Umxholo
- Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuba ngumzali ongatshatanga:
- Oonobangela abancinci bokukhulisa abantwana bodwa
- 1. Abantakwenu abakhulisa abantwana
- 2. Ootatomkhulu noomakhulu abakhulisa abantwana
- 3. Abazali abangabodwa
- 4. Amakhoboka
- 5. Imiba yempilo yengqondo
- 6. Imicimbi yempilo yomzimba
- 7. Intolongo
- 8. Ukugxothwa
Ngelixa kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba ungazifumana usesikhundleni sokuba ngumzali ongatshatanga emntwaneni wakho, kukwakho nezinye izizathu ezingaziwayo nezingaqhelekanga. Ukuba sinokuqonda ukuba zeziphi ezinye zezi ntsapho ezijongana nazo kwaye sizincede apho sinakho, singanceda ukwenza eli lizwe libe yindawo engcono-nokuba kungokudlula nje ngoncumo olunenkathalo okanye ngokumema umzali ongenaqabane ukuba eze nekofu.
Abanye basenokungaziphawuli ezi zizathu zixhaphakileyo zokuba ngumzali ongatshatanga kuba ezinye zinokuba zezethutyana, kodwa masingalibali ukuba nokuba umzali ‘ongokwesiko’ unokuba ngumzali omnye okwethutyana.
Ke ngaphambi kokuba sixoxe ngezona zinto zincinci zaziwayo zokuba ngumzali ongatshatanga nolu uluhlu lwezona zinto zixhaphakileyo ezaziwayo. Xa sijonga uluvo 'lwezizathu zokuba ngumzali omnye' sibhekisa kwimbono yokuba umntu yedwa unoxanduva lokwenza izigqibo, ukuhlala nokubagcina umntwana okanye abantwana ixesha elide. Kwanele ukufumana ubunzima, kunye nokuchaphazela ubomi bomntwana.
Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuba ngumzali ongatshatanga:
- Uqhawulo-mtshato
- Ukufa
- Ngaphantsi okanye ukukhulelwa kwangoko
- Ukwamkelwa komzali omnye
- Insemination yabanikeli
Oonobangela abancinci bokukhulisa abantwana bodwa
1. Abantakwenu abakhulisa abantwana
Mhlawumbi ngenxa yokusweleka komzali, kwaye akukho okunye ukubandakanyeka komnye umzali, okanye ukusweleka kwabo bobabini abazali, iziyobisi, ixesha lokuvalelwa, okanye ukugula ngengqondo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, abanye abantakwenu ngabodwana bakhulisa abantwana babo abancinci.
Eli lixesha elinzima kubo; Bafumana ilahleko ebonakalayo noxanduva olukhulu nangakumbi ngexesha apho bengakulungelanga okanye bengakulungelanga.
Rhoqo kwezi meko, akukho amanye amalungu osapho ajikelezileyo anokunceda, kwaye ke umthwalo ushiyelwa umntu omdala okanye umntakwabo omdala. Ngamaqhawe angaziwayo ahlala elawula ngenkxaso encinci.
2. Ootatomkhulu noomakhulu abakhulisa abantwana
Ngamanye amaxesha, ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi ootatomkhulu noomakhulu bathabatha uxanduva lokukhulisa abantwana.
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba umntwana wabo engazinzanga, elikhoboka leziyobisi, ejongene noxinzelelo okanye ukugula ngengqondo okanye ukunceda kuba umzali kufuneka asebenze okanye asebenze kude.
Esi sesinye isizathu sokungahoywa komzali omnye esenziwa ngamagorha angaziwayo ebomini.
3. Abazali abangabodwa
Abanye abantu abangatshatanga bakhetha ukwenza umahluko kwihlabathi ngokukhuthaza- ngumsebenzi ovuzayo kunye nendlela yokuphila kwabo bathanda abantwana kwaye bafuna ukunceda abo bangenayo le mizekelo mikhulu ukuba babe nozinzo.
Abazali abakhulisa umntwana ongengowabo banokukwazi ukujongana neendlela zokuziphatha ezinobunzima obuziswe kukungazali kakuhle ngaphambili ukuze bakwazi ukulungiselela umntwana ukuba afumane ikhaya elisisigxina, elizinzileyo kwixa elizayo.
4. Amakhoboka
Ukuba omnye umzali ujongana neengxaki zamakhoboka ezinje ngeziyobisi notywala unokuqiniseka ukuba omnye umzali ukhulisa abantwana yedwa.
Elinye iqabane likwajongana nemicimbi amaqabane abo okanye iqabane labo elihlangabezana nayo kwaye abazisa ngayo endlwini. Eli lixesha elinengxaki nelinobuqhophololo kumzali ongenaqabane kwaye sesinye sezizathu zokuba ngumzali ongenaqabane elihlala lihoywa luluntu.
5. Imiba yempilo yengqondo
Ngandlela thile, imiceli mngeni ajongana nayo umzali ongenaqabane onengxaki yokulutha iyafana naleyo yokujongana neqabane okanye iqabane elinemicimbi yempilo yengqondo-ngakumbi ukuba zinobuzaza.
Imicimbi yezempilo yengqondo inokubangela ukuba omnye umzali abekho kude nekhaya losapho ukuze baphilise.
Kodwa kukwathetha ukuba abanakulindeleka ukuba benze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo okanye bakhokele abantwana babo ngelixa bengazinzanga ngokwengqondo. Le micimbi inokuba yeyethutyana okanye ihlale ixesha lokuphila, ishiye iqabane elizinzileyo kuninzi ekufuneka lijongile lodwa.
6. Imicimbi yempilo yomzimba
Ukuba omnye umzali uyagula ngokwasemzimbeni ixesha elide ekhokelela ekuhambeni ixesha esibhedlele okanye abagulayo kakhulu ukuba bangabinamandla okunceda abantwana.
Kuza kuxhomekeka komnye umzali ukugcina ikhaya, ukukhulisa abantwana, ukuphatha imali nokunyamekela iqabane labo eligulayo.
Esi sesinye sezizathu esaziwa kancinci sokuba ngumzali omnye esingakhokelela kumzali ongatshatanga ofuna uncedo nenkxaso kwabo babangqongileyo.
7. Intolongo
Ukuba umzali uthunyelwe entolongweni, bayalushiya usapho lwabo ngasemva. Ngoku kunokuba nzima ukuba novelwano kusapho olunomzali omnye entolongweni, kodwa abantwana kunye nelinye iqabane abakhange benze ityala ngenxa yoko akufuneki bohlwaywe nabo.
Zonke izigqibo zokhathalelo kunye nolungiselelo lwabantwana ngoku ziwela kumzali omnye othi, ngokuxhomekeke kubude bexesha elifunwa liqabane lakhe ukukhonza kwezinye iimeko, akhokelele kwikhaya elinomzali omnye ixesha elide.
8. Ukugxothwa
Oku kuyazicacisa ukuba kukho usapho apho omnye umzali agxothiweyo kwilizwe elisele umzali oshiyekileyo ukuba anyamekele abantwana. Kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi eziya kuba zodwa ngokupheleleyo.