Umxholo
- Impembelelo yokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo
- Kutheni ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo kuxhaphake kangaka?
- Akukho 'ukukopela' kuba akukho 'ngesondo'
Ukunyaniseka yinto elula. Umntu othile wenza isigqibo sokuphuma ngaphandle kobudlelwane babo bokuqala. Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo akunakusikwa ngokucacileyo kuba ukona akusebenzi nje kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo akubonakali ngathi kukwaphula umthetho konke konke.
Uluvo lokunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo lunokusebenza kubudlelwane beplato- nokuba ngabantu besini esifanayo okanye abesini esahlukileyo-kunye nemisebenzi, umsebenzi, ii-exs, abantakwenu, usapho olwandisiweyo, izinto zokuzonwabisa kunye nabantwana. Kukho iqela labantu abatshatileyo kwi-East Coast ababhekisela kubo njengabahlolokazi beWall Street okanye abahlolokazi. Lowo ngumzekelo wokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo ekuphakameni.
Impembelelo yokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo
Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo kuyo nayiphi na imeko apho inqanaba lokungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo kwelinye iqabane liphazamisa ukukhulisa inkalo ethile yobudlelwane bokuqala. Lo mgama weemvakalelo uthintela iqabane ekubeni libekho. Ichaphazela nomgangatho wobudlelwane xa uwonke.
Ngokucacileyo, olona hlobo lucacileyo lokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo lubandakanya omnye umntu. Nokuba usondele kufutshane, okanye ukude, loo mntu unyanzela okanye azinikele kulwalamano lobuqhetseba okanye ubudlelwane bokwabelana ngesondo nomnye umntu. Ngokusisiseko, kukutyunyuzwa kubuyiselwe, kodwa kungakhange kwenziwe.
Kutheni ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo kuxhaphake kangaka?
Izinto ezimbalwa ziyinyani: okokuqala, ukuvela konxibelelwano kunye nokukwazi ukunxibelelana naye nabani na, naphina apho kulonyuse kakhulu ithuba lokungathembeki ngaphakathi. Okwesibini, indalo yomntu yile yokuba, xa ingashiywanga ingakhange iqwalaselwe kwaye xa inikwa ithuba, eli thuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, liya kuxhamla.
Enye into ekufuneka uyiqwalasele ngumbono wonke wokunqongophala, okanye, ukwenza ibinzana, 'ukungabikho kwenza intliziyo ikhule ithande'. Kwimeko yokunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwabantu, kufana kakhulu, 'ukungabikho kudala ibali elithandabuzekayo nelithandanayo elithenga entliziyweni'. Ukuqhubeka konxibelelwano lwe-elektroniki kuyaluqinisa olu hlobo lobudlelwane kwaye kuqhubela phambili ukukhuthaza ukugqwethwa kwalo. Ngokudabukisayo, ngelixa ukungabikho komthandi kukonyusa umnqweno, ukuqina komthandi-kude-kude kumguqula loo mntu abe sisiyobisi.
Ke, kukho iindlela-ukugqithisa kokubanakho ukunxibelelana-kunye nethuba, eliqhutywa, ngokuyinxenye, kukunxibelelana kakhulu kunxibelelwano.
Ngaphandle kwesizathu esivakalayo umntu anokuba naso sokuphuma ngaphandle kobudlelwane bakhe bokuqala, zintathu izinto ezibonakala ziphambili kukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo:
- Uloyiko
- Ukhuseleko
- Ibhalansi bayabetha omnye komnye
Uloyiko loloyiko lokungafuni ukubanjwa 'wenze into' efihliwe kukukhohlisa kokhuseleko olwenziwe ngokungathandekiyo 'ungenzi nto'.
Beka ngokwale bhalansi, ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo kuyacaca. Akukho soyikiso sokubanjwa kunye nomntu osebenza naye, umntu ogcina umntwana okanye usonkontileka, ngokungafaniyo nolwalamano olungekho mthethweni ngokwesondo. Ngapha koko, amathuba okuhlangana nomntu owadibana naye kwi-Intanethi emva kokujongana neqabane lakho, abantwana bakho, umsebenzi kunye nemisebenzi yasekhaya nayo iphantse yangabalulekanga. Ke, ubudlelwane be-cyber buhlala buvalelekile kubudlelwane beemvakalelo kwaye akukho nto iyenye.
Xa usiya ngqo ezantsi kwaye ngaphandle kwako nakuphi na ukuhlengahlengiswa, ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo kukubonisa ukuba ungumnqweno okanye umnqweno wokungabikho kubudlelwane bakho, ngelixa ungashiyi. Oko kuphazamiseka kuhleli entliziyweni yomcimbi, kwaye ikwachaza ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo njengento engafaniyo kwaphela, kodwa ubuncinci ekuhlaleni elingana, ukungathembeki ngokwesondo.
Akukho 'ukukopela' kuba akukho 'ngesondo'
Elinye icala lezinto eziguqukayo eziqhubeka nzima kukuba, kwiqabane elingathembekanga, akukho luvo lokwenyani ngenxa yokuba, engqondweni yakhe, akukho nto yenzekayo. Ngokucacileyo, akukho 'ukukopela' kuba akukho sini.
Ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo okungekho phakathi kwabantu kunokuthi- kwaye kuhlala kunjalo- kulungelelaniswa kude njengoko kufanelekile: iiyure ezinde, ukuphumla, ukusebenza ngaphandle, njl.njl.
Konke oku kushiya iqabane elinye likwimeko enomdla wokuba ujongane nawo wonke umsindo, ukwenzakala kunye nokwaliwa okunxulunyaniswa nokuthandana, ngelixa elinye lisusa nje abo bazivayo kwaye bengayifumani eyona nto inkulu. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, siqeqeshiwe ukususela kwiminyaka yobudala ukuba xa sidlala, kukho iziphumo. Uninzi lwethu luyayiqonda loo nto, yiyo yonke loo nto ukuba 'ndenza into ethile, kodwa andenzi nto, iphi ingozi kwaye uphendula' impikiswano ifumana imilenze.
Ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo kuyakhululwa kwiziphumo zomxhuzulane wokuziphatha kumhlaba ofanayo wokuba kutheni sithatha izinto zasimahla eofisini. Senza oko kuba ayonzakalisi mntu. Kodwa ayitshintshi loo nto yokuba iyeba. Ngokufanayo ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo nangona kunjalo kunokubonwa kodwa kuyakopa.