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Umxholo
- 1. Izimelabizo zibalulekile
- 2. Yiba khona
- 3. Qhubeka nokwazana
- 4. Chithani ixesha kunye kunye nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala
- 5. Zihoye
- 6. Yabelanani ngezinto zokuzonwabisa kunye
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho, amanqanaba othando luka-Eros anamandla. AmaGrike amandulo achaza u-Eros njengokuthabatheka kunye nomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni phakathi kwabantu ababini. Sifumana igama elithi 'erotic kwigama elithi eros.
Le chemistry yokuqala inokuhlala naphi na ukusuka kwinyanga enye ukuya kubude obungaphantsi, kuxhomekeke kubungakanani besibini esisebenza ukugcina umlilo uphila. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ihambile, inokwenza izinto zingabi mnandi kangako.
Ngeli xesha, isibini sinokukhetha ukwahlula ukuthanda ukufumana umntu omtsha ukuba sithande. Kodwa, ngaba oku kufuneka kube yindlela ephela ngayo? Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo!
Izibini zingenza uthando lwazo luhlale ixesha elide ebomini ukuba bazimisele ukubeka ixesha, umgudu kunye nokuzibophezela ekubeni kunye neqabane labo.
Ngaba uthando lwenene luyafa? Hayi ukuba nobabini amaqabane anizimisele ukubeka imizamo.
1. Izimelabizo zibalulekile
Ngaba u "We" okanye "I"?
Indlela izibini ezibona ngayo ubudlelwane bazo zinento yokwenza nokuba uthando lwabo luya kuhlala. Isifundo esapapashwa nguPsychol Ukuguga safumanisa ukuba izimelabizo zoqobo zinokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwimbambano yomtshato.
Abo basebenzise ibinzana elithi "Thina" njengokuthi "Siceba iholide" okanye "Siyayithanda indlu yethu kakhulu!" ngokuchaseneyo "ndiya eholideyini nomyeni wam / umfazi wam" okanye "Ndiyayithanda indlu yam" ibe nokwanda konxibelelwano olunqwenelekayo.
Olu phononongo luthi abo banamagama athi "thina" babenokuziphatha okuhle kwaye bangonwabi kwaphela kwaye behlise imithambo yentliziyo, ngelixa abo babethetha ngabo bodwa babonisa ukungaziphathi kakuhle ngokweemvakalelo kwaye baneliseko lomtshato oluphantsi.
Uthando lokwenene lukhona xa amaqabane ecinga njengeqela kwaye, kwangaxeshanye, angalahlekelwa yimvakalelo yokuzijonga kwinkqubo yesifo seSciososis.
2. Yiba khona
Isifundo sabantu abadala abangama-243 abatshatileyo safumanisa ukuba amaqabane achitha ixesha elininzi kwiifowuni zawo aphela engabahoyi abatshatileyo. Oku ngoku kubhekiswa kuko njengoku “phubting.” Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukubhuqa kunxibelelene ngokusondeleyo nokwanda koxinzelelo kunye nokwehla kokwoneliseka emtshatweni.
Ngexesha elizayo xa nizama ukunxibelelana njengesibini, sombulula umba, okanye nithethe nje ngemini yenu kunye, bonisa iqabane lakho ukuba abanikeli ngqalelo ngokubeka ifowuni yakho kude.
Ukukhuhla kunokubonakala ngathi yinto encinci, kodwa inamandla okwenza uthando lokwenyani lufe, nokuba ubusondele kangakanani kwiqabane lakho.
3. Qhubeka nokwazana
Amanani abonisa ukuba abantu abatshatileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba baqhawule umtshato emva kweminyaka esibhozo betshatile. Kutheni kunjalo?
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ekuqaleni, kwinqanaba lokuqala lobudlelwane obutsha, uthando lubonisa i-neurotransmitter ebizwa ngokuba yi-dopamine, evuselela indawo yolonwabo yengqondo. Oku, kudibene ne-serotonin, kukutsalela nzulu kwimincili yentabatheko.
Kodwa njengoko ixesha liqhubeka, iziphumo zedopamine ziqala ukuncipha. Oku kunokubangela isithukuthezi kulwalamano.
Enye indlela onokugcina ngayo iintlantsi ziphila kulwalamano lwakho kukuqhubeka nokwazi iqabane lakho.
Iingcaphuno zikaSchwartz,
"Yintoni egcina uthando luphilile kukwazi ukubona ukuba awumazi ngokwenyani iqabane lakho kwaye usafuna ukwazi kwaye usaqhubeka nokuhlola."
Buza iqabane lakho imibuzo. Usenokuba ukhe weva iimpendulo ngaphambili, kodwa buza ngomdla wokwenyani kwaye umazi kwakhona umlingane wakho. Usenokumangaliswa koko ukufundayo.
4. Chithani ixesha kunye kunye nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala
Ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye neqabane lakho kubaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni iintlantsi ziphila.
Izibini ezininzi ziyazuza ngokuba nobusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla. Obu bobunye ubusuku ngeveki (okanye ubuncinci, kanye ngenyanga) apho izibini zibeka umsebenzi ecaleni kwaye zibaleke ebantwaneni zichithe ixesha elininzi elifunekayo kunye njengamaqabane athandanayo, hayi nje abantu abahlala nabo okanye "umama notata. ” Xa kukho abantwana emtshatweni, yonke into ijikeleze abantwana. Ngokwenene ikwenza uzibuze, ingaba uthando lwenene luyafa xa abantwana bengena emfanekisweni? Inako ukuba awukhumbuli ngokwaneleyo.
Uphando olwenziwe ngezibonelelo zobusuku bomhla zafumanisa ukuba izibini ezazinomhla oqhelekileyo wobusuku zazingafane ziqhawule umtshato. Baye bafumana amanqanaba aphezulu othando, uthando, ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo kunye nokunyusa izakhono zonxibelelwano.
Olu phononongo luqaqambise ukuba izibini zixhamla kakhulu xa amadinga azo engaphezulu "kwesidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya."
Ukuzama izinto ezintsha kunye kwakuyeyona ndlela inkulu kakhulu yokuba izibini zihlale zivuya kwaye zixhumene.
Ayisiyiyo nje kuphela ukuba ininzi yeenzuzo zezempilo ezinje ngokuqiniswa kwempilo yentliziyo, uxinzelelo olusezantsi, kunye nokuphakama kwemood, kodwa izifundo zibonisa ukuba izibini ezinxibelelana ngesondo zinamanqanaba aphezulu okwoneliseka ngokwesini kunye nomgangatho ongcono womtshato.
5. Zihoye
Xa iqabane lakho likubona, ufuna ukuba bazive benomdla ngawe. Ufuna ukuba bazive benomdla kuwe ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Ke ngoko, kufanelekile ngaphandle kokutsho ukuba ufuna ukugcina umdla weqabane lakho kule minyaka idlulileyo, kufuneka ujonge ekuzinyamekeleni. Yenza izinto ezinje:
- Nxiba xa niphuma kunye
- Qhubeka nokuzilungisa
- Sebenzisa i-deodorant
- Nika ingqwalaselo kucoceko lomlomo
- Zilolonge rhoqo
Ezi ziziseko zokukhathalela inkangeleko yakho, kodwa ukuzikhathalela kuthetha ukugxila kwimpilo yakho yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo, nazo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo izibini ziyaxhamla xa zichitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye, kodwa ixesha lodwa libaluleke ngokulinganayo.
Uthando luphumelela ngcono xa abantu beliqonda ixabiso lokuba nendawo yabo kwaye, kwangaxeshanye, bayinike iqabane labo.
Ukuchitha ixesha ngaphandle ngamanye amaxesha kuya kunceda ukomeleza ukuqonda kwakho. Sebenzisa eli xesha ukwenza izinto ezikonwabisa. Gxila kwizinto ozithandayo, kubuhlobo bakho, kwaye ulandele ukuthanda kwakho. Ezi mpawu ziyafana ezenze ukuba iqabane lakho lithandane nawe ukuqala kwakho ukudibana.
6. Yabelanani ngezinto zokuzonwabisa kunye
Ngokwe-Institute for Family Study, ezona zizathu zixhaphakileyo zoqhawulo-mtshato kukungathembeki, ukusela okanye ukusebenzisa iziyobisi, ukukhula ngokwahlukana nokungahambelani.
Enye indlela izibini ezinokuthintela ukwahlukana kukuchitha ixesha kunye rhoqo. Ayisiyiyo kuphela ngobusuku bomhla, kodwa ngokwabelana kunye nokwenza izinto zokuzonwabisa ezintsha kunye.
Ngaba uthando lokwenyani luya kufa xa nithanda izinto ezifanayo kwaye nithanda ukuchitha ixesha kunye?
Ewe, akunakufane kwenzeke!
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Abo bafuna ukugcina iintlantsi ziphila emitshatweni yabo bayakhuthazwa ukuba baphonononge ubudlelwane babo rhoqo. Oku kunyusa i-oxytocin ngeveki kuya kukunceda wena kunye neqabane lakho ukuba nihlale nidibene kwaye ninxibelelane. Uthando lokwenene luyafa xa izibini zingachithi ixesha kunye nomzamo kwisithethe sabo sobuhlobo.
Ukuhlala unomdla ngeqabane lakho, ukuchitha ixesha kunye, kunye nokuzama iindlela zokuzonwabisa ezithandanayo njengezinye iindlela ezintathu ezilungileyo zokugcina uthando lwenu luphilile.