Umxholo
- Kukuthini ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane?
- Ngaba kubonakala ngathi ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo?
- 1. Uthando
- 2. Ithemba
- 3. Intlonipho
- 4. Umnqweno
- Ngaba ubudlelwane okanye umtshato ungaphila ngaphandle kobudlelwane obusenyongweni?
- Isiphelo
Sonke sinqwenela ukusondelelana.
Andikhathali nokuba ungumngenisi okanye ungumqali, umncinci okanye umdala, awutshatanga okanye utshatile; Sonke sifuna imvakalelo yokusondela komnye umntu.
Abantu abaninzi bababeka bodwa ubudlelwane obusenyongweni njengengqondo yabo. Ukuba uva umntu esithi sele besondelelene nomnye umntu, mhlawumbi ingqondo yakho ikusa kwigumbi labo lokulala. Yindlela yokusabela yendalo, kodwa ayichanekanga.
Ukusondelelana kunokuba kokubini ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Kubalulekile ukuba singamkeli kuphela umahluko kodwa siqonde ukuba ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo sisiseko onokwakhela kuso ukusondelelana ngokomzimba.
Kukuthini ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane?
Ukukunceda ekuchazeni ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo, kunokuba kulula kakhulu ukusebenzisa ukuqonda kwethu ngokubanzi ngokusondelelana ngokomzimba njengephedi yokuqalisa. Xa abantu ababini besondelene ngokwasemzimbeni, bayamanga, babambe, kwaye bachukumise kufutshane. Badityanisiwe, nokuba yeyokwenza uthando okanye ukulala esofeni.
Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kuyafana kodwa ngaphandle komzimba. Kukusondelelana ngokwemiqathango yothando nokuqonda. Kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu ababini ngenxa yendlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngomnye nomnye.
Kwaye, sonke silangazelela ukusondela ngokweemvakalelo, ukusondelelana kunye nobudlelwane ukuba buhambe kunye.
Kwinqaku elivela kugxilwe kwiwebhusayithi yoSapho, uShana Schutte ubhekisa kulwalamano olusenyongweni ngokudlala njengebinzana elithi "in-to-me-see." Xa umntu othile enokubona kuwe aze akuthande loo mntu uhlala ngaphakathi, kwaye le yinkcazo yokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo.
Ngaba kubonakala ngathi ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo?
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ungasondelelana njani ngokweemvakalelo, zininzi iindlela onokuhambisa ngazo iimvakalelo zakho ezisuka entliziyweni kwiqabane lakho. Kodwa, intsingiselo yokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo ayifani kuye wonke umntu.
Inkcazo yokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo inokwahluka ukusuka komnye umntu uye emntwini, kuba umntu unokuba neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo. Makhe sijonge kwiimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo ezinxulunyaniswa nobudlelwane kunye nomtshato kwaye sijonge kubo nge-lens yothando olusenyongweni.
1. Uthando
Xa uthando lubonakaliswa ngohlobo lokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo, abo bantu babini babandakanyekileyo bayintloko enye nenye. Xa uphambi kwabo, unokuluva unxibelelwano lwabo kunye nothando lwabo olunzulu omnye ngomnye.
2. Ithemba
Xa ukuthembana kuboniswa kubudlelwane obusondeleyo ngokwasemphefumlweni, uyabona ukuba bayathembana ngobomi babo. Akukho kuthandabuza ukuthembela kwabo. Yakhiwe ngokuhamba kwexesha ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elingenakwaphuka.
Bayazi ukuba banokuzijonga izinto ezenziwa liqabane labo, kwaye abayi kukhohliswa.
3. Intlonipho
Intlonipho luhlobo lokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni olunqwenelekayo kwizibini ezininzi.
Xa imbeko ibonakaliswa kubudlelwane obusondeleyo ngokweemvakalelo, unokuxela ukuba abo bantu babini babambene kakhulu.
Kuliwonga kwiqela ngalinye ukuthandwa lelinye, kwaye babonisa imbeko kuyo yonke into abayenzayo.
Baza kwenza nantoni na nayo yonke into kuba amaqabane abo kuba ebahlonipha kakhulu.
4. Umnqweno
Umnqweno sisibaso kwizibini ezininzi ezithandanayo ngokweemvakalelo. Cinga ngale mvakalelo njengebhulorho phakathi kolwalamano olusenyongweni kunye nolwalamano olusenyameni. Amaqabane anomdla omkhulu ayabonana kwifomu yawo eluhlaza kwaye asabathanda ngokuqatha.
Ngaba ubudlelwane okanye umtshato ungaphila ngaphandle kobudlelwane obusenyongweni?
Ngamafutshane, hayi. Ubuncinci akukho kuyo yeyona fomu inothando. Abantu banokuguga kwaye bangahlala kunye ngaphandle kokuthandana ngokweemvakalelo, kodwa ayizukuba ngumtshato ngoqhagamshelo olunzulu kunye nothando.
Ngaba wakha weva iqabane lakho, okanye mhlawumbi umhlobo, evakalisa unqamko kubudlelwane babo? Oko kunqunyulwa kukungabikho kolwalamano olusenyongweni. Kuthetha ukuba esi sibini sihambe ixesha elide ngaphandle kokusebenza ukuze sihlale sisondele okanye singaze sizikhathaze ngokwenza loo msebenzi kwasekuqaleni.
Ukubuyela kwisitatimende sikaSchutte sobudlelwane obusondeleyo bujongwa ngelensi ye "ukubona-kum, ” Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba kuthatha amaqela amabini ukuba asondelelane ngokweemvakalelo. Indoda inokuthulula eluthandweni, kwintlonipho, nasekuthandeni umfazi wayo, kodwa ukuba ayivulelekanga kuyo, ayisayi kusondela ngendlela ebengathanda ngayo.
Kuya kufuneka avumele iqabane lakhe ukuba lijonge kuye, kwaye kufuneka avuleleke kumyeni wakhe kwaye amvumele ukuba abone zonke izinto ezilungileyo nezimbi ngaye. Ngaphandle kokuvula olo cango ukuvumela iqabane lakhe ukuba lijonge ngaphakathi, iba yindlela-yendlela eya kuye kuphela ahamba ngayo ezantsi.
Ngumbonisi nje wezenzo zakhe kulwalamano.
Umfazi unokubonisa yonke imihla ngothando, ukumncoma, ukumhlonipha, nokumthemba umyeni wakhe, kodwa naye kufuneka avulelwe ukufumana. Amadoda athanda ukuhlala evaliwe. Abavumeli abantu abaninzi ukuba bangene, ngenxa yoko bahlala bengamaqela angena endleleni yokwenyani ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuba indoda inokuzivula, umfazi wayo unokubona ngokwenyani ukuba ungubani. Ubuhle, iziphene, iziqwenga ezingaphelelanga. Yonke into!
Kodwa kuyamthatha ukuba abe sesichengeni kwaye avuleleke ukuba olo lwalamano lwenzeke.
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Isiphelo
Sonke sinqwenela ukusondelelana, kodwa abanye bethu bayoyika kakhulu ukwenza umsebenzi ofunekayo. Kuthatha ukuba semngciphekweni kwinyathelo ngalinye elibhekisa kumntu osondelelene naye.
Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo ayisiyonto eyomeleleyo okanye enenkani. Kuza kuphela kwabo bakulungeleyo ukuthambisa umphandle wabo onzima, vumela abanye ukuba bajonge ngaphakathi, kwaye babathande ukuba bangobani. Ngaphandle kwesi senzo sokuqala senkalipho, inqanaba lokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo alisoze lifikelele kwinto eyiyo.
Ke, ukuba wena neqabane lakho niziva ninqamkile kwaye nifuna ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo, thatha umzuzwana kwaye ujonge ngaphakathi.
Ngaba uvulekile? Ngaba uzibandakanya nokuba sesichengeni? Ukuba awukho, qala apho. Awunakho ukusondela kwiqabane lakho ngokuzigcina zikumgama okhuselekileyo.