Umxholo
- Ubungakanani obunye abufaneli konke
- Ukuthandana emva kwexesha lokuya exesheni
- Kutheni abafazi abadala befuna amadoda amancinci
- Uvela phi umlingo
Emuva ngemini, umntu wayengaboni abafazi abadala ukuthandana nomntu omncinci kakhulu. Kodwa kule mihla, kubonakala ngathi kukho ubhubhane wee-cougars phaya.
Ekuxoxeni, ezinye zibonelela ngezisombululo zebhayoloji, ezinye zengqondo kunye nentlalontle. Ngayiphi na imeko, inyani kukuba i-taboo ejikeleze loo midlalo ayinamandla njengokuba yayinjalo ngaphambili. Ngaphezu koko, uninzi lwabasetyhini abadala luyabatshata abalingane babo abancinci. Kwaye nantsi i-101 yabasetyhini abadala abathandana nendoda encinci.
Ubungakanani obunye abufaneli konke
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba uyithathe kweli nqaku yile- akukho manyano lwendalo iphela oluchanekileyo okanye olugwenxa kumaqabane. Ngaphaya koko, ngokwembono ye-anthropological, izinto zibonakala ziguquka ngalo lonke ixesha kunye notshintsho kwezopolitiko nakwezentlalo.
Kwaye oko kuluntu olunye ixesha. Xa uthatha into eqhelekileyo kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo, uyaqonda ukuba ayikho, nyhani, ayikho into efana "yesiqhelo".
Ezi zinto zifunyenwe kwi-anthropological zibonisa ukuba uninzi lweendlela zokuziphatha zixhomekeke kuluntu olunikiweyo olunokuthi luthathe njengokunqwenelekayo, nokuba kungokuvela kwibhayiloji okanye kwezentlalo. Kakhulu, xa kusiziwa ekuthandaneni, ngumcimbi wokuzala.
Kodwa, kumaxesha anamhlanje kunye noluntu lwale mihla, kuba akufuneki senze ubomi bethu kunye noluntu lwethu lujikeleze loo nto, ezinye iindlela ziyavela zikhule.
Oku kubandakanya izinto ezibizwa ngokuba ziicougars, kunye nezibini ezitshatileyo, okanye ezinye iimeko apho ukudala inzala kungeyona nto iphambili.
Uhlobo lwentombazana eselula, ebuthathaka kodwa echumileyo kunye nendoda eyomeleleyo, esisityebi yimveliso yebhayoloji.
Kodwa, ikwagcinwa luluntu, njengoko uluntu luthanda olwaziwayo, olomeleleyo, kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu- izakhiwo ezinokuqikelelwa kunye nemikhwa.
Ukuthandana emva kwexesha lokuya exesheni
Inyani engenanto yokuthandana kukuba, ekugqibeleni, inenjongo yokuvelisa inzala. Oku kuvela kumbono webhayiloji. Kodwa, abantu banzima kakhulu kunoko, kwaye zininzi ezinye izinto eziza kudlala.
Njengoko uluntu lwethu luqhubela phambili, kunjalo ke nobomi bobomi kwaye, okona kubaluleke, ngumgangatho wobomi kwiminyaka yobudala. Ke ngoko, kubafazi, ukuya exesheni akuthethi ukuphela kobomi bokuthandana kwakhona.
Ngapha koko, le yinto esandula ukwenzeka eye yabalasela ngakumbi kwiinkcubeko zaseNtshona. Njengokuba abantwana behleli kwiindlela zabo, amanani abonisa, ngakumbi nangakumbi abasetyhini bacela uqhawulo-mtshato kumaqabane abo.
E-UK, kuphela phakathi kuka-2015 no-2016, ipesenteji yabasetyhini abangaphezulu kweminyaka engama-55 yokucela uqhawulo-mtshato yatsiba nge-15%, elonyuko olukhulu kakhulu.
Kutheni abafazi abadala befuna amadoda amancinci
Njengokuba ukuzimela kwabafazi kwezemali nakwezentlalo kuphakama, kunjalo nangoku, inkululeko yabo yokukhetha amaqabane ngokusekwe kumaxabiso emveli okuba akwazi ukumkhathalela. Abasetyhini basatsala umdla kumadoda aphumeleleyo, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kuguqulelwe kwibala labasetyhini abaselula abafuna amadoda amadala kwakhona.
Endaweni yoko, uninzi lwabasetyhini abafikelela kwiminyaka ethile bavukela indlela emiselweyo yokuguga.
Abafuni ukuba ubomi babo bezesondo buphele ngee-ovari zabo zingaphinde zivelise amaqanda. Kwakhona bahlala bengafumani maqabane abo amashumi eminyaka eyonwabisayo.
Okanye, zange batshate kodwa balandela iinjongo zabo zobungcali kunye nezifundo endaweni yoko.
Ngoku, njengokuba bafikile apho bafuna ukuba njengabantu ngabanye, bafuna iqabane lokufezekisa iimfuno zabo. Abafuni kuhlala.
Bazithembile ngakumbi kwaye bazi ngakumbi iimfuno zabo kunye nomnqweno wabo kunabafazi abancinci.
Kananjalo, aba bafazi batsha abayifumani indoda eneminyaka yabo inomdla okanye inika amandla ngokwaneleyo. Ngokufana namadoda, abasetyhini banokufumana ubuhle kunye nomnqweno wesithandwa esincinci esivuyisayo.
Uvela phi umlingo
Ngaphandle kwento esele siyikhankanyile, umdlalo phakathi komfazi osele ekhulile kunye nendoda encinci awonelisi ngomfazi kuphela, ewe.
Omabini amaqabane afumana okuthile kuyo. Ngokubanzi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba umahluko phakathi kwabo ungumthombo wovuyo kunye nomdla ongapheliyo.
Amadoda nabafazi baneemfuno ezahlukileyo kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo obomi babo. Amadoda, ngokubanzi, abonakala evuleke ngakumbi kumava ahlukeneyo, kwaye engajolise kangako ekufezekiseni iinjongo zabo zebhayiloji zokuzala umntwana. Abasetyhini bahlala benalo mfuno ingene nzulu ekuziphatheni kwabo ngokubanzi.
Kodwa, njengokuba umfazi eyisa le nto, ngandlela thile okanye enye, yena, kunye neqabane lakhe elincinci, baye bonwabele uchulumanco lwehlabathi ezahlukeneyo ngoxinzelelo oluncinci kunye nolindelo.
Esoloko iguqula ibe lolona lwalamano lonwabisayo, apho abantu ababini bechitha ixesha kunye njengabantu abazimeleyo, bonwabele ngokwenene inkampani yomnye nomnye, kwaye ngenxa yeso sizathu sodwa.