Umxholo
- Imiba yomsindo
- Ubuvila kunye neziyobisi
- Ukungabikho kwenkxaso
- Nokuba wenza ntoni, awanelanga ukubakholisa
- Owayekade ekopela
- Ukuqhuba ngesondo okuphantsi
Rhoqo xa sicinga ngomntu ofanelekileyo esingathanda ukuthandana nathi sihlala sithatha uluhlu lweempawu ezintle kunye nezinto ezintle esizifunayo kubo, kodwa kuthekani ngabo singabafuniyo, abaphuli besivumelwano? Nokuba ungathandana kangakanani na, ngamanye amaxesha kuyakufuneka uthi "Hayi, andiqondi ukuba izakusebenza" kwabanye abantu. Ekugqibeleni, ezimbi ziyakongamela okuhle.
Uninzi lwabaphuli bobudlelwane bahlala bengenzi monakalo mkhulu kumanqanaba okuqala obudlelwane, bahlala bekhula ngaphezulu kwexesha elide kwaye babangele umonakalo omkhulu ngaphezulu kwexesha elide. Singabonisa isibini sabantu abatshatileyo ehlabathini abaye banamava kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano lwabo unxibelelwano olunzulu noluyimfihlakalo namaqabane abo, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha, bafikile kwisigqibo sokuba abanakunyamezelana. iimpawu ezithile kwakhona.
Kuvavanyo olwenziwe ngaphezulu kwama-6 500 abantu, kwafumaniseka ukuba phakathi kwabona bantu baphule ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo kukungabikho koburharha, ukungazithembi nokuzithemba, isini esisezantsi, ukukhetha kakhulu okanye ukuswela kakhulu.
Nangona ubudlelwane bokuqhekeka kobudlelwane buhluka ngokwamanqanaba phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi, singalunciphisa uluhlu ukuya kolona lwalamano luvunyiweyo lobudlelwane nolunokusetyenziswa kuzo zombini izini.
Imiba yomsindo
Oku kuhlala kusisiqhekeza, nokuba kunjani. Ukuba iqabane lakho sele libonakalisile iimpawu zokuziphatha gwenxa, ngokuzenzekelayo baya kuba ngamaqabane abahlukumezayo kwikamva lobudlelwane bakho nabo.
Imiba yomsindo ungaze uhambe ngokuhamba kwexesha, zihlala zisiba mbi ngakumbi, kwaye oku kuya kukhokelela kubudlelwane obunetyhefu.
Ubuvila kunye neziyobisi
Ezi zinto zimbini zisebenza kunye njengezinto ezimbi ezitshabalalisayo onokuba nazo kwiqabane, kwaye unokuthathwa njengabaqhekezi bobudlelwane kulwalamano.
Akukho mntu ufuna ukubanakho ukukhathalela umntu ongakwaziyo ukuzikhathalela, makungabikho nobudlelwane, kuba iziyobisi uninzi lwamaxesha azikwazi ukubonelela ngokuzinikela.
Ukungabikho kwenkxaso
Kubudlelwane, ukuze yonke into isebenze, iqabane ngalinye kufuneka libeke isabelo salo somzamo kulo. Ukuba ayingomdlalo weqela, awuzukusebenza.
Ukuba izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ziqalisile ukutshintsha, kwaye iqabane lakho alityalanga ixesha elifanayo namandla kubudlelwane nawe, ungahlala phantsi nabo etafileni nithethe ngokuseta izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kwakhona, okanye unqumle ubudlelwane nabo, ukuba uziva ukuba akukho nto izakutshintsha.
Ukunqongophala kwenkxaso kubudlelwane kwenza ukuba kungabikho ndawo, ke akukho mfuneko yokuba uqhubeke nayo ukuba oku kuyaqhubeka ukwenzeka.
Nokuba wenza ntoni, awanelanga ukubakholisa
Ukuba akukho nto uyithethayo okanye into oyenzayo ayonelanga, sicinga ukuba ixesha lixesha lokuba uyibize iyeke kunye naye.Unokuba ujongana narcissist, ngokuqinisekileyo ulwalamano lwentengiso.
Owayekade ekopela
Ibinzana elithi “Xa umntu ekhohlisayo, uhlala ekhohlisa” alinakuba yinyani. Ukuba usebudlelwaneni nomntu owaziyo ukuba ukhohlise ngaphambili kwelinye lamaqabane akhe angaphambili, zilungiselele ukuphathwa ngendlela efanayo nabo. Asitsho ukuba le yinyani epheleleyo kuba abanye aboni banokufunda isifundo kwaye baguquke kwiindlela zabo ezingalunganga kodwa ngesiqhelo, uninzi lwabantu aluzange lufunde kwaye intlekele iyaziphindaphinda kunye nabo kaninzi.
Ukuqhuba ngesondo okuphantsi
Ukuba izinto azihambi kakuhle ebhedini, ke azisebenzi kulwalamano olupheleleyo onalo neqabane lakho. Kuya kufuneka uqale uzibuze ukuba kutheni iqabane lakho likunika unyango olubandayo. Ukungabikho konxibelelwano olusondeleyo phakathi kwakho kunye nabo luphawu olukhathazayo ekufuneka uluthathile ingqalelo kwaye ujongane nalo.
Olu lwaphulelo kubudlelane ngamanye amaxesha lunokuthathwa njengolwaphula ubudlelwane bobabini, kuba lunokubonisa ukuba iqabane lakho liyakukhohlisa.