Umxholo
- Umdlalo wexhoba
- Ukukhohlisa
- Uhlobo olungakhuselekanga
- Kutheni le nto abantu bezidibanisa nabantu abufihlakeleyo?
Sonke ukusa kumlinganiselo othile sisongelwe kwiziqu zethu. Sonke maxa wambi sikhe sibambeke kwintlungu yethu kangangokuba siye sibajongele phantsi abanye. Kwaye loo nto ngumntu kuphela kuwe.
Nangona kunjalo, ii-narcissists ezifihlakeleyo ngabantu abazive ngathi ngamaxhoba kuzo zonke iimeko. Baza kukwenza ubasizele. Olu lolona hlobo lunzima lwe-narcissist ukuzibona njengoko ingeyiyo into efana nomfanekiso oqhelekileyo we-narcissist onawo engqondweni. Awuyi kubafumana ukuba bazithande. Ngaphezu koko, uya kuvelana nabo. Unokuzifumana ngandlela thile uxanduva lwabo. Kwaye sisicwangciso sabo sonke somdlalo.
Yindlela abantu abaxhoba ngayo kumaxhoba abo.
Umdlalo wexhoba
Uya kuqaphela into enye eqhelekileyo kwii-narcissists ezifihlakeleyo kwaye abananto ngaphandle kwamava amabi. Bonke ubudlelwane, ubuhlobo baphela kakubi kubo kwaye ihlala iyimpazamo yomnye umntu.
Aba bantu baya kuzisa ingxelo eguqulweyo ngononophelo yamabali malunga nexesha labo elidlulileyo ababephathwa kakubi ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kuphilile engqondweni ukubuza, kunokwenzeka njani ukuba wonke umntu olapha phandle enze into embi kuwe ngaphandle kokuba uxhokonxe impendulo okanye ngandlela thile uxanduva lwayo. Kuphela kuxa uthetha nabantu abakhe okanye abakw ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist efihlakeleyo apho uyakuqonda ukuba babanda kangakanani kwaye babaxhaphaze njani aba bantu.
Abangamaxhoba, kodwa balunge kakhulu ekuqinisekiseni ukuba bangabo!
Ukukhohlisa
Zezona zibalaseleyo ekusebenziseni ngobuqhetseba. Baza kusebenzisa uvelwano lwakho njengesixhobo ngokuchasene nawe. Kuqhelekile ukuqaphela ukuba abantu abakw ubudlelwane kunye ne-cover narcissists bahlala bengabantu abanovelwano kakhulu.
Bawela kumabali ama-exes abusive, abazali abanogonyamelo kunye nawo onke amanye ubuxoki bokufihla i-narcissist uyabondla.
I-covert narcissists zihlala zenza umqobo phakathi kwenyani kunye nobuxoki abondla abantu.
Abayi kukuvumela ukuba ubone ngaphaya koko kuba bona bahlala kumbhobho wenguqulo yabo yokwenyani. Baza kuba nomsindo ukuba umbuzo wakho kukunyaniseka kwamabali abo okanye ukuba ubenza babone iimpazamo zabo kule meko.
Ukubuya, baya kukwenza uzive ungalunganga xa ubabiza okanye ungaziqondi.
Uhlobo olungakhuselekanga
Ukuguqula iiNarcissists kukhuseleke kakhulu.
Bahlala bekhuphisana naye wonke umntu ngenkangeleko, kwimpumelelo yezemali, njl. Uza kubafumana bethelekisa ukonzakala kwabo nokwenzakala kwabanye abantu okanye ukwenzakala kwakho kwaye akukho nto isondela kwesihogo abadlule kuso.
Ngapha koko, bahlala benomntu onetyala ngokusilela kwabo. Abayi kuze bazamkele iimpazamo zabo okanye ukhetho lwabo olubi. Baza kuhlala begxeka abantu ebomini babo okanye ukusilela kwabo kwezixhobo.
Oku kwenza ukuba ubukho babo kunye nabuphi na ubudlelwane kunye nabo bunetyhefu. Njengoko bengenakuze bonwabe kwizinto ozifezileyo kwaye banokukwenza uzive ungonwabanga xa wonwabile xa bebandezeleka.
Kutheni le nto abantu bezidibanisa nabantu abufihlakeleyo?
Impendulo yalo mbuzo inzima kakhulu. Lo mbandela awukho mnyama okanye umhlophe kodwa ngwevu. Abantu baziva betsala kukufihla ii-narcissists njengoko ekuqaleni babonakala ngathi ngabantu abalungileyo abahamba ngexesha elibi. Baya kuthi, nangona kunjalo, bakuxhaphaze ngokupheleleyo ngamabali abo angacacanga kwaye bagwebe isigwebo sakho.
Ungaziva uluxanduva kubo ngenxa yokuba abantu abasebenza ngokufihlakeleyo bayakukhokelela ekubeni ukholelwe ukuba nguwe kuphela olungileyo ebomini babo.
Kungathabatha ixesha elide ukuqonda ukuba ulwalamano lunokutsalwa njani ngokwe-narcissist efihlakeleyo. Aba bantu bafana nezidementi, bayalususa ulonwabo kuwe. Ngokwesiqhelo, abantu banamathela ngenxa yokuba baziva bencamathele kubo ngokweemvakalelo.
Nangona kunjalo, kungekudala ngokwaneleyo bafumanise ukuba bayabahlukumeza ngokwasemphefumlweni okanye banokuhlala bodwa kuba beziva ngathi banokunceda i-narcissist efihlakeleyo. Nangona lonke ixesha uzama ukubonisa impazamo bayazenza uzifumanisa utyholwa ngokungaziqondi iintlungu abanazo.
Ubudlelwane okanye ubuhlobo nomntu ozifihlayo kunokuba yinto edinisayo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokomzimba.
Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba wazi indlela abaziphethe ngayo aba bantu. Kwaye ukuba uhoya le miqondiso ungasindiswa kwiminyaka yokuhlushwa ngokweemvakalelo.