Umxholo
- Inyaniso ngoxinzelelo
- Iimpawu zokuba uneqabane elidandathekileyo
- Nazi ezinye zeempawu zokuba iqabane lakho linokudakumba
- Qaphela le miqondiso ilandelayo
- Ungalinceda njani iqabane lakho elidandathekileyo
- Uza kubalapho
- Umonde-uninzi lwayo
- Lijikeleze iqabane lakho ngothando
- Sukuncama
- Xa ufuna uncedo lweengcali
“Kungcono, kubi, kukugula nasempilweni” sesinye sezithembiso wena neqabane lakho enithe nathethana ngalo xa nitshata kodwa akukho mntu unokulindela okona kubi kunokwenzeka.
Xa iqabane lakho libonisa iimpawu zoxinzelelo, kulindeleke ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukunceda umntu otshate naye. Ukwazisa yenye yezona zinto ziphambili ekuncedeni iqabane lakho elinexinzelelo.
Ngaphandle kolwazi nokuqonda malunga noku kugula, ngekhe ukwazi ukunceda iqabane lakho.
Inyaniso ngoxinzelelo
Umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukudakumba sisifo hayi nje ubuthathaka obubonakaliswa ngumntu. Abanye abantu bayamgculela umntu obonisa iimpawu zoxinzelelo engazi ukuba ayisiyiyo idrama okanye ukufuna ingqalelo. Sisifo ekungekho mntu usifunayo.
Ukudakumba kunokuchaphazela umtshato wakho kuphela kodwa nosapho lwakho yiyo loo nto kungcono ukuba uqonde ukuba yintoni uxinzelelo kunye nendlela esinokuthi sincede ngayo.
Ukudakumba kuchazwa njengotshintsho olukhulu kwi-chemistry yengqondo enokuthi iguqule imeko, ukulala, amanqanaba amandla, ukutya kunye nokulala. Uxinzelelo alwenzeki, lubangelwa zizinto ezininzi kubandakanya kodwa aluphelelanga kuxinzelelo olukhulu, ilahleko ebuhlungu, ukuba ngumzali, umtshato, iimeko zempilo kunye neengxaki zemali.
Khumbula, awungekhe uxelele iqabane lakho elidandathekileyo ukuba lilwe neemvakalelo kwaye liqhubeke. Akunakuze kube lula oko.
Iimpawu zokuba uneqabane elidandathekileyo
Ngaphambi kokuba ukwazi ukunceda iqabane elinexinzelelo, kufuneka uqale uqonde ukuba iimpawu zibonisa njani. Enye yezona zinto zixhaphakileyo zixhaphakileyo malunga nokudakumba kukuba ibonisa yonke imihla kwaye uyakuyibona ngokulula kodwa akufani.
Uninzi lwabantu abadandathekileyo banokuba neentsuku zabo zokonwaba kwaye oku kunokuhlala iintsuku ezimbalwa kuphela ukubuyela kubumnyama bokudakumba.
Uxinzelelo luxhaphakile kodwa asifumani lwazi lwaneleyo malunga nalo kwaye nendlela esiphila ngayo exakekileyo, sihlala sijonga indlela umntu esimthandayo sele ebonisa ngayo uxinzelelo. Esi sizathu sokuba amaxesha ngamaxesha ebizwa ngokuba sisifo esingabonakaliyo.
Nazi ezinye zeempawu zokuba iqabane lakho linokudakumba
- Ukuziva ulusizi rhoqo, ukungabinanto, ukulila, okanye ukungabi nathemba
- Ukuphulukana okanye ukutyeba ngenxa yotshintsho olukhulu kumdla wokutya
- Ukulala ngalo lonke ixesha okanye kunzima ukulala
- Ukungabikho komdla ngesiquphe kwimihla ngemihla kunye nemisebenzi eyonwabisayo
- Ukubonisa ukudinwa naxa uphumle kakuhle
- Ukuxhalaba kunye noxinzelelo
- Ukutshintsha kwemo ngesiquphe kukugqajukelwa ngumsindo
- Ukukhumbula iimpazamo zangaphambili
- Iimvakalelo ezinzulu ezingenaxabiso kunye neengcinga
- Iingcinga zokuzibulala
- Ukucinga ukuba umhlaba ungcono ngaphandle kwabo
Enye yezona ndawo zoyikekayo zokudakumba kukuba umntu usengozini yokuzibulala.
Abanye abangasiqondiyo esi sifo banokungahoyi imiqondiso yokuba umntu sele ecinga ngokuzibulala kwaye sesinye sezizathu zokuba namhlanje, abantu abaninzi baphumelele ukuzibulala.
Qaphela le miqondiso ilandelayo
- Utshintsho olubonakalayo kwindlela iqabane lakho elinxibelelana ngayo ekuhlaleni
- Ukuxakeka ziingcinga ezijikeleze ukufa
- Ukuziva ungonwabanga
- Ukutsala ngequbuliso ngokuzibulala
- Izinto ezingenangqondo njengokugcina iipilisi, ukuthenga iimela okanye nompu
- Utshintsho olukhulu kwiimvakalelo-uziva wonwabe kakhulu kwaye unothando emva koko ubuyela ekude kwaye uyedwa
- Xa iqabane lakho lingasalumkanga kwaye linokubonisa iimpawu zokunqwenela ukufa
- Ukuqala ukunika izinto zabo zexabiso
- Ukutsala umnxeba ukuze uthi ndlela-ntle okanye ukuba baya kukhumbula umntu
- Ngequbuliso ubiza amagqwetha kunye nokuhlawula amatyala. Ukulungelelanisa yonke into
Ungalinceda njani iqabane lakho elidandathekileyo
Into yokuqala ekuya kufuneka uyazi xa unceda iqabane elidandathekileyo kukwazi ukuba ingxaki ikhona. Sukuyikhupha ngokungathi ayiyonto kuba iqabane elinoxinzelelo liza kuchaphazela lonke usapho.
Yamkela inyani kwaye uqalise ukunceda iqabane lakho ngezi zinto zilandelayo
Uza kubalapho
Ubukho bakho sele linyathelo elikhulu ekubuyiseni.
Ukuba lapho nokuba iqabane lakho liyakutyhala yinto enye abayifunayo. Yiba khona ukumamela nokuba imicimbi anayo iqabane lakho iyafana- ungadinwa.
Khumbula izifungo zomtshato wakho kwaye ulindele imibingelelo emininzi. Sukuzama ukuthintela iqabane lakho endaweni yokuba ubekho xa kufuneka njalo.
Umonde-uninzi lwayo
Sonke kufuneka sivume ukuba inkqubo yokunceda iqabane elinexinzelelo inzima.
Amaxesha amaninzi adityaniswa noxinzelelo ekunyamekeleni abantwana bakho, ukuba yintloko yendlu ngoku iqabane lakho lingazinzanga kwaye ukhathalela iqabane lakho unokuvavanya umonde wakho kuvavanyo. Kufuneka unyamezele kwaye unike ngaphezulu.
Lijikeleze iqabane lakho ngothando
Abantu abanedepression bafuna ukuziva bethandwa kwaye bekhathalelwe. Musa ukoyika ukubuza imibuzo efana nale ithi “Ngaba ikhona into endinokuyenza ukuze uzive ungcono?”
Liqinisekise iqabane lakho ukuba uyabathanda kwaye ungadinwa kukwenza. Ungalibali amandla okuphatha kunye nokuwola kuba inokwenza imimangaliso.
Sukuncama
Elona candelo libalulekileyo kukuba ungaze unikezele.
Lindela ukuba le nkqubo iza kukukhupha kwaye inzima kwaye unokufuna ukuyeka. Thatha ukuphumla kwaye uthathe ixesha kodwa ungalahli iqabane lakho.
Xa ufuna uncedo lweengcali
Xa wenze konke onako ukukwenza kwaye uyigqibile yonke imizamo kwaye akukho lutshintsho lubonakalayo okanye ukuba uthe chu ubona ukuba iqabane lakho ngoku libonisa iimpawu zokuzibulala, lixesha lokuba ucele uncedo.
Ukunqongophala kokufuna ukuba bhetele yenye yezona ngxaki zinzima ukujongana nazo kwaye ingcali inokukunceda koku. Ngamanye amaxesha, kungcono ukuba umntu akuncede kule ngxaki.
Ukunceda iqabane lakho elinoxinzelelo kufuneka kuphume entliziyweni yakho kwaye kungengenxa yokuba kuyimbopheleleko yakho.
Ngale ndlela, umonde wakho umde kwaye intliziyo yakho iya kubonisa indlela onokuthi ulincede ngayo iqabane lakho ukuba liphumelele kulo mceli mngeni. Ngokuthe chu, nobabini ninokusebenza kunye ukubuyisa ukukhanya kolonwabo kwiqabane lakho.