Umxholo
- 1.Ucula iTwinkle? Ibali malunga nokutshata kwakhona kunye neNtsapho eNtsha
- 2. Inyathelo lokuQala, Inyathelo lesiBini, Inyathelo lesiThathu kunye neSine
- 3. UAnnie no-Snowball kunye nosuku lomtshato
- 4. Wedgie kunye neGizmo
- 5. Iincwadi zosapho ezihlanganisiweyo zabantu abadala
- 6. Ukudityaniswa kweentsapho: Isikhokelo saBazali, uMzali weSibini
- 7. Ukonwabile ukutshata kwakhona: Ukwenza izigqibo kunye
- 8. Intsapho Yesibini Yomtshato: Amanyathelo asixhenxe okuba nosapho olusempilweni
- 9. Amanyathelo asixhenxe okudibanisa nomntwana wakho wesibini
- 1. Yiba nesidima kwaye uhloniphane
- 2. Bonke ubudlelwane buhloniphekile
- 3. Uvelwano kuphuhliso lomntu wonke
- 4. Igumbi lokukhula
Ngaba ucinga ngokujoyina usapho lwakhoh iqabane lakho? Okanye mhlawumbi sele udibanise amakhaya kwaye ufuna ingcebiso malunga nendlela yokwenza eli liva elihle kubo bonke abantu. Mhlawumbi awunabo abantwana bakho, kodwa sele uza kuba ngumama wesibini okanye utata?
I-Brady Bunch yenza ukuba kubonakale kulula. Kodwa inyani ayifani noko sikubukele kumabonwakude, akunjalo? Wonke umntu unokusebenzisa uncedo oluncinci ngaphandle xa edibanisa iintsapho okanye ethatha indima yomzali wesibini. Kungenxa yoko le nto silugqibe uluhlu lweencwadi zosapho ezihlanganiswe kakuhle ezijikeleza iimeko zosapho ezixubeneyo.
Nantsi into esiyithandayo ngoku -
Awunabo abantwana bakho, kodwa uthando lwakho olutsha luhlala lukhona. Ukuba ngumzali womnye umntu okanye abantwana akuyoyonto inomdla. Nokuba unomntwana “olula”, obonakala ngathi uyayamkela le ndlela intsha, kuya kuba luncedo ukufumana inkxaso yogcino kunye nesikhokelo esihle.
Ukuba abantwana bomtshato omncinci bancinci, nazi ezinye iincwadi zosapho ezixubeneyo ezicetyiswayo kwabo batsha kolu tshintsho lwezakhiwo zosapho-
1.Ucula iTwinkle? Ibali malunga nokutshata kwakhona kunye neNtsapho eNtsha
NguSandra Levins, oboniswe nguBryan Langdo
Eli bali libaliswa nguBuddy omncinci. Unceda umfundi oselula aqonde ukuba luyintoni usapho lwesibini.
Libali elimnandi kwaye liluncedo kakhulu kubazali abafuna ukukhokela abantwana njengoko beziqhelanisa nemeko yabo entsha edibeneyo.
Iiminyaka ezi-3 ukuya ku-6
2. Inyathelo lokuQala, Inyathelo lesiBini, Inyathelo lesiThathu kunye neSine
NguMaria Ashworth, oboniswe nguAndreea Chele
Abantakwenu abatsha banokuba nzima kubantwana abancinci, ngakumbi xa begqatsela ingqalelo yabazali.
Le yincwadi yosapho edityanisiweyo efundisa abantwana ukuba abo bazalwana bakho batsha banokuba ngabalingane bakho abaphambili kwiimeko ezinzima.
Iiminyaka ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-8
3. UAnnie no-Snowball kunye nosuku lomtshato
NguCynthia Rylant, oboniswe nguSuçie Stevenson
Ibali eliluncedo kubantwana abaxhalabileyo ngokuba nomzali wesibini. Ibaqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane obuhle bunokwakhiwa nalo mntu mtsha kwaye ulonwabo luseza!
Iiminyaka ezi-5 ukuya kwezi-7
4. Wedgie kunye neGizmo
NgooSelfors kunye noFisinger
Ukuxelelwa nge-antics yezilwanyana ezibini ekufuneka zihlale kunye neenkosi zazo ezintsha, le ncwadi yinto entle yabantwana abanoloyiko malunga nabantwana abatsha abanokuba nobuntu obahlukileyo kubo.
5. Iincwadi zosapho ezihlanganisiweyo zabantu abadala
Ezi zezinye zeencwadi zethu zesikhokelo esizithandayo ezinokukunceda ujonge la manzi mtsha, angaphandle-
6. Ukudityaniswa kweentsapho: Isikhokelo saBazali, uMzali weSibini
Ngu-Elaine Shimberg
Kuqheleke ngakumbi kumaMelika ukuba abe nomtshato wesibini nosapho olutsha. Kukho imiceli mngeni eyahlukileyo xa kudityaniswa iiyunithi ezimbini, kubandakanya ezomoya, ezemali, ezemfundo, ezomntu phakathi kunye nezoluleko.
Le yenye yeencwadi zosapho ezihlanganisiweyo ezibhalwe ukukhokela kwaye zikunike iingcebiso kunye nezisombululo kunye nokukubonisa ezinye zeziganeko zobomi bokwenyani ezivela kwabo bahambe le ndlela ngempumelelo.
7. Ukonwabile ukutshata kwakhona: Ukwenza izigqibo kunye
NguDavid noLisa Frisbie
Ababhali-kunye uDavid noLisa Frisbie bakhomba iindlela ezine eziphambili zokunceda ukwakha indawo ehlala ihleli kusapho lomtshato wesibini - xolela wonke umntu, kuquka nawe kwaye ubone umtshato wakho omtsha njengosisigxina kwaye uphumelele; sebenza ngayo nayiphi na imingeni evelayo njengethuba lokudibanisa ngcono; kwaye wenze unxibelelwano lokomoya olujolise ekukhonzeni uThixo.
8. Intsapho Yesibini Yomtshato: Amanyathelo asixhenxe okuba nosapho olusempilweni
Ngu-Ron L. Deal
Incwadi yosapho edibeneyo ifundisa amanyathelo asixhenxe asebenzayo, enokwenziwa ekwakheni ukutshata kwakhona okunempilo kunye nosapho olusebenzayo olunoxolo.
Ukuxubusha intsomi yokufezekisa "usapho oluxubeneyo," umbhali unceda abazali bafumane ubuntu kunye nendima yelungu ngalinye losapho, ngelixa behlonipha iintsapho zemvelaphi kunye nokuseka izithethe ezitsha zokunceda usapho oluxubeneyo lwenze eyayo imbali.
9. Amanyathelo asixhenxe okudibanisa nomntwana wakho wesibini
NguSuzen J. Ziegahn
Ingcebiso evakalayo, esengqiqweni, kunye neqinisekileyo emadodeni nakwabafazi "abadla ilifa" abantwana babanye ukongeza omnye komnye. Sonke siyazi ukuba impumelelo okanye ukungaphumeleli komzali womtshato wesibini ekudibaneni nabantwana bomtshato wesibini kunokwenza okanye kuqhawule umtshato omtsha.
Kodwa le ncwadi iqulethe umyalezo ohlaziyayo kwaye o.k.t. ukuqonda ukubanakho ukufikelela kulwalamano olomeleleyo, olunomvuzo kunye nabantwana bakho abatsha.
La manyathelo asixhenxe asisiseko akunika izinto eziyimfuneko, ukusuka ekuthatheni isigqibo ukuba loluphi uhlobo lomzali wesibini ofuna ukuluqonda ukuba uthando aluzenzeki, luyakhula kamva nabantwana abatsha.
Ukudityaniswa: Imfihlo yokuBambisana noMzali kunye nokudala uSapho olungeleleneyo
Ngu-Mashonda Tifrere kunye no-Alicia Keys
Incwadi esifundisa indlela yokusebenzisa unxibelelwano, uthando, kunye nomonde ukudala imeko esempilweni apho ukunceda usapho oluxubileyo lukhule. Kubandakanya amabali obuqu kunye neengcebiso ezivela kubanyangi kunye nezinye iingcali, kubandakanya imvumi uAlicia Keyes.
Kumnandi ukufunda uluhlu lweencwadi zosapho ezihlanganisiweyo ukuze ufumane ukuqonda ngento eyimfuneko ukudala ulungelelwaniso, ulonwabo kunye nokudibana kosapho.
Uninzi lwezi ncwadi zosapho zidibeneyo zabelana ngezi ngcebiso zilandelayo xa kuziwa kwizinto ezisisiseko zosapho oluhle oludibeneyo-
1. Yiba nesidima kwaye uhloniphane
Ukuba amalungu osapho anokuthi enze izinto eluntwini rhoqo endaweni yokungahoyi, ngokuzama ukwenzakalisa, okanye ukurhoxa ngokupheleleyo komnye nomnye, usendleleni yokudala iyunithi elungileyo.
2. Bonke ubudlelwane buhloniphekile
Oku akubhekiseli nje kwindlela abantwana abaziphatha ngayo kubantu abadala.
Intlonipho kufuneka inikezwe hayi ngokusekwe kwiminyaka yobudala kuphela, kodwa ikwajolise kwinto yokuba nonke ningamalungu osapho ngoku.
3. Uvelwano kuphuhliso lomntu wonke
Amalungu osapho lwakho oludibeneyo anokubakho kumanqanaba ohlukeneyo obomi kwaye baneemfuno ezahlukeneyo (ulutsha xa kuthelekiswa nabantwana abancinci, umzekelo). Banokuba ngamanqanaba ahlukeneyo lokwamkela olu sapho lutsha.
Amalungu osapho kufuneka aqonde kwaye ahloniphe loo mahluko kunye nexesha lomntu wonke lokuziqhelanisa.
4. Igumbi lokukhula
Emva kweminyaka embalwa yokudityaniswa, ngethemba, usapho luya kukhula kwaye amalungu aya kukhetha ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye kwaye azive esondele omnye komnye.