Umxholo
- 1. Yiba luhlobo lomntu ofuna ukuba liqabane lakho libe
- 2. Yiba noxanduva kwaye uqinisekise iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho
- 3. Gxila ekusombululeni iingxaki kunye
- UJustin Lioi, uLCSW
- 4. Nika ingqalelo kwimizabalazo yobudlelwane bakho
- 5. Mphathe umlingane wakho ngendlela owawenza ngayo ekuqaleni
- 6. Sebenzisa uNyaka oMtsha ukujongana nemicimbi yobudlelwane yakudala
- 7. Beka iinjongo zakho kwinjongo ongayikhathalelanga
- Bandakanya iqabane lakho kwizigqibo zonyaka omtsha
- 9. Susa ukungakhathali kwaye usebenzise isimilo esakhayo
- 10. Ukwazisa, ukuqonda nokuthathela ingqalelo
- 11. Phuhlisa ulwazi lwakho
- 12. Beka phambili imiba ethile kulwalamano lwakho
- 13. Thetha neqabane lakho malunga neenjongo zenu kunye
- 14. Ukuzimisela ukubona ubudlelwane ukuba buyintoni na
- 15. Bonisa iqabane lakho ukuba uyakhathala
- 16. Zixolele kwaye ushiye ixesha elidlulileyo
- 17. Faka imikhwa elungileyo yonxibelelwano
- 18. Ithuba lokuthatha uluhlu lwezinto ezintsha noluthembekileyo
- 19. Zibandakanye kwiingxoxo ezisempilweni
- 20. Yeka uloyiko
- 21. Yazisa utshintsho ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho
- 22. Chonga amandla olwalamano lwakho
Ukuqala konyaka omtsha kuzisa umdla, inkuthazo kunye nethemba elitsha lotshintsho oluqinisekileyo kubomi bethu.
Siyazibophelela ekubandakanyeni izinto ezintsha kunye nemikhwa ukuphucula indlela yethu yokuphila, impilo kunye nokuba sempilweni. Siyeke ukukhetha okungagugiyo kunye nobutyhefu esikwenzileyo ngaphambili ukwenza indlela yobomi entsha.
Nangona kunjalo, kuluhlu lwezisombululo zethu, sigcina ukugxila kwethu kuthi.
Asiyiqondi loo nto sisodwa asinakubenza ubomi bethu busempilweni kwaye banelise; okusingqongileyo, abantu abasingqongileyo nabo banomdla, ngakumbi amaqabane ethu.
Ulwalamano lwethu, njengazo zonke ezinye izinto, ludinga ixesha kunye nomzamo ukuze lukhule.
Lo nyaka mtsha, zimisele ukuba lolona hlobo luhle ngokwakho kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okuphucula ubudlelwane bakho, ukoyisa imiba yobudlelwane.
Jonga ke ukuba utshintsho oluncinci lunokuwenza njani umahluko omkhuluce:
Thatha amanyathelo Chonga imiba yobudlelwane efihlakeleyo wena neqabane lakho enisokola nayo kwaye ufumane iindlela zokoyisa.
Iingcali ziveza indlela onokuyilungisa ngayo imiba yobudlelwane obudala kunye nokuphefumla ubomi obutsha kulwalamano lwakho.
1. Yiba luhlobo lomntu ofuna ukuba liqabane lakho libe
UCatherine DeMonte, uLMFT
Abantu bahlala besithi ubudlelwane obulungileyo ngama-50- 50. Andivumelani kwaphela. Ngu 100/100.
Xa umntu ngamnye ezisa kulwalamano 100%, kwaye engalindanga omnye enze inyathelo lokuqala njengowokuqala ukucela uxolo, owokuqala ukuthi "ndiyakuthanda," owokuqala ukuphelisa ukuthula, yile nto yenza intsebenziswano elungileyo.
Bobabini abantu bezisa okona kulungileyo etafileni.
Unyaka omtsha unokuba lixesha elimnandi lokwenza oku emtshatweni wakho. Yiba luhlobo lomntu ofuna ukuba liqabane lakho libe. Oko ubeka ukukhanya kukukhula. Khangela iindlela zokuzisa ukukhanya emtshatweni wakho!
2. Yiba noxanduva kwaye uqinisekise iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho
UPia Johnson, uLMSW
Xa usabelana ngemiba kubudlelwane, thetha ngawe, amanyathelo angalunganga owenzileyo, kunye nezinto onokuzenza ngokwahlukileyo kwikamva.
Zama ukungasoli, ukugxeka, okanye ukuphinda wenze iimeko ezindala kunye neqabane lakho. Sebenzisa le ncoko njengesixhobo sokufunda ukuphilisa amanxeba adlulileyo, ukwenza iziphumo ezintsha kwimiba yakudala, kunye nokwenza uhambo lwakho lobomi kunye.
Ngokuqinisekiswa, hlonipha iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho kwaye ubavumele ukuba babelane ngamava abo. Sukuzikhusela kwaye ubagxothe kwisifo semfazwe.
Ukuqinisekiswa yindlela yokubonisa ukuba uyazixabisa iingcinga neemvakalelo zeqabane lakho njengoko zibabona.
Oku kuvumela ukuba semngciphekweni okuphezulu, ukuthembana, kunye nokusondelelana, okuya kudala ubudlelwane obomeleleyo kulwalamano. Khumbula ukugxila kwikamva; Oku malunga nokwenza isicwangciso esitsha soNyaka oMtsha.
3. Gxila ekusombululeni iingxaki kunye
UJustin Lioi, uLCSW
Unontlalontle oLayisenisiweyo weKlinikhiZeziphi iingxaki obukade uzama ukuzisombulula ngokwakho eziyimicimbi yobudlelwane?
Mhlawumbi unesikhalazo ngento ongayenziyo — into ejikeleze indlu, ebhedini, yomsebenzi wakho — kwaye uye wenza icebo elihle “lokuyilungisa.”
Kuyamangalisa ukuba sizama kangaphi ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu oluchaphazela ulwalamano lwethu sonke.
Masisebenzise uNyaka oMtsha ukuxhomekeka omnye komnye.
Akuninzi kakhulu apho ucela iqabane lakho ukuba lithathe umthwalo, kodwa lanele ngokwaneleyo ukuze impumelelo yobudlelwane bakho ingekho emagxeni akho wedwa.
4. Nika ingqalelo kwimizabalazo yobudlelwane bakho
UVICKI BOTNICK, MA, MS, LMFT
Ungathini xa uqala unyaka omtsha unika ulwalamano lwakho ingqalelo engaphezulu kwesinqe sakho okanye iinjongo zomsebenzi?
Uninzi lwezigqibo zethu zinento yokwenza nathi, nokuba sinethemba lomzimba oyisidambisi okanye sichithe ixesha elincinci sixhumane neefowuni zethu.
Kodwa ukuba sichithe nesiqingatha samandla kwiqabane lethu, singakwazi jonga iingxaki ezindala ngombono omtsha kwaye ufumane amandla ahlaziyiweyo okusebenza kwimiba yakudala.
- Ungasithatha siphi isigqibo ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bebubalulekile kuphela?
- Ngaba oku kungabutshintsha njani ubuzali bakho, ukuqhuba kwakho ngokwesondo, ukuthanda kwakho ubomi?
Ungayenza le ndlela nangayiphi na indlela oyifunayo, ukusuka kubunzima ukuya ekukhanyeni nasekuzonwabiseni. Mhlawumbi ungathatha isigqibo sokufumana i-Therapist kwaye ekugqibeleni ujongane neepateni ezigcinwe ixesha elide ezikutsalayo.
Okanye endaweni yoko, usenokuzibhambathisa ukwenza iziqholo zothando ebomini bakho.
Olunye uluvo lulula njengokuqala umsebenzi omtsha kunye, njengeklasi yewayini-kunye nepeyinti okanye uhambo lokunyuka amatye.
Naliphi na kwezi ngcamango linokunika ubudlelwane bakho amandla kunye nokukunceda ukuba ugxile komnye nomnye ngokuqina okuhlaziyiweyo.
Ukwenza izigqibo zobudlelwane yindlela ekhawulezayo yokwandisa unxibelelwano, ukusondelelana kunye nolonwabo, izitshixo ezintathu kubudlelwane obuhlala buhleli nobuzalisekayo.
5. Mphathe umlingane wakho ngendlela owawenza ngayo ekuqaleni
UAllison Cohen, MA, MFT
Wonke umntu ulivile ilizwi, "Unyaka omtsha, omtsha," kodwa oku kunokusebenza kubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuqalisa kwakhona kunokwenzeka nangaliphi na ixesha, kodwa ithemba elihlaziyiweyo lonyaka omtsha linokuba lithuba elifanelekileyo lokuziqhelanisa nokuziphatha okudala, okulityelweyo kunye nokwabelana ngesiqu sakho. Chaneli indlela ophathe ngayo iqabane lakho kwiinyanga ezintathu zokuqala zobudlelwane kwaye kwangoko wenze imephu yendlela yokuqhagamshela kwakhona kunye nokuhlaziya.
6. Sebenzisa uNyaka oMtsha ukujongana nemicimbi yobudlelwane yakudala
UJulie Brams, MA, uLMFT
Kunqabile ukuba, ukuba kunjalo, sondela kuNyaka oMtsha ngengqondo yabaQalayo okanye akukho kulindelwa.
Endaweni yoko, sijongana nentsha ngento esele siyazi kwaye silindele ukuba iphinde yenzeke. Apha kulele i-conundrum kunye nempendulo yokujongana neyakudala entsha. Ngokukodwa, sifuna ukufunda ukujongana neengxaki zethu ezindala kulwalamano lwethu nembono entsha, ngengqondo yabaQalayo.
Sifuna ukwenza utshintsho kwimbono yethu yakudala. Ngaphandle koko, ubudlelwane bethu buza kudlala ngokuqhelekileyo, nangona sisenza eso sigqibo sokwenza izinto ngokwahlukileyo kulo nyaka.
Inyathelo lokuqala kukwamkela okulindelweyo kwakudala, nangaphambi kokuba ungene nzulu kwindlela yokulungisa iingxaki zobudlelwane okanye indlela yokulungisa ubudlelwane obungaphumeleli.
Nje ukuba ulubone ulindelo oludala, nceda uthathe umzuzwana ukuchonga ukuba leliphi elona xabiso lakho lixhume kulo.
Xa amaxabiso ethu angakhange afezekiswe, siyaba noxinzelelo, sidandatheke, okanye siphikisane njengoko sizama ukwenza ukuba iimfuno zethu ziqondwe liqabane lethu.
Ukuqonda amaxabiso asisiseko, umzekelo, ukhuseleko, intuthuzelo, okanye ixesha elisemgangathweni, kunokunceda ukuqhuba indlela entsha yengxoxo yakudala.
Jonga ukujonga ukuba amaxabiso akho kunye nexabiso lamaqabane akho ahambelana.
Unokufumana amaxabiso aphikisanayo njenge isidingo sakho sokuba wedwa ukukhawulelana nemfuno yeqabane lakho yexesha lokudibana.
Omabini la maxabiso "alungile" kodwa kufuneka kuthethathethwane ngawo. Buzanani ukuba ninokusombulula njani ingxaki kunye ukuhlangabezana amaxabiso akho.
Ukusuka kwimbono yokuqonda, uNyaka oMtsha usivumela ukuba sihlangabezane nemiceli mngeni yobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo ngombono omtsha okanye Ingqondo yabaQalayo.
Yiba nomdla kwakhona malunga neemfuno zeqabane lakho kwaye uvule ukuphonononga iimpendulo kwimibuzo, "indlela yokujongana neengxaki zobudlelwane" okanye "indlela yokusombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane."
Ngaphandle kokukhumbula oku, ubudlelwane bethu buya kudlala ngokuqhelekileyo nanjengoko sisenza eso sigqibo sokwenza izinto ngokwahlukileyo kulo nyaka.
7. Beka iinjongo zakho kwinjongo ongayikhathalelanga
U-Lauren E. Taylor, LMFT
Unyaka Omtsha lixesha elihle lokuqala ngokutsha kunye nolwalamano oluhlaziyiweyo.
Lo ingangumzuzu wokuzama into entsha ngokudibeneyo enokubuyisela unxibelelwano lwakho kwaye izise ithemba kulwalamano lwakho.
Sebenzani kunye ukuseka umdlalo wokuzonwabisa omtsha, setha izinto zakho kunye kwinjongo obukade uyibeka kwisitovu esingasemva, okanye uthathe ixesha lokuya kukhenketha indawo ekufutshane ekuhambeni ngeempelaveki. Nantoni na oyenzayo, sebenzani kunye njengeyunithi ukucwangcisa iphulo lakho elitsha.
Olu cwangciso kunye nobunye kuya kukunika ixesha kunye nonxibelelwano olufunekayo ukuze uqhubele phambili kwaye ulume utshintsho kubudlelwane bakho. Eli lelona xesha lilungileyo loku fumana inkxaso yenkampani yesithathu enokukunceda ukuba ujikeleze ubudlelwane ngendlela ekhuthaza ukukhula kwenu kunye.
Tyala imali kwiiseshoni ezithile zonyango, ukuya kwindibano yokubuyela umva kwesibini okanye ukubuyelana kwakhona nomfundisi odibana nawe esibingelelweni.
Bandakanya iqabane lakho kwizigqibo zonyaka omtsha
U-Yana Kaminsky, MA, uLMFT
Izigqibo zoNyaka oMtsha zihlala zinxulumene neenjongo zomntu ngamnye, ngaphandle kweqabane. Ke ngoko, faka iqabane lakho kufuneka liqale uluhlu.
Ukuba ubhekisa kwimicimbi yakho yobudlelwane njengakudala, tshintsha ingoma; khangela amandla akho: ngaba uliqela elifanelekileyo?
Ungaze uwajongele phantsi amandla ezinto ezincinci: ukuncoma, ukutya, isipho ngaphandle kwesihlandlo. Kwaye ngethemba, uxabiso kunye nokuhlekisa kuyakuhlala kukuwe!
9. Susa ukungakhathali kwaye usebenzise isimilo esakhayo
UGqirha Debra Mandel
Ukuqala konyaka omtsha kuzisa inkuthazo kunye nesithembiso sotshintsho kubantu abaninzi.
Kodwa ukuze ubudlelwane bethu buphuculwe kwaye singabe sisaqhubeka nemicimbi efanayo ehlaziyiweyo, kufuneka siyiqonde into esiyenzayo ukudala ukungakhathali kubomi bethu kwaye sebenzisa utshintsho olusebenzayo nolwakhayo kwindlela yokuziphatha.
Ngokwenza njalo, isiphumo esahlukileyo nesilunge ngakumbi siya kutyatyamba! Ke qala ukutyala imbewu entsha ngoku!
10. Ukwazisa, ukuqonda nokuthathela ingqalelo
UTimothy Rogers, MA, LMFT
Ewe inzulu.
Nangona kunjalo, lo ingangunyaka apho ungafikelela khona ukuphilisa kwiindlela ezindala ezifundileyo zonxibelelwano olubi, indawo yokuhlala yabanye (kwaye unomsindo ngayo), ngokunjalo “Abantu abakholekileyo” okanye nokuzama ukulawula abanye.
Njani? Ukwazisa. Ukuqonda, ukuCamngca, ukuthathela ingqalelo. Kodwa ayisiyiyo yabanye kuphela onobudlelwane nabo, kuni, kuqala emva koko abanye, ngokulandelelana.
Zonke iingxaki kubudlelwane bethu zinesidibanisi esinye: Iimvakalelo.
Ndiyazi, “duh!” Kodwa qaphela indlela esaziswa ngayo kunye nendlela iimvakalelo zethu kunye nomjelo wazo, iimvakalelo ezaziphethwe ngayo kusapho lwethu lwemvelaphi, ziya kukuxelela konke odinga ukukwazi malunga namava akho amva kunye nembali yabantu abadala kulwalamano kunye nobunzima obulandelayo bobudlelwane.
Ukungachazi khanyisa indawo ebonakalayo kubudlelwane bakho neengxaki zangoku, eya kuthi ikuncede ikhokelele kubudlelwane bexesha elizayo obungekazaliseki.
Nje ukuba wazi malunga nosapho olunempembelelo emangalisayo yamava aneemvakalelo kunye neepateni zokungoneliseki kobudlelwane obulandelayo, uyazi ngokuthe ngqo indlela yokujongana nokuphilisa kunye nokulahla ubudala, iingxaki zobudlelwane eziqhelekileyo hayi kulo nyaka kuphela kodwa nakwezinye yobomi bakho!
11. Phuhlisa ulwazi lwakho
UDeryl Goldenberg, PhD
Uninzi lwethu alunazo izakhono zokuba sibe nolwalamano esilufunayo kunye nokusola omnye umntu ngokungoneliseki kwethu.
Kutheni ungajonganga olo tyekelo kwaye ujonge ekuphuhliseni ulwazi lwethu kunye nokukwazi kwakho silawule ukwenziwa kwethu kwakhona kwaye woyise iingxaki kubudlelwane? Ukufunda Ulwimi lokuba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo lunceda kakhulu.
12. Beka phambili imiba ethile kulwalamano lwakho
UGqirha Mimi Shagaga
Kwabaninzi, uNyaka oMtsha unika ithuba lokuqala ngokutsha. Ngoku yenze ixesha elifanelekileyo lokusebenza ngeengxaki zobudlelwane.
Izibini, inokuba lixesha lokuba vavanya kwaye ubeke phambili phambili imiba yolwalamano lwabo. Ukucinga ngonyaka ophelileyo kunokunceda izibini zichonge ubudlelwane okanye iipateni abanqwenela ukuphuma kuzo. Banokuthatha isigqibo sokuba loluphi utshintsho ekufuneka balwenzile kunye noseto kunye.
13. Thetha neqabane lakho malunga neenjongo zenu kunye
UMarcie B.Scranton, uLMFT
Ukuqala kukaJanuwari kunokuziva ngathi ukubuyela esiqhelweni kwaye kufana nokubanjwa kweholide. Kodwa ikwabonisa isileyiti esicocekileyo.
Endaweni yezigqibo, qala unyaka omtsha ngokuthetha neqabane lakho malunga neenjongo zakho.
Jonga indlela abenza ngayo umgca, bathathe isitokhwe, kwaye bafune uncedo xa kufuneka iingcebiso ezingaphezulu kwiingxaki zobudlelwane kunye nezixhobo ezifanelekileyo zokucombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane ngaphandle kokuqhekeka.
14. Ukuzimisela ukubona ubudlelwane ukuba buyintoni na
UTamika Lewis, uLCSW
Njengengcali yezigulo zengqondo, ndifumanisa ukuba uNyaka oMtsha lelona xesha libalulekileyo kule nto ndiyibiza ngokuba “ukucoca ubudlelwane bakho kwikhabhathi ngelixa usombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane.”
Ndiyayithanda intetho ka-Annie Dillard ethi, “Indlela esiyichitha ngayo imihla yethu, yindlela esibusebenzisa ngayo ubomi bethu.”Olunye usuku lokuhlala neengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zihlala zigcwele ingqumbo ebomini. Isitshixo ku ukucoca imikhwa yakudala kubudlelwane bakho uzimisele ukubona ubudlelwane ukuba buyintoni na. Qala ngokuzibuza le mibuzo ilandelayo:
- Ngaba ikhona into endiyifunayo kolu lwalamano ndingayifumaniyo?
- Ngaba ndizazisile iimfuno zam ngendlela evulekileyo, ethembekileyo, nechanekileyo?
- Ngaba ndinikezele ngokufumana oko ndikufunayo?
15. Bonisa iqabane lakho ukuba uyakhathala
UGqirha Gary Brown, Ph.D., LMFT, FAPA
Enye yezona ndlela zibalaseleyo onokukunceda ukulungisa imiba yobudlelwane obudala kukuqala usuku ngalunye ngokubuza iqabane lakho lo mbuzo ulandelayo:
"Ndingenza ntoni ukunceda ukwenza usuku lwakho lube ngcono namhlanje?"
Ukubuza nje lo mbuzo kubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba unguye ndinomdla wokwenene kwintlalo-ntle nakulonwabo lwabo.
16. Zixolele kwaye ushiye ixesha elidlulileyo
UElisha Goldstein, PhD
Unyaka oMtsha ngu ixesha lokuzixolela ixesha elidlulileyo, Ukuncama ithemba lexesha elidlulileyo, ukuphanda ukuba zeziphi iipateni ezingakhange zisisebenzele ke sinokufunda kubo, kwaye simeme ngentliziyo yethu yonke ukuba siqale kwakhona.
Ngokwenza oku, sinokufunda ukuba sisebenze ngakumbi kwaye sonwabe ngakumbi kubudlelwane bethu kulo nyaka!
17. Faka imikhwa elungileyo yonxibelelwano
UDeanna Richards, uLMHC
Unyaka oMtsha unokukunceda uphefumle ubomi kwaye ubuyisele ubuchule kubuhlobo bakho. Qala ngokuzibuza, “Yeyiphi imikhwa esiyenzileyo, kwaye isinceda njani ukuba sinxibelelane ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasemphefumlweni, ngokwesondo nangokomoya?”Yenza uluhlu lwayo yonke imikhwa yakho kwaye unqamle ezo zikususa kude ekunxibelelaneni.
Yeyiphi imikhwa emitsha onokuyifuna ukuyenza ukukunceda unxibelelane kwakhona kwezi ndawo zine? Mhlawumbi kudala ubusuku bomhla.
Mhlawumbi, ufuna ukuba namava amatsha kwigumbi lokulala, kwaye umkhwa omtsha uya kuba kukukhetha into kuluhlu lwakho "lokufuna ukuzama" inyanga nenyanga. Umkhwa omtsha unokuba bubusuku obunye ngeveki ukumamela okanye ukufunda into neqabane lakho kwaye emva koko wabelane ngeengcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho emva koko.
18. Ithuba lokuthatha uluhlu lwezinto ezintsha noluthembekileyo
UJoanna Smith, uMMS, uLPCC, uRN
Ngaba ubusoloko ngokuzimeleyo uzama ukutshintsha okanye ukulungisa umntu ebomini bakho ngelixa uzihoya iimfuno zakho?
Lo nyaka mtsha uvavanye ubudlelwane bakho nezi zinto kwaye wenze eyona nto ilungele wena neqabane lakho.
Oyena mntu unokumtshintsha nguwe kwaye kuthatha kuphela umntu omnye ukuba aphule iipateni ezindala!
Nika ulwalamano lwakho ukuqala kokukhaba uNyaka oMtsha-jika isipili ngaphakathi kwaye ube ngowakho uqobo.
19. Zibandakanye kwiingxoxo ezisempilweni
UDARLENE LANCER, LMFT, MA, JD
Kuqhelekile ukuba nengxabano kubudlelwane. Iminqweno kunye neemfuno ngokungangqubaniyo ukungqubana. Zikhumbuze ukuba unxibelelwano kukuqonda omnye komnye, hayi ukuba ulungile. Funda ngendlela ezinokuthi ngayo iingxabano zibe yinto elungileyo kulwalamano.
20. Yeka uloyiko
USUSAN QHUBA, LMFT
Ubudlelwane businika ithemba lekamva elimangalisayo, kwaye kwangaxeshanye, bavuselela uloyiko olunzulu lokuba singaphulukana nento esiyithandayo kakhulu.
Olu loyiko lunzulu lusibangela ukuba senze into ngokuchasene neqabane lethu kwaye sinokonakalisa ubudlelwane.
Uhlobo loloyiko esilusabelayo ukuba luvela kwiinkolelo zethu eziphambili, ke indlela yokuphelisa le ngxaki yile tshintsha iinkolelo zethu ezisikelwe umda ezigcinwe kwingqondo engekho zingqondweni.
21. Yazisa utshintsho ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho
UNATALIA BOUCHER, ILMFT
Abanye bethu bayathanda ukucinga ngunyaka omtsha njengexesha lokuqalisa ngokutsha nokuzisa utshintsho oluthile.
Eli ikwalixesha elifanelekileyo lokucinga malunga notshintsho onokulwenza neqabane lakho ukuphucula kunye nokuba nobudlelwane obuzalisekisayo.
Inyathelo lokuqala kukwenza uluhlu lwamandla obudlelane bakho, izinto ezenza ubudlelwane bakho bukhetheke, babonakale, kwaye babaluleke. Uninzi lwabantu lunobunzima kolu luhlu kuba kuhlala kulula ukucinga ngezinto ezingalunganga.
Nje ukuba wenze uluhlu, cinga ngezinto ongathanda ukuziphucula. Nalu uluhlu lwezimvo ...
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Njani ukulungisa ubuhlobo? Cinga ngonyango.
Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buhamba ngamaxesha anzima, unyaka omtsha lixesha elihle lokuqalisa unyango lwezibini.
Uncedo olufike ngexesha elifanelekileyo ngohlobo lwezibini zonyango okanye ukucebisa ngomtshato kukunceda uqaphele iingxaki zobudlelwane kunye nezisombululo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho alizimiselanga ukuzibophelela kwimisebenzi yezibini, unyango lomntu ngamnye luyanceda. Xa umntu omnye etshintsha, omnye kuya kufuneka alungelelanise, enze utshintsho kwimisebenzi yesi sibini.
Luvuyo kwiinguqu ezizayo kubudlelwane bakho kulo nyaka mtsha!
22. Chonga amandla olwalamano lwakho
ICYNTHIA BLOORE, M.S.
Cinga ngempumelelo yakho yobudlelwane-bekusenzeka ntoni, kwaye ubusenza ntoni emva koko kuyasebenza?
Ukuchonga amandla akho kuhlala sisiqalo esihle xa usenza utshintsho okanye usombulula ukungavisisani. Ukujolisa kumandla eqabane lakho kunokuzisa ubomi obutsha kunye nothando kubudlelwane bakho ngelixa woyisa iingxaki eziqhelekileyo zobudlelwane bexesha elide.