Umxholo
- Sityalomali ngokweemvakalelo
- Asizizo iimvakalelo zethu
- Unyango olulandayo
- Nanku umzekelo oqhelekileyo wento endiyithethayo ngentetho ebalisayo.
- Yiba nenxaxheba
- Eyona meko ilungileyo
- Eli lixesha elihle lokuba uvule neqabane lakho
Namhlanje ndithetha ngezibini kunye nonxibelelwano.
Abanye benu banokuthathela ingqalelo la magama mabini ukuba ahambelane ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye iyamangalisa wena neqabane lakho!
Nangona kunjalo, kuninzi lwethu xa sisiva amagama "izibini" kunye "nonxibelelwano" kwisivakalisi esinye sihleka ngokuhlekisayo.
Sityalomali ngokweemvakalelo
Ngenxa yotyalomali lweemvakalelo esinalo kolu hlobo lobudlelwane ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo zethu kunokuba ngumzabalazo wethu omkhulu.
Kubudlelwane bezothando, siqhele ukutyalomali ngokweemvakalelo.
Utyalo-mali ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba siziveza ngokwasemphefumlweni kunokuba sikwazi ukuthetha ngendlela esivakalelwa ngayo.
Asizizo iimvakalelo zethu
Ukuba ukhe wazibuza ukuba kutheni ungazichaza kakuhle emsebenzini, kodwa hayi neqabane lakho okanye amalungu osapho ungabulela iimvakalelo ezindala malunga noko.
Kuba siyazi ukuba ukuthintela iimvakalelo zethu akusempilweni kwaye ayisiyonto elungileyo yokulungisa ixesha elide, singanxibelelana njani ngokufanelekileyo neemvakalelo zethu, iimfuno kunye neemfuno zethu xa sityala imali ngokwasemphefumlweni?
Ndifuna ukwabelana ngobuchule nawe obunokuthatha ekuhlekeni ngokuhlekisayo ukuze uve yonke i-yin ne-yang ngala magama mabini.
Le yindlela yam endiyithandayo ngokukodwa kwizibini ezinesidingo sokuphucula unxibelelwano kunye nezakhono zokusombulula ungquzulwano. Yile nto ndiyithandayo ukuyibiza, "Incoko ebalisayo."
Singalophula eli gama kancinci ukuqonda intsingiselo kunye nembono esemva kwayo.
Ukubaliswa kukusetyenziswa kwengcaciso ebhaliweyo okanye ethethiweyo ukuhambisa ibali kubaphulaphuli.
Kule meko, ungazithatha njengombali webali lakho kwiqabane lakho, elibandakanya iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo ezinxulumene nesihloko esikhoyo.
Unyango olulandayo
Unyango olubalisayo luhlobo lonyango olujonga abantu njengabahlukileyo kwiingxaki zabo. Ukubakhuthaza ukuba babalise ibali labo ngokubalaseleyo ukufumana umgama othile "kwingxaki."
Ukuthetha ngokubalisayo kunokukunceda ufumane kude nomba kwaye ujonge izinto ngokungacacanga nangaphantsi kwemvakalelo.
Lo mgama uya kuphucula amandla akho okuchaza ngokufanelekileyo iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo ezinxulumene nomba.
Nanini na xa ndisebenza nale ndlela ndihlala ndiva ilizwi likaMorgan Freeman entlokweni yam.
Ndincoma ukuba ucinga ngelizwi lomlandisi ngokwakho. Oku kunokuphucula ukujonga izinto kwaye kumnandi nje.
Unokukhetha ukhetho lwakho lombalisi!
Ukuthatha eli nyathelo uqhubele phambili, xa usebenza ukuchonga iinjongo zekhonkrithi zonxibelelwano, ndihlala ndincoma ukuba uzicinge ngokwakho kunye neenjongo zakho njengemovie obhalela iskripthi sayo.
Bathetha njani abalinganiswa? Baphi? Banxibe ntoni? Ngoobani, njl.
Ukuzikhupha emfanekisweni, ukujonga izinto ngokuthe kratya ngokuthe kratya kusinceda ukuba singachongi iimfuno zethu kunye neemfuno zethu kuphela kodwa sizivakalise ngokufanelekileyo ezi kunye neengcinga neemvakalelo zethu ezinxulumene noko.
Nanku umzekelo oqhelekileyo wento endiyithethayo ngentetho ebalisayo.
Masisebenzise uluvo “lomsindo” njengomzekelo.
Nangona kunjalo, nayiphi na imvakalelo inokubekwa kwindawo yomsindo apha ngezantsi.
- Xa unomsindo, endaweni yokuzivumela ukuba ube yimvakalelo kwaye usabele ngomsindo.
- Unokuthi, "Ndiziva ndinomsindo."
- Emva koko ungachonga ngakumbi kwaye uchaze ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni ngale ndlela uziva ngayo.
- Ungalithatha eli nyathelo uqhubele phambili ngokujolisa kwinjongo kunye nesisombululo esijolise kwintetho ngokuchaza ukuba ungayikhetha njani incoko ukuba ihambe kwaye yintoni injongo okanye isisombululo ongasithanda kule ncoko.
Oku kuvumela umxholo wencoko ukuba uqhubeke, ngokuchasene nokuzivumela ukuba ube yimvakalelo kwaye usabele ngomsindo.
Yiba nenxaxheba
Nje ukuba ube nakho ukuchonga iimvakalelo zakho, ungaqala ukusebenza xa usenza oku.
Endaweni yokuchaza indlela oziva ngayo, ungachonga ukuba uza kuqala njani ukuziva kwaye unxibelelane ngayo.
Umzekelo, ukuba unencoko eshushu kunye neqabane lakho kwaye unokwazi ukubona ukuba uqala ukuba nomsindo. Unokuthi, "Le ncoko iqala ukuba shushu kwaye kungenzeka ukuba ndiqale ukuba nomsindo."
Ke ngaphandle kokufikelela ngokupheleleyo kwinqanaba lokuba nomsindo, ungathetha ngcono iingcinga zakho ezinxulumene nesihloko esiseduze.
Eyona meko ilungileyo
Obu buchule buhlala busebenza kakuhle xa isibini sisebenza kunye kunyango lwezibini. Ngale ndlela iqabane ngalinye liyayazi into eyenzekayo kunye nenjongo.
Nangona kunjalo, nangona unxibelelwano kunye nokuxabana phakathi kwesibini kunokuba yenye yezona ngxaki ziphambili kubomi bomntu oku akuthethi ukuba oko kuhlala kuthetha ukuba isibini siza kucetyiswa.
Rhoqo ekucebiseni umntu ngamnye, ngakumbi nomntu okw ubudlelwane, ubunzima bokunxibelelana nokusombulula ukungavisisani kubudlelwane babo yenye yemicimbi ephambili.
Ukuba le yimeko kwaye intetho elandelwayo izakusetyenziswa, kunokuba luncedo ukuba umntu lowo ekucebiseni akwazi ukuvuleka neqabane lakhe kwaye kungenjalo.
Ekucebiseni, umntu lowo angasebenza ngendlela yokubachaza ngcono izakhono abaza kuzisebenzisa kwiqabane labo.
Ukuba neqabane elaziyo ukuba uyokufumana iingcebiso kwaye livulekile ukukunceda uqhelise kwaye usebenzise izakhono ezifanelekileyo ukuphucula ubudlelwane ngokuqinisekileyo yeyona meko ilungileyo.
Eli lixesha elihle lokuba uvule neqabane lakho
Nyaniseka malunga nokuba yeyiphi imimandla okhoyo ngoku kunye neenjongo zakho ngawe kunye nolwalamano lwakho.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba neqabane ngalinye livule kwaye likulungele akusoloko kunjalo. Ngelixa usenokusebenza ngokwakho kwaye uphucule ubudlelwane bakho iqabane lakho lisenokungabi lilo.
Oku kungakhokelela kwisidingo sokwenza ukhetho. Ukukhetha kunokubandakanya ukuba yeyiphi na into ozimisele ukuyenza kunye nokukhetha kunye nokukhetha amadabi akho.
Unyango olulandelanayo lunokukunceda koku. Ukukunceda ukuba uziqhelanise kunye nokwandisa ukujonga imeko yangoku.
Ukuba ndingalulo naluphi na uncedo apha kumandla endalo, nceda ungathandabuzi ukufikelela ngaphandle.
Ndihlala ndonwabile ukuphendula kwii-imeyile okanye ukucwangcisa ngokukhawuleza ukubiza umnxeba.
Sonke sinakho ukufikelela kwiinjongo zethu. Sisonke masiphuhlise amandla ethu okwenza oko!