Umxholo
- Uyazibuza ukuba kutheni abantwana bephelelwe ngumonde, bekruqukile, bengenabahlobo, kwaye benelungelo?
- Bonke abantwana abanamonde
- Ngaba ukukruquka kuyinto embi?
- Ungaze ube nabahlobo abaninzi kakhulu?
- Bafumana njani ilungelo abantwana? Impendulo: ngabazali
- Ayisiwo wonke umzuzu kubomi bomntwana wakho ekumele ukuba ube nakho uku-Instagram
Zizichazi ezininzi ezingalunganga ezifumaneke ukuze zichaze uninzi lwabantwana banamhlanje. Kodwa eneneni, ngaphandle kokuvakala ngathi ngumdaka-mdala, kukho into eyinyani malunga noluvo lokuba esi sizukulwana sakutshanje sabantwana, ewe, sinomonde, sinesithukuthezi, asinabahlobo kwaye sinelungelo.
Uyazibuza ukuba kutheni abantwana bephelelwe ngumonde, bekruqukile, bengenabahlobo, kwaye benelungelo?
Ngaphambi kokuya phambili, mayithiwe ayingabo bonke abantwana abanje. Ukwenziwa kwezinto ngokubanzi kunokuba yinyani kwaye kuyingozi, kodwa nakwabona bantu baqhelekileyo, kukho into eyahluke mpela ngeli qela.
Masikhe sihlukane sijonge oonobangela, izisombululo ezinokubakho, kunye nefuthe lokuba kuthetha ntoni oku xa sizifumana sibuza, "Kutheni abantwana bengenamonde, bekruqukile, bengenabahlobo, kwaye benelungelo?"
Bonke abantwana abanamonde
Ukungabi namonde akuyonto imbi. Ukungabi namonde yinxalenye yento esenza ukuba sikhawulezise isenzo; yile nto isenza sigqwese ngamanye amaxesha.
Ukungabinamonde kuko okusenza sijonge ukufumanisa okutsha, izisombululo ezitsha, amava amatsha. Ke konke, konke, ukungabi namonde kunokuba yinto elungileyo. Kodwa zama ukuzixelela ukuba xa umntwana wakho ekhwaza phezulu emiphungeni ukuba amfumanele i-ayisikhrim ngoku, okanye xa intombi yakho ikhala ukuba ifuna ukuphuma iyodlala xa ineeyure zomsebenzi wesikolo ekufuneka izenzile.
Uninzi lwabantwana luya kufunda umonde ngexesha njengoko bekhula, kodwa sonke sinamava okwazi umntu omdala onomonde omncinci okanye ongenawo kwaphela. Ngokwesiqhelo, loo mntu uya kufunyanwa ekubamba ngasemva kuhola wendlela okanye usika phambi kwakho xa ukhwela ibhasi okanye imoto yangaphantsi. Hayi, abanye abantu abakhuli.
Nangona kunjalo, abantwana bayakhula kwaye banokufunda ukuba nomonde kubazali nakootitshala.
Ngaba ukukruquka kuyinto embi?
Eyona nto ixhaphakileyo yokuphuma emilonyeni yabantwana abaninzi ithi, "Ndidikweeeeee." Ngokuqinisekileyo le ayisiyonto intsha, kwaye ayiqhelekanga kwesi sizukulwana sabantwana. Abantwana bebesitsho ukuba bayadikwa kuba bayekile ukudlala ngokufihla kunye nokufuna iidinosaurs.
Kukho, ewe, loo nto indala malunga nezandla ezingenzi nto ngokuba yindawo yokusebenzela kaMtyholi, kodwa ngaba isithukuthezi siyinto embi? Njengoko uJordyn Cormier ebhala, "Ukukruquka kunokubangela ubuchule." Isithukuthezi senza abantwana kunye nabantu abadala bacinge ngeendlela ezizezinye zokwenza izinto kunye nokufezekisa imisebenzi.
Xa ujongene nomntwana othi badikiwe, babuze ukuba yintoni enokubenza bangadiki. Ukuba umntwana unokuza nempendulo (kwaye uninzi alunakho), mamela icebiso. Le mpendulo iya kubonisa ubuchule kunye nobuchule ekufuneka bonke abantwana babuhlakulele.
Ungaze ube nabahlobo abaninzi kakhulu?
Abantu ngabantu abahlalisanayo. Nokuba loo mntu uhlala yedwa emqolombeni osisigidi seekhilomitha ukusuka kwimpucuko yinto yokuhlala eluntwini, nokuba uhlala nje kunye neebugs ezabelana ngomqolomba wakhe!
Ngelishwa, ngokufika kweendaba zosasazo, abantu abaninzi banabo "abahlobo" abangazange badibane nabo. Ngaba umhlobo ngumntu ongazange wadibana naye ubuso ngobuso? Abantu abaninzi bayavuma ukuba umhlobo ongazange wambeka ebomini bokwenyani, usenokuba ngumhlobo.
Abantwana, ngakumbi baziva ngale ndlela kwaye bazame ukuphikisana nabo ngenye indlela, kwaye awuyi kude kakhulu. Abantwana kufuneka badibane nabanye abantwana abakwiminyaka efanayo nabo, ke ngoko kuxhomekeke kubazali okanye kubanonopheli ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukuhlangana okunje kuyenzeka: thatha abantwana uye epakini, kwiiklasi ezenziwa liSebe leepaki noLonwabo lwedolophu yakho.
Abahlobo banokwenziwa kubugcisa, i-ballet, i-gymnastics, ukuqubha, i-tennis kunye nezinye iiklasi ezenzelwe abantwana. Kubalulekile ukuba umzali okanye umnakekeli aqiniseke ukuba abantwana abachithi iintsuku zipakishwe phambi komabonwakude, i-iPad, i-smartphone, okanye ikhompyuter.
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Bafumana njani ilungelo abantwana? Impendulo: ngabazali
Ngokulula kakhulu, ngabazali abadala iimvakalelo zokufanelekela ebantwaneni.
Abantwana abazalwanga benelungelo; ayizalwanga nakowuphi na umntwana ukuziva ngathi bafanelwe zizinto. Makhe sijonge eminye imizekelo yendlela abazali abazisa ngayo iimvakalelo zokufanelekela abantwana:
- Ukuba uvuza-okanye okubi kakhulu, unyoba-umntwana wakho ngokuziphatha kakuhle, unceda ngenjongo yokudala iimvakalelo ezifanelekileyo kumntwana wakho. Cinga ngako: ngaba umntwana wakho kufuneka anikwe uhlobo oluthile lokunyanga ngalo lonke ixesha usiya naye ezivenkileni?
- Ukuba udumisa yonke into eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho, ngamanye amagama, ukuba uyamncoma, umenza umntwana wakho ukuba aqhele ukudumisa rhoqo. Lo ngumgca othe ngqo kwiimvakalelo zamalungelo asisigxina.
- I-overs: ukudumisa ngaphezulu, ukukhusela ngaphezulu, ukukhusela ngaphezulu, ukuzonwabisa kakhulu, zonke ziyindlela enye eya kwisitrato sokuba ngumzali ongaphezulu, nokukhulisa umntwana ngenkululeko enkulu.
- Bonke abantwana kufuneka benze iimpazamo. Abantwana bafunda kwiimpazamo; zibalulekile ekukhuleni nasekukhuleni. Musa ukunceda umntwana wakho aphephe zonke iimpazamo okanye uya kuhlala elindele ukuhlangula.
- Akukho mntu uthanda ukuphoxeka, ukanti abanye abazali bayagqitha ekuqinisekiseni ukuba abantwana babo abanamava oku. Ukuphoxeka yinxalenye yobomi, kwaye awumenzeli umntwana wakho into entle ngokumkhusela kuyo. Ukufunda ukujongana nokudana kufanele kube yinxalenye yokukhula komntwana ngamnye.
- Amatheko emihla yokuzalwa aye aba ngaphezulu kule minyaka idlulileyo (iisekisi ezisemva kwendlu, banxibe amakhosazana aqeshiweyo avela kumdlalo bhanyabhanya weDisney odlula ngeenxa zonke kwiindwendwe, ukufuya ii-zoo ezimiselwe ngaphakathi endlwini, njl.
Yigcine ilula, kwaye mancinci amathuba okuba umntwana wakho azive enelungelo. Xa ugcina izinto zingena-fluff-free, nina bantwana niyakhula njengenqanaba elihamba phambili, isiguli kunye nembeko. Ngawo onke amathuba, awuyi kuzifumanisa utsala iinwele zakho kwaye ubuze, "Kutheni abantwana bengenamonde, bekruqukile, bengenabahlobo, kwaye benelungelo?
Ayisiwo wonke umzuzu kubomi bomntwana wakho ekumele ukuba ube nakho uku-Instagram
Ngaphambi kokuba uzibuze, "Kutheni abantwana bephelelwe ngumonde, bekruqukile, bengenabahlobo, kwaye benelungelo?", Kuya kufuneka ungenele ukuba ngumzali. Kwibhidi yakho yokukhulisa umntwana owonwabileyo, uyalibala ngokugcina ulungelelwano phakathi kokuzonwabisa nokungqongqo?
Ukukhulisa abantwana ukuba bavelise abantwana abonwabileyo nabalungeleleneyo ayonto ilula kuye nabani na.
Amaxesha amaninzi ayisiyontle okanye ayonwabisi, kodwa ngokufaka abantwana amaxabiso aqhelekileyo (thatha ithuba lakho, wabelane, ulinde ngomonde, njl.