Umxholo
Akaze andimamele! Kukho imvakalelo yokuziva unamathele kwaye ungenakunceda, ungazi ukuba uziva njani xa uviwe, uqondwa kwaye uyathuthuzelwa liqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho xa ninomlo wemfazwe ngokwenza izigqibo- nokuba yeyesiphi na isikolo umntwana wethu aya kuso, okanye siphi ukuya kwiholide yethu elandelayo okanye enye into efana nayo, indlela efanelekileyo yokulayisha i-dishwasher.
Nangona kunjalo, xa sijonga ezi meko ngokusondeleyo, sifumanisa ukuba ukuxinga kubangelwa luxinzelelo oluthi, “ukuba ndiyavumelana yena okanye uvume ukuba ndiyayiqonda yena umbono, emva koko uya kuyicinga loo nto bona zichanekile kwaye Mna Andilunganga. Ngokwenjenje, iimvakalelo zam kunye neemfuno zam aziyi kuqatshelwa ”. Ke, izibini zihlala zigebenga izithende zazo kwaye ziqhankqalaze ngamandla ngethemba lokuba iimvakalelo zazo ziqinisekisiwe. Ngelishwa, xa omabini la maqela efuna ukuviwa kuqala, akukho mntu umameleyo!
Akufuneki ukuba ibe buhlungu le. Ndingathanda ukunika izibini ezithathu amanyathelo asebenzayo ukubanceda bakwazi ukusasaza ukungavisisani kubudlelwane babo, kwaye babe nencoko ethembekileyo nangakumbi enxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo, ebasondeza omnye komnye.
1. Ithoni
Nangona Intoni uthetha izinto, kubalulekile ukuba unike ingqalelo Njani uvakalisa uluvo lwakho. Ithoni idlulisa imvakalelo-ukucaphuka, ukungabi namonde okanye inkathalo yokwenene okanye uvelwano. Ithoni ikwanika iqabane lakho ukuqonda kwinkqubo yakho yokucinga. Umzekelo, ithoni ecaphukisayo ihambisa ingcinga, njengokuthi "Andikholelwa ukuba ulibele kukuphinda uthathe iimpahla kwizicoci ezomileyo kwakhona!".
Xa iqabane lakho lisiva isityholo sakho sokumangalela okanye sokuxakaniseka, ingqondo yakhe iya kuthi emva koko ifumanise ingozi ize ingene kwimowudi yokulwa inqwelo moya ukuzikhusela kwisoyikiso esibonwayo. Kwelinye icala, xa ithoni yakho ithambile kwaye inemfesane, ingqondo ithumela umqondiso wokuphumla kunye nokungena kumagama eqabane lakho ngaphandle koloyiko.
Ke, xa ufumanisa ukuba uphazamisekile kwaye awuzinzanga ngalo mzuzu, thatha umoya kwaye uzikhumbuze ukugcina ithoni yakho ilungile, uzolile kwaye ukhululekile.
2. Ummiselo weemvakalelo
Ngokuchasene noko kunokukholelwa zizibini ezithandanayo, akusoloko kunjalo isisombululo Yeyona ngxaki iphambili kwezona ngxabano, kodwa ukungqinisisa yeemvakalelo zabo kunye nokubandezeleka kwabo ngalo mzuzu. Nangona kunjalo, kunzima kakhulu ukuqaphela iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho kunye neemfuno zakho xa ungalawuleki kwiimvakalelo zakho kwaye uziva uhlawuliswe kakhulu kwaye ubangelwe kwincoko yababini.
Enye indlela yokwehla ungquzulwano kwaye ikuncede ulawule kwaye ulawule iimvakalelo zakho kukuziqhelanisa nesiko 'lokuphuma'. Ewe uyivile kakuhle! Ukuphuma kwexesha ayisiyo yabantwana kuphela. Eyona njongo yexesha lokuphuma kukunceda iqela ngalinye elibandakanyekayo ukuba liqokelele iingcinga, iimvakalelo kunye neemfuno zabo kwaye bakwazi ukulawula izinto ezibangela iimvakalelo.
Xa ufumanisa ukuba uyaphazamiseka kwincoko neqabane lakho, ceba macala onke ukuba uthathe ubuncinci imizuzu engama-20 ukwenza isiko. Khangela ikona ezolileyo nganye endlwini apho unokuzola khona, kwaye usebenzise la manyathelo alandelayo-
1. Thatha kancinci umphefumlo, kwaye uskene umzimba wakho nakuphi na ukuqina nokungonwabi kwaye uqaphele apho ubambe khona uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.
2. Zibuze, "ndiziva njani ngoku?", "Zithini iimfuno zam ngalo mzuzu?", "Yintoni endifuna ukuba iqabane lam lazi kwaye liqonde ngam ngeli xesha?".
Umzekelo, ukubonakalisa kwakho ngokwakho kunokujongeka njengoku, “Ndiziva ndinexhala ngoku; Ndifuna ukufumana isiqinisekiso sokuba ndibalulekile kuwe; Ndifuna uqonde ukuba ngalo mzuzu ndinengxaki yokuziva ndingawenzi kakuhle umsebenzi wam, kuba andisayikhumbuli into obundicele yona. kwaye uyibambe ngoku. Yiyo loo nto umnqweno wokuphinda uvakashele iinkumbulo ezindala kunye namanxeba ayathintelwa kwaye iyanceda ekunciphiseni ubundlongondlongo, xa amaqabane ekwazi ukwabelana kunye nokuxoxa ngenkqubo yabo yangaphakathi emva kokuzilolonga.
Jonga kwakhona: Yintoni ukungqubana kobudlelwane?
3. Ukwamkelwa
Inyathelo elilandelayo lelokuba iqabane ngalinye liqinisekise, lixabise kwaye livume iimvakalelo zokuba sesichengeni okuye kwabonakaliswa kukuzibandakanya kwakhona emva kwexesha lokuphuma. Ukwamkelwa kunceda ukuzola kunye nokuthomalalisa uxinzelelo kwiqabane ngalinye, kwaye banokuqala ukuyeka ukuzikhusela njengoko iingqondo zabo ziyeka ukuthumela imiqondiso yengozi. Olu hlobo lokunxibelelana lwakha imbeko, ukuthembana nokuzithemba kubudlelwane.
Xa izibini zivuma iintlungu kunye neemfuno zomnye kwimbambano, zibaluleke kakhulu ukhuphela ngaphandle ingxaki, nokuqonda ukuba bobabini bakwiqela elinye. Bayayivuma loo nto wena ayongxaki; i ingxaki yingxaki. Banokuthi emva koko baqale ingxoxo yokuya kwizisombululo ezakhayo.
Xa iqabane ngalinye kubudlelwane likwazi ukumodareyitha ithoni yokunxibelelana, lilawule kwaye lizole impendulo yabo eyomeleleyo yeemvakalelo, kwaye banakho ukufikelela kwaye baxelele abanye oko behlangabezana nako kumzuzu wokungqubana kwabo, kuyabasondeza kwaye lwenza ubudlelwane babo busondele ngakumbi.