Umxholo
Obona bunzima buvela kunxibelelwano kukuba amaqabane axelelane ezabo iimbono. Njengokuba bemamele umbono weqabane labo, balinde ithuba labo lokufumana "ixesha lomoya", ukuxelela umbono wabo, okanye ukukhetha imingxunya kwinto abasandul 'ukuyiva. Kungenxa yokuba ayikunyanzelisi ukwazi okanye ukuvula iinketho zendlela incoko eyenziwa ngayo, oku kuhlala kufana nokuphikisana kunye nokuxabisa. Iingxelo ezinomdla kunye nemibuzo efuna ukwazi iyayixabisa into oza kuyithetha omnye umntu ingekatsho.
Isizathu sokuba abacebisi, abanyangi, kunye noochwephesha bezengqondo mhlawumbi babuze eyona mibuzo kwaye baphendule okuncinci kuba ngumsebenzi wabo ukuba nomdla. Ngaphezulu koko, ukubuza uhlobo oluthile lombuzo kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nabani na. Umbuzo uphelile, uyasebenza, kwaye uyamema. Ngelixa bethetha ngendlela ekunceda ngayo ukuba nomdla ebantwaneni, ndingathanda ukuxoxa ngeenzuzo zokubuza imibuzo enomdla kwimeko yobudlelwane babantu abadala.
Abaphambukeli abasandula ukudibana mhlawumbi babuza imibuzo enomdla kuba bezama ukufumana ulwazi malunga nabanye. Ukuba amaqabane encoko asandula ukudibana anomdla wesondo omnye komnye, anokuqala ukubuza imibuzo yokufuna ukwazi malunga nokukhetha omnye komnye ngokwesondo. Kodwa khawufane ucinge ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba akukho mibuzo inomdla ibuziweyo (kwaye umntu omnye ebenga tsalwa kwenye, okanye engenamdla kwezokwabelana ngesondo) kwaye akukho qabane livuleyo umxholo ngaphambi kokuzama ukungena embhedeni. Umzekelo,
UGeorge: "Ndingathanda ukulala nawe."
USandy: “Hayi, andicingi njalo.”
G: “Yiza. Ngoba kutheni?"
S: "Ndithe hayi."
G: "Usisitabane?"
S: "Ndigqibile."
Ukufumana umbono olunge ngakumbi wokuba le nto inokuhamba njani inemveliso ngakumbi, thelekisa ezi ndawo zencoko:
| Indlela evaliweyo | Indlela evulekileyo okanye enomdla |
| “Yindawo yakho okanye yeyam? Ndiyakuthanda. Ngaba uyandithanda nam? ” “Ndiyavuya ukudibana kwethu. Awunguye? ” “Ndiya kwikonsathi ngoLwesihlanu. Ngaba ungathanda ukuza? ” “Yima ukuthetha loo nto. Ayincedi nganto. ” “Uyaphila kule nto?” “Awusakhumbuli ....?” "Ufuna ukuthetha ngo ...?" “Ndisitabane, wena?” | Ucinga ntoni malunga nexesha lethu sikunye kude kube ngoku? Ungathanda ukwenza ntoni ngoku? ” Ndiyazibuza ukuba kutheni le nto sizibona ngendlela ezahlukileyo iimpasiso zethu. Ndicela uthethe banzi malunga nendlela oyibona ngayo. ” ”Ndingathanda ukuthetha nawe kwakhona ngelinye ixesha. Ngawaphi amathuba onokuthi uvulele kuwo? ” "Singazigcina njani ezi zimvo sithetha ngazo?" “Isebenza njani le nto kuwe? Yintoni esinokuyenza ngokwahlukileyo ukuze isebenze ngcono kuthi sobabini? ” “Baninzi abantu abafumanisa ukuba bangamafanasini okanye bayadlulisa. Ingaba ucinga ntoni?" |
Imibuzo evulekileyo kwimibuzo evaliweyo
Ayisiyo ukuba imibuzo evulekileyo ibhetele kunemibuzo evaliweyo. Anditsho ukuba akufuneki ubuze imibuzo evaliweyo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba imibuzo evulekileyo inomdla ngakumbi, ukungqubana okungaphantsi, ukusebenzisana ngakumbi, kwaye, ewe, zivulekile kwaye ziyamema kubudlelwane obuqhubekayo. Kumbuzo onje, "Yintoni esinokuyenza ngokwahlukileyo ukuze le nto isebenze ngcono phakathi kwethu?" imibuzo evulekileyo ingasetyenziswa njengesixhobo sokulungisa ukungaqondani okanye ungquzulwano. Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, imibuzo evulekileyo nevaliweyo inokudityaniswa ukukhuthaza unxibelelwano olusebenzayo. Kungenxa yokuba imibuzo evaliweyo inendlela yokwalathisa ingqalelo kwiindidi ezithile zolwazi. Kwelinye icala, imibuzo evulekileyo inefuthe elinamandla lokuqinisekisa kwiqabane lokuncokola ngaxeshanye njengoko bevula indawo yokudlala kukhetho olungathethwanga. Ukudibanisa zombini imibuzo evulekileyo nevaliweyo, umzekelo, sinokuthi into efana nale:
“Ndiyazibuza ukuba uziva njani ngeziganeko zanamhlanje ukuza kuthi ga ngoku (ingxelo enomdla). Injani namhlanje kuwe? (umbuzo onomdla owamkela ngokucacileyo umbono). Uchithe ixesha nabani kwaye wazonwabisa? (umbuzo ovaliweyo nenani eliqingqiweyo leempendulo). Buphuhle njani obu budlelwane? (umbuzo ovulekileyo) ”.
Ukuzilolonga ukuzama, ukuba ukhuthazwe lithuba lokuxabisa iingcinga neemvakalelo zeqabane lakho, kukuyeka "ukuxelela" kakhulu kwaye wenze inqaku "ukubuza" imibuzo yokufuna ukwazi (usebenzisa amagama akho) njenge:
- "Kwenzekentoni?"
- “Uziva njani ngale nto?”
- Ucinga ukuba baziva njani abanye? ”
- "Zithini izimvo onazo ukusombulula le ngxaki?"
Qiniseka ukuba usebenzisa u "Yintoni" kunye no "Njani" ukwazisa imibuzo evulekileyo, kodwa ungalibali ukuba zisetyenziswa njengenxalenye yencoko ngokubanzi yencoko ethi ngamanye amaxesha ibandakanye imibuzo evaliweyo. Oku kunokuba kubalulekile ekugcineni ujoliso okanye isikhombisi kwincoko.
Le theyibhile ilandelayo ishwankathela izibonelelo ezithile kunye nemifanekiso yeendlela ezivulekileyo nezivaliweyo.
| Kuvaliwe | Vula |
| Injongo: Ukuveza uluvo okanye ukuxelela | Injongo: Ukuveza umdla |
| Ukuqalisa - “Singathetha?” | Inguqu- “Ungathanda ukwenza ntoni ngoku?” |
| Ukugcina - “Ngaba singathetha ngakumbi?” | Ukondla- "Ikusebenzela njani le nto?" |
| Ukuxelela uluvo- "Andiwathandi amadoda athandana namanye amadoda." | Ukusebenzisana- "Singayisombulula njani le nto?" |
| Ukuchaza ukhetho olunqongopheleyo- "Yindawo yakho okanye yeyam?" | Ukuqinisekisa - "Ndixelele ngakumbi." |
| Ukuseka inqanaba- “Ungathanda ukuyenza?” | Ukuqokelelwa kolwazi - “Uziva njani?” |
Kukho imigibe kuzo zombini iindlela eziphambili zonxibelelwano, kodwa le yinto yokugubungela iposti yam elandelayo.