Umxholo
- Ngamanye amaxesha into esiyithethayo ayibonisi ukuba sithetha ukuthini
- Ukuqonda nantoni na kufuna uqikelelo
- Ukutolikwa gwenxa kweenjongo ezinyanisekileyo kuyalonakalisa ulwalamano
- Amaqabane afuna uxabiso omnye komnye
- Funda ukungafihli nto malunga nezinto ozifunayo kwiqabane lakho
Yena: Amatyala kakhulu. Kufuneka senze into.
Yena: Ewe, ndingasebenza iiyure ezinde.
Yena: Ndiyakuzonda ukuba wenze njalo, kodwa kujongeka njengokukuphela kwendlela.
Yena: Ndizakuthetha nomphathi wam ngomso.
Kwiiveki ezithile kamva
Yena: ndihluthi, luphi usuku olude!
Yena: udinwe uyaphela ekupheleni kosuku. Ndiyakhathazeka ngawe. Kwaye ulilolo ngaphandle kwakho apha.
Yena: (enomsindo) Undixelele ukuba siyayidinga imali!
Yena: (Ekhala kakhulu) Ndinesithukuthezi, kutheni ungeva lonto?
Yena: (ndisenomsindo) Khalaza, khalaza! Uyahlekisa. Ndisebenze nje iiyure ezili-12.
Yena: kutheni ndizihlupha ngokuthetha nawe. Awusoze umamele.
Kwaye ngenxa yokuba bebalekile ukuya kugqatso, elowo eba nomsindo nangakumbi, elowo nalowo uziva ngokungaphaya engaqondwa kwaye engaxabiswanga. Kum, le vignette luhlobo lweprototype yokungabikho konxibelelwano kubudlelwane. Makhe sijonge ukuba yintoni engahambanga kakuhle, kwaye ngoba. Kwaye ke makhe sijonge ukuba yintoni ebiya kuyenza yahluke.
Ngamanye amaxesha into esiyithethayo ayibonisi ukuba sithetha ukuthini
Baqala kakuhle. Bayasebenzisana ukujongana noxinzelelo lobomi olunzima, ezemali. Kodwa ke baqala ukungaqondi kakuhle omnye komnye. Ucinga ukuba uyamgxeka, emxelela ukuba wenze into engalunganga ngokusebenza iiyure ezongezelelweyo. Ucinga ukuba akakhathali ngaye, okanye ukuba uziva njani. Zombini azilunganga.
Ingxaki kunxibelelwano kukuba nangona sicinga ukuba into esiyithethayo idlulisela oko sikuthethayo, ayenzi njalo. Izivakalisi, amabinzana, iithoni zelizwi, kunye nokuthambo komzimba zizikhombisi kwiintsingiselo, azinazo intsingiselo ngokwazo.
Oko kunokuvakala kungenangqondo, kodwa nantsi into endiyithethayo. UNoam Chomsky, ingcali ngeelwimi, wachaza kwiminyaka eyadlulayo umahluko phakathi “kobume obunzulu” apho iintsingiselo zihlala khona kunye “nolwakhiwo lomhlaba” apho amagama uqobo ekhona. Isivakalisi esingaphezulu "ukutyelela izihlobo kunokuba yingxaki" ineentsingiselo ezimbini ezahlukeneyo (ezinzulu). (1) Kuyinkathazo komnye xa kutyelele izalamane, kwaye (2) Kuyinkathazo ukuba umntu aye kutyelela izalamane.Ukuba isivakalisi esinye sinokuba neentsingiselo ezimbini, intsingiselo nesivakalisi azifani. Kwangokunjalo, uSchank noAbelson babonisa indlela ukuqonda kwezentlalo kuhlala kuyinkqubo yokuthobela. Ukuba ndiyakuxelela ukuba umfana ungene kwaMcDonald waphuma nengxowa, kwaye ndikubuza ukuba yintoni ebhegini, ungaphendula "ukutya" okanye "burger". Ulwazi endikunike lona ibikukuba kuphela 1. Uye wangena eMcDonald's, kwaye u-2.Waphuma ephethe ibhegi.
Kodwa uzisa lonke ulwazi lwakho kunye namava kunye noMcDonald's, ukuthenga ukutya okukhawulezayo, kunye nento oyaziyo ngobomi kwaye uzobe isigqibo esicacileyo sokuba ukutya ngokuqinisekileyo bekusekhwameni. Nangona kunjalo, yayisisigqibo esigqithile kulwazi oluboniswe ngaphezulu.
Ukuqonda nantoni na kufuna uqikelelo
Ngapha koko, inkqubo yokuthathelwa ingqalelo yenziwa ngokungacingi, ngokukhawuleza, nangokucokisekileyo kangangokuba ukuba ndikubuze emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa ukuba kwenzeke ntoni ebalini impendulo ingangathi "ngumfo othenge ukutya eMcDonald's", hayi "mfo ndikhuphe ibhegi kwaMcDonald's. ” Ukuqonda nantoni na kufuna uqikelelo. Ayinakuphepheka. Kwaye ubunyanisile malunga nento eyenzekileyo ngalo mfana. Kodwa isibini sam apha singena enkathazweni kuba nganye nganye yayihambisa intsingiselo engachanekanga kwizivakalisi ezinikiweyo. Iintsingiselo ezifunyenweyo azingqinelani neentsingiselo ekulindeleke ukuba zithunyelwe. Makhe sijonge oku konke ngokusondele ngakumbi ukuze siqonde ukubaluleka konxibelelwano emtshatweni.
Ukutolikwa gwenxa kweenjongo ezinyanisekileyo kuyalonakalisa ulwalamano
Uthi, “Ndihluthi ...” Uthetha ukuthi, “Ndisebenza nzima ukusikhathalela kwaye ndifuna ukuba uyixabise imizamo yam.” Kodwa into ayivayo kukuba, “Ndiyakhathaza.” Kuba umkhathalele uyaphendula, "Udiniwe kakhulu ..." Into ayithethayo kukuba "Ndiyabona ukuba ukhathazekile, kwaye ndifuna uyazi ukuba ndiyayibona kwaye ndiyakhathala." Uzama ukuvelana. Kodwa endaweni yoko akuvayo kukuba "Akufanelekanga ukuba usebenza nzima, ngekhe udinwe kangaka." Oko kukuthatha njengokugxeka, kwaye kungenabulungisa ngaphandle koko.
Uyongeza, "Ndinesithukuthezi" Into ayifunayo kukwenza ukuba avume ukuba naye ubuhlungu. Kodwa uyeva, "ubumele ukundikhathalela kodwa endaweni yoko uyandilimaza: wenza into engalunganga." Ke uphendula ngokukhusela isenzo sakhe ukubonisa ukuba akenzanga nto imbi, "Undixelele ..." Ngelixa azikhuselayo, uziva etyholwa, kwaye ke okoko engayifumananga lento ebeyifuna (ukuba avume Umlimazile) uphinda umyalezo wakhe ngamandla, "Ndindedwa." Kwaye uyithatha njengesinye isohlwayo, ke ulwa umva nangakumbi. Kwaye konke kuya kusiba kubi.
Amaqabane afuna uxabiso omnye komnye
Ufuna ukusondela kunye nokusondelelana ngokwabelana ngeemvakalelo, nokuba zibuhlungu. Kwaye ufuna umbulelo ngendlela amnyamekela ngayo. Ngelishwa, akukho nanye intsingiselo ejolise komnye ngelixa ngamnye eqinisekile ukuba bayayiqonda ngqo enye indlela. Kwaye ke ngamnye uphendula intsingiselo engeyiyo ngelixa evakalayo. Kwaye okukhona bezama ukwenza ukuba abanye baqonde, kokukhona umlo uya usiba mbi. Kubuhlungu, ngokwenene, kuba ukukhathalelana kwabo kunika nje amandla okwenzakalisana.
Uphuma njani kule nto? Amanyathelo amathathu: ukungazenzisi, uvelane, kwaye ucacise. Ukungazenzisi kuthetha ukuba uyeke ukubona imiyalezo ngokungathi uthetha ngawe. Imiyalezo inokuchaphazela kodwa ayizukubonisa. "Ndinesithukuthezi" ayisiyo ngxelo ngaye. Ingxelo ngaye, ngempazamo ajike abe ingxelo ngaye, ukugxekwa kunye nezenzo zakhe. Wayifaka loo ntsingiselo, kwaye wayifumana gwenxa. Nokuba "undixelele" ukuba ijolise kuye ayisiyiyo kwaphela ngaye. Imalunga nendlela aziva engathandwa ngayo kwaye esolwa ngokungafanelekanga. Oku kusisa kwinxalenye yovelwano.
Ngamnye kufuneka angene kwezinye izihlangu, intloko, intliziyo. Ngamnye kufuneka abonakalise ngokwenyani ukuba loluphi olunye uvakalelo kunye namava, bavela phi, kwaye ujonge oko ngaphambi kokuthatha kakhulu okanye ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba babekwazi ukuvelana ngokuchanekileyo wayenokuyiqonda into yokuba ufuna ukuviwa, kwaye angayiqonda into yokuba ufuna ukwamkelwa.
Funda ukungafihli nto malunga nezinto ozifunayo kwiqabane lakho
Okokugqibela, nganye kufuneka icacise. Kuya kufuneka ukuba akhululeke ngakumbi malunga noko akufunayo, ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba uyayixabisa indlela asebenza nzima ngayo kwaye uyamxhasa. Kwaye kufuneka acacise ukuba akathethi ukuba amxelele ukuba wenze into engalunganga, kuphela kukuba ukungabikho kwakhe kunzima kuye, ukuba uyamkhumbula kuba uyathanda ukuba kunye naye, kwaye uyabona ukuba injalo ngoku . Kufuneka achaze ukuba ukuviwa kujongeka kanjani kuye. Kuya kufuneka bacacise ukuba bathetha ntoni na nabangathethi ntoni. Kule, esinye isivakalisi asihlali sanele, ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba uninzi lwethu singamadoda ukuba kufanelekile. Izivakalisi ezininzi, zonke zidityaniswe nengcinga enye engaphantsi "zonxantathu" kumyalezo kwaye ngaloo ndlela icacisa enye. Oko kuyanceda ukuqinisekisa ukuba intsingiselo enikwe ngcono ihambelana nentsingiselo efunyenweyo.
Okokugqibela kususwe
Inqaku, ke, kukuba unxibelelwano kwizibini ezitshatileyo, nakwezinye iindawo, yinkqubo enzima. Elona cebiso lilungileyo lomtshato ekusombululeni iingxaki zezibini ziya kuba kukunikela ingqalelo ekungazenzisiyo, ekubonakaliseni uvelwano, nasekucaciseni kunokunceda izibini ukuba ziphephe iingxaki ezingafunekiyo, kwaye endaweni yoko zinokubasondeza. Unxibelelwano olungcono emtshatweni sisandulela kulwalamano olonwabisayo nolwanelisekileyo neqabane lakho.