Umxholo
Ukwenza izifungo zomtshato ezenzelwe wena kunokuba luxinzelelo ukuba awukhululekile ukubhala kunye nokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ngelishwa oku kuhlala kuyingxaki kwiqabane eliyindoda 'ubudoda' obunokuthi bathintele iimvakalelo zakhe. Xa uzimisele ukuwenza lo msebenzi, unokoyika kunokuba ukhuthazwe luxanduva. Sukuba nexhala, eli nqaku liza kukunceda ungene kuyo kwaye mhlawumbi ikwenze uyonwabele inkqubo.
Kuya kuba nzima ukuba "iqabane lakho likwenzele lona," kwaye ayifanelanga ukuba njalo. Ukubeka isifungo kunye kufanele ukuba luxanduva lwakho.
Ukuba uthatha uxanduva lokudala iseti ekhuthazayo yezibhambathiso zothando kuye, isiphumo sinokuba yinto ogqiba ekubeni uzingce ngayo kwaye wonwabe ukuyenza ngomhla womsitho.
Ndiqala njani?
Qonda, okokuqala, ukuba ukubhala kuhlala kuyinkqubo.
Awunakuhlala phantsi uthathe imizuzu engama-20 ukubhala isifungo esifanelekileyo somtshato. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngayo okwethutyana kwaye uhambe ngeendlela ezininzi kunye nokuqwalaselwa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlala kuyo ixesha elide kunokubangela uxinzelelo ngakumbi. Endaweni yoko, zithembise ukuba uyakusebenza kuyo imizuzu eli-10 okanye eli-15 ngosuku. Oko kwanele ukwenza into yenziwe kwaye imfutshane ngokwaneleyo ukunqanda ukuphazamiseka.
Bekela bucala ixesha lokusebenza kwizibhambathiso zakho zothando imizuzu embalwa ngosuku kwaye uqale iinyanga ezizayo.
Ndiquka ntoni?
Xa kuziwa kwinto engena kwizibhambathiso zothando kuye, yinto yobuqu ngokupheleleyo. Ngelixa kufuneka uphonononge umxholo kunye neqabane lakho- okanye umhlobo osenyongweni, ilungu losapho lomtshakazi, okanye nomntu owenza umtshato - ukhetho lokugqibela kufuneka lube lolwakho ekugqibeleni. Leyo ngongoma epheleleyo yokwenza umntu. Eminye 'yemithetho yasemhlabeni' inokuba zizinto oya kuzidinga ukusebenza kunye neqabane lakho ukuze yonke into ibonakale ilungiswe kakuhle kwaye ihambelana.
Enye yezinto zokuqala ekufuneka uzenzile kukufuna ukuba kube lixesha elingakanani. Ukuhamba mfutshane kakhulu kunokwenza kubonakale ngathi yonke le nto ayisiyongxaki; Ukuthatha ixesha elide kakhulu kunokuba yindinisa kwaye kufiphise umzuzu ukusuka kwezothando ukuya ekukruquleni. Ukuba ungumntu ongaqhelekanga ukuthetha esidlangalaleni, uya kufuna ukuwugcina kwicala elifutshane.
Isantya sokufunda esifanelekileyo malunga namagama ayi-120 ngomzuzu, okanye malunga namagama amabini ngomzuzwana.
Izibhambathiso eziqhelekileyo zithatha malunga nomzuzu kwiqela ngalinye, kwaye malunga nesiqingatha sazo sithathwa ngumntu owenza umsitho. Usebenzisa oko njengesikhokelo, uya kufuna ukuthetha imizuzwana engama-30 ukuya kwengama-60 okanye amagama angama-60 ukuya kuma-120. Ingcebiso nje leyo. Abaphulaphuli baya kuba nolindelo lokuba liza kuthatha ixesha elingakanani eli theko, kwaye ukunamathela kuloo nto kuya kubenza bangabi nakuphumla.
Nje ukuba wazi ixesha elingakanani, kulula ukuwugqiba umsebenzi wokubhala isifungo sakho.
Ukwazi inani lamagama ayisosisombululo, kodwa sisiqalo. Ukuphefumlelwa kunokuvela nakweyiphi na imithombo eyahlukeneyo. Nalu uluhlu olufutshane, ngezantsi:
- Jonga izifungo zesintu ezikhoyo kwaye ubone ukuba zithini.
- Jonga phezulu "izithembiso zomtshato ezenzelwe wena" kwi-intanethi.
- Jonga amazwi eengoma zothando ozithandayo.
- Nika ingqalelo ngexesha lasebusuku lokudlala iidrama kunye nee-comedies.
- Qaphela ukuba zeziphi izinto ezincinci ezenza ukuba akhale kunye nolonwabo.
- Cinga emva kwamaxesha okonwaba kuwo kubudlelwane bakho.
- Khumbula indlela enadibana ngayo, ukwanga kokuqala, kunye nendlela enathi natshata ngayo.
- Cinga ngeentsuku owawudibana ngazo neentsapho zomnye kwaye ucinga ntoni.
Ngelixa usenza ezi zinto, bhala amanqaku ngezinto ezibonakala zikhethekileyo, kunye namagama akukhumbuza ngobuhlobo bakho kunye neqabane lakho. Bhala phantsi okanye ukope / uncamathisele kuxwebhu lweLizwi kwaye uqhubeke de uzive ngathi uqokelele izimvo ezaneleyo. Amagama angamakhulu amahlanu anokubakho ngokwaneleyo ukuqala inyathelo elilandelayo.
Jonga kwimithombo yempembelelo kwaye uqokelele ubuncinci amagama angama-500.
Ngayo yonke into eqokelelweyo, uya kuqaphela ukuba kuninzi kangakanani ekufuneka ukwenzile. Itotali yamagama angama-500 anokugcina ufunda phantse imizuzu emihlanu. Ngoku ufuna ukuqala ukunciphisa. Qalisa ukukhupha izinto ezibonakala zingabalulekanga. Ujonge ukushenxisa libe linye kumagama amane, ke ngoko cofa iqhosha lokucima kakhulu.
Jonga ukugcina ezo zinto kwizibhambathiso zakho zothando kuye, ukuba uyazi ukuba zibalulekile kwiqabane lakho kwaye ziya kunxibelelana ngendlela ekhethekileyo oziva ngayo ngaye. Ukuba ngesizathu esithile uyicoca yonke indawo, ungahlala uqala kwakhona. Inzame ekhokelela kwisiphumo ongonwabanga ngaso yayilithuba lokufunda kwinto oyenzileyo kwaye ube ngcono okwesibini.
Ndiyazi njani ukuba igqityiwe?
Isifungo sakho sigqityiwe xa usigqibile ukusibeka emthendelekweni.
Kude kube lelo xesha kukho indawo yotshintsho. Gcina isicwangciso sokucokisa kunye nobufutshane, kwaye ungoyiki ukuya kule nkqubo ngaphezulu kwesinye. Eli lixesha elinye ebomini bakho oya kuyifumana le nto, ke thatha ithuba lokuyinika konke-ngemizuzu eli-15 kuphela ngosuku.
Xa uziva ngathi uyasondela, jonga kwakhona umhlobo wakho osenyongweni, umama, utata, okanye omnye umntu omazi kakuhle. Ukuba awufuni zimfihlo, yabelana ngqo neqabane lakho. Ukwabelana kunokuba yinto yokudibana komntu, kwaye unokuba neengcebiso okanye enze izimvo ezikhuthaza ukuba wenze utshintsho. Kuya kufuneka angadinwa sisibhengezo sakho sothando kuye.
Xa uziva ukuba sowukugqibile, funda isifungo ngokuvakalayo, amaxesha amaninzi.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba uyifunda kunina, kuyise, kuye, emva koko kwiqela labantu elisecaweni - ayingabo bonke oya kubazi. Ukulandela ngokufunda amagama nokwazi ukuba athetha ntoni kwaye athetha ntoni kuya kwenza ukuba kube lula ngomhla omi phambi kwakhe - nabo bonke abanye abantu - kwaye ubhengeza uthando lwakho lwanaphakade kuye.