Umxholo
- Ukuthandana inkcazo yobundlobongela
- 1. Ukuzimela
- 2. Umsindo ongalindelekanga
- 3. Ukufumana isondo ngaphandle kwemvume
- 4.Ukutyhola ngayo yonke into embi
- 5.Ukwenza izoyikiso
Kwiminyaka yanamhlanje yedijithali, kunzima ukulawula ulutsha.
Banokufikelela kulwazi oluninzi kunye ne-plethora yokuthandana kwii -apps abanazo. Badibana nabani, bancokola nabo kwaye babelana nabani ngolwazi olubuthathaka kuba nzima kuye nabani na ukuba ajonge.
Ngokwengxelo zamanani obundlobongela abathandanayo abakwishumi elivisayo, ama-26% abantu ababhinqileyo kunye ne-15% yamadoda afumene ubundlobongela bokuthandana ngaphambi kweminyaka eyi-18.
Iyothusa kwaye inokulawulwa kuphela xa sinika indawo ekhuselekileyo kulutsha ukuba luze ngaphambili kwaye babelane ngamava abo othusayo ngaphandle kokuwagweba. Masiqonde ukuba yintoni ukuthandana ubundlobongela kunye neempawu ezithile zokulumkisa ngazo.
Ukuthandana inkcazo yobundlobongela
Ukuthandana nobundlobongela, njengoko igama libonisa, kwenzeka phakathi kwamaqabane amabini asondeleyo.
Bayathandana kwaye bachitha ixesha labo lobuqu kunye. Kulapho ke elinye lamaqabane liqala ukuxhaphaza elinye iqabane.
Oku kunokuba kuhlobo lobundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni njengokubuhlungu okanye ukubabetha, ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo njengokuzibandakanya kwizenzo zesondo ngokunyanzela okanye ngaphandle kwemvume yeqabane, ubundlobongela bengqondo njengokusebenzisa unxibelelwano olungathethiyo okanye olungamazwi ukonzakalisa iqabane ngokwasengqondweni okanye ngokwasemphefumlweni, kwaye okokugqibela ukubasukela kwaye bafikelele kwinethiwekhi yabo ukudala uhlobo lokoyika ngaphakathi kwabo.
Nawuphi na umntu ofikisayo, xa bengekho namandla ngokwaneleyo okujongana nokuziphatha okukhawulezileyo komntu, ukulawula okanye ukujongana noku kuba nzima.
Bahlala becaphuka kuxinzelelo, becinezela iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bahlala nomxhaphazi okanye bathathe isigqibo sokuphelisa ubomi babo. Olona hlobo kuphela lokuyiphepha le meko igqithileyo kukujonga isenzo kunye namazwi eqabane lakho.
Ukuba uphuma kubudlelwane ngexesha uyakusindiswa kungenjalo ukubashiya kunokuba nzima.
Uluhlu olungezantsi zezinye zeempawu ezisisiseko kunye zokuqala zobundlobongela bokuthandana kwabakwishumi elivisayo.
Iimpawu ezilumkisayo zobundlobongela bokuthandana kwabakwishumi elivisayo
1. Ukuzimela
Wonke umntu uyintaka yasimahla kwaye unelungelo lokuphila ubomi ngaphandle kongenelelo lomnye.
Ngelixa bekhula akukho namnye ofikisayo oya kwamkela ukubukela kwabazali ngalo lonke ixesha. Umgaqo ofanayo awufanele usebenzise iqabane lakho. Iqabane lakho akufuneki likuxelele ngento ongafanele uyenze. Banokukhusela kodwa bangabi namandla kuwe.
Baza kunika isithuba kubucala bakho kwaye akufuneki bathintele ukuhamba kwakho. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho likukhusela ngokugqithisileyo, lumka. Oku kunokuthi ngokuthe ngcembe kujike kubengumnini kwaye emva koko ubomi bakho buya kujika bube sisihogo.
2. Umsindo ongalindelekanga
Amahla ndinyuka kubudlelwane amkeleka ngokupheleleyo.
Wonke umntu uhamba ngale nto kwaye akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho abantu abathi baxhaphaze amaqabane abo ngaphandle kwesizathu. Baziphethe kakubi; baphelelwa ngumsindo ngokulula kwaye ngekhe bacinge kabini ngaphambi kokugqabhuka ngumsindo esidlangalaleni.
Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuyimpawu yokuba uthandana nobundlobongela. Ngokukhawuleza ukushiya umntu kungcono kuwe.
3. Ukufumana isondo ngaphandle kwemvume
Kuza kubakho amaxesha okusondelelana phakathi kwenu nobabini xa nithandana. Umhlaba wesenzo sesondo kukuba wenziwa ngemvume yomntu. Akukho mntu unokukunyanzela ukuba ulale nabo phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko, ukuba uyifumana isenzeka, bubundlobongela ke obu.
Rhoqo, ngexesha lokufikisa, umzimba wethu uhlangabezana neenguqu ezininzi.
Umnqweno wokulala ngesondo ngamanye amaxesha unokuzoyisa ngaphezulu kweemvakalelo, kodwa oku akufuneki kube sisizathu sokuba nabani na awele kuwe okanye akunyanzele ukuba ubandakanyeke kwisondo. Ukuba iqabane lakho lizama ukwenza loo nto, thetha nabazali bakho. Unelungelo lokuhlala ngesidima kunye nokwabelana ngesondo ngaphandle kwemvume sisiphumo sobundlobongela bokuthandana.
4.Ukutyhola ngayo yonke into embi
Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe, lonke ulwalamano lubetha inqaku elirhabaxa ubuncinci kube kanye ebomini balo.
Nangona kunjalo, ngeli xesha ukumelana nenyani kunokuba nzima, kodwa ukugxekana akusosisombululo. Ukuba ungumntu othambileyo kwaye uthatha ityala ngayo yonke into embi eyenzekileyo kulwalamano emva koko unengxaki yobundlobongela bokuthandana. Ukuthandana kubandakanya umntu omnye kwaye bobabini banetyala ngokulinganayo.
Ke, sukuvumela iqabane lakho likwenze ujoliso oluthambileyo lwayo nayiphi na into engalunganga.
5.Ukwenza izoyikiso
Xa ukuthandana nokuba ukuthandana, akukho namnye unelungelo lokwenza izoyikiso naluphi na uhlobo.
Nangona kunjalo, kuye kwaqatshelwa ukuba abanye abantu benza izoyikiso kumaqabane abo ngokungathi bazakubutshabalalisa ubomi babo, ngekhe babavumele ukuba baphile ngoxolo ukuba bayabashiya, njl. ubudlelwane.
Ukuthandana ngobundlobongela kunokuthintelwa ngokulula ukuba siyazi ngezenzo neenjongo zomlingane wethu. Izikhombisi ezichazwe ngasentla ziphakamisa nje umbono osisiseko kunye nokhawulezayo onokukuhlangula kwiqabane elihlukumezayo elinobundlobongela.
Kwimeko apho wena okanye umhlobo wakho uhamba ngale nto, ingcebiso iya kuba kukuyiphelisa kwangoko. Kwimeko apho ubona ingxaki kuyo okanye uziva usoyika, thetha nomntu omdala omthembileyo, inokuba ngabazali bakho, abantakwenu okanye ootitshala bakho. Akukho mntu ufanele ukuya kubundlobongela bokuthandana njengoko ubaphula kwaye ubenza buhlungu ubomi babo bonke.