Umxholo
- 1. Cacisa kwaye uhlele ngaphakathi kwinkcazo yabo yokukopa
- 2. Sukutyisa irhamncwa
- 3. Zola kwaye ubonakale
Umona yinkosi ekunzima ukuyikholisa.
Ukuba utyholwa ngokukopela xa ungekho, kuya kufuneka ujongane nengxaki ngqo ngaphandle koko iya kuphelisa ubudlelwane bakho.
Umona sisilwanyana esiphilayo. Iyaphila kwaye iyaphefumla. Iyathetha, iyadla, iyakhula. Okukhona umntu ethetha nayo, kokukhona kufuneka ithi. Okukhona isondliwa, kokukhona isiya isiba namandla.
Ukukopa kukuzingca, kunye nomona.
Kodwa ukuba utyholwa ngokungafanelekanga kukuzingca ngakumbi.
Ngaphambi kokuba ufunde ngokuqhubekayo, qiniseka ukuba AKUKHO ukukopa. Ukukopa ngumgca ongqindilili ongwevu. Ihlala ixhomekeke ekutolikeni. Yintoni enokuba yibhanti emsulwa kunye nomhlobo wakudala kuwe, inokuba ukhohlisa iqabane lakho.
Oku kuthetha ukuba sifikelele kwinqanaba apho kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba wenzeni xa utyholwa ngokukopela xa ungekho.
1. Cacisa kwaye uhlele ngaphakathi kwinkcazo yabo yokukopa
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Ukuba bakholelwa ukuthumela umyalezo kwi-ex yakho nangasiphi na isizathu ukukopela, ke kukukopela. Ukuba kubalulekile ukuthetha nabo ngesizathu esithile yithi, mntwana, ke qiniseka ukuba iqabane lakho langoku likho kwaye liyabandakanyeka kwincoko.
Imeko efanelekileyo kukucacisa ezi zinto ngaphambi kokuba nobabini ningene kubudlelwane, kodwa kuba iimeko ezifanelekileyo zinqabile ukwenzeka ebomini, ukungaqondani okunjalo kuyenzeka kwaye kusombululwe njengoko kusiza.
Kubalulekile ukuba nobulungisa, Ukuba umntu ubeka imeko malunga nokungavumeli umyalezo wabo uphume, okanye uhambe ubusuku bonke kunye nomphathi wabo oshushu, okanye uthethe nommelwane onomdla wedwa, oko kusebenza kuwo omabini amaqela. Ukungabi nabulungisa kudala iintanda kubudlelwane kanye nokungathembani.
2. Sukutyisa irhamncwa
Ukuqiqa ngokungenangqondo yinkcitha xesha.
Kodwa iyalondla irhamncwa. Kuya kukwenza ukuba ubonakale uzikhusela, kwaye emehlweni abo, oko kuthetha ukuba unento yokufihla.
Nokuba ungoyena mntu uligqwetha eligqwesileyo kweli lizwe nge-ironclad alibi, awuzukuphumelela ngokuchasene nesiporho osicingayo. Ingathatha nayiphi na imilo kunye nefom, kwaye inokuthi okanye yenze nantoni na. Ukuba nomona ngento engekhoyo akunangqondo, kodwa kuyenzeka.
Inokubethwa kuphela yitrust.
Ithemba kunye nomzamo ngamacala amabini engqekembe enye. Kuphephe ukuthetha nokwenza izinto ezinokutyala imbewu yamathandabuzo. Ndiyayiqonda into yokuba icala elenza izityholo ezingenakuthetheleleka nalo lakha iintanda kubudlelwane, kodwa elinye iqela liya kunyamezeleka ixesha elide.
Ukuba uyamthanda umntu, kuya kufuneka uhlengahlengise yena, kwaye ukuba bayakuthanda, baya kuthi ekugqibeleni bakuthembe. Oku kuya kuqhubeka ixesha elide njengoko kuthatha, okanye ubuncinci kude kube liqela elinye eliza kuqhuma kubudlelwane obufuthanisayo kwaye ulibize.
Nokuba awukhange ukhohlise ngaphambili, kunzima ukweyisela umntu onemicimbi yokuthemba. Ukuba umthombo wokungathembani unesiseko, kuya kufuneka uqonde kwaye ube nolwazelelelo ngakumbi.
Nokuba zithini na iziganeko ezidlulileyo, ukuba uyabuxabisa ubudlelwane, kwaye okoko nje, kuya kufuneka uphile nayo. Akukho mda wexesha, akukho mgangatho okanye ubalo oluphakathi, ukuba nje uxabisile ubudlelwane bakho nomntu.
3. Zola kwaye ubonakale
Enye indlela yokwakha ukuthembana ayikukulwa nayo.
Okukhona uphikisana, kokukhona usondla isilo. Yiba selubala, unike ubungqina njengoko busenzeka. Kuya kucaphukisa ekuqaleni. Ngokwenyani, iyakucaphukisa lonke ixesha, kodwa intsika yentembeko yakhiwe ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye neziseko eziqinileyo.
Isitena esinye ngexesha.
Ke mabavumele indlela yabo, babathathe bazingele iziporho. Okukhona oku kuqhubeka, kokukhona kuya kuyaphula ikratshi labo kwaye ekugqibeleni kuya kwehla. Yimfazwe yokuthanda, kodwa ikwalidabi lothando. Nokuba liqabane elingathembekanga liyatshintsha okanye iinzame zomlingane ziyatshintsha, ngenye imini, into eza kuyinika.
Chaza indlela ezolileyo yokufumana iphuzu lakho. Awukwenzi inkohliso, uyabavumela babenendlela yabo yokubonisa. Uyabathanda kwaye ubakhathalele kunye nolwalamano lwakho kunye. Kodwa ngelinye ilanga, uya kubeka unyawo lwakho kwaye oko kuya kuba ukuphela kwayo.
Musa ukuyithetha ngokungafihlisi. Ukuba ujongene nomntu ongenangqondo, baya kuyitolika njengophawu lwetyala. Yiyeke umxholo okomzuzwana xa bephazamisekile. Ukuba umazi ngokwenyani lo mntu, kuya kufuneka ube nakho ukufumana indlela yokufumana inqaku lakho ngaphambi kokuba lihambe kakhulu.
Nje ukuba uthethe isiqwenga sakho, sukuyinyusa kwakhona. Ukuba ayitshoni okokuqala, ayisoze, kwaye usebudlelwaneni obunetyhefu.
Asikukhuthazi ukuhlala kwezo.
Kunzima ukujongana nomntu onomona nongenangqondo.
Yi-ego kunye nokuzingca okubangela ukuba benze njalo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba wenze eli rhamncwa ngenxa yokungathembeki kwakho kwangaphambili. Ukuba kunjalo, uya kuvuna nje into oyihlwayeleyo.
Kodwa ukuba uliqabane elisebenza ngolo hlobo ngenxa yexesha lakhe elidlulileyo, kwaye utyholwa ngokukopela xa ungekho, cinga ukucebisa. Kunzima ukuyigqiba ndedwa, kwaye ukuba nobabini niyikhathalele ubudlelwane benu, ke ayifanelanga ukuba yingxaki.
Yile nto kufuneka uyenze xa utyholwa ngokukopela xa ungekho.