Umxholo
- 1. Yiba ngumntu okhulileyo
- 2. Khetha indawo eninokuthetha kuyo nobabini
- 3. Mnike ithuba lokuba athethe
- 4. Phelisa inqaku elilungileyo
- 5. Kunqande impazamo enye enkulu
Nokuba sele usebudlelwaneni iinyanga ezininzi okanye iminyaka eliqela, ukwehlukana nentombi yakho hayi into elula ukwenza. Useneemvakalelo ngaye, nokuba zinobuhlobo kuphela, kwaye ungoyena mntu wokugqibela onqwenela ukumenzakalisa. Kodwa uyazi ngokunzulu kumbindi wakho ukuba lixesha lokuba uqhubeke.
Ke, funda indlela yokwahlukana nentombi yakho ngaphandle kokwenza imeko ibe mbi kakhulu kuni nobabini.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, awusajonganga phambili ekuchitheni ixesha kunye neqabane lakho, kunye nelakho imihla ibe yinto yesiqhelo kwaye ukunqongophala kwentlantsi oko ekuqaleni kukudibanise. Uzamile ukulungisa izinto, kodwa akukho nto itshintshileyo.
Ke, kunjalo ixesha lokuthi sala kakuhle. Makhe sihlolisise ezinye zeendlela zokwahlukana nentombazana oyintombazana enokuthi, ngexa ingazange ibe mnandi, inokwenza oku kwahlukana kube buhlungu kancinane.
Okokuqala, makhe sive kubafazi abambalwa abanamacebo okwabelana ngawo UNGENZI njani ukwahlukana nentombi yakho.
Oku kulandelayo “musa ukukwenza” kuluhlu lwe "Dos and Don'ts" xa wohlukana nentombi yakho.
- Musanjeghost intombi yakho. Ufanele ukuba yinxalenye yencoko yokwahlukana.
- Musa ukwahlukana ngomnxeba, umbhalo, i-imeyile, okanye (uloyiko) ukutshintsha ubume bakho be-Facebook "bodwa". Oku akunantliziyo, ligwala kwaye kukrwada. Kubonisa ukunqongophala okukhulu kwentlonipho kumntu owawukhe wasondela kuye. Ukwahlukana kufuneka kwenziwe buqu, nokuba kunganzima kangakanani na ukuhambisa ezi ndaba zimbi ubuso ngobuso.
- Ungamvumeli ukuba afumanise ulahlwe ngomnye umntu. Mxelele ngokwakho.
- Ungaqali ukuthandana nomnye umfazi de ubugqibe ngokufanelekileyo ubudlelwane bakho nentombi yakho yangoku. Ufuna ukuvalwa, kwaye naye.
- Musa ukuxoka. Mxelele izizathu zokwenyani zokwahlukana. Musa ukuba ndlongondlongo, kodwa nyaniseka.
- Thabatha inyathelo lokuqala. Sukwenza into ebuthathaka ngokuba ukhohlakele, ukumcaphukisa ukuba akushiye. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo esingakhethiyo sokwahlukana nentombazana oyintombazana, dibana nale meko ingathandekiyo. Uninzi lwamadoda alunamsebenzi wokwenza njalo, kwaye bagqibela ngokwenza ngokungalunganga kuba bakhetha ukuba intombi yabo ibashiye kunokuba babe ngabaphembeleli boqhawulo-mtshato.
Ngoku, makhe siqwalasele i "dos" zendlela yokwahlukana kakuhle nentombazana.
Ukwahlukana kanjani nentombazana ngaphandle kokuyilimaza
1. Yiba ngumntu okhulileyo
Ukuba umdala ngokwaneleyo ukuba ube nobudlelwane obunentsingiselo, umdala ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungamisa ubudlelwane ngendlela yabantu abadala.
Oku kuthetha ukuba ulungele ukuba nencoko yobuso ngobuso kunye nentombi yakho ekufutshane uza kuba yiyo.
2. Khetha indawo eninokuthetha kuyo nobabini
Ingumbono olungileyo ukukhetha indawo engenantsingiselo inzima yokufanekisela omnye wenu. Ingayenza ingakulungeli ukudibana apho ubunomhla wakho wokuqala okanye enye indawo leyo ibamba iinkumbulo ezibalulekileyo.
Usenokungafuni ukwahlukana nayo nokuba yeyiphi na kumakhaya akho. Khetha indawo engathathi hlangothi Apho kungenakufane uphazanyiswe zizihlobo okanye ngabantu osebenza nabo. Qiniseka ukuba unokuba nencoko yabucala kwaye ingxolo engqonge ingxole kakhulu.
3. Mnike ithuba lokuba athethe
Xa wohlukana nentombi yakho, kubalulekile kuwe ukuba hamba phezu kwezizathu zakho, kodwa kwakhona makabe nethuba lokuthetha. Qiniseka ukuba umamela iimpendulo zakhe kwaye uvume ukuba uyamva.
Uya kuba nesidingo sokujongana nale nto umxelela yona, kwaye unetyala kuye lokumvumela ukuba aveze iimvakalelo zakhe.
4. Phelisa inqaku elilungileyo
Lungiselela into oza kuyithetha ukuze ukwazi ndihlangule le iindaba ezibuhlungu ngokuzolileyo. Qinisekisa ukuba uqala incoko yokwahlukana ngokumkhumbuza ukuba ngelixa unamaxesha amaninzi kulwalamano, unayo uthathe isigqibo sokuphelisa izinto.
Awudingi ukusebenzisa iklasikhi ethi “Asinguwe, ndim,” kodwa ungathetha into efana naleyo awonelisekanga lulwalamano lwakho kwakhona. Mkhumbuze lonto ungumntu obalaseleyo kwaye oko nilonwabele ixesha lenu kunye.
Kodwa ibali lakho liphelela apha kwaye konke onokukwenza ukumnqwenelela okuhle kodwa. Kuphephe naluphi na uhlaselo lomntu okanye ukugxekwa, inqaku kukwahlukana kakuhle ukuze nobabini nibe nakho hambela phambili nge imvakalelo yokuhlonipha omnye komnye.
5. Kunqande impazamo enye enkulu
Xa wohlukana nentombazana oyintombazana, zama ukuphepha ukwenza enye impazamo enkulu eyenziwa ngabantu abaninzi xa besaphula umtshato.
Ndiyathemba ukuba sisengabahlobo. ” Eyakho Ukwahlukana kufuneka kube kokokugqibela, Ukuthembisa ubuhlobo kwixa elizayo kunokuba yingozi. Inokulahlekisa intombi yakho ukuba icinge ukuba ngenye imini ninokubuyelana. Inokuba yingozi kuwe njengoko unqwenela ukuqala ubomi obutsha, ngaphandle kwamaqhina kubudlelwane obudala.
Kungenzeka ukuba xa uqala ukuthandana kwakhona, intombi entsha ayiyi kuthanda ukuba ugcine ubuhlobo kunye nentombi yangaphambili.
Ke sukuthembisa lonto niya kuhlala nizihlobo. Ayifane isebenze ukuba ibe luncedo kulo naliphi na iqela. Ukwahlukana kufuneka kuqinisekiswe, kugqitywe, kucoceke kwaye kucace. Nantoni na eyenye iyidaka imeko kwaye yenza izinto zibe nzima kunokuba zikhona.
Yiba lilo isoka eliya kuhlala likhumbula ngothando, nokuba izinto azikhange zisebenze ekugqibeleni.