Umxholo
- Ukuchaza iqabane langaphandle
- Ulwazi olubalulekileyo
- Imfuno zomthetho
- Umahluko ngokwenkcubeko
- Amava amnandi
- Isiphelo
Umtshato yinto uninzi lwabasetyhini kunye namadoda olujonge kuyo. Abanye banethamsanqa lokuhlala ubomi babo bonke bomtshato kwiqabane elinye ngelixa izibini ezimbalwa zohlukana okanye uqhawulo-mtshato ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Umzekeliso wamandulo uthi: “Imitshato yenziwa ezulwini.” Akukho zimvo kule axiom.
Nangona kunjalo, imithetho, imigaqo, imigaqo, iinkolo, kunye neenkcubeko zenziwe ngabantu. Ukanti ezi zinto zihlala zidlala indima ebonakalayo ekuphumeleleni okanye ekusileleni komtshato. Okungakumbi, ukuba ungumfazi okanye uyindoda utshata umntu wasemzini. Ukutshata neqabane elivela kwinkcubeko yelinye ilizwe kunokuba yimincili kodwa kunokuba ngamava othusayo. Ukuthintela amaphupha amabi emtshatweni, kunyanzelekile ukuba wazi ukuba yintoni kanye kanye eyenzekayo emtshatweni weenkcubeko ezahlukeneyo.
Ukuchaza iqabane langaphandle
Inkqubo 'yoomolokazana boku-odola ngeposi' eyahluma ukusukela kwiminyaka yoo-1970 ukuya kowe-1990 iyanda. Amazwe aliqela ayawathintela 'ama-mail-order brides', kuba oko kufana nokuthengisa inyama. Kwabandakanyeka abasetyhini abasuka kumazwe ahambele phambili kwezoqoqosho beziswa “njengoomolokazana” kumazwe atyebileyo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukutshata amadoda amadala ngokwaneleyo ukuba abe ngooyisemkhulu bawo.
Inkqubo ngoku ithathelwe indawo 'ziiarhente zomdlalo' ezisebenza kakuhle kwi-Intanethi. Kwimali encinci yobulungu, indoda okanye umfazi unokukhetha kumaqabane amaninzi anokubakho naphi na kwihlabathi.Ngokungafaniyo nemiyalelo yeposi, lowo uza kuba ngumtshakazi okanye umyeni kufuneka aye kwilizwe ahlala kulo lowo uza kuba liqabane lakhe aze atshate ngokugqibezela zonke iinkqubo zomthetho.
Kukho ezinye iintlobo zamaqabane omtshato nawo ahlangabezana nenkcazo yeqabane langaphandle:
- Umthonyama welinye ilizwe ofumene ubumi belinye ilizwe
- Umntwana wabaphambukeli ophethe ipasipoti yelizwe apho abazali bahlala khona
- Unyana okanye intombi yabantu abatshatileyo abavela kwizizwe ezahlukeneyo
Akukho nkcazo zichazayo zomlingane welinye ilizwe kodwa ngokubanzi, banokuthathwa njengabantu abavela kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo nakubuzwe.
Ulwazi olubalulekileyo
Ukutshata abantu abanjalo kuxhaphakile kule mihla njengoko amazwe aliqela esamkela abafuduki abanezakhono kwaye enikezela ngobumi emva kokuhlangabezana neendlela ezithile. Nangona kunjalo, zimbini izinto eziphambili ekufuneka uzijongile ukuze uphumelele, wonwabe emtshatweni nomntu wasemzini. Zezi:
- Iimfuno zomthetho
- Umahluko ngokwenkcubeko
Apha, sixoxa olu lwazi lubalulekileyo ngokweenkcukacha ezingakumbi.
Imfuno zomthetho
Apha sidwelisa eminye imithetho, imigaqo, kunye nemigaqo eqheliselwa ngokwenziwa ngamazwe kwihlabathi liphela. Nangona kunjalo, unokujonga kwi-ofisi yakho yokufuduka kunye namagqwetha ukulungisa iingxaki ezithile.
Awunakho ukuhlala kwilizwe lokuzalwa lomlingane wakho ngaphandle kwemvume efanelekileyo kurhulumente walo. Intsingiselo, ukutshata ummi welinye ilizwe akuvumeli ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba ube namalungelo okuhlala apho. Rhoqo, kuthotho lwezinto ezifunwa ngurhulumente zifunwa ngamasebe ahlukeneyo orhulumente ngaphambi kokuba anike indawo yokuhlala isigxina okanye ivisa yokungena kwilizwe leqabane. Umthetho kukuthintela ukufuduka ngokungekho mthethweni okanye 'imitshato yesivumelwano' apho iqabane langaphandle liziswa kuphela ngenjongo yokufumana ubumi.
Ukubonelela ngobungqina bokuba awutshatanga okanye awutshatanga okanye unelungelo ngokusemthethweni lokungena emtshatweni kunyanzelekile. Ngaphandle kolu xwebhu lukhutshwe ligunya elifanelekileyo kwilizwe lakho, ngekhe utshate umntu wasemzini.
Ungatshata kumsitho wenkolo kwindawo ethile engcwele, engenakucela ubungqina bokuba awutshatanga okanye awutshatanga okanye unelungelo lokutshata. Nangona kunjalo, olu xwebhu luyimfuneko ngelixa ubhalisa umtshato wakho kwinkundla yoluntu nakwizithunywa zozakuzo.
Ukubhalisa umtshato kwilizwe lakho kunye nelomlingane kubalulekile. Ngenxa yomahluko kwimithetho yomtshato yamazwe ahlukeneyo, iqabane langaphandle kwaye kufuneka uhambelane nemithetho yamazwe omabini. Oku kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho okanye inzala inokuba yindlalifa yakho esemthethweni. Ukungabhalisi kungakhokelela kumtshato wakho uthathwe njengongekho semthethweni kwaye abantwana babizwa ngokuba 'ngabangekho semthethweni'.
Ukongeza, ukuba uhlala kwilizwe lesithathu, kuya kufuneka ubhalise umtshato nalapho. Le mithetho ikhona ukuqinisekisa ukuba omabini amaqabane afumana ukhuseleko olufanelekileyo kunye namalungelo ngelixa ahlala kwelo lizwe. Nangona kunjalo, ukubhalisa umtshato kuyafuneka kuphela xa utshata kwelo lizwe. Ngale ndlela, ilizwe linokunika iqabane lakho i-visa okanye imvume yokuhlala efunekayo phantsi kwenqanaba elitsha, elitshatileyo.
Ngaphandle kokuba bobabini abatshati abavela kwimvelaphi yangaphandle babambe ubuzwe obufanayo, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ngummi wokuba abantwana bakho banikwe xa bezalwa. Amanye amazwe ngokuzenzekelayo anika ubumi bawo kumntwana owazalelwa emhlabeni wawo ngelixa amanye engqongqo kwaye engabavumeli abasetyhini abakhulelweyo ukuba bangene kwimida yabo. Kuya kufuneka ulinganise i-pros kunye ne-cons yabantwana bakho bathathe ubuzwe belizwe likatata okanye lomama.
Umahluko ngokwenkcubeko
Ukuba iingxabano zomthetho yinto ekufuneka uyenzile xa utshata nomntu wasemzini, ukuvala iyantlukwano kwinkcubeko kubalulekile ngokulinganayo. Ngaphandle kokuba uhlala kwilizwe lokuzalwa lomlingane okanye ngenye indlela, zininzi izinto ekufuneka uzifunde ngaphambi nasemva komtshato.
Imikhwa yokutya yinto exhaphake kakhulu apho uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo abavela kwamanye amazwe befumana ukungavisisani. Ukuziqhelanisa neendlela zokutya zamanye amazwe akulula. Iqabane lakho lisenokungayazi imikhwa yenkcubeko kunye neenkcubeko zenkcubeko yakho. Ngelixa abanye banokuhlengahlengisa ukuthanda ilizwe langaphandle kwangoko, abanye banokungaze bavelise. Ukuxabana ngokutya kungakhokelela kuphazamiseko lwasekhaya.
Yazi imeko yezoqoqosho yosapho lweqabane lakho. Ukuxabana kwemali phakathi kwezibini kungoyena nobangela woqhawulo mtshato e-US nakwezinye iindawo zehlabathi. Ukuba usapho lweqabane lakho lubuthathaka kwezoqoqosho, banokulindela uncedo lwemali. Oku kuthetha ukuba, umyeni okanye umfazi wakho angaphela ethumela isahlulo somvuzo wabo ngenkxaso yabo. Kuyaqondakala ukuba, baya kufuna imali yezinto eziyimfuneko ukusukela ekutyeni ukuya kwezempilo kunye nemfundo. Yiyo loo nto, kungcono ukwazi malunga nokuzincama kwemali okunokutshata nomntu wasemzini.
Unxibelelwano olugqwesileyo lubalulekile kwimpumelelo yawo nawuphi na umtshato. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba iqabane lakho langaphandle kunye nenqanaba lokuchaneka kulwimi oluqhelekileyo. Abantu abavela kumazwe ahlukeneyo bathetha isiNgesi ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ingxelo engenacala yomntu wasemzini inokuthathwa njengempazamo kwenye inkcubeko kwaye inokonakalisa ubudlelwane.
Ukwazi iyantlukwano kwizenzo zonqulo kunye nezinto ozikhethayo ikwangumba ophambili womtshato ophumeleleyo nomntu wasemzini. Nangona unokulandela inkolo enye, amasiko emveli ahlala enefuthe kwindlela eqhutywa ngayo. Umzekelo, ezinye izizwe zibhiyozela ukusweleka kwaye zamkela abalilayo ngeelekese, iikeyiki, utywala okanye iziselo. Abanye banemilindelo ebukekayo. Unokuziva ukhathazekile ukuba iqabane lakho libhiyozela ukusweleka kwesihlobo osithandayo ngenxa yomphefumlo oshiyekileyo uye ezulwini.
Abanye banokubona amasiko onyibiliko njengokuphendula okungaphaya kule ndlela yendalo yobomi bomntu.
Iibhondi zosapho zenkcubeko yelinye ilizwe zinokwahluka kakhulu. Rhoqo, iimovie zaseHollywood zigqamisa ezi zinto zilandelayo. Kwezinye iinkcubeko, kulindeleke ukuba uthathe onke amalungu amakhaya eqabane lakho ukuya kumovie okanye kwisidlo sangokuhlwa. Ukunandipha ukuba wedwa neqabane lakho kunokujongwa njengokukrwada okanye ukuzingca. Kananjalo, ngelixa unika into iqabane, kusenokufuneka uthenge izipho kusapho ukuze uhambelane namasiko aphesheya. Kwamanye amazwe, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuhamba nabahlobo nezalamane ezingamenywanga ukuya ethekweni. Kuya kufuneka ulungiselele ukufumana ubuncinci ubuncinci inani leendwendwe ezimenyiweyo ukuba iqabane lakho liphuma kolo hlanga.
Ukuchitha imali kuyahluka ngokwelizwe ngalinye. Ezinye iinkcubeko zikhuthaza ukonwaba kunye nokungakhathali njengophawu lokuthozama ngelixa abanye bezonwabisa ngokuthetha ubutyebi. Oku kwenza ukuba kubalulekile ukuba uyazi indlela ochitha ngayo inkcubeko onqwenela ukutshata kuyo. Ngenye indlela, unokugqibela ngokuphila ubomi obungenanto yakwenza nezinto owawukhe wazithathela ingqalelo. Kwelinye icala, unokubaleka ungene kwimicimbi yemali ukuba iqabane lakho ligazi elinenkcitho enkulu, ngenxa yokunyanzelwa yinkcubeko.
Amava amnandi
Ukutshata nomntu wasemzini kunokuba ngamava amyoli, ukuba ungamelana nazo zonke iimpikiswano ezisemthethweni ezibangelwa yimithetho yamazwe ahlukeneyo kwaye uhambe umgama ongaphezulu ukuze ufunde ukungafani kwenkcubeko. Izigidi zabantu kwihlabathi liphela zitshatile abantu bamanye amazwe abavela kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye baphila ubomi obonwabisayo. Yiyo loo nto ukuziqhelanisa nokutshata nenkcubeko eyahlukileyo kunye nemithetho echaphazelekayo inokubonakalisa kunokuba nomvuzo.
Isiphelo
Abanye abantu kwihlabathi liphela banengxaki yokuhlaselwa ngabantu. Balumkile ngabaphambukeli kusapho nakwindawo abahlala kuyo. Unokwenza okuncinci ukujongana nabantu abaya kuthi ngamanye amaxesha baye kufikelela ekuzonwabiseni ngobuhlanga. Akukho sizathu sokuziphindezela kuba iya kwandisa kuphela intiyo esele ixhaphakile.
Ukuba utshata umntu wasemzini, funda ukuwajonga kancinci. Abanye abantu banokuyishiya inkampani yakho okanye bangamemi iqabane lakho okanye umnyhadala. Esi ayisosizathu sakucaphuka. Ukungahoyi aba bantu bangokubandezeleka yeyona mpendulo.
Nangona kunjalo, unokufuna ukwazisa iqabane lakho langaphandle malunga neziganeko ezinjalo.