Umxholo
- 1. Yiba nombulelo
- 2. Hlala kude kwizityholo
- 3. Ezinye izinto azidingi kuthethwa
- 4. Lazi ixesha
- 5. Sebenzisa ukubukusa
- 6. Gcina unxibelelwano - ngokoqobo
- 7. Cacisa malunga nento oyifunayo
- 8. Zixabise iinkumbulo zakho
- 9. Fundani into entsha kunye
- 10. Thandaza kunye
Ngaba wena neqabane lakho sele nifikile kwinqanaba lokuba ‘niyazi’ ukuba omnye uza kuthini ngaphambi kokuba bathethe?
Mhlawumbi ufumanisa ukuba awuthethi kangako kunangaphambili, kwaye uziva ukuba unxibelelwano lwakho neqabane lakho lunokwenza ngokhuthazo oluncinci.
Nokuba ingcono Imitshato inokuxhamla kancinane kunxibelelwano lomtshato amaxesha ngamaxesha, njengesiselo samanzi apholileyo ngemini eshushu.
Ke, unxibelelana njani ngokufanelekileyo kubudlelwane? Okanye unxibelelana njani ngcono neqabane lakho?
Ukuphendula le mibuzo, nazi iingcebiso ezilishumi ezifanelekileyo kunye nezithembakeleyo zokuphucula unxibelelwano kubudlelwane obunokuhamba indlela ende ekukuncedeni unxibelelane ngokukhululekileyo nangokonwaba neqabane lakho.
1. Yiba nombulelo
Kukangaphi uthabatha ixesha lakho ukuqaphela zonke izinto onombulelo ngazo kubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho? Kwaye xa uqaphela, ngaba uyathetha?
Ukuthi 'enkosi' ngokulula kunokunceda kakhulu ekuvuleni amajelo onxibelelwano emtshatweni. Kwaye eyona nto intle kukuba xa uqhubeka uziqhelisa ukubulela, kokukhona kuya kufuneka ube nombulelo.
Sebenzisa umbulelo njenge umthambo wonxibelelwano izibini ezithandanayo kwaye wenze inqaku lokubulela iqabane lakho ubuncinci kube kanye yonke imihla ngento enokubucebisa ngayo ubomi bakho.
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2. Hlala kude kwizityholo
Xa ukucaphuka okuncinci kunye nokudandatheka kuza, zinike ixesha lokuchaza ngqo indlela oziva ngayo. Sukukhawuleza ungxolise iqabane lakho ngezimangalo ezigcweleyo zokuba 'usoloko u ...' okanye 'zange ...'
Ukutyholwa kunokuchaphazela ukukwazi kwakho ukunxibelelana nabanye.
Into ebalulekileyo kunxibelelwano lwesibini kukuphepha ukwenza isigqibo seenjongo kunye neenjongo zeqabane lakho, kuba unokuba ungalunganga kakhulu.
Kunoko thetha ngayo kwaye ufumane ukuba kutheni kwaye liyintoni ibali lokwenyani. Ngale ndlela, unokukhuthaza unxibelelwano kwaye ufumane indlela eya phambili kunye.
3. Ezinye izinto azidingi kuthethwa
Ukungafihli nto kufanelekile kuyo unxibelelwano ngobudlelwane, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuqonda kuyafuneka xa amagama akho enokubangela umonakalo ongaphezulu kunokuba ulungile.
Ukuphucula unxibelelwano emtshatweni, ngaphambi kokuba ucime zonke izinto ezingalunganga malunga nosapho lweqabane lakho, zibuze ukuba kunyanzelekile na ukuba uthethe oku, okanye kufuneka uzigcine kuwe ezinye zeengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho.
Ngenxa yokuba ufuna 'ukukhupha into esifubeni sakho' akuthethi ukuba uyilahla kwiqabane lakho.
4. Lazi ixesha
Xa unxibelelana neqabane lakho, ukuba uthetha ngento elungileyo ngexesha elingalunganga, unxibelelwano lwakho lunokuthinteleka kakhulu okanye luthothiswe.
Mhlawumbi 'usikhova sasebusuku' esivakala siphaphile ngorhatya ngelixa iqabane lakho 'liyintaka yokuqala' engakwaziyo ukuphapha ngentsimbi yeshumi.
Ukugcina unxibelelwano olusebenzayo emtshatweni, kuya kufuneka funani ixesha elisebenza kuni nobabini xa unokuxoxa ngayo nayiphi na imiba ebalulekileyo.
Kwaye akulunganga ukuzisa imiba enzulu kanye njengokuba iqabane lakho libaleka lisiya emsebenzini. Xa uziva kwaye unononophelo ekukhetheni ixesha elifanelekileyo, unxibelelwano lwakho lunokuphuculwa kakhulu.
5. Sebenzisa ukubukusa
Enye indlela yokuphucula unxibelelwano kubudlelwane kukusebenzisa ubuchule bokubonisa.
Isibuko sakho sokuhlambela sinokukunceda ukwazi ukuba ubuso bakho bubukeka njani kwaye ukuba ukulungele ukuthatha umhlaba. Ngendlela efanayo, iqabane lakho linokukwazisa ukuba uza njani kunxibelelwano lwakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha into esithetha ukuyithetha iyaqondwa kwaye iqondwe ngabanye ngendlela eyahluke ngokupheleleyo.
Ke Ukubukisa kunokuba yinto efanelekileyo yokunxibelelana kobudlelwane ukuba izibini zenze ngcono kwaye zicacise incoko kunye neqabane lakho njengoko nibuza imibuzo elula enje "Uthetha ukuthini ngale nto?" okanye "Le ndiyivayo ukuba uyithetha ..."
6. Gcina unxibelelwano - ngokoqobo
Unxibelelwano lwakho lunokukhuthazeka kakhulu xa ninxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, nibambene ngezandla, okanye ngokulula ubeke ingalo yakhe emagxeni akhe ngelixa isandla sakhe sisemlenzeni wakho.
Xa ninokungavisisani okanye ingxabano, impendulo yakho yemvelo kukurhoxa kwaye ushiye omnye komnye.
Kwixesha elilandelalayo zama ukusondela ngabom kwaye ubone ukuba kuyanceda na ukunxibelelana ngendlela enobuntu kunye nothando ngakumbi.
7. Cacisa malunga nento oyifunayo
Kubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo bomtshato obuphilileyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba ufunde ingqondo yeqabane lakho. Akulunganga ukulindela ukuba ayazi into oyifunayo okanye oyifunayo ngamaxesha onke.
Endaweni yokuthetha ngokucacileyo kwaye ucacise malunga nezinto ozifunayo. Thetha ngendlela onokwabelana ngayo ngomthwalo ukuze omnye wenu angaziva ethwele umthwalo.
Kwaye yazisa omnye komnye ukuba loluphi uhlobo lokuphatha okanye lokuphuma kunokwenza uzive uthandwa kwaye uthandwa. Emva koko unethuba elingcono kakhulu lokwanelisa ulindelo lomnye kunye nokufumana ukwaneliseka emtshatweni wakho.
8. Zixabise iinkumbulo zakho
Fumana imifanekiso yenu nobabini eyathathwa ngexesha leholide ekhethekileyo okanye ngomhla owuthandayo kwaye ufumane indlela yokuyibhiyozela.
Mhlawumbi ukwincwadi yokubhala okanye mhlawumbi uyila iinkumbulo zakho.
Kuthiwani malunga nokuzikhulisa kwaye zishicilelwe kwinqwelo yokuxhoma kwiindonga zakho? Okanye kwimag, kwimouse, okanye kwimagnethi yefriji apho ungabona kwaye ubonwabele yonke imihla.
Unxibelelwano lwakho luya kukhuthazeka, njengoko nithetha ngamaxesha amnandi enibe kunye.
9. Fundani into entsha kunye
Xa ufunda into entsha, izisa imvakalelo yokutsha kunye nethemba ebomini bakho.
Ukwenza izinto ezintsha kunye neqabane lakho kuluncedo ngakumbi njengoko ikunika umbane omtsha wonxibelelwano kwaye ikuvumela ukuba ubone iqabane lakho ngokukhanya okwahlukileyo.
Ukuba nobabini niyimidlalo, kuthekani ngokuthatha umdlalo omtsha kunye. Okanye ungathatha iiklasi zokupheka kwaye wonwabe ngokutya ukutya osele ukukwenzile. Mhlawumbi uziva uyile kwaye ufuna ukufunda indlela yokwenza ubugcisa okanye ubugcisa kunye.
10. Thandaza kunye
Olunye lolwalamano olulolona lubalulekileyo kunxibelelwano lwezibini kukuthandaza kunye. Njengoko uzisa iimfuno zakho phambi koMenzi wakho, uyakuziva ukhuseleko kunye noxolo lokwazi ukuba awusokoli wedwa.
Njengokuba nobabini nijonge phezulu kunye, niyakwazi ukuya phambili ngendlela engcono, nibambene ngezandla, kwaye ninxibelelana namanye amanyathelo onke endlela.