Umxholo
- Ngaba umntu omnye emtshatweni wabantu ababini unokuluguqula olo lwalamano?
- Ukucinga ukuba ukuzibophelela kwiqabane lakho bekuyimpazamo
- Ukwenza umtshato uguquke
- Ukuthetha nodonga lwezitena
- Ukuqonda ukungasebenzi kakuhle emtshatweni
- Yehla i-ego yakho encinci
- Ibiyintoni ke ingxaki?
- Ukuguqula umtshato
- Kuwo wonke umtshato, kufuneka kubekho inkokeli ekulungeleyo ukwenza umsebenzi onzima
- 1. Ukwenza izigqibo
- 2. Gcina ingxelo
- 3. Ziphathe ngokwakho
- 4. Cela uxolo
- Ukuba iqabane lakho lihlukumeza kakhulu ngokwasemoyeni, okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, phuma ngoku
- Ukujongana nomntu onesifo sexesha elide? UGet out ngoku
Kukho imitshato engakumbi engasebenziyo kwaye engenampilo emva koko kukho imitshato eyonwabisayo kuluntu lwanamhlanje.
Izizathu zoku zininzi, kodwa inyani kukuba baninzi abantu ngoku, xa befunda eli nqaku, abonwabanga ngamaqabane abo kwaye bayahlupheka ngombuzo, ukuba umntu omnye angawusindisa umtshato?
Ngaba umntu omnye emtshatweni wabantu ababini unokuluguqula olo lwalamano?
Kule minyaka ingama-28 idlulileyo, umbhali oyena mntu uthengisa kakhulu, umcebisi kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi uDavid Essel ebenceda abantu kwihlabathi lokuthandana kunye nomtshato ukuba benze ezona zigqibo zibalulekileyo, ukuguqula olo lwalamano lusebenze lungasebenzi lube lolusebenzayo, emva koko ukuchuma.
Apha ngezantsi, uDavid uthetha ngezixhobo azisebenzisayo ukunceda izibini ezitshatileyo emtshatweni ukuba zijike, kube kanye nangonaphakade.
“Kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo, umthengi omtsha osuka eYurophu waqhagamshelana nam ngenxa yokuba umtshato wakhe wawukwimeko embi.
Ukucinga ukuba ukuzibophelela kwiqabane lakho bekuyimpazamo
Bebekunye phantse iminyaka engama-20, babehambe besuka e-US besiya eYurophu kwizikhundla zomsebenzi, kwaye ngoku wayezibuza ukuba wenza impazamo ngokuzibophelela emfazini wakhe ubomi bakhe bonke.
Akubanga kudala emva kokuba siqale ukusebenza kunye, ndabona ukuba le nto wayeyithetha yayiyinyani: babenomnye wemitshato engasebenzi kakuhle awakha wayibona kwaye wayengacingi ukuba angayijika.
Umfazi wakhe wayengafuni kwanto edibanisa nengcebiso, wayengacingi ukuba ingasebenza kwaphela.
Ke weza kum ngeSkype wathi ufuna ukuba ndimncede athathe isigqibo sokuba ubudlelwane bufanele na ukuhlala.
Ukwenza umtshato uguquke
Emva kokumazi, kunye nohlobo lwakhe lobudlelwane, ndamnika isisombululo endicinga ukuba siqinisekile siwuguqula umtshato, okanye ukuba awuzukuwenza okanye ubunokunyamezeleka okwangoku.
Kwaye isisombululo? Kwakufuneka ayeke ukulunga.
Ngoku ngaphambi kokuba uncume, kwaye ucinge ngomyeni wakho kwaye uzithethele ngokwakho "kufuneka enze into enye", ukuba ibingumfazi oza kum bendizakuthetha into enye kuye ... Kukuwe ukuba uyijike .
Ngoba?
Kuba umntu oza kum efuna uncedo ngoyena mntu unokujika. Ingqondo eqhelekileyo?
Ukuthetha nodonga lwezitena
Ke ukuba bendinokuthi kuye ngelo xesha, nazi iziphakamiso ezenziwa ngumfazi wakho ukunceda umtshato, ucinga ukuba angade amphulaphule?
Akunjalongo noko. Nanini na xa sinika iqabane lethu ingcebiso malunga nento ekufuneka bayenzile, kufana nokuthetha nodonga lwezitena kwiimeko ezininzi.
Ke ndamnika umngeni. Ndimxelele ukuba kwiintsuku ezingama-90 ezizayo, ndifuna ukuba avumele inkosikazi yakhe ukuba ichaneke. Akukho mibuzo ibuzwayo ngaphandle kokuba yayisisigqibo sobomi okanye sokufa.
Ukuqonda ukungasebenzi kakuhle emtshatweni
Kodwa ngaphandle kwesigqibo sobomi okanye sokufa, bendifuna ukuba athobeke, abe sesichengeni, kwaye ayeke ukuphikisana ngezinto esingafanelekanga ukuba silwe ngazo.
Kwaye ukuba ukutshata okungasebenziyo ngoku, ukuba ujonga esipilini, uyazi ukuba inzima kangakanani le nto xa unenzondo yakudala, yangoku, kwaye mhlawumbi ucinga nangezondo Uya kuba nexesha elizayo ... Uyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukubuyela umva, uthathe umoya omkhulu, kwaye uvumele iqabane lakho ukuba lichane, lilunge.
Yehla i-ego yakho encinci
Kuthatha umzamo weHerculean ekuqaleni nokuba kunjalo, ukulahla i-ego yakho encinci kunye nokuvumela iqabane lakho, kunye neminqweno yabo, ukuba igqitywe njengoko benqwenela.
Enye yeendawo ababesilwa kuzo kutshanje, yayikukucoca ngaphakathi kwekhaya labo. Baye bagqiba kwelokuba bawenze lo msebenzi kunye endaweni yokuqesha abantu bangaphandle kuba bobabini babekuthanda ukulungiswa kwangaphakathi.
Ibiyintoni ke ingxaki?
Wayeza kumcela ukuba asuse iingcango kwihenjisi ayifake entlabathini ngaphambi kokuba azipeyinte, kodwa wala.
Ngaba ayivakali ngathi yinto enkulu? Kude kube uyaqonda, ukuba kwisithuba semizuzu eli-15 amxelele ukuba uzakucoca umnyango ngokwahlukileyo, bangena kwimfazwe enkulu.
Ukuguqula umtshato
Wayeyazi ukuba indlela yakhe yindlela elungileyo, kwaye wayemile kwindlela yakhe eyiyo elungileyo.
Kuba banamathuba amaninzi ngaphakathi endlini ukwenza utshintsho ekufuneka belenzile, ndimxelele ukuba unamathuba amaninzi okuguqula umtshato, ukuba angamvumela ukuba alunge, landela ukhokelo, kwaye masibone okwenzekayo.
Kwisithuba seeveki ezintandathu ubudlelwane buye babuyela umva ngokupheleleyo!
Akumangalisi oko? Abanye abantu bakubiza ngokuba ngummangaliso, kodwa ndibiza nje ukuba ndilahle i-ego encinci ukuze ndisindise ubudlelwane.
Babenamagingxigingxi ambalwa endleleni, kodwa akukho nto ibuhlungu njengokuya kudala.
Kuwo wonke umtshato, kufuneka kubekho inkokeli ekulungeleyo ukwenza umsebenzi onzima
Njengoko ndibaxelela bonke abathengi bam, kuwo wonke umtshato okanye ubudlelwane kufuneka kubekho inkokheli, umntu ozimiseleyo ukwenza umsebenzi onzima, kwaye ukuba omnye wabantu ethatha isikhundla sokuba yinkokheli, kwaye kulo mzekelo umsebenzi onzima ukuvumela iqabane lakho ukuba lichaneke, amaxesha amaninzi elinye iqabane liya kuqala ukuyeka ukugada, ukuba livuleke ngakumbi kwaye libe sesichengeni.
Kwaye kwenzeka kanye lo mtshato.
Ukuba ulwalamano olungasebenziyo landela la manqaku ambalwa alula
1. Ukwenza izigqibo
Yenza isigqibo ukuqala namhlanje, phawula kwikhalenda yakho, ukuze kwiintsuku ezingama-90 ezizayo uvumele iqabane lakho ukuba lilunge. Akukho mibuzo ibuzwayo ngaphandle kokuba yimeko yobomi okanye yokufa uzakuphuma endleleni kwaye wenze izinto ngendlela abacela ukuba uzenze ngayo.
2. Gcina ingxelo
Rhoqo ngokuhlwa uza kugcina ingxelo malunga nokuba uqhuba njani. Ngaba uye watyhalela emva konke konke? Ngaba ukhe waxabana emva koko waqonda emva kweeyure ezininzi ukuba ubunokuyiphepha ngokuthi "ewe"?
3. Ziphathe ngokwakho
Zinike indawo ephezulu ezintlanu, ngeentsuku zokufeza lo msebenzi ubenye.
4. Cela uxolo
Ukuba uyatyibilika? Cela uxolo kwangoko, xelela iqabane lakho ukuba wenze impazamo, bekufanele ukuba wenze nantoni na eyindlela, kwaye ucele uxolo.
Sukwenza into enkulu ngayo, kodwa cela uxolo kwangoko.
Abanye abantu xa ndenza ezi ngcebiso ndibuyela umva kakhulu, akukho ndlela bayakuvumela iqabane labo ukuba lilunge.
Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuxhoma kolo hlobo lwesimo sengqondo, qhubeka nje kwaye ufake iifayile zoqhawulo-mtshato namhlanje. Musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho. Sukuchitha ixesha lakho ngokufumana iingcebiso, ukuba awuzukuthatha ingcebiso yomntu kudala esenza olu hlobo lomsebenzi.
Kodwa ukuba uvulelekile ukuba ungabona indlela ubudlelwane obunokuhlangulwa ngayo, emva koko wenze le nto ndiyincomayo apha.
Kodwa njengamaxesha onke, kukho imiqolomba embalwa:
Ukuba iqabane lakho lihlukumeza kakhulu ngokwasemoyeni, okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, phuma ngoku
Nokuba oko kuthetha ukuba nizahlule iintsuku ezingama-90 kwaye nihlala kumakhaya ahlukeneyo, phumani kulungiselelo ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.
Ukujongana nomntu onesifo sexesha elide? UGet out ngoku
Yeka ukwenza. Yeka unethemba lekamva elihle, xa umlutha wabo ungaphandle kolawulo lwakho.
Impendulo? Kwakhona, hlukanisa ubuncinci iintsuku ezingama-90, kwaye ubazise ukuba abakwazi ukucoca umlutha wabo kwiintsuku ezingama-90 baya kwahlulahlulwa ngokusesikweni emva koko bagcwalise uqhawulo mtshato.
Andiziphathi kakubi ngokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo kunye okanye nesiyobisi sexesha elide. Uluvo lwam lunokuvakala lurhabaxa, kodwa yeyona nto ihloniphekileyo onokuzenzela yona, kukukhusela ikamva lakho kunye nexesha elizayo ngokuthatha amanyathelo abalulekileyo ukuba ukwenye yezi meko zimbini zingentla.
Kule minyaka ingama-28 idlulileyo, ndincede izibini ezininzi ukuguqula imitshato yazo kunye nobudlelwane kwiindawo ezinothando, kodwa kuyakuthatha umzamo, umzamo wemihla ngemihla kwicala lakho. Unganqikazi, hamba ngoku.
Umsebenzi ka-David Essel'ukhuthazwe kakhulu ngabantu abafana nongasekhoyo uWayne Dyer, kwaye usaziwayo uJenny McCarthy uthi "uDavid Essel yinkokeli entsha yentshukumo yokucinga eyakhayo."
Incwadi yakhe ye-10, enye inombolo ethengiswa kakhulu ibizwa ngokuba yi "Gxila! Bulala iinjongo zakho - isikhokelo esiqinisekisiweyo sempumelelo enkulu, isimo sengqondo esinamandla nothando olunzulu. ”