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- Abantwana benza kakuhle ukuba banako
- Vumela abantwana bavelise ezabo izisombululo
- Sebenzisa indlela yokusebenzisana ukusombulula iingxaki
Njengabantu abadala, sonke siyazithanda izimvo zethu ezimanyelwayo, zamkelwe kwaye zaqinisekiswa. Kwiphepha le-flip, njengabantu abadala, sihlala sisilela ukuqonda ukuba abantwana kunye nolutsha luziva ngendlela efanayo. Ukuqonda ukuba nabantwana abaneminyaka emine ubudala bayakuxabisa ukuqinisekiswa kunye nethuba lokuveza izimvo zabo, kunokusinceda kungekuphela nje ekufundiseni abantwana nakwishumi elivisayo ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa kunokudala imvisiswano kunye nobomi basekhaya obulula.
Ngolu luvo engqondweni, uGqr. J. Stuart Abalon noGqirha Ross Greene basungula iZiko eliDibeneyo lokuSombulula iiNgxaki (CPS) Institute (2002) kwiSebe lezeengqondo kwi-General Hospital yaseMassachusetts. Ukulandela oku, uGqr Abalon weThinkKids.org uye wenza uphando, waqhubela phambili waphucula indlela yokuSombulula iiNgxaki yokuSombulula (i-CPS) yokusingatha iimeko ezikhohlisayo nabantwana nolutsha. Indlela kaGqr. Abalon iluncedo kakhulu kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo esiqhele ukuba sicinge ukuba "sinesiqhushumbisi". Indlela yeCPS ibonakalisiwe ngokwezonyango ukunceda abantwana, ulutsha kunye nabazali babo ukuba basombulule ingxaki ngokwenza umntwana okanye ulutsha ukuba bavelise kwaye bathethe ngomlomo izisombululo zabo kwiingxaki ezinamava ekhaya, esikolweni okanye ekudlaleni. Le ndlela ifunyenwe isebenza kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo enoluhlu olubanzi lweengxaki zemvakalelo, zentlalo kunye nokuziphatha kwiindawo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo kubandakanya ikhaya losapho. Sebenzisa le ndlela kunokuhamba umgama omde ekwenzeni ikhaya elonwabileyo elingenaxinzelelo oluncinci kwaye kuqinisekisiwe ukuba ufundisa ubuchule obubalulekileyo bokusebenzisana.
Abantwana benza kakuhle ukuba banako
UGqr. Abalon ugcina athi "abantwana benza kakuhle ukuba banako," Ngamanye amagama, xa sinika izixhobo kunye nezakhono, abantwana banokwenza kakuhle. Le ngcamango ihluke kakhulu kwimbono yendabuko yokuba abantwana benza kakuhle xa befuna. Bonke abantwana bafuna ukuba ngabalungileyo kwaye bafuna ukuthathwa njengabalungileyo, kodwa abanye bayasokola ngaphezu kwabanye kuba abanazo izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki abazidingayo ukuze bakwazi ukuba "balungile."
Vumela abantwana bavelise ezabo izisombululo
Isiseko sendlela yokuvumela abantwana ukuba bavelise izisombululo kwiingxaki abanazo ekhaya okanye kolunye useto. Umntu omdala uya kuqala incoko ngendlela engagwebiyo engenatyala, ngokuthi, "Ndiqaphele ukuba ...... yintoni le?" Kubalulekile ke ukuba ulinde impendulo ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Kubalulekile nokuqinisekisa umntwana okanye umntwana okwishumi elivisayo ukuba "akabinangxaki." Umntu omdala unokulandela ngokuchaza umba (kwakhona-engamangaleli, engakhethi cala; chaza umba), emva koko ubuze umntwana okanye ulutsha ukuba baziva njani, okanye bacinga ntoni ngalo mbandela. Ukulinda ngomonde kweli nqanaba kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kungathatha ixesha. Kukwabaluleke kakhulu ukusebenzisa ukumamela okusebenzayo ukukwazisa umntwana okanye ulutsha ukuba umamele izimvo zabo ngenyameko.
Nje ukuba umntu omdala abe nembono ecacileyo ngombono womntwana okanye wolutsha, banokumcela umntwana okanye ulutsha ukuba banazo naziphi na iingcebiso zokuphucula imeko.Oku kungathatha ixesha kwaye nazo naziphi na izimvo eziveliswe ngumntwana okanye ulutsha kufuneka zimanyelwe, zixatyiswe kwaye ziqinisekiswe. Le ndlela inamacandelo amathathu abizwa ngokuba yiplani A, icebo B kunye nesicwangciso C, sisiseko esomeleleyo kwaye kungqinwe ngokwenzululwazi ukuba sinezibonelelo ze-neurological. Ngokuqhelekileyo hayi isetyenziswe ngexesha lokuhlawulwa kakhulu okanye imeko yokuqhushumba kodwa inyanzelekile xa umntwana okanye ulutsha lukwazi ukwamkela nokuthatha inxaxheba kwingxoxo yentsebenziswano. Nangona le ndlela ithatha ukuziqhelanisa nokugqibelela, abazali abafunda ukusebenzisa le ndlela ngokufanelekileyo baya kuba besenza abantwana babo kunye nolutsha inkonzo enkulu ngokubafundisa indlela yokusombulula ingxaki ngaphandle kokuqhushumba okanye ukubonisa enye indlela yokuziphatha engathandekiyo.
Sebenzisa indlela yokusebenzisana ukusombulula iingxaki
Indlela yokusebenzisana yokusombulula ingxaki ithatha ixesha kunye nokuziqhelanisa nokugqibelela kodwa kufanelekile ukuzama. Oomama nootata abasebenzisa i-CPS bahlala bemangalisiwe yindlela le ndlela eqala ngayo ukutshintsha indlela abanengxaki yokusombulula ngayo kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi babo. Oovimba abaninzi bokufumanisa ngakumbi ngendlela yokusebenzisa iCPS kufumaneka kwiwebhusayithi kaGqr Stuart Abalon ethi www.thinkkids.org.
Iincwadi ezimbini ngalo mbandela zezi Umntwana oqhumayo nguRoss Greene; incwadi eluncedo ekukhuliseni abantwana "ucaphuka msinya, abantwana abangaguqukiyo," kwaye Ukulahleka Esikolweni, enye incwadi kaGqirha Greene echaza ukuba kutheni abantwana besikolo beziphethe kakuhle besokola kwaye "bewela phakathi kweentanda." Zombini ezi ncwadi kufanelekile ukuba uzifunde ukuba ungumzali ongumntwana onocelomngeni, okruqulayo ngokulula okanye odubulayo okanye ulutsha.