Umxholo
- 1. Uya kwenza umzamo owongezelelweyo
- 2. Uya kuva kuye rhoqo
- 3. Ukukhumbula malunga neentsuku ezindala ezimnandi
- 4. Uya kuthetha ngawe kuyo yonke indawo
- 5. Uya kuyithetha
Ubudlelwane bunokuba nzima kakhulu.
Amaxesha amaninzi, kunzima ukuqonda ukuba iqabane lakho linokucinga okanye livakalelwa njani. Ingakumbi ukuba bubudlelwane obutsha okanye obuhlumayo. Ngokusisiseko, usabazi kwaye inyani yokuba awukwazi ukufunda iingqondo ayincedi.
Kulungile, loo nto yokugqibela yayiyintlekisa nje. Nceda ungazami ukungena ngaphakathi kwengqondo yeqabane lakho.
Ngapha koko, buyela kumxholo. Kunokukhathaza kakhulu xa ungazi ukuba baziva njani ngawe. Ngaba bayaziphindaphinda iimvakalelo zakho? Okanye ngaba bafaka nje umboniso? Ngaba baneentloni? Kunokubakho izigidi ezahlukeneyo zamathuba! Imibuzo enje, 'uyandikhumbula?', 'Uyandikhumbula ngokungathi ndiyamkhumbula?', Okanye, 'uya kundikhumbula ukuba ndimshiya yedwa?' jikeleza intloko yakho nokuba uxakekile emsebenzini, uphumle ekhaya okanye uhleli nabahlobo bakho.
Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha abantu abayishiyi ingcebiso ebonakalayo onokuyitolika. Ingakumbi abafana. Ngelishwa ngelishwa, kodwa kukho ukubekwa ibala eluntwini elijikeleze amadoda kunye nembonakalo yeemvakalelo. Ke, amaqabane abo ahlala eshiye ukuba acinge ngokwawo.
Ngeso sizathu, inqaku lanamhlanje lidibanisa ezinye iimpawu zokuba uyakukhumbula okanye hayi. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba, ayithethi kubo bonke abesilisa. Kananjalo ayizimiselanga ukupeyinta onke amadoda ngebrashi efanayo.
Yingqokelela nje yemiqondiso eqatshelwa kakhulu eya kuthi iphendule umbuzo wakho ophambili, 'uyandikhumbula?'
1. Uya kwenza umzamo owongezelelweyo
Ukuba umntu uyakukhumbula, uya kwenza umzamo okhethekileyo wokuza kukubona. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe sisenzo esihle esithandwayo osibonayo kwiincwadi nakwimuvi.
Hayi, isenokuba lelona xesha lifutshane, kodwa baya kunyanzelisa ukudibana.
Baze bancame ukuba kunye nabahlobo okanye ezinye izalamane ukuze zize kukubona okanye zihlale kunye nawe. Indawo ayizukubaluleka kwaphela. Eyona nto kugxilwe kuyo iya kuba kukuhlala nawe.
Ukuphendula umbuzo wakho, 'uyandikhumbula?', Ewe, le nto ngokuqinisekileyo yenye yeempawu 'uyandikhumbula'.
2. Uya kuva kuye rhoqo
Inkwenkwe oh inkwenkwe. Lungela ngoba uza kufumana isixa esikhulu semiyalezo kunye neefowuni. Uya kuva kuye ngezona zinto zingabalulekanga kwaye zingabalulekanga.
Isilumkiso- Oku kunokubangela uvavanyo olugqithisileyo lomonde.
"Ndifowunele ukuthi molo" ngumzekelo wento onokuthi uyive kunye nezinye iingxelo ezinjalo. Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa uya kuyibona rhoqo kwimidiya yakho.
Ukuthandwa, amagqabantshintshi, izabelo, kuya kufana nokuba nomlandeli wakho.
Eli nqaku liyasebenza nakwabathandi abalahlileyo. Ukuba ujonge 'ngaba i-ex yam iyandikhumbula' imiqondiso, ke oku kunokuba sisikhombisi esinye ukubonisa i-ex yakho isekhona kakhulu kuwe.
3. Ukukhumbula malunga neentsuku ezindala ezimnandi
Ukuhla ngomgaqo wokukhumbula kuya kubakho rhoqo.
Nokuba indlela yememori ayiyi kude. "Uyalikhumbula ixesha elinye", "Ndinqwenela ukuba singayenza loo nto / siye apho kwakhona". Unokuziva ezi rhoqo. Baza kuzama ukukhumbula nokubamba iinkumbulo ezixabisekileyo. Usenokudibana nemifanekiso emidala okanye iileta okanye nabuphi na ubungqina obuphathekayo bexesha enikunye kunye.
'Ngaba uyandikhumbula?' Ukuba iqabane lakho lisabambelele kwezi nkumbulo zakudala, emva koko sele ekhumbula.
4. Uya kuthetha ngawe kuyo yonke indawo
Awuyi kuba namava oku kwesandla sokuqala, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuthetha ngawe kubahlobo bakhe nakwintsapho yakhe. Inokubacaphukisa abanye, kodwa oku kuthetha ukuba unqwenela ukuba ubukho naye. Uya kucinga ngawe kuzo zonke iimeko.
‘Ngaba uyandikhumbula?’ Kulungile! Impendulo icacile-uyayenza. Kwaye uqikelele ntoni! Usenokude afowune kwakhona aze adlulisele onke amava kuwe.
5. Uya kuyithetha
'Ngaba uyandikhumbula?', 'Uya kundikhumbula?', Okanye, 'Ngaba uyandilahla ngoku?' Le mibuzo iya kuhlala ikukhathaza kulwalamano lwakho. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba umntu wakho ukuwe ngokwenene, uya kuba ngowokuqala, owesibini kunye neyokugqibela into engqondweni yakhe ngalo lonke usuku. Isenokungayithethi rhoqo, kodwa uya kuyiva kuye.
Ayisiyo-half-heart version, kodwa enye ngokunyaniseka. Kukho nethuba lokuba ufumanise ngabahlobo bakhe njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuba baya kufumanisa kwakamsinya kunawe. Ngenye indlela, ungadlala njalo, 'uyandikhumbula' imibuzo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye ufumanise ukuba 'uyandikhumbula nyani?', 'Undikhumbula kangakanani?', Kwaye 'kutheni endikhumbula?'
Isiphelo?
Imvakalelo yokulahleka ngokwenene komntu ayinyamezeleki ngaphandle kwesini sakho.
Ke ngoko, ukuba uyakukhumbula, uya kunyanzeleka ukuba ufumanise kungekudala okanye kamva. Enye into ebalulekileyo lunxibelelwano. Mhlawumbi xa unxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo, uya kukuxelela endaweni yokufihla iimvakalelo zakhe.
Apho yonke le miqondiso iza kukunceda wazi, 'uyandikhumbula' okanye hayi, eyona ndlela ilungileyo kukuthetha.
Isizathu soko kuxa uthetha uya kufumana impendulo yalo mbuzo ngokulula! Ukuba yonke into afuna ukuthetha ngayo nguwe, uyakukhumbula ngokuqinisekileyo!