe. Ke, soloko ufumana intando yakho ihlaziywa ukuba imeko enjalo sele iza kwenzeka.
Ke kwenzeka ntoni kwimeko yomfazi owahlukileyo? Ewe, ngokusemthethweni akazange aqhawule umtshato, oko kuthetha ukuba usatshatile. Ayinamsebenzi inkundla nokuba uyathetha okanye awuthethi. Ke ngokomthetho, isiqingatha selifa siya emfazini, ukwahlukana okanye ngenye indlela.
Kuba umthetho wase-US unyanzelisa ukuba ushiye ilifa lomfazi womfazi, umfazi owahlukaneyo ngokuzenzekelayo ufumana isabelo sengonyama selifa lakho, nangona imithetho yelizwe ngalinye yahlukile.
Nangona kunjalo, olu luvo ngokubanzi. Ngaphandle kokuba umyeni abe nomnqweno wokungqina ukuba esi sibini khange sithethe kwaye wayetshatile ephepheni ngenxa yabantwana babo okanye nasiphi na esinye isizathu.
Ilifa linokuba yinkohliso; ukunqanda ukubhideka, kungcono ube ne-will ehlaziyiweyo kunye negqwetha ngalo lonke ixesha. Oku kuyakusindisa usapho nakuphi na ukudideka kunye neengxoxo ezingafunekiyo.
Ulwalamano oluhlukanisiweyo xa kuthelekiswa nomtshato
Zininzi izizathu zokuba abantu abatshatileyo bakhethe ubudlelwane obuqhawule umtshato ngaphezu komtshato wabo okanye ukwahlukana kwabo. Isizathu sinokuba ngabantwana, ukuphazamisa ubomi babantwana, okanye ukucinga ngempilo yabo yengqondo kunokuba sisizathu esikhulu.
Esinye isizathu esixhaphakileyo kunokuba yimeko yezoqoqosho. Kubiza kakhulu ukwahlulwa kunokuqhawula umtshato, ngakumbi ukuba kukho imali-mboleko edibeneyo kunye nemali mboleko yokucinga.
Ukuba isibini asicingi ngokutshata kwakhona kwaye bayilungisile imicimbi yabo malunga nomyolelo kunye nelifa, kwaye ke akufuneki kubekho umba wokuba nomfazi okanye indoda eyahlukileyo. Ngokubhekisele kumalungelo omfazi owahlukileyo, unelungelo njengaye nawuphi na umfazi, kuba utshatile ngokusemthethweni.
Ukuba kulwalamano oluhlukanisiweyo, ukuhlala njengabantu ongabaziyo kodwa utshatile sisiphithiphithi ekufuneka ulapho. Awuthandi indoda, kodwa usengumfazi wayo. Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, yimeko elusizi ukubakho.