Umxholo
- Xa i-honeymoon iphelile
- Ukulindela okungafaniyo
- Iinyani eziyinyani ziyatyhilwa
- Iiglasi ezinemibala ebomvu zavela
- Abantu basebukhweni
- Funa isisombululo
- Funda indlela yokunxibelelana
- Musa ukuthatha izinto ngokungakhathali
- Misela imida esempilweni
- Fumana uncedo lweengcali
Ukucebisa ngaphambi komtshato kuyacetyiswa kuso nasiphi na isibini esiceba ukutshata ukubanceda ukubalungiselela utshintsho oluza kuziswa ngumtshato kulwalamano. Inokuba luncedo kakhulu.
Ngaphandle kwemizamo yamaqabane yokwandisa amathuba omtshato ophumeleleyo okanye isiseko esomeleleyo isibini esisekelekileyo, unyaka wokuqala womtshato ngomnye wotshintsho kwaye uza nemiceli mngeni. Kwanabantu abatshatileyo abahlalisanayo ngaphambi komtshato abakhuselekanga nakwezinye iingxaki.
Olu ayilo luhlu lubandakanya yonke imiceli mingeni, kodwa lugubungela amanye amava aqhelekileyo aneengxaki.
Xa i-honeymoon iphelile
Ukukhokelela kumtshato wokwenene, kubekho uchulumanco kunye nolindelo losuku olukhulu. Xa isibini sibuya ekuphumleni okanye kumnandi kwiholide yasemtshatweni, ubunyani bomtshato buya kungena, obunokuba buthuntu xa kuthelekiswa nobukhazikhazi bomtshato kunye nobusi. Oku kunokuba negalelo ekuyekeni okuthile.
Ukulindela okungafaniyo
Amaqabane asenokungabikho kwiphepha elinye xa kufikwa ekufezekiseni indima "yendoda" kunye "nenkosikazi". Uxanduva lwekhaya luya kwabelwana; Kunokubakho ukutshintshela kwiindima zesini ezibonisa ukungatshati xa sele utshatile kwaye oku kunokuba sisisulu seengxaki. Ukuxhaphaka ngokwesondo kunye nendlela ezophathwa ngayo imali (ngokudibeneyo kuthelekiswa neeakhawunti zebhanki ezahlukileyo) ziindawo eziqhelekileyo apho izibini ezisandul 'ukutshata zingavumelani.
Omnye ummandla wokwahluka kulindelo kunokuba xa kufikwa kwixesha elichithwe kunye. Ukufumana ulungelelwaniso olusempilweni lomanyano kunye nokwahlula kunokuba nzima ukuhamba. Abanye abantu abatshatileyo banokulindela ukuba yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kwaye abayeni okanye abafazi babo bachithe ixesha elininzi ekhaya okanye kunye nabo xa bengasekho kwisidanga sokuqala. Elinye iqabane lisenokungavumi ukutshintsha izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kunye nendlela yabo yokuphila betshatile.
Iinyani eziyinyani ziyatyhilwa
Ngelixa bethandana, omnye usenokutyekela ekubeni angazenzi ngokupheleleyo ngenxa yokuxhalaba ukuba iqabane lakhe liya kubalekela iinduli ukuba bayazazi iziphene zabo. Nje ukuba iringi ibe semnweni, elinye okanye omabini amaqabane anokuqonda ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba akhululekile ukuvumela ubuninzi bokwaziwa kwabo ukuba butyhileke. Amaqabane abo banokuziva ngathi bakhohlisiwe kunye nexhoba "lokuloba kunye nokutshintsha". Eli inokuba lixesha lokuzama xa umntu engaziva ukuba bayamazi umntu abazinikele kuye bechitha ubomi babo.
Ukuzikhathalela nako kunokuhlala emva emva komtshato.Xa sele betshatile, mhlawumbi omnye uziva enesidingo esincinci sokugcina inkangeleko yakhe okanye ukuzikhathalela njengakuqala xa bekukho uxinzelelo lokuba bajonge okona kulungileyo emtshatweni okanye banomdla wokutsala amaqabane abo ngenxa yokoyika ukuphulukana nomdla . Ngokuqinisekileyo ukubonakala ayisiyiyo yonke into, kodwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ukuncipha kokuzikhathalela kunokudlala indima kwimicimbi yomtshato. Ucoceko, ukutya usempilweni kunye nokwenza umthambo kudlala indima ebalulekileyo kwimpilo yengqondo yomntu kwaye impilo yengqondo yeqabane ngalinye yinto yomgangatho womtshato.
Iiglasi ezinemibala ebomvu zavela
Mhlawumbi iqabane likabani alitshintshi, kodwa ii-idiosyncrasies kunye neempawu zobuntu zeqabane labo elitsha zinokubacaphukisa ngequbuliso, apho ngaphambili babenyamezelana. Ezi zinto zinokukhathaza ngakumbi xa zibekwa kwimeko yokujongana nazo ixesha elide.
Abantu basebukhweni
Bobabini abatshatileyo bafumene usapho (in-in-law) losapho olutsha. Indlela yokuphatha kakuhle abakhwenyana bakho inokubangela uxinzelelo njengoko banokuziva benelungelo lokungenelela kulwalamano okanye ukungqubana okukhoyo kwangaphambili kunokunyuka kuphela emva komtshato. Omnye unokuziva ekrazukile ukukhetha icala xa kukho ukungavisisani phakathi kwamaqabane abo amatsha kunye nosapho; ngenxa yoko, ukunyaniseka kuya kuvavanywa.
Apha ngezantsi kukho izikhokelo ngokubanzi zokunceda ukusinda kunyaka wokuqala womtshato xa ujongene nale mingeni ingentla okanye eyongezelelweyo.
Funa isisombululo
Sukwenza impazamo yokucinga ukuba izinto ziya kuqhuma okanye zisebenze ngokwazo. Akukho mntu uthanda ukuba nengxabano kodwa iya kusombulula ngokulula xa kuthethwa ngayo
Incinci kunokuba emva kokuba iqhwalele kwisivumelwano esikhulu. Isigqibo sinokubandakanya uthethathethwano kunye nokukhetha ukonwaba kunokuba kulunge.
Funda indlela yokunxibelelana
Ngokuzithemba nentlonipho makwazeke iingcinga, iimvakalelo, okulindelweyo kunye nezicelo zikabani. Akukho qabane lifunda ingqondo. Ukumamela kunje
Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yonxibelelwano njengokwabelana; ube ngumphulaphuli olungileyo.
Musa ukuthatha izinto ngokungakhathali
Oku kubandakanya omnye nomnye kunye nomtshato. Kunokuba lula kakhulu ukungakhathali nokungabi nambulelo. Chaza indlela onokubonisa ngayo uthando, uthando kunye noxabiso kwiqabane lakho kwaye ukwenze rhoqo.
Misela imida esempilweni
Izakhono zonxibelelwano nazo zinokunceda xa ujongana nabasebukhweni kunye nabanye abanokubaphazamisa. Umntu kufuneka akhethe ngokubhekisele kubantu abangaphandle komtshato abakhethana nabo ukuba babelane ngemitshato yabo yomtshato njengoko ingenguye wonke umntu oya kuba nenjongo kwaye angathathi cala.
Fumana uncedo lweengcali
Akukaze kube kudala ukufumana uncedo, kodwa ngelishwa ngamanye amaxesha kushiyeke ixesha. Izibini ezininzi zilinda de kube semva kweminyaka yongquzulwano kunye nokungoneliseki ngaphambi kokufuna iingcebiso ngomtshato. Ngelo xesha bahlala besecicini loqhawulo mtshato kwaye ngamanye amaxesha umonakalo omkhulu (ingqumbo, ukuphulukana nothando) sele yenziwe. Umgqirha oqeqeshiweyo unokusebenza ngokunceda amaqabane asebenze kuzo zonke ezi ndawo zingasentla, ngelixa enika loo njongo, umbono ongathathi hlangothi.
Njengayo nayiphi na into ebalulekileyo ebomini, umtshato ophilileyo uthatha umsebenzi. Kulungele ukubeka umgudu.
Ulwazi ngamandla; Ndiyathemba ukuba ulwazi olunikeziweyo lubonisa imiceli mngeni enokubakho (kodwa ayinakuphepheka) ukuba ijonge kunyaka wokuqala womtshato kunye neendlela zokujongana nazo kwakamsinya kunakwelixa elizayo.