Umxholo
- Vavanya unxibelelwano lwakho emtshatweni iveki enye
- 2. Hlahlela amagama owakhethayo. Amagama abalulekile
- 3. Cela uxolo (ukuba kukho imfuneko yoko) uze uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde ucxele
- 4. Thatha amanqaku, wabelane neqabane lakho, ucele ingxelo
- 5. Ziqhelise, uqhelisele, uqhelisele unxibelelwano emtshatweni wakho
- 6. Lithuba lomlingane wakho
- 7. Yongeza i-sprinkle efanelekileyo kunxibelelwano lwakho
Akukho nto itshintshayo ukuba akukho nto itshintshayo! Le yenye yeekowuti endizithandayo kunye nenye endiyibalaselayo nabo bonke abathengi bam kwiseshoni yam yokuqala.
Ngaphakathi ezantsi, sonke sinethemba lokuba singayithumela imingeni yethu komnye umntu kwaye benze umlingo. Kodwa inyani kukuba sinoxanduva lokwenene kwizinto ezininzi ezenzekayo kule mihla yethu kwaye singenza umohluko omkhulu ngokutshintsha into esiyenzayo, okanye indlela esicinga ngayo, okanye indlela esizitolika ngayo izinto.
Ewe kunjalo, ndincoma kakhulu ugqirha wezibini ezitshatileyo ukuba ancedise kuhambo, kodwa ukuba awukakulungeli oko, olu vavanyo lutshintsho olufanelekileyo lwesantya.
Vavanya unxibelelwano lwakho emtshatweni iveki enye
Ngaphambi kokuba senze naziphi na ezinye izicwangciso ezinkulu malunga nento esiza kuyitshintsha, thatha nje iveki enye uziqwalasele kunxibelelwano lwakho neqabane lakho. Siza kuzama ukuyikhupha loo nto kumava omzimba ukuze siqonde indlela esidibana ngayo nabanye.
Ijenali inokuba luncedo ukugcina umkhondo weempendulo zakho kule mibuzo ilandelayo:
- Ngaba uyakwazi ukumamela iqabane lakho ngenyameko, ngokunyaniseka, ngomonde, nangemfesane?
- Emva koko, nikela ingqalelo kule nto uyithethayo kwiqabane lakho nangendlela oyithetha ngayo.
- Zibuze: ngaba loo nto izakumenza azive ngcono okanye embi?
- Ngaba uya kuthanda izimvo zam okanye ithoni yam?
- Ungathanda ukuba ube nini xa ufumana umyalezo wakho? Zama ukuphinda ubeke izimvo zakho kunye neethoni kuwe. Unokurekhoda ngokwakho (sisixhobo esoyikekayo nesinamandla).
- /
2. Hlahlela amagama owakhethayo. Amagama abalulekile
Amagama abalulekile! Zibalulekile kuwe (kungenjalo ngekhe uzitsho) kwaye zibalulekile kwiqabane lakho. Yehlisa isantya kwaye ucinge kancinci ngaphambi kokuba uthethe. Yenza uvavanyo lokunyaniseka.
Ngaba uyazithetha ezi zinto ukunceda iqabane lakho okanye uzenze uzive ungcono, ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka okanye uxinzelelo lwakho kwinto ayithethayo? Ekugqibeleni, ngaba uya kuthetha nomsebenzi osebenza naye okanye umphathi wakho njengaye?
Sebenzisa i CINGA Isifinyezo sokuzigcina ugxile.
- Ingaba yinyani?
- Ngaba iluncedo?
- Ngaba ibalulekile?
- Ngaba iyimfuneko?
- Ngaba ilungile?
Sihlala sicinezelwa kukukhathazeka, amaxhala, ukucaphuka okufihlakeleyo, kunye nenzondo kwaye siziva sinyanzelekile ukuba sithethe into ehlekisayo, egxekayo, okanye yokutyhola ukuze sizive ngcono kubushushu bomzuzwana, kodwa enyanisweni, kuyalonakalisa ulwalamano lwethu.
Unxibelelwano lomtshato oluqinisekileyo lubandakanya isicwangciso kunye nokucwangciswa okucingayo!
3. Cela uxolo (ukuba kukho imfuneko yoko) uze uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde ucxele
Awuyi kuba nakho ukutshintsha isitayile sakho sonxibelelwano kwangoko, ke musa ukubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kuwe. Kodwa ndithembe, ukwanda kolwazi lwakho kuya kukucothisa kwaye kukwenze ume ucinge.
Ekuqaleni, uza kuqala uzibuze: "Ngenditshilo na?" okanye "ibingqwabalala okanye ikhohlakele?" Kuyakwenzeka ngokubanzi emva kwenyani, kodwa kulungile.
Yehlisa isantya, uphinde uphinde uphinde wenze loo myalezo, uxolise xa kufuneka njalo, uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uzuzaz o lolu lwazi, cothisa isantya, uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde ufundele, ungoyiki phantsi, uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde up keo, yicothise isantya somyalezo, cela uxolo xa kufuneka njalo, uphinde uphinde uphinde Umzekelo, unokuthi: “Ndicela uxolo, ndidiniwe, ndikhathazekile, ndidiniwe. Ayiphumanga kakuhle. Mandizame kwakhona. ”
Unakho okanye ungafumani myalezo ulungileyo kwiqabane lakho, kodwa kulungile, namathela kuwo. Kuya kufuneka unxibelelane ngendlela eyiyo, ungakhathali ngempendulo yeqabane lakho. Yindlela ophuma ngayo kumjikelo ombi.
4. Thatha amanqaku, wabelane neqabane lakho, ucele ingxelo
Amanyathelo amathathu okuqala ayemalunga nokuzijonga nje nokwandisa ulwazi olo. Eli nyathelo elilandelayo liyisa kwinqanaba elinzulu, kwaye ubandakanyeka neqabane lakho kwinkqubo.
Xa yonke into izolile kwaye kungekho ngxabano, cela iqabane lakho ukuba lihlale phantsi nawe, ukuze wabelane ngamanqaku akho malunga nesitayile sakho sonxibelelwano.
Buza ingxelo yakhe kwaye ubuze umonde ngelixa uzama ukutshintsha. Buza ukuba yeyiphi eyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yokunika "ukugxeka okwakhayo". Izinto azinakulunga ngalo lonke ixesha, ke ukuba unayo into engavumelaniyo, angakucebisa ukuba uhambe ngayo?
Gcina le ncoko ukuya kwinqanaba. Xa iqabane lakho likunika ingxelo, sukuzikhusela! Umcele nje ingxelo malunga nento onokuyitshintsha.
Oku kuya kuba yinto encinci kwaye kube nzima ngamanye amaxesha. Ngaphakathi ezantsi, xa sicela ingxelo, sifuna kuphela ukuva izimvo ezakhayo. I-egos yethu ayithandi nto ingaphantsi. Kodwa loo nqanawa ihamba ngenqanawa.
Ukuba ufunda le ncwadi kwaye ukhathalele ukwenza olu lwalamano lusebenze, i-ego yakho kufuneka yomelele!
Sukulindela ukuba athi, "oh, sithandwa ugqibelele." Kungenzeka ukuba awuyithandi into ayithethayo.
Mamela kwaye uthathe amanqaku kunjalo. Ukuba ininzi kakhulu, yithi nje, “Enkosi kakhulu, kuninzi kakhulu ukuthatha, masime apha. Makhe ndenze yonke le ngcaciso engqondweni yam kuqala. Andifuni kuzikhusela kwaye ndiqalise ukukuhlasela. ”
5. Ziqhelise, uqhelisele, uqhelisele unxibelelwano emtshatweni wakho
Ngokwenene lo ngumsebenzi wemihla ngemihla.
Qaphela lonke unxibelelwano, kodwa ngakumbi ezo zibangela ukuba umzimba wakho uxineke.
Jonga inqanaba lokuxhalaba, ngaphambi kwayo yonke incoko, kwaye ngakumbi leyo uyazi ukuba kuye kwabangelwa ngaphambili. Uloyiko lokuphazamisa incoko lunokukuqhubela ekuthinteleni.
Sukuziphepha ezo ncoko, cinga ngazo njengethuba lokuziqhelanisa nomsebenzi wakho wobugcisa wonxibelelwano okhathalayo noqinisekileyo! Kwaye khumbula, ngekhe ukwazi ukusitshintsha isitayile sakho ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ukuba uyakwazi ukusitshintsha malunga ne-30% yexesha, kuyakwenza umahluko omkhulu.
6. Lithuba lomlingane wakho
Abantu kufuneka balubone utshintsho kumaqabane abo kuqala ngaphambi kokuba babeke emngciphekweni uninzi lwabo. Sonke sizama ukuzikhusela ekulimaleni kwakhona; kuyinto eqhelekileyo.
Ndiyathemba ukuba, ngoku, utshintsho lwakho kunye nokuzimisela kwakho ukuphucula kudale intumekelelo, ukuya kuthi ga kwiqabane lakho linokubona isibonelelo sokuyeka ulinde, ukuthatha umngcipheko nokwenza utshintsho ngokunjalo. Kule posi, siza kujonga amanyathelo amanyathelo okwenyani ukwenza umahluko kwaye sibeke inqanaba lokuphuculwa kwesiseko kubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuba nobabini ninetyala lokungabinampilo kwezitayile zonxibelelwano, kuya kufuneka nenze lo msebenzi.
Yiba nomonde omnye komnye! Sebenzisa ixesha lokuphuma hayi njengendlela yokuphepha, kodwa njengethuba lokuphinda uphinde wenze iqela, ufumane ulawulo lweemvakalelo zakho, kwaye uphinde uchaze iingcinga zakho. Sukuya kude kwincoko, xelela iqabane lakho ukuba uzibeka exesheni ukuze unxibelelane ngokuchanekileyo ngaphandle kokumkhathaza okanye ukumcaphukisa.
Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, sukulindela impendulo oyifunayo kwangoko. Vumela iqabane lakho lifunxe ulwazi kwaye limnike indawo yokuphuma kwindlela eqhelekileyo yokuzikhusela abaqheleyo. Andikwazi ukukuxelela ukuba mangaphi amaxesha, phakathi kwengxoxo eshushu, umyeni wam andinike into endiyibona ngathi ayilunganga.
Makhe sijonge amanye amanyathelo okwenyani ukwenza umahluko kwaye sibeke inqanaba lokuphuculwa kwesiseko kubudlelwane bakho. phendula. Endaweni yokulandela impendulo eyiyo, bendiya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba ndiyeke ndiyibambe incoko.
Uhlala endothusa ngemini elandelayo ngempendulo eyiyo. Kodwa kuye kwafuneka ndimnike indawo. Kwaye kuye kwenzeka okufanayo kum.
7. Yongeza i-sprinkle efanelekileyo kunxibelelwano lwakho
Ndiyazi ukuba kuyavakala njengetshizi, kodwa ndithembe kule. Cinga ngokuncoma ngokunyaniseka kwiqabane lakho ubuncinci kube kanye ngemini. Kungalula nje ngokuthi “Ndiyayithanda lehempe”, “Ungutata obalaseleyo kwaye ndiyayithanda xa udlala nabantwana”, “Ndiyaluxabisa uluvo lwakho, nangona ndinokubonakala ngathi andiyithandi ngalo mzuzu. ”
Kwakhona, ukubuyela kwiziseko ozifundisa abantwana bakho, njengokuthi "nceda, enkosi, ndiyakuthanda" ziindlela ezintle ezintle zokutshintsha umgangatho wamandla.
Ukuba uthambekele ekunciphiseni iimpembelelo ezinamandla zalezo zimvo zincinci (abantu abangavumiyo ukugxeka bahlala bekwenza), cinga nje ngemizuzu embalwa edlulileyo xa ubani ethe wathetha ezi zinto kuwe; xa umntu ebambe ucango; xa umntu esithi “Enkosi. Ndiyakuxabisa. Ubonakala umhle kule lokhwe namhlanje. Ndiyayithanda imbono yakho. ”
Ngasizathu sithile xa abantu bangaphandle bethetha ezi zinto kuthi, siziva sishushu kwaye singonwabi ngaphakathi kwaye nemo yethu iyaphucuka. Kodwa xa iqabane lethu lisenza, kuhlala kuthathwa ngokungakhathali. Ngapha koko, siyazinciphisa iziphumo zayo kwaye asiyibuyiseli kumaqabane ethu.
Yiba nomkhwa wokuthetha ezo zinto zincinci kwakhona, ngokungathi niyathandana kwaye nibe nombulelo omnye komnye. Ewe kunjalo, yinyani, musa ukukhohlisa! Ndiqinisekile ukuba xa ubeka ingqalelo, uya kuyifumana loo mizuzu iyinyani xa unombulelo ngokuba neqabane lakho ebomini bakho.