Umxholo
- Ziqheleke kangakanani ii-sociopaths?
- 1. Ziyathandeka
- 2. Banobukhulu obukhulu
- 3. Baqwalasele kakhulu
- 4. Basola abanye
- 5. Bahlala benobuxoki kunye nezikhewu kwibali labo
- 6. Banxibelelana kakhulu namehlo
- 7. Zihamba ngokukhawuleza
- 8. Bafuna uvelwano
- 9. Ngexesha elithile, uza kuwubona umsindo phantsi kwamehlo abo
- 10. Ababonakali ngathi banetyala
I-Sociopaths inokwenza ulonwabo lweTV, kodwa oko kusenokwenzeka malunga nomda.
Ngaba intlalontle iyingozi? Kuba ukungawahloniphi amalungelo kunye neemvakalelo zabanye abantu, banokuba namandla okuxhaphaza, boyike, babe ndlongondlongo, babe nogonyamelo kwaye babe yingozi.
Iimpawu zentlalo yamadoda nabasetyhini zibandakanya ukubhenela kwizenzo ezigwenxa, ukuwela imida, kunye nokwaphula izivumelwano.
Ukungena kwimilo ephindaphindwayo okanye ekuhlaselweni kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu abe neempawu zobuntu zentlalontle. Ke, kungcono ukuba uqaphele imiqondiso yokuqala yokuziphatha kwabantu, ngaphambi kokuba izinto zinyukele kumonakalo ongenakulungiseka kulwalamano olunjalo.
Ziqheleke kangakanani ii-sociopaths?
Ukudibana nentlalontle ebomini bokwenyani ayisiyonto ilusizi, kwaye ngelishwa, amathuba okunxibelelana nentlalontle aphezulu kuluntu ngokubanzi, umzekelo, abathathu kwabalikhulu kwindoda ziintlalontle.
Iyavakala ke into yokufunda iimpawu zentlalontle ukuze uzikhusele kwintlungu kunye nobunzima kwikamva. Sithembe xa sikulumkisa malunga nokuziphatha kunye neempawu zentlalontle.
Awufuni ukuwela kwiingalo zentlalontle nokuba zintle kangakanani kwaye zinomtsalane.
Kule nqaku, siza kuluhlu oluluhlu lwezentlalontle oluya kukunceda uchonge iimpawu zentlalontle, iimpawu zentlalontle kubantu basetyhini okanye emadodeni, kwaye uxelele njani ukuba umntu uyintlalontle.
Nazi ezinye zeempawu zakudala zontlalontle:
1. Ziyathandeka
Ewe kunjalo, kukho amadoda nabafazi phaya abangazizo ii-sociopaths kodwa banomtsalane.
Ukuba umntu onaye ubonakala onwabile kwinto yokuba bayathandeka kwaye agudile ngokupheleleyo, oko akuthethi ukuba bayintlalontle, kodwa ngokulinganayo, oko kunokuthetha ukuba nabo.
Jonga ezinye iimpawu zentlalontle ukukunceda uthathe isigqibo. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, unesilumkiso sensimbi ekhalayo, yimamele, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho isizathu.
Jonga kwakhona:
2. Banobukhulu obukhulu
Olunye utyekelo lwentlalontle kukuba ne-elephantine ego. Ke, uyazi njani intlalontle?
Abayi kuyeka ukukuxelela indlela abalumke ngayo, abazizityebi, abanomdla, nabaphumeleleyo, kwaye ngekhe bathande ukuba i-ego yabo inkqonkqoziwe nokuba kancinane.
Basenokungabonakalisi ukuba abonwabanga ukuba i-ego yabo iye yankqonkqozwa kodwa ukuba uhoye intetho yabo, uya kuyibona ingqumbo ecinezelweyo ifihle ngaphantsi.
3. Baqwalasele kakhulu
Zithini iimpawu zontlalontle? Umntu onolu hlobo lokungahambelani nabantu unomdla wokumamela kwaye ujonge.Baye bathambekele ekufumaneni indawo engaphezulu malunga nezinto abazithandayo.
Olunye lweempawu ezicacileyo zentlalontle kukuba banamandla kwaye banike ingqalelo enkulu.
Baza kunxibelelana nawe ngalo lonke ixesha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, baya kufuna ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakho kunye nabo, kwaye abayi kuchukunyiswa ukuba udlula inkampani yabo usapho, abahlobo okanye enye into.
Kwakhona, abayi kukuxelela le nto kodwa banokukwenza uzive unetyala, kwaye ukuba ujonga ubuso babo, baya kuwufihla umsindo ocinezelweyo.
4. Basola abanye
Zithini iimpawu zentlalontle? Bayakuthanda ukudlala umdlalo osolwayo. Olu luphawu olulungileyo lwentlalontle kuba kulula ukuyibona.
Kwincoko Uya kuqala ukuqaphela ukuba akukho nto iyimpazamo kubo, Baza kukuxelela amabali malunga nexesha labo elidlulileyo kwaye ngekhe bathi 'bekufanele ukuba ndiyenzile le nto,' okanye 'bendiphazama'. Akunakuze.
Kwaye abasayi kuze baphile ubomi babo bonke!
5. Bahlala benobuxoki kunye nezikhewu kwibali labo
Iimpendulo kwimibuzo yakho malunga nexesha labo elidlulileyo ngamanye amaxesha ziya kungacacanga okanye zihonjiswe.
Banokusebenzisa iindlela zetyala okanye ukuphazamisa ukuphepha ukuphendula imibuzo ukuba abazi kakuhle.
Kunye namanye amacebo anje ngokusola kunye nomsindo, bacinga ukuba bakutshixele kubo. Uyakufumana imingxunya kumabali abo. Nika ingqalelo nakwezona mingxunya zincinci ungazihoyi.
6. Banxibelelana kakhulu namehlo
Ukudibana kwamehlo kunokuba nomtsalane, kunokuba luphawu lokuba umntu othile uyathandana nawe kodwa ukuba bajonge kuwe ngendlela ethe kratya, oko kunokukwenza uzive ungonwabanga.
Qiniseka ukuba umamela izivamvo zakho zesiporingi, kukho into eyicimileyo!
Olu lolunye lweempawu zentlalontle eziza kusokola ukuyifihla.
7. Zihamba ngokukhawuleza
Baya kuthandana nawe ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ufuna ukukhawulezisa ubudlelwane ngokukhawuleza.
Uya kuhlala nabo kwaye ubatshatise ngaphandle kwexesha konke konke ukuba banelizwi. Kwaye bahlala befumana indlela yabo.
8. Bafuna uvelwano
Uya kuzisizela ngenxa yexesha labo elidlulileyo, imeko yabo yangoku kunye nantoni na entle abafuna ukuba uzive unovelwano ngayo.
Balungile koku, nokuba ucinga ukuba uyakuxhathisa kwaye uceba ukubabona, ngekhe.
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9. Ngexesha elithile, uza kuwubona umsindo phantsi kwamehlo abo
Ngokukrakra jonga amehlo abo, abakwazi ukuwufihla umsindo ixesha elide. Ukuba ikhona balekela iinduli!
Sele sibonisile oku njengenye yeempawu zentlalontle njengokujonga ngokulondoloza kwezinye iimeko.
Nokuba bathetha yonke into, ufuna ukuva nangaphezulu, ngakumbi ukuba bakwenza uzive uphelele, ugqibe kwaye yonke into izakulunga emhlabeni.
Ukuba bayayenza le nto, kwaye babonisa nayiphi na eminye imiqondiso yontlalontle kwaye uyayibona ingqumbo ehleli kuyo, ayikulungelanga ukunamathela kuyo, musa ukuyiwela.
10. Ababonakali ngathi banetyala
Ngaphandle kokuba intlalontle ifunde ukwenza iziphumo zeemvakalelo zetyala abazukubonisa. Le yenye yeempawu eziphambili zentlalo.
Basenokuhleka okanye thetha izinto ezingafanelekanga, wenzakalise abantu, uxhaphaze abantu ngendlela abantu abaninzi abayi kuthi kwaye abayi kudanyaza ilihlo.
Kuyafana nakwizilwanyana.
Ukuba i-sociopath ifundile ukuba ityala liwuphawu lwentlalontle, banokuzama ukuyenza, kodwa amathuba okuba abanakuhlala bewamkela onke amaxesha afanelekileyo okubonisa ityala.
Ke, uyibona njani intlalontle kwimeko enjalo?
Kule meko, banike ixesha elaneleyo, kwaye baya kuzikhubekisa.
Sukuzibhala iimpawu zempilo yengqondo
Rhoqo imicimbi yezempilo yengqondo inokuqala ngokuchaphazela abantu kwasekuqaleni kobuntwana. Ukuziphatha kwentlalontle ebantwaneni nako akuqhelekanga.
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Kukho imiqondiso yokuxela kwintlalontle ebantwaneni.
Iimpawu zentlalontle yomntwana zibandakanya ukungazisoli ngokuxoka, ukuzibandakanya kwimilo, ukuphosa ingqumbo enomsindo nokwenza ngendlela eyoyikisayo nekhohlakeleyo.
Ukuba uqaphela isimilo esoyikisayo kumntu omthandayo, sukucima nje le miqondiso, ucinga ukuba baya kuphuma kuyo.
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntu omthandayo unalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuphazamiseka kubuntu, funa uncedo lweengcali ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Ngaba i-Sociopath ingatshintsha
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ubudlelwane bothando bunetyhefu kwaye bonakalisa impilo-ntle yakho, kungcono ukuba uphume kwisangqa esikhohlakeleyo se-master manipulator ye-charm kunye nokukholisa kwaye uqale ngokutsha.